sunandmoon

Hi Angelforever07...I see that you are currently reading this thread.
I miss reading your posts, and I'll bet Junior would appreciate your advice.
Don't be a stranger.

should we expect anything less....

should we expect anything less....

should we expect anything less....

my post is a little late...

I'm afraid so...
...Junior has likely whined to the mods by now even though he's the one who shot himself in the foot...(as usual).
However...it's been fun!
'nuf said

You know, just once it would be nice to actually have the whole story in the post instead of a single question, with no context, followed by some random emoticon.

Hey everyone...
Junior has been in the U.S. for 30 years. Let's pretend he doesn't know the meaning of "cold feet."

International Driving Permits
The State of California does not recognize an International Driving Permit (IDP) as a valid driver license. California does recognize a valid driver license that is issued by a foreign jurisdiction (country, state, territory) of which the license holder is a resident.
The IDP is only a translation of information contained on a person’s foreign driver license and is not required to operate a motor vehicle in California. Citations issued to a person in California who has an IDP, but does not have a California driver license will be placed on the Department of Motor Vehicle database.
The IDP is also called an International Driver License, International License, etc.
http://dmv.ca.gov/dl/dl_info.htm

International Driving Permits
The State of California does not recognize an International Driving Permit (IDP) as a valid driver license. California does recognize a valid driver license that is issued by a foreign jurisdiction (country, state, territory) of which the license holder is a resident.
The IDP is only a translation of information contained on a person’s foreign driver license and is not required to operate a motor vehicle in California. Citations issued to a person in California who has an IDP, but does not have a California driver license will be placed on the Department of Motor Vehicle database.
The IDP is also called an International Driver License, International License, etc.
http://dmv.ca.gov/dl/dl_info.htm

International Driving Permits
The State of California does not recognize an International Driving Permit (IDP) as a valid driver license. California does recognize a valid driver license that is issued by a foreign jurisdiction (country, state, territory) of which the license holder is a resident.
The IDP is only a translation of information contained on a person’s foreign driver license and is not required to operate a motor vehicle in California. Citations issued to a person in California who has an IDP, but does not have a California driver license will be placed on the Department of Motor Vehicle database.
The IDP is also called an International Driver License, International License, etc.
http://dmv.ca.gov/dl/dl_info.htm

if I agree with them, do I have a dirty mind? I have a stepdaughter, I think of it as being protective.

it's the wording of your post. not, as you put it, having a "decent" or "dirty" mind. you just don't get it...

nobody accused you of anything. it's the wording of your post...

you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.

Angel keeps on popping in, are we ever going to hear from her?

it's the wording of your post. not, as you put it, having a "decent" or "dirty" mind. you just don't get it...

you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.

You keep defending yourself from perceived personal attacks. Nobody has or is attacking you, accusing you of anything, or assuming anything inproper (or lowlife as you call it) about you. We are just trying to make you aware that the wording you used in your original post is similar to how pedophiles describe their love for children. That doesn't mean anybody has accused you of anything. Nobody here thinks or assumes anything bad about you. Why can't you just accept that?
BTW-Why do you feel that the mere mention of real-life issues like pedophilia is gross and disgusting? Rational adults are able to discuss these issues without name calling (I'm not a lowlife simply because I say the word "pedophilia". I'm sure in your world, it doesn't exist so nobody should ever even discuss it. But here in the real world, it does and people talk about how to recognize it and stop it. I guess all law enforcement are a bunch of lowlifes for setting up stings for online pedophiles, right?) You need a better grip on reality.

JR,
I'll give you a bit of advice from a long time father (my oldest is now 19) and a step-father (for 2 1/2 years now):
I understand wanting to get the little guy everything but you do need to be careful as you're setting up a situation with extremely high expectations between yourself and the child. The child could take you generosity as an opportunity to get what they want from you via emotional blackmail. Furnish are room them, sure that's basic needs but most of the other stuff is over the top. You could have accomplished the level of generosity by spreading it out using birthdays, Christmas and other Holidays.
My little guy landed in the US with a fully furnished room (some new & some gently used items) and over the first year we gradually expanded his clothing & toy inventory. It also gave us a chance to bond during the shopping for him process (not to mention the time spent with the wifie for the benefit of our little guys which helped to build that relationship also).
If you really want him to know you love him, then don't worry so much about the material things and focus on giving him the attention, structure and support he will need as he acclimates to his new world.
Finally I'll address the "nasty, pervert comments" that have offended you so much. I understand that English isn't your first language but you have claimed to have been int he US for over 30 years so I would expect you'd have a better command & understanding of US English. You choice of words was poor and did indeed imply that you have more interest in and excitement for the child than his mother. I understand you're saying that's not the case but you need to think carefully on how you word things. As this in an internet forum we can't hear the nuances of your voice or read the expression on you face as we read your words so we have to take them at face value.

OP, you know, when you're telling these little stories? Here's a good idea - have a POINT. It makes it SO much more interesting for the reader!

Why are you so defensive? If you post a question, you have to be ready for honest replies. It's great that others have focused on discussing cooking rice or fighting with each other rather than answer your question, but I simply stated my reaction to what you posted. Take or leave it, as you please.
Nobody is accusing you of anything or saying that your intentions are less than honorable. What I said was that the wording you used can be misinterpreted as something other than what you meant. You don't have to have a dirty mind to know that saying "I cannot stop thinking about the kid. I am confused. Sometimes I do not know if I am waiting for M'e or her kid." can be dangerous in these times.
If you don't see how this statement can be misintepreted by law enforcement or a social worker, than you need to get out of that bubble you live in.

it's the wording of your post. not, as you put it, having a "decent" or "dirty" mind. you just don't get it...