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I would have to disagree with you. Many people on this board are very strict when it comes to following the rules of immigration. Most if not everybody here does not like it when people take advantage of the system because it has a negative effect on people doing the process the right way such as getting kicked back further in line.

It's my birthday today, just saying,lol. I am going back to work tomorrow after 10 wonderful 10 days off...oh life...

haha this is hilarious but still, why bother making sure he will know...after all your journey and after all that you went thought, the last thing you need is get in touch with your abuser...
Second,, you don't need a lawyer to go to your interview, it takes less than 10 minutes and the lawyer cant talk for you.

SANDRAJ HAPPY BIRTHDAY... parabens! hope you had a blast!!

I saw people being having AOS denied because they reconciled with their abusers,not one,not two, not three times but several times. In 2007 and 2011 two girls asked my help because their petitions for naturalization were denied because they reconciled with their abusers before becoming US.citizen.I could not help them , first because there is anything in the Immigration Law forcing USCIS to approve the naturalization process once they reconciled with the abusers, and second I will never help someone willing to fool the system filing Vawa and reconciling with the perpetrator.
People who reconciles with their abusers need therapy for life,because suffering abuse is not the victim's fault ever, but going back to the abuser shows low self esteem and total disregard to their own lives.When you can't keep self respect you can't respect anyone. As I said many times abusers are the scum of our society!
In memory of all deceased women victims of domestic violence such as Lacy Petterson (murdered in 2002), Kathleen Savio’s (murdered in 2004),Amanda Rinaldi (murdered in 2012) Reeba Steenkamp (murdered in 2013)Jennifer Martel (murdered three days ago),Jennifer Alfonso (murdered 11 days ago) Patricia Waschbisch( domestic violence advocate murdered in April 2013) and all other 1,324 women murdered in 2012 in the U.S we should say NO to violence, and we say NO when we remove ourselves from the abuser's presence.

samusbbz probably your case will be adjudicate any moment, considering they are adjudicating vawa cases filed 7/9months ago.
Do not waste your precious time showing your GC, he showed total disregard for your life.The best revenge is too be happy, find a man who will love you, respect and cherish your presence, a real man, not a coward capable to batter a woman.
Espero que seu caso seja aprovado, se nao for entao submeta novamente, Good luck.

I WANT TO SAY THANK GOD FOR SANDRANJ . AND ALSO EVEN THOUGH AM STILL BROKEN MAY THOESE WOMEN WHO LOST THERE LIVES TO DOMESTIC ABUSE SOUL REST IN PEACE AND HOPE THERE FAMILIES HEAL . AND TO THE WOMAN WHO WAS ABUSE IF YOU WERE ABUSE THE WAY YOU SAY YOU WERE THEN YYYYYYYYYY WOULD YOU EVEN TALK TO YOUR ABUSER I WAS IN COURT YESTERDAY WITH MY NOW EX HUSBAND AFTER I GOT AWAY FROM HIM HE STILL FORCE ME IN HIS CAR AND ALMOST BROKE MY NECK I WILL NOT REST TILL I FACE HIM IN COURT TO SEE THE FEAR IN HIS EYES JUST LIKE HOW HE HAD ME IN FEAR UNTIL THIS DAY . I AM GETTING TO TELL MY SIDE SO I MAYBE ABLE TO HELP EVEN ONE WOMAN OUT THERE THAT MAY FALL FOR HIM AND HE HAS LOTS OF ANGER AND HATE FOR WOMAN IN ONE WORD I HATE HIM SO MUCH HAS HE ALMOST DESTROYED ME AND TOOK ME AWAY FROM MY CHILDREN

This may be a little harsh but its how I see it- (very much along the lines of what Vanessa wrote)
Men are not inanimate objects. They are not like shoes that you can decide "he is the one for me" and the shoes got no choice but to comply. Its called free will. So while you may have determined that on paper you two are a good fit and in your heart he is the one, sadly it does not seem as if Danny feels the same.
If you go back and look at what hes telling you, really look at it- youll see that. He never says with the certainty you say it. You are the one for me. Its- I love you but this isnt going to work (because you are not the one for me). I love you but Im not ready (because you are not the one for me). I love you but I need to slow down because Im scared (since you are not the one for me).
Something happens when you find that right person. The one who is the right person for you. It makes all the pieces of the puzzle magically fit together and there is no 'but' in the sentences anymore.
When someone uses the word 'but' like that in a sentence its just to soften the blow. It means ignore everything I said before the 'but', what I really mean is whats after it.
Im getting the feeling you are going to a premarital consular and they are just stringing this out for additional sessions and fees rather then telling you bluntly its over and losing your business. You should seek out an individual consular in your area for a better perspective.

Hey lady, I read your pain but stay strong, this dude seem a weak man
not totally ready to commit, one cannot flip flop on another life & feelings,
don't blame yourself neither should U fool yourself into thinking a baby
changes a man or bring him closer , it does not if that is not what he truly desire
I support U in whatever decision U make, that is between U & the almighty,
I also believe in a woman's right to choose... I wish you the best

He's doing you a favor. He's saving you a lot of time. He's enabling you to avoid ripping your life out by the roots to relocate to a new country for an unfulfilling, almost certainly short-term marriage. On your behalf, I'm thanking your lucky stars that this is happening now versus later, when the entanglements would be much more restrictive to break away from.

If they are not satisfied with this then they will ask you for an interview, which isn't a big deal.
But, everyone reading this forum should know that co-mingling is a big deal for USCIS. And I might add, that if, god forbid, something happened to one of you and your account had no money but the spouse's account did, what would you do? It's fine if you want to do what you want, but I truly think having access to the other person's money is really important for emergencies.
Also, you should be protecting yourself on the house. You should get on the deed as a co-owner and occupant. Not for USCIS, but for you.
I believe in love and marriage, and both mine and my husband's parents are still married. But, that being said, it was important for me to get my husband his own stuff, utilities in his name, lease in his name, so that if something happened he'd be protected and able to be integrated into the system and survive on his own, with a credit history and a past history of paying bills on time. I do that because I love him.

I would write out exactly what happened. Because it looks like you are cramming, as you say, and doing the very bare minimum to get a GC, now twice. The first was for the initial GC, then you didn't live together, now that ROC is coming you get back together? You say your wife is willing to "help" you with ROC? What an odd thing to say...

The lawyers ad is simply a way to drum up business. The case hes referring to is an extremely rare scenario. The guy in question came on a K1 married in 2000 and filed in 2001, he wasnt approved until late 2003. So it took over 2 years for them to adjudicate his case, which is a shame. They then denied him as by the time they got to him, he was divorced.

The summary to the case is actually "He was not subject to the provisions of the case because his marriage was more then 2 years old when his application was adjudicated". A key factor thats missing when the lawyer advises "if you entered the U.S. on a fiancé(e) visa, married your American citizen petitioner within 90 days, and filed for adjustment of status, but got divorced before receiving your green card, then I would strongly suggest that you seek the advice of a reputable attorney, who can determine if your situation is similar to this BIA case."

Why not just tell people the two years is the factor that will determine if your case is similar to the one hes quoting? Because then he wont get the consultations ($) from all the K1s who read it like above and think- hey thats me! and come in just to be told, yeah sorry theres nothing we can do for you as you are subject to the provisions. While everyone likes to think they are special, chances are you are the 99% and not the 1% rare exception case.

It seems as if he and his wife filed in 2001, never heard back and carried on with their lives for the next 2 years, got divorced and the petitioner mustve figured (similar to what USCIS thought) that the divorce itself would make the petition null and void, (if they werent married any longer he wasnt going to get the card and usually it does except in rare cases like this) so they didnt withdraw the 864. I believe if they did before the divorce, or during, or even any time before his card was issued the outcome of the case would be different, because w/o the 864 his packet is incomplete and his card wouldnt have been able to been issued.

You were responsible for him getting his green card that does not mean you can take it away. He is here now the best you can do is divorce him and move on with your life. Not everybody that comes to the US are saints. You were the one who bought him here.

So my brother in the Marine Corps Embassy Security Group is stupid? It's his job and MCESG's job to keep our Embassies, our State Department staff, our citizens and our embassy visitors safe from harm. He also served 2 tours in Afghanistan, so he must be an idiot, right? Leave our military and vets out of this train wreck thread. Have some f*cking respect.
OP - don't let bitterness swallow you up. File for divorce and report all the evidence you can gather to the police and USCIS. Then take a few deep breaths and move on. Life goes on. You have your kids to focus on. Wishing you the best.

3 things to advise. Gather all the evidence. Report to the respective team. Move on.
One more thing, if you plan to marry again, make sure "he is entering the marriage with good faith". You of all people should feel if he is sincere or whatever. Good luck.

You could also use your first amendment rights to say "thank you" to an active duty member of the armed services or a veteran, or if you want you could continue to call us stupid.
Either way you're welcome.

If he is in the army... Then that is your best chance to get protection and benefits for you and your children. He will have to disclose to the army that he has dependents and there are military benefits that would be extended to you until you divorce. If the child is his, then child support would be enforced by the military if you divorce. Once he gets assigned to a duty station, then you can work with that base to be sure you are counted.
However, if there is illegal activities you need to call police or contact the military police.... Ice does not look into those types of crimes.
Personally, you need to find a way to put this behind you, since he is in the military, he will be given the benefit of the doubt and since getting someone deported is an uphill battle for the average person, getting a member if the military deported is an Everest level undertaking. You might try to live with the fact that at least you did what you needed to do, found out the truth and move on with your life, seeking revenge will leave you empty.

U r quoting this again n over again it means u knew this even before u married to him, if so then u will face all the same charge sheet as well , as against him as fraud to just get benefits of immigritions bcoz u helped him....

you seem to me you are full of s*&^ to be honest, it seems like you had no problems with his "illegal" activities while things were good between the two of you but now that hes found another solution to his legal matters you basically want revenge. and yes you probably knew all along about the laptop and other things bought with stolen cc. you know i hate people like you, my wife tends to use this kind of logic with me, if i dont do as she wants or put up with her bs she uses the oh i will divorce you and stuff knowing damn well i need her, its like a power trip. if hes in the army then he will get his citizenship with or without you, get ur divorce and move on.

This from Ask.com ---
To report immigration marriage fraud, you must first gather evidence as proof. Contact the tip line for Immigration Customs Enforcement (ICE) at 866-347-2423. It will be up to ICE if they investigate it further.

My grandmother told me never to be "in love with love." There are other important factors to a marriage, not just feelings.
As a bystander, I am torn between the desire I have to be supportive of you in this very difficult situation, and the negative feelings I have for your fiance and his "controversial lifestyle." (I remember one of your first posts).
I know the visa is the last thing on your mind right now, but one thing that really rubbed me wrong in this story was that he cancelled the paperwork right away. That seems like a huge overreaction, and insulting to you. You aren't going to pursue the visa right now, so why bother to cancel it in the heat of the moment. I would have come to talk to you in person, not broken up over the phone, and figured things out, and left the visa as the least important thing. I am sort of offended for you that he did that...
I am going to send you a PM because I have a story about my friend and I don't think she'd want her story out there on the internet.

Take it from a male viewpoint (mine): If you grit your teeth and continue, you can only expect more of the same behavior in the future. He's not ready. Depending on his age (if he's older than his late 20s), he might never be.
Personal note, with apologies if it's inappropriate to state it here: When I was single, it frosted my jaws to encounter woman after woman who, although otherwise stable in every other way, kept throwing themselves at guys who were incapable of ever committing. A true relationship is one in which there is no question of mutual commitment, whether the question is "in your faces" or nagging at the back of your minds. Do what you will, but I don't think that this relationship is true or that it would last if you manufactured its continuation.
Depending on your self-assurance, thank him for the memories, turn your back, and look only forward. Of all the fish in the sea, this one should be thrown back.

This thread is about how to lie about committing fraud and I think it should be closed as a violation of the TOS. Your "cold feet" story is a bold faced lie.

Perhaps in the hopes of a better life, or to start over in a new country, or maybe they just really like the coffee over here. The OP's motivations for wanting to come to the US are not germane; they are entitled to obtain an immigrant visa as the widow of a US citizen as a matter of law, and that's that.
Since the office handling the I-130 has already been contacted and informed that the petitioner is now deceased, then you should not have to do anything. The pending I-130 will be automatically converted into a pending I-360 under 8 CFR 204.2(i) and will be adjudicated as such.

CR-1 visa is to get family reunited. Since he has no one there now in USA, then why does he care for this visa?