THETIMEISNOW

To be honest, it would be better for them to be together and struggling to support a child than to be apart and be struggling. A child in a poor family with a caring father is better off than a child in a rich family with a father who doesn't care about him, and makes no effort to teach him what actually matters in this world.

I don't think it's judgmental in the least. Leaving without giving a reason is quite cowardly, doesn't matter what his side is, he should have at least had the balls to tell her why.

Wow! NSC, you S-U-C-K!!! This process cares absolutely NOTHING about families who have been apart!!! Why is this taking so long?!?!?!? I have not seen my hubby in almost 3 years! My hubby has not been able to hold our child! (For those that want to know why I have yet to visit my hubby; it is very difficult traveling 4,000+ miles with a toddler and I thought that this process would not have taken this long!) UGH!!

Mr. Mustapha made it to the USA on 01/31/14. POE was Houston and said he was given an interrogation by the Customs Officer.

wow.. that is encouraging. my pd is 07-11 was transferred to nebraska on 01-03.
That means I hope myself and others stuck at NSC get approvals soon.
when did u get transferred?
congrats by the way!

OMG. I am happy our case is approved from Nebraska PD. July 16. On to the next stage. I think things are changing at NSC.
Please update my timeline approval received today January 28.
GOD IS GOOD ALL THE TIME. Wish all others waiting for approval the best.

I just cant believe the excuses and justifications. I'm the USC married to my Nigerian husband and we've been living together for nearly 5 years here in Ghana. I go back and forth from the States to Ghana at least 3 times a year, staying no less than 3 months at a time in Ghana. I did plenty of research before ever stepping foot here and even now in year 5, I still experience culture shock. A day doesn't go by that I don't look around and wonder where the heck am I again? At times I'm grouchy from being homesick, I'm clingy to my husband because he's all I have here, I'm discouraged at the lack of things I'm able to do here without being a Ghanaian citizen, etc. So just imagine what this guy, whose been in the States all of two weeks is going through. If there is real love that brought you two together, then you should be figuring out how to overcome his issues and make your relationship work. If his brother can afford a ticket for him to come to CA, maybe the brother should buy a ticket and come visit the two of you and try to help him adjust to life in the States. At this point I'm just angered that the time it took someone to process your petition and for someone to interview your husband, could've been time used on a petition that belonged to two people who really know what they want.

If you are lumping immediate relatives as one, no this has not always been the case. Certain immediate family petitions by USCs have been in backlog for so many years that you can measure them in terms of decades. Current priority dates for F3 preference category range from 1993-2003, and for F4 from 1990-2001. Even those petitions that haven't hit a per-country limit have therefore been waiting over a decade. If these had always had preference, there would have been no visas issued at all for LPR petitions for years already, until this backlog had been cleared. But I'm guessing you're not concerned about these, so the question is whether you object on principle or for your own petition reasons.
Did you not understand what I wrote. USC immediate relatives are spouses, parents,children under 21. I am not talking about brothers, children over 21. These are not considered immediate relatives.

It really sucks to admit it, but the distance does put a strain on the marriage. My husband and I have the dumbest arguments and we both know deep down, it's the distance. We've been married 5 months, and instead of figuring out who we are as a unit, we're having a Skype-marriage still living our daily lives as individuals. I know our situation could be a lot worse, but I'm not happy that I only get to see my husband 3 hours a day (Skype) and in person 2 or 3 times a year. No married person would be satisfied with that.
My friends here, bless them, TRY to get it, but they really don't. My sharing and posting of our struggle is getting less and less attention. I've been reduced to an immigration status in conversations. And if one more person asks me "so, how does it feel to be married?" I am going to punch them.
It is nice to vent to people who understand. This was a good idea thedude. We're all in this struggle together and it is awful, but hang in there. You and your wife will make it through this and will come out even stronger than before. Don't give up, and don't feel bad for having a moment of exasperation. We all have those. It doesn't take away the love you have for your wife.

This is a really great idea....We all could use the extra space to vent.

I completely agree. CR-1/IR-1 filers are already in a binding legal union, according to our own government. So I'll never understand why we don't get put ahead of the line for actually being their definition of "immediate relative", which a fiance is not. Makes no sense to me and is so completely unfair and wrong for us to be pushed back so much in terms of processing times than K-1s, who are getting processed so quickly right now (no offense to anyone who is a K-1).

I think we should have a sub-forum for people suffering emotionally and psychologically from this process. I am in a pretty bad place right now and it would help to have somewhere to talk/vent where I don't have to spend half my words explaining this situation.

Love seeing the excitement of great news! Crazy how we celebrate each small step of progress in this process.. but it's because we all are that much closer to being together with our families

SEVEN down ... 1 more to go !!!




sasuhol | July 1st
stnvmjames | July 2nd


MacauPDX | July 26th

PD0729 | July 29
anya4444 | July 29
skysofilila | July 30th
ah24 | July 30th

ashiraz | July 30th





AUGUST HERE WE COME !!

Transferred too

Loving this strange wave of morning notices, what a great surprise for you all! Congrats!!

OOoooooopss ... hey im from august.. let me redo this
SIX down ... 2 more to go !!! sasuhol | July 1st stnvmjames | July 2nd MacauPDX | July 26th PD0729 | July 29 anya4444 | July 29 skysofilila | July 30th ah24 | July 30th ashiraz | July 30th BOYYAHHHH !

Yay I got transferred too!
"On January 21, 2014, we transferred this case I130 IMMIGRANT PETITION FOR RELATIVE, FIANCE(E), OR ORPHAN to another office for processing and sent you a notice explaining this action. Please follow any instructions provided on the notice. We will notify you by mail when a decision is made. If you move while this case is pending, please use our Change of Address online tool to update your case with your new address or call our customer service center at 1-800-375-5283."

Yahoo!!!! transfered!!! PD July 29th!!! Crying, smiling,,,,,,,all at the sane time

Two down ... 3 more to go !!!

MacauPDX | July 26th
PD0729 | July 29

skysofilila | July 30th
ah24 | July 30th

ashiraz | July 30th

One down ... 4 more to go !!! GET READY LISSAA Y MIGUEELL !!!!!

MacauPDX | July 26th
PD0729 | July 29
skysofilila | July 30th
ah24 | July 30th
ashiraz | July 30th

I went through a time like that....I was looking at all the charts and reading all the threads and hearing of all the delays and gridlock.
Then something broke inside and I prayed Lord, please intervene on my behalf because it looks like this system is broken and
a fix is not in sight. As the days passed for no reason I started to get hopeful inside and began to tell my friends and family that
Jan was going to be the month....I know that changing my diet of steadily ingesting negative information was important so that
the hope that was always in my spirit could find expression.

ME TOO!!! Woke up this morning and check email........APPROVED !!!........only 8 days...and two were weekend days and one was holiday.....
So 5 business days from transfer came approval.......Thank You Lord Jesus for answered prayer....
On January 21, 2014, we mailed you a notice that we have approved this I130 IMMIGRANT PETITION FOR RELATIVE, FIANCE(E), OR ORPHAN.
Please follow any instructions on the notice. If you move before you receive the notice, call customer service

Good luck for tonight !!!!


MacauPDX | July 26th
PD0729 | July 29
skysofilila | July 30th
ah24 | July 30th
ashiraz | July 30th

I agree with just about everything that has been said. In my opinion, you have not spent enough time with him. You need to remember you're "forcing" a stepfather on your children. I have two of my own as well, and it's something that my fiance and I have talked at length about is the impact this will have on them. This is why, for us, having him come and spend two weeks with us was so important, so that they could get to know him. Two weeks is certainly not enough but I encourage them to talk to him on Skype, to ask questions, to continue building that relationship every single day. I talk a lot about him to my children and they're completely up to date on our visa journey because they need time to process that they're getting a stepdad in all this, and they need time to develop their own relationship with him.
I trust my fiance 200% with my kids and that is because we've been together for over two years now. That trust took a long time to develop. It took a lot of talks, and to this day it's something we discuss. For me, the time we spent physically together was vital.
As hard as it is, you have to think long and hard about whether or not you're still in the honeymoon phase. Everything seems perfect then, and it takes a while for the butterflies and rainbows to wear off. You have to see what your fiance is like in his bad days, how he reacts to upsetting news, how he is when he's frustrated, angry, sad, down in the dumps. True love happens no matter what the person is going through, but being with our loved ones when they're not at their best is a great way to truly know what kind of person they are. I highly doubt one week face to face gave you enough time to be with him during such a time.
Like others have said, slowing down doesn't mean calling things off. It means letting things develop longer, become stronger.
I had people tell me, friends I loved and trusted, that they did not believe things were real until he came to visit me. It's so so easy for online relationships to be a dream come true, for the person on the other side to be the perfect answer to our dreams. On the other side of the screen, things can be prefect, when they're not necessarily so in real life. Real life is where it gets puts to the test. When we "passed that test", those friends of mine became our biggest supporters. Your friends wouldn't have told you what they did if they didn't care for you and worry for you. Trust them. Trust yourself too. Trust your children and their gut reactions.