Erica e Kevin

AS soon as you parent Enter US, they can petition for them, you can file I-130 with a copy of the visa that your parent got IR-5 which contain a temporary green card. and
Lowlie please don't judge people, you really don't know the circumstances and each person has different stories, in US people left their kids and families for no reason, so probably these parent that coming to US are looking for new opportunities, so PLEASE stop being judgmental, i know someone that they left 7 years old kid to come to US, and do you want to know why they moved and left a 7 years, because the father is sick and he needs to have a surgeries and can not be done anywhere with success expect in US. it's not the parent fault that they couldn't bring thier kids, the immigration process is broken.

First congratulations on your Visa and on being a responsible owner, so many
dump there cats and dogs in the streets when they move.
I brought back two Egyptian Mau's kittens almost a year old each cost
me $200 on Lufthansa but some charge $250 per carrier with either two kittens or
one adult in them. They charge by weight and size of carrier so you have to decide
what Airline your going to use to fly home. But the prices are about the same
if you have to bring each in their carrier I'm thinking it will be $200 to 250 each
which isn't bad to get your babies home. Just make sure you have water for them
see if you can get one that sits outside the front door but the drinking part is inside.
Some use water feeders for Guinea pigs hahahaa hey it works. If the Airlines
says they will give them water don't believe it. Mine were in Cargo and they
had no water for 22 hours they were fine but I was pissed off.
Also brought a Persian from Egypt a rescue for his forever home on Turkish Air
and they charged $160 and it had to be cash so ask them if you have to have
cash or can pay with a credit card like you can on Lufthansa which is the one I
used on my first trip back to the USA. Good luck the worst part is now over
Woooooooooooooooo Hoooooooooooooooo!!!!

Hi Bebuska,
I worked as a nanny in the United Kingdom for 20 years (i'm Australian) I went though an international nanny agency to obtain the correct working visa.
I would suggest contacting one and asking them as they will be able to guide you better in the right direction. You could look into the J-1 cultural exchange visa.
Good Luck.

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so sorry this happened to you
but face it, could have happened if you had married an American
i am old enough to see men do this to women and women do it to men
Rule 1 divide life into fixables and unfixables
Rule 2 try to avoid the unfixable like hurting another as you can not take it back
Rule 3 even if you owe the IRS there is a fix, not one we all want and like, but it can be done
Rule 4 turn the unfixables over to a higher power as you messed it up and can't fix it and need help

I have no idea what would make you tell them that at your medical OP. Should have just kept your mouth shut. As if it was necessary to tell them you abused substances 15 years ago.......
It's legal in 2 states and borderline legal in like 20 others. US criminal system is beyond a joke about things like this

I am so thankful for all the support we have received from everyone on Visa Journey! We spent a lot of time discussing everything about her decision, we read everyone's posts, and my Maria did decide it was way too soon to leave the USA!
So, she has decided to stay and work thru the homesickness and keep her mind on her and I... I am so happy because without the input of everyone who took the time to leave such positive comments, I'm not sure what the outcome might have been..
I even got a deal on the airline cancellation! I was only charged $25 to cancel the flight! WOW!
Thank you everyone once again!

I got my wife a dog, until we have a kid it helps a lot. Missing family is normal and one of the best things about the filipino culture, they have strong families. When my wife visits Philippines she misses being here after a day. I would push to try a little more if you really are sure both of you are happy with the relationship.

I did tell my husband yesterday that I knew he wouldn't be interested and he agreed. He says he's perfectly fine not needing to meet new friends and I accept that. But he has had the luxury of knowing the same friends for 15-30 years whereas I'm generally new to the US and am trying to fit in somewhere. And I thought it'll be good to start with people who have been through the same experience of adjustment and transition. Perhaps I should have asked ahead but I don't want to appear as if I'm seeking his permission to make new friends.

Please make sure the dog is safe, too. Good luck.

The wife said they have land in their names and other property ( I assume she has seen paperwork on this) but i dont knw why we jump the gun. Calling him a scum dirt bag etc like their butts OR THEIR S/O are any better.
We all can give advice without insulting the person she loves. There are ways to say "just move on" without letting her feel like she found the worst person yet.
I agree - convincing someone will only lead to a shallow pool. It should be natural and be a mutual want.

The divorce took 7 years to finalized. We dated for 6 years before he started the divorce. He told me he was single when we started dating. He only tell me the truth 3 years after we dated. So I waited 3 years for his kids to grow older then he initiated the divorce. It was finalized last year sept2014. And we started the k1 Oct2014. Almost immediately after the divorce. The reason I believe he is genuine was he wouldn't have started the K1 if he is playing with me.

So if I get this straight the two of you were together while he was still married (I assume a divorce can't take 10+ years)... I'm sorry to break it to you but most men who have an affair never really get together with the person they're having an affair with. And if he haven't tried to get you over to the states in 14 years that should be proof enough. If he really loved you, he would have brought you over despite the kids. Kids are resilient.
I'm sorry you're going through this, and I am sorry he strung you along for 14 years.

So he did not evacuate with his children but he picked you ? I guess he won't get a father of the year award but man, that's cold.
You can't convince someone to love you. Love flows freely or it doesn't, why be so desperate to force love ?
He is trying to convince you that he doesn't want to spend the rest of his life with you, when someone tells you the truth about them then listen.
It would be to your benefit to explore why you want to be with a man who was stringing you along for 14 years, married and all.
It took so long because he had to wait for his kids to grow up ? Seriously ?
If you were the other woman for 14 years then I am afraid you are experiencing life on the other side of the fence currently.
I do not understand your desperation for this man and hope you will discover your self worth some day.
Forget the visa, forget this man.

I will try to put it as nicely as I can.
NO, this man doesn't love you. Love is an action word and it means caring about well being of a person. He asked you to put your life on hold for 14 years!!! You wasted your live waiting for this assclown. You missed your youth, you missed the chance to build a normal life with a man that would devote himself to your happiness.
While he didn't miss anything. He has a wife, kids, family. I have no idea what happened in your life that made you so co-dependent that this kind of life seems like a good option for you.
I have only one advice- therapy, intense, immediately. You still have time to recover, get better, and maybe find a man for a normal healthy relationship.
By the way, if you need to 'convince' him, this is a sign of an extremely unhealthy situation. Why do you value yourself so little? Why you think you are so worthless that you need to convince anybody to be with you? I suspect, you had a very difficult upbringing, but you can't keep living your life like this. You are 40 years old, time to take charge of your own life.
And, obvioulsy, forget about him. Stop all contact immediately. You are a beautiful, worthy person, you have so much to give, you are very valuable just because you exist. You are worthy of a person who will feel lucky to be with you. Please, please, start therapy... Just go and describe what you wrote here- you don't even have to say anything.

I cannot comment on the actions of this man, except to say they are incredibly strange to me... but I will ask and I hope it will not cause offense: Do you have actual evidence that the petition was ever actually filed? Do you have evidence that he actually divorced? And was there anything unusual you can think of or that he said or did during that ''honeymoon trip''?

If you haven't been able to convince him in fourteen years, there's not really anything else you can do at this point.
It sounds like he is the one that needs to do some convincing, but I suspect he already has and coming to terms with that realization is what is causing the trouble between the two of you.
I'm all for an extended courtship, but fourteen years through his divorce and kids growing up ... seems a bit selfish on his part.
Good luck.

However hard it may sound, let go and move on with your life. It seems you've wasted 14 years with this person and there is always the possibility he has been less than honest with you during this time. Take charge of your life, sever communications and be happy with someone who will love you unconditionally.

wow. how can i say this as succinctly but as nicely as possible?

this man is a lying dirtbag. he's been playing with you for 14 years and had no intentions of marrying you. i'm sorry, i really am. you wasted a lot of time with someone who's been toying with you (telling you to wait while he lived his life with his wife and kids in another country for 14 years, wasting your youth and time, going through the motions of a fake marriage scam--including pics, reception and honeymoon).

i would recommend that you leave him alone because he's not worth the trouble and sounds like he would have treated you horribly if he'd been able to get you in a position where he had control over your life: i.e., bringing you to america away from your family and friends, and having to be dependent on him.

may i ask--did he ever give you the NOA1 filing number from when he claimed he filed for you in October 2014? i fear that he may have even lied to you about doing the k-1.

so sorry that you are going through with this, and i know you don't want to hear this--but this abandonment he just did, may have been the best thing as now you are free to find someone else who will love you for real, with honesty and integrity.

please find a way to heal and i wish you all the best for your future.

p.s. -- you said you had to convince him a few times that he loved you? that right there was a HUGE red flag--adults know whether they love someone or not. you can't convince or make anyone else love you. it doesn't work.

p.p.s -- you said that you just want to die. please don't do anything to make that a reality or feel you deserve his bad behavior towards you. he's the horrible person in this situation. it doesn't feel like it right now, but you'll gradually feel better as time passes--i felt just as bad during my divorce--it will take time but eventually you'll be back to your old self. you have received a gift of a second chance to go out and build a new life for yourself.