Sparkles2013

Hi Terri,
After reading some of the other topic you have started here, to learn a little bit more about your fiancee and your situation, I will offer you my two cents.
Take immigration out of the picture for a moment- this is someone who you are going to marry. Marry- as in promise to spend your life with. Someone who is going to be with you throughout all the good and bad times, someone who you are supposed to trust more than anyone in the world- someone who is not supposed to lie to you, or hide things from you.
No one here knows about your relationship more than you do, and yes it is normal to have cold feet about marriage- but the feeling are more based on "what ifs"... "what if we discover that we can't live together without driving each other crazy?" "what if we have to move for work" "what if...". However, your concerns seem to be more based on concerns about HIM as a person, not the two of you as a couple- "what else hasnt he told me?" "How could he not have told me about his neice?" "what about our religious differences?" etc. As already said- trust your instincts. It sounds like maybe the two of you need to spend some more time together before you decide to commit your lives together. Is there a way for you two to share a meal with your families? I understand you may not be able to stay in the same hotel room, but surely there are other ways to be able to look at your fiancee's eyes other than through skype or photographs.
You deserve to be happy- and I don't think you will be until you are able to put some of these fears and concerns to rest. I understand that you are egar to get to your "happily ever after" but you have to go through the rest of the story first. Would you have agreed to marry him if he lived down the street? or would you think it was too soon and just want to date? Has he been dishonest with you in the past? Do you trust him? Do you know about his past? (Remember, there is a 5 year old child that is clearly important to him- and he didnt tell you...? What else hasnt he told you? will you be OK having her in your life?)
It is easy to get swept up in romance and fairy tale love, but dont let it blind you and have someone take advantage of you.
Take some time- talk with your fiancee, your sister, your parents, friends... your feelings are vaid, and you shouldnt rush into something you are 100% ready for!
Good luck

I understand the whole process is frustrating and we are only human. I know I was very careful with compiling what I needed for the filing phase and there were still times when I doubted myself. However, I still believe the VJ guideline is very straight forward. I made sure that my husband double checked everything I did so that fresh eyes could check for any mistakes. I'm sorry you had to re-do the whole thing, but you can only blame yourself. There was a checklist on the guides for a reason. That said, I'm glad the second round is less stressful to you.

Sounds like someone can't follow instructions on a form. You missed signing a document and that make the process hard enough that you suggest others get a lawyer?

There's an option to download all Facebook conversation data and it will show everything from message to comments on each others wall. Have the other person do it if they haven't deleted. You can go into Skype setting and download chat log. Email it to yourself and print.
Include the ultrasound pics as well as flight info for time period where when kid was conceived as proof it's his. Not really convincing on it's own but it can't hurt and contributes to the legitimacy of the relationship. Pics are the best proof esp if they involve other family members.
Good Luck.

Regardless of your tiny VJ sample, the NVC is under NO OBLIGATION to process anything in less than 60 days. Deal with it.

Hey I wouldn't have believed it either but I know a guy named Basim in Hurgada, Egypt who does this to women. A sucker is born every minute so I would not be surprised. I also did a reverse image search of her pic and didn't find anything other than VJ referrals so not sure if that pic is stolen or not. Someone said she is Alyson Hannigan but cleary that is not Alyson in the pic so, IDK.

Never under estimate the power of banana nut bread.

I got felt up a little bit. Nothing too serious. Just above the waistband action. The doc probably saw how hungover I was and thought he should check for a distended liver.

NVC won't care about extra evidence of a bona fide relationship. If your I-130 petition was not enough, USCIS will send you an RFE. A lot of people bring pictures and stuff to their interview, but not at the NVC stage.
Good luck!

No sorry!

So Basim is running a guilt trip on you and it's working?
TERRI! WAKE UP! PLEASE!
I'm sorry but I've got to say it and I wish you could literally hear me shouting this as I type - - -
You are having these feelings for a reason! This man is not the man for you! The entire relationship is a farce. You've spent $340 to learn a great lesson and it's worth every penny.

He's the one that didn't think you worthy enough to get down off his balcony or be honest with you. That seems like the male being selfish here to me. So... you remember when we said all those red flags were to be seen here? That still applies. So it's not really about having ''cold feet'' here, it's about being smart, safe, and using logic. And about doing the right thing. Naturally he'd accuse you of being selfish. Call his bluff and walk away. Any pain you feel from it now would be nothing compared to the pain you'd feel later on.

Protecting yourself should come first, sometimes, selfish is the best thing to be. User rlogan always recommends a book about manipulation/manipulative people; look it up.

I'm not sure how the entire conversation went, but if he is trying to say that you're selfish simply because you have cold feet, that should tell you everything you need to know right there. If he really loved you and wanted things to work out, he would be willing to do whatever it takes to show you how he feels about you and that he wants to be with you forever. The fact that it turned into the blame game is enough to confirm what everyone has said on here...turn around and RUN as fast as you can from this guy!!!
I know it's hard right now, but you will get over this and move on and find the right guy that will be willing to jump over any hurdles to prove his love to you.

You posted " He told me that he is now caring for and acting as father to his niece". Are you sure this child is his niece and not his daughter?.
To make sure he is with you for the right reason, tell him you will live with him in his Country,and wait to see his reaction.I have a feeling he will vanish after that.

Hi Terri,
After reading some of the other topic you have started here, to learn a little bit more about your fiancee and your situation, I will offer you my two cents.
Take immigration out of the picture for a moment- this is someone who you are going to marry. Marry- as in promise to spend your life with. Someone who is going to be with you throughout all the good and bad times, someone who you are supposed to trust more than anyone in the world- someone who is not supposed to lie to you, or hide things from you.
No one here knows about your relationship more than you do, and yes it is normal to have cold feet about marriage- but the feeling are more based on "what ifs"... "what if we discover that we can't live together without driving each other crazy?" "what if we have to move for work" "what if...". However, your concerns seem to be more based on concerns about HIM as a person, not the two of you as a couple- "what else hasnt he told me?" "How could he not have told me about his neice?" "what about our religious differences?" etc. As already said- trust your instincts. It sounds like maybe the two of you need to spend some more time together before you decide to commit your lives together. Is there a way for you two to share a meal with your families? I understand you may not be able to stay in the same hotel room, but surely there are other ways to be able to look at your fiancee's eyes other than through skype or photographs.
You deserve to be happy- and I don't think you will be until you are able to put some of these fears and concerns to rest. I understand that you are egar to get to your "happily ever after" but you have to go through the rest of the story first. Would you have agreed to marry him if he lived down the street? or would you think it was too soon and just want to date? Has he been dishonest with you in the past? Do you trust him? Do you know about his past? (Remember, there is a 5 year old child that is clearly important to him- and he didnt tell you...? What else hasnt he told you? will you be OK having her in your life?)
It is easy to get swept up in romance and fairy tale love, but dont let it blind you and have someone take advantage of you.
Take some time- talk with your fiancee, your sister, your parents, friends... your feelings are vaid, and you shouldnt rush into something you are 100% ready for!
Good luck

Hi Terri,
After reading some of the other topic you have started here, to learn a little bit more about your fiancee and your situation, I will offer you my two cents.
Take immigration out of the picture for a moment- this is someone who you are going to marry. Marry- as in promise to spend your life with. Someone who is going to be with you throughout all the good and bad times, someone who you are supposed to trust more than anyone in the world- someone who is not supposed to lie to you, or hide things from you.
No one here knows about your relationship more than you do, and yes it is normal to have cold feet about marriage- but the feeling are more based on "what ifs"... "what if we discover that we can't live together without driving each other crazy?" "what if we have to move for work" "what if...". However, your concerns seem to be more based on concerns about HIM as a person, not the two of you as a couple- "what else hasnt he told me?" "How could he not have told me about his neice?" "what about our religious differences?" etc. As already said- trust your instincts. It sounds like maybe the two of you need to spend some more time together before you decide to commit your lives together. Is there a way for you two to share a meal with your families? I understand you may not be able to stay in the same hotel room, but surely there are other ways to be able to look at your fiancee's eyes other than through skype or photographs.
You deserve to be happy- and I don't think you will be until you are able to put some of these fears and concerns to rest. I understand that you are egar to get to your "happily ever after" but you have to go through the rest of the story first. Would you have agreed to marry him if he lived down the street? or would you think it was too soon and just want to date? Has he been dishonest with you in the past? Do you trust him? Do you know about his past? (Remember, there is a 5 year old child that is clearly important to him- and he didnt tell you...? What else hasnt he told you? will you be OK having her in your life?)
It is easy to get swept up in romance and fairy tale love, but dont let it blind you and have someone take advantage of you.
Take some time- talk with your fiancee, your sister, your parents, friends... your feelings are vaid, and you shouldnt rush into something you are 100% ready for!
Good luck

10 foot barge pole anyone? Seriously, you need to delay this as much as possible, figure it out before the k1 is approved and he moves. I think he just wants to get into the states via marrying you. He may have other family there other than his Uncle maybe even a girlfriend who knows.
TAKE YOUR TIME! Good luck. Its probably better if your heart breaks now than in a few months/years time when youve invested a lot emotionally and financially.

Teri,
Many people are following your story, and we wish the best for you,..,.,.hope you will keep us informed,,.,.,your story is so intriguing.,.,...,all I can say is best of luck!
Trust your ""gut"" and brain, not your heart in this situation.

No rush, take some time out.

If you have doubts then slow the train until you feel like you actually know the man you want to marry.
If it doesn't feel right then it probably isn't, intuition is powerful. Going with your head instead of your heart might feel cold and painful, but in the long run it'll save you a lot of pain.

I don't want to bring up anything bad, but you should go back to that one post you made, you know, that one that got out of control, and read some of the good advice that was given to you, you will see that a lot of it will start to make sense.
Follow your gut and do not make any decisions without being sure of what you are doing.
I wish you luck!

Trust your gut, it is very rarely wrong.

Girl, this is way too obvious! my gut AND brain are telling me it is a fraud! RUN !

I went back and read some of your old posts. You haven't even been together for a year, you've never really met, his English is really bad which makes me wonder if you speak his language or how else do you communicate? You love animals, he's allergic to them. I see you love camping, does he? I'm all for unconventional relationships, I know that people fall in love in the most unusual ways and places, but you guys don't really know each other. From your own accord, you learn new things about him on a regular basis. It really feels like you were rushing into this and now it's catching up with you and that's why you're having these doubts. Don't take this the wrong way but when we're young, we tend to think that the person we're with is the love of our life, until he's not anymore. I think you should listen to your gut.
Just one other thought. If his religion is so strict that he's not even allowed to meet you in person, how can he be allowed to marry someone of a different religion?