KatB

I just attended my N400 interview. The interviewing officer had my I-751 application in front of him too, so it was effectively a combination interview. I passed the civics test and the officer informed me that once the ROC application was approved, my oath ceremony would be scheduled. 

I just attended my N400 interview. The interviewing officer had my I-751 application in front of him too, so it was effectively a combination interview. I passed the civics test and the officer informed me that once the ROC application was approved, my oath ceremony would be scheduled. 

Yeah, it's a very frustrating situation to be in. Feel free to message me if you ever want to talk. 
 
 

As of December 16th - after 364 days - my status changed to "New Card is Being Produced"
 
FINALLY!

I would also be screaming visa fraud if the phenomenon of beautiful and successful women making unbelievable sacrifices for mediocre men wasn’t as common as it unfortunately is. It’s definitely not just an immigration thing. Tragic.

If someone tells you they dont want to have children... THEY DONT WANT TO HAVE CHILDREN. If my husband comes home tonight and says ' hey, lets have a baby' id tell him to shove it! He KNOWS i dont want to have kids (neither does he, so moot point lol)
 
You sound like a controlling, stone age, me man, you woman kind of guy. That doesnt fly well with strong independent women. On top of that, you dont have the means to support her OR a kid. Another reason for not wanting to have kids.
 
It is only both of your money if you both agree to it. If not- HERS IS HERS. AND YOURS IS YOURS. well, except you dont have any. If when I was working, I bought 10 Designer handbags and bought more - thats only between ME AND MY BANK. Unless you are supporting her - it is NONE of your business.
 
And yes, at 45 you SHOULD be helping your parents. My mother is moving in tomorrow. No im not happy about it. but it is what it is until we can get her set up somewhere else. She has NEVER given me money. GROW UP.
 
 
 
Me. and MILLIONS of others. Welcome to the millenium dude. we dont have to be barefoot and pregnant from societal norms anymore.
 
 
Dude, youve done got her a visa and a subsequent greencard. Youve made your bed and pretty much cant do jack squat about it.
 
 
see above. visa is in hand. Too late for you to realize she meant it when she said she didnt want kids, and that she wants a MAN and HUSBAND and not a man child for her to support.
 
Kudos to her.

It’s pretty cliche, but I think more people need to adhere to the idea of marrying someone for who they are, not who you want them to be or see them becoming.
 
If you think it’s wrong of her to expect you to work with it being hard on your body, your should probably do some looking into how hard pregnancy and childbirth can be on your body. That’s absolutely not something to force on someone who is unwilling. Not to even mention the responsibility of having a child.
 
I don’t really blame her for not wanting to bring a new person into the world with someone who is willing to just cancel a visa after 2 years of marriage. 

I was on your side until I read this comment. You are quite right that there’s no need to get a 30-year mortgage at 45 if you live in a perfectly adequate place, etc. 
 
You are not doing her a favor by bringing her here. I do hate that arrogant attitude from the USCs who seem to think that we foreign spouses should be eternally grateful and indebted to you because you “rescued” us from our home lands and “gifted” us a better life. Ridiculous. She sounds like she is very self-sufficient with her own career. She owes you nothing. If this is a genuine marriage then bringing her here is just as much for your benefit as it is hers. 
 
Its almost as bad as the immigrants that say “I gave up everything to come here for him/her”. No, you did not. You made a life change that you BOTH wanted and so that you could BOTH live with the person you love. You do it for yourself as much as you do it for the other. 
 
Shes probably better off without you if that’s your attitude.

A lot of women. There's no obligation to want to be a parent.  If it's that important to you, then bring it up very early in your future relationships.

Many.
 
Shocking concept, I know.

Nah. You got it all wrong. They can't attract American women because we are all feminazis who are just one step away from letting ourselves get fat, sexless, and butch before divorce raping them, anyway. Then it's all like, six months later, halp halp my imported pinay wife that could be my daughter's age isn't happy that I live in a single wide with my mom and she's going to leave me.

This thread actually reminded me of my favorite type of user on VJ (other then all the terrible women ofc!).
 
Middle age and older dudes who import girlfriends half their age or younger to the US because their aren’t attractive or rich enough to find American sugar babies.
 
Then they are here posting again a few month after the wedding asking how to cancel their AOS, pull their sponsorship and have them wives because they dared have an opinion on something or are “acting up” or “misbehaving”.
 
(Those quotes are actual quotes btw)
 
Anyway, good luck. Hopefully whoever is handling your case is less judgmental than me! ❤️

I’m here to support the women of VJ. 

Yepp, it’s definitely the women’s fault. Both American and otherwise. There’s no way the serial fiancé/visa petitioner who somehow believes it only takes one person to argue that could be the common denominator. 

Same for me. I got sent two extension letters very soon after submitting my packet, but nothing since. I've also received several emails from USCIS stating 'We are still reviewing your case and there are no updates at this time. We last took action on your case on Feb 19, 2019' which is a little odd because MyUscis shows no action since Dec 2018. I'm also Nebraska service center. 

I came home today to find my extension letter in the mail! Notice date 12/19/18. Fingers crossed that those who have been waiting for months get theirs soon too. 

Also received my Text Message and Email Notice yesterday.
 
I 751 routed via Nebraska. Fee Waived. Probably going to get another text today or tomorrow. Let the waiting begin. Lean back and hopefully get by without an interview haha. I've been reading in the forum throughout the holidays. Some people had sent some huge packaged, which i feel like is unnecessary. I thought i had sent way too much also hence two off my friends who already filed told me that they had sent way less. Well, i have a hot coffee waiting and a beautiful sunrise to observe. Thank you for being here family!
Looking forward to your stories and updates.
 
Nils

I'm a Texas filer! Mailed 12/14/18, received 12/17/18. No text message confirmation yet and the check hasn't been cashed 😕