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I think this advice and similar regarding the intent and purpose of the K1 visa is so totally wrong and off base and I have to say something.... The K1 visa is NOT a "lets hang out for 90 days and see how we like each other visa"... Something we forget is that These foreign fiancées have totally picked up their lives, said goodbye to friends and family, left jobs and spent money to com to America to MARRY us... It think it is so disrespectful to,think that if the they decide they are "really not that into getting married" or "it did not feel right" that they can just be sent back like a sweeter in the wrong color. How does that work for,the person,having to return to their country with nothing left? the USC remains at home with their family, friends and stuff?
I believe it is this wrongful usage of the K1 which many times results in the USC on here having to post things like "my fiancé won't leave, am I responsible for her or "how to get her deported" or the foreign fiancée is here asking how they can stay or what to do next?!
The K1 is NOT, NOT, NOT a observe him/her around my family, get to know you visa! It should instead be thought of as a "I am 100% SURE this is the love of my life and someone I want to marry (within 90 days) person!" Anything short of,that then STOP and get a tourist visa to get to know someone or go to,their country and visit.

What a nice present for our 10 Monthsaryyyyy. After 9 months of noa1. Words cannot explain this feeling.

Yesterday we got the hard copy of Noa2 ,wake up Nvc we r coming !!

We got approved!

I will more than likely just go to Mexico and be with him. I have already lived in Mexico for two years to be with him. We have a child together so finding someone else isn't an option.

100% AGREE!
Kaylara, THANK YOU.

Literally could not have found someone better for this than you Kaylara. 1 million thanks are not enough!!!!!!

I had an hour long interview tonight on the phone with the very nice reporter from the NY Times, and she said it's possible that they will send out a photographer. (I also told her she was welcome to use the pictures on my FB account if she thought it would be helpful. I not only discussed the details of my case, but also detailed our cumulative theories and exactly why we have them. (Proof from the USCIS's or Ombudsman's Reports data specifically, and also that we were following the transfers and approvals here. She seemed surprised to hear about Overland Park and what happened there, btw.) I also told her about the crazy RFE's, obnoxious Tier 2's, and the complete inability of the Congresspeoples or Senators offices or even the Ombudsman to help us due to them playing with the Processing Date. I even referenced the long wait that people in certain countries had with AP, and yes, even the bullshit going on down in the Equadorian consulate and the situation with the Stokes interviews down there. (Much thanks to Tbone for all of his work with informing people about that, btw. I just read all the threads on it the other day, and it was fresh in my mind.) Also I told her that several people had stated that they wanted to participate in an interview, but were afraid of possible retaliation from the USCIS. (She seemed angry at the idea that people were so scared of that; I think it really was a pretty powerful statement in and of itself.) But it is the right thing to do. (Besides, I have friends who are lawyers who I'm sure would help me out, and also two cute little blonde girls who need me to do everything I can to get their Daddy here. Cynical, maybe. Probably. But realistic, I hope.)
So, if all goes well, expect an article in the near future. Possibly with pictures. I hope I did a good job of representing the problems that we've had over the past (almost) year. And I really hope that this results in the situation as it stands being fixed.

You know, a few months ago I honestly was wishing the same thing. That those who were processing our applications or delaying them would have to feel the same pain they were inflicting on us with their inaction. I've had a long time to think since then (and still no approval for me, yet.) and honestly, I don't want them to have to go through anything like this. I don't wish this on any other person. It's absolutely horrible. I wish that they would act from a position of fairness and empathy. But I can't knowingly wish this pain upon another human being.

Take it from a male viewpoint (mine): If you grit your teeth and continue, you can only expect more of the same behavior in the future. He's not ready. Depending on his age (if he's older than his late 20s), he might never be.
Personal note, with apologies if it's inappropriate to state it here: When I was single, it frosted my jaws to encounter woman after woman who, although otherwise stable in every other way, kept throwing themselves at guys who were incapable of ever committing. A true relationship is one in which there is no question of mutual commitment, whether the question is "in your faces" or nagging at the back of your minds. Do what you will, but I don't think that this relationship is true or that it would last if you manufactured its continuation.
Depending on your self-assurance, thank him for the memories, turn your back, and look only forward. Of all the fish in the sea, this one should be thrown back.

To OP: Forget him, he is not worth it. What matters most is you and your baby. Just pray to God and everything will follow.
sheesh.. what's the matter if someone advised her not to get an abortion? It's their advice, not yours. give one of your own if you want to, its free. People can be too nosey.

keep the baby and be strong, Meg. You are a mother from day 1 of conception...you are blessed.

I am just speaking from experience. I have been through a situation much the same years ago, and unless you have actually been there yourself then you have no idea what it is like.
Knowing what i know now, and the help that is out there, it would have been an easier choice to make the decision to keep the baby. I however miscarried. I still think about the baby i lost. It is something i will carry with me for the rest of my life. Had i gone through with a termination, i know this would have been even harder on me still. At the time i had no idea how hard it would have been.
Having been in a similar situation, i am trying to shed some light on things, not put pressure on any right or wrong. There is no right or wrong. The decision is not an easy one to make either way.
I have a baby now, and I can say that having a child made me want to strive for the very best. This is not about manipulation, i am just being open and honest here. I always wanted to be a mother just like Meg. And now that i am i really understand what i have been missing out on. The slightest hint of having a second thoughts of having a termination is usually an indication that deep down its not the option you want to choose.

Respect her opinion as just that, an opinion, and stop being so RUDE!!!

I am far from delusional!!! I am a woman of God and know that forgivness and second, third and fourth...chances are possible. Everything is possible with God, but from what I am reading from the majority here, ya'll need God in your lives.
Oh and yes, how old are you, and you have never heard of mental adultery?????? Just because you dont commit the physical act, the mental thought was there. You say that your spouses are not screwing other people and making babies....hhhmmmm....do you know that for an absolute fact???? Is everyone with their spouse 24/7? I think you are the one delusional. How many times have you heard one say...oh no, not my wife/husband...they know better than to cheat...i wish they might....i would leave in a heartbeat and then oh, truth comes out, the spouse has had an affair. It is not easy to swallow, but nobody would like to think our spouses are cheating, but fact remains, many do. Some get caught, some dont and some admit the affair due to feeling guilty. If there was no love, there would be no feelings of guilt!!!
I would also like to see most of you in this same situation. You sit here and say what you "would do", but quite frankly, if it happened to you, the decision is not so easy. I can almost guarantee that the majority of you would attempt to work out your marriage.
I am going to pray for each and every one of you that God touch your lives and soften your hearts. We as humans are not to judge, but seems that ya'll are doing just that.

"Your original receipt number will not change and this will not further delay the processing of your case."
Bwahaha. Yeah because 7 months isn't "delayed".

Congratulations! I know that you are very happy man right now!

This is great advice and something i need to do more of. In person I manage conflict well but when you are thousands of miles apart, it requires a different skill set you cant just hold and comfort each other. We don't argue often but it is painful (to both of us i am sure) when we do
Thank you we do many of these things now but the sound and video clips we have not I don't know if that will help cm an argument but i do know that I miss hearing her voice a lot. I also like the movie idea because I have not watched one alone up to this point and thought I would rather wait for her. Thank you.

I just want to say in my opinion this "video" you referring to was made by you and your husband. Terrible that he would show it tohis friends. My question is how long did you know him before marriage? The thing that upset me is that me and my son sit home alone without my husband of almost three yrs (8 yrs together) that should be here. While they let the people in that do BS like this. This is an example of why it is taking soooo damn long for our spouses to be able to come to the US. Get to know your significant others more before claiming "love" and "marriage".

Oh my precious Sis Debbie (I am a Debbie also). I feel your pain and I so totally understand. First you got his citizenship pulled thats about all you can stop. Do what Darne;l said and write that letter to USCIS so at least its on file.
Lets go through some things about you so you know you are precious and wonderfully made dear. (freelancing cuz I am going this myself).
1. You will go through your 5 cycles of grief and beat yourself up. DON'T beat yourself up, or blame yourself.
If you can look yourself in the mirror and know that you gave your marriage all that was in you and you gave out of a loving true heart. Baby the will of another person is not your fault. he had a choice he choose wrong not your fault.
Forget people who want to point their finger and blame you because you didn't see the "Red Flags". Isn't it funny how outsiders always say "girl I saw the red flags, I saw it coming".
I have had so called friends say "your husband I knew he was a user or i knew something was up with him". But you remained silent WOW. (sorry i digress).
2. You dared to love another and give them unconditional love. Even when your gut was turning you trusted in that person and gave them the benefit of the doubt.
Isn't that called agape love and what Christ ask of us as humans one to another.
Where did that suddenly become a crime. Gosh are we to measure our lives by everyone's elses failures. We are human we make mistakes and judgement calls.
I dare say anyone reading this thread is mistake free in life and love. So please don't let strangers, family or friends make you feel bad or less than because you dared to believe, trust and love.
3. You do whatever it is you need to do to move forward and heal.
The people who say "get over it" "move on" "forget him". Well if it was that easy. Well it would be easy. I suggest counseling (I know I will be seeking it),
Unless you have a great network of family and friends who aren't the "I told you so's", limit who you confide in cuz many times others insecurities become yours and instead of healing now you are saddled with others mess and you feel even worst.
4. Forgive him this will be very key to your healing trust me on this.
Doesn't mean what he did doesn't matter or you can forget. It means as a woman of God I forgive you because I refuse to let this pain consume me.
5.. He was your husband and its okay to say you love him.
Why do people think you married satan. This is someone you not only petitioned and went through all this but you married had started a life with him. Why does it seem odd to say "I love _________". I forgive him I love him but I am moving on. Hey you may get to the point you wish him God's blessings and the best.
People always want to talk about karma and all that when we should be asking God to come into their lives and touch them and turn their life around so they never hurt another person. But thats a whole nother level there (Just saying)
I am sure your inbox is filling up and you have some really great people here that have similar stories (I thought I was the only one on earth for my situation). It's wonderful to see how some people have been so misused and abused and played and yet God had a better blessing for them. It was a divine setup.
You will get your swag back (i stayed in bed a week and cried until my daughter literally peeled me out of bed and made me shower. LOL) and you will love, laugh and smile again. I know i look forward to that someday. But in the meantime. Do whatever you need to do to heal.
Thank you for blessing us and being brave to share your story. Who knows who you saved from horror. God bless you Debbie and all the best to you.

And in my case it is God who has brought me and my husband through all this!!! To God Be The Glory

I know what you are going through.
My husband is having a really hard time right now and has been accusing me of all sorts of things.
I have decided to try not be hurt by those words, which aren't a portrayal of himself, simply that those feelings get out when due to stress and emotional fatigue.
Talk through with her.
I spent over 10 hours talking with my husband over this week end, we re still working at it. As someone above says, long distance relationships really suck!