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Your reply came in together from the one of the HR lady from the company that offered me the job and you both gave me a quite welcome confirmation. (: thank you! I can't wait to start working, yay.
And I'll definitely go tomorrow, make sure everything's okay and get the SS number.

Update: I went to the Social Security Administration office this morning so leaving here what happened, it might help others.
Reminder -- I am on a CR-1 visa, so I already have work authorization. I was only missing the SSN.
I went there and explained the situation, and it was confirmed to me that there was no pending "request" for an SSN on file (whatever, man, I clicked that damn button to ask for it, RAWR), so we did a new one. Clerk told me that for I-9 purposes, having the receipt of a request for SSN works as replacement for the SSN card itself; and that is in fact confirmed in the i-9 instructions. Here:
"If an employee is unable to present a required document (or documents), the employee can present an acceptable receipt in lieu of a document from the Lists of Acceptable Documents on the last page of the form."
(page 4 of the i-9 here http://www.uscis.gov/sites/default/files/files/form/i-9.pdf )
List C includes the Social Security Number Card, on page 9 of the same document.
My husband came with me at the Social Security Administration but he literally did nothing, so he could have stayed home. I provided my passport and my original birth certificate, nothing else.
Now the last doubt is whether the "two forms of ID" they want me to take on my first day of work are ones I can provide. Here's hoping it all goes well, I emailed the HR lady! (:

Yay !
do me a favor, would ya?
pass this url around to future SSN chasers, please?
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/405546-ssn-howto/

Your reply came in together from the one of the HR lady from the company that offered me the job and you both gave me a quite welcome confirmation. (: thank you! I can't wait to start working, yay.
And I'll definitely go tomorrow, make sure everything's okay and get the SS number.

2 forms of id:
1. passport
2. visa stamp in passport, as it's the I-551 document for you, it's actually an id issued by the U.S.A. Federal Government.
tomorrow, go in to SSA office, you can get the SS number or learn of other problems.

The OP has a CR-1 visa, so is work-authorised in the US from the day of PoE. Without a social security number though you cannot get paid, which is a bit of a drawback given the 13th Amendment.
You should go to your nearest Social Security Administration office and ask about your social security number. If you asked for it to be automatically processed on your immigration application then has around a 50-50 chance of showing up by itself; since you have a job offer then I wouldn't wait.
An endorsed CR-1 visa is acceptable proof of employment authorisation for I-9 purposes, but it's unlikely they company will actually let you start until you've been issued with a social security number, since technically you cannot be paid without one.

The one thing you have to realize about being a waitress in the USA is that you NEED tips. They don't have to pay you even minimum wage because you will get tips. So being friendly and fast is a plus. However with lots of waitstaff experience, if you land a job a nicer restaurant, people expect food to take a little longer and tend to tip more because they're paying more. Just some thoughts.
POE is generally easy. People going camping on May long, vs going through airports in my experience.

The fact that you speak Spanish is going to give you huge leverage in most states in the U.S. My wife got here and spoke Romanian and English fluently, and could comprehend most spoken Spanish. She landed a pretty great job, which she had only 7 months past experience, within 60 days and it's been good for us so far. At 23, she's already in a job that could lead to a potentially good paying salary career. Bilingual gets you far in the U.S.
I honestly feel like unless you're working on Wall Street or some super serious job, don't worry about all the diplomas, start building your confidence, because confidence impresses employers, and employers give those with confidence the jobs.

No they aren't that heartless haha, I've flown with royal Jordanian, Lufthansa, U.S. Airways, and they've always done that with the flights I missed . Congrats, and enjoy the longggg flights haha .

No they won't make you pay, they do it for you I've missed plenty of international flights because of delays and customs issues, your airline will put you on the next flight available with no charge .

Only if the connecting flight is booked together on one booking. OP, did you book your flight from Holland all the way to your final destination or did you book one trip to JFK and then a separate trip from there to your final destination?

I don't see why she would do that it makes no sense and is more expensive and im assuming she's bought a one way trip straight to her destination lol .

I'm so happy I'm not the only worrywart. I worry about the exact same things as you do, I think it's only natural in our situation. After all, we are giving up our family, our job, our friends, our home and moving half way around the world to a place very different from where we come from and where we don't really know people or have a support group.
Have you read the POE reviews for JFK. I was also super worried about POE but reading the reviews for Newark, which will be my POE, actually helped me quite a bit.
About the job situation. Have you worked on your CV and had a look around for jobs? Setting up an appointment with a recruiter or with a job center might help you understand how job hunting works where you will be moving to. For waitress jobs, the best idea is usually to walk around to restaurants and handing in your CV and putting yourself out there. Also remember that many hotels have restaurants and there, speaking several languages is a HUGE plus. I used to recruit for the hotel industry and we didn't even call in people for interviews unless they spoke a minimum of two languages, so you are way ahead there with your four languages.
If you feel like you're getting close to your connecting flight time and you are still queuing up for customs, talk to a representative and explain your situation. I have seen many at the border being put at the front of the line because they were running out of time for their connection. People are quite understanding about that.
Good luck!

It was a breeze for us. The I-864 stuff freaked me out the most since I didn't know if we'd get a checklist for something or not, but not a thing was asked about it other than asking simply whose form was whose, haha. I hope yours is as quick and painless as ours only minus the mess-up with them printing out my husband's summary sheet with the wrong birthplace. It was annoying, but they were very quick about correcting it and sending it all back to us.

when they contact you with the instructions on what is next you will receive a case number, not sure how long it takes from Naples to contact you but shouldn't be too long.
good luck

Yeah the IVU in Naples will give you your case number and through DCF it typically doesn't take long at all for the case to be transferred from USCIS to your respective IVU. In our case in Germany it took them 10 days to receive the forwarded case. Almost there, guys!

If all it took was pregnancy there would be a LOT of pregnant applicants.

I definitely will! Thank you! ?

Would you consider it to be more reasonable that the taxpayers potentially be on the hook for supporting a divorced immigrant that somebody else sponsored to come to the US?
Anyone sponsoring any family based immigrant must sign an I-864. This isn't restricted to K1 petitioners.
There have been few cases where an immigrant obtained enforcement action on an I-864 without having to bring a separate civil suit against the petitioner. Few family courts are willing to consider the I-864 in divorce proceedings because the family code in most states doesn't allow for consideration of such contracts. There have been exceptions, but they're not common.
I also suggest you read Cheshire v. Cheshire. Judge Corrigan determined that Walter Cheshire was on the hook for nearly six years of support payments to his ex-wife Maria Cheshire, to the tune of over $50K. Then he adjusted the debt according to the amount Maria Cheshire earned during that time, as well as her assets, citing Wheeler v. Wheeler, which left Mr. Cheshire with a total debt of about $8.3K. That's not chicken scratch, but it's an important factor which was also found in other cases - the immigrant's income and assets are to be deducted from the payments ordered from the sponsor. 125% of the current poverty guidelines for one person is $13,612. That's not much money. A person working a full time job at minimum wage will earn substantially more than that. You won't find too many people who would be comfortable sitting on their tails and collecting $13K per year unless they're happy living in a 20ft trailer in rural Arkansas. Most immigrants who want a decent standard of living would earn more than that, and would be eligible for nothing from their sponsors.
In Sandhu v. Sandhu, the Kansas State Court of Appeals found that Emrinder Sandhu failed to show that her income was below 125% of the poverty guidelines, and they denied her appeal to have the affidavit of support enforced.
Immigrants with decent jobs cannot sue for support based on the affidavit of support, regardless of how many quarters of work credits they've accumulated through SSA. Immigrants who cannot maintain themselves at a level of at least 125% of the poverty guidelines should be supported by the sponsor in order to ensure they don't end up being supported by the taxpayers.

Okay, great! Thanks again.