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Things went badly for us, she wants to leave after being here 1 week

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Mike and Maria   15

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Hi Everyone...

Well, not everyone has a happy ending for their story. After 8 long months of working toward the goal of getting Maria her K1 visa completed and approved, it finally happened!

Then, after she arrived in the USA (Sacramento, California) she became so homesick and overwhelmed, I finally had to give in and I booked her a flight home tomorrow night (June 26th, 2015)

My question is, and even though we are cutting it off between us (I mean what choice do I have? She is returning to the Phils) I want her to be comfortable, and to have a stress free return trip home.

Is there anything else she needs to leave the USA besides her valid Philippine Passport? Obviously we talked about her "Losing" her ability to stay in the USA by leaving before we get married and file the AOS... I just want her to be able to get on the plane in Sacramento, California without any hassles if possible.

I'm heartbroken and completely hurt by all of this but I am a gentleman and I care for her a lot...

Any help would be greatly appreciated as she is scheduled to leave in less than 24 hours...

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Why did you buy her a plane ticket right away? My wife when she first got here was VERY homesick and wanted to go home as well. We talked it out and I asked her to give it a couple months BEFORE she m

Mike and Maria
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I am so thankful for all the support we have received from everyone on Visa Journey! We spent a lot of time discussing everything about her decision, we read everyone's posts, and my Maria did decide

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It took me nearly 2 years to stop being homesick, I stayed for 12, and now I'm homesick for the U.S after been gone for 3. One week isn't enough time to even get adjusted to being in the U.S. Good lu

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That's all she needs. That is so sad... did she say her reason for wanting to go home was because she was homesick? Many people pass through that phase when they get here but once she starts working and making friends things get better. I'm sure you guys already talked about this :( I'm really sorry it didn't work out.

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Mike and Maria   15

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Thank you ch3john!

I am sorry too... it was quite a process to get her the K1 visa, and now... it was all for nothing...

I appreciate your input and now I know she can get safely home :)


Thank you as well kimmygeee

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Why did you buy her a plane ticket right away? My wife when she first got here was VERY homesick and wanted to go home as well. We talked it out and I asked her to give it a couple months BEFORE she makes a decision to go home. I told her she needs to think this all out before she makes a rash decision like that. She has since got over her homesickness and loves it here in California.

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Hi. I am sorry to hear about what happened. I am a Filipina too. Like herself, I will have my K1 Visa too, in the very near future I hope. And soon I will be leaving my comfort zone, dear friends and loving family to be with my future husband. If Maria and I knew each other and have a close relationship, I would have convinced her not to leave. Explain to her that it's what marriage is all about. You leave your father and mother, be with your spouse and you become one. But of course it is not my place to do any of that. I could only wish she would change her mind. I wish the both of you well.

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After she leaves, notify the Manila embassy and USCIS, referring to her A# in your correspondence. Sincerely sorry for you, but things tend to happen for a reason.

06-04-2007 = TSC stamps postal return-receipt for I-129f.

06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

07-20-2007 = Phoned Immigration Officer; got WAC#; where's NOA1?

09-25-2007 = Touch (first-ever).

09-28-2007 = NOA1, 23 days after their 45-day promise to send it (grrrr).

10-20 & 11-14-2007 = Phoned ImmOffs; "still pending."

12-11-2007 = 180 days; file is "between workstations, may be early Jan."; touches 12/11 & 12/12.

12-18-2007 = Call; file is with Division 9 ofcr. (bckgrnd check); e-prompt to shake it; touch.

12-19-2007 = NOA2 by e-mail & web, dated 12-18-07 (187 days; 201 per VJ); in mail 12/24/07.

01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

01-23-2008 = Consulate gets file; outdated Packet 4 mailed to fiancee 1/27/08; rec'd 3/3/08.

04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

05-05-2008 = Infuriating $12 call to non-English-speaking consulate appointment-setter.

05-06-2008 = Better $12 call to English-speaker; "joint" interview date 6/30/08 (my selection).

06-30-2008 = Stokes Interrogations w/Ecuadorian (not USC); "wait 2 weeks; we'll mail her."

07-2008 = Daily calls to DOS: "currently processing"; 8/05 = Phoned consulate, got Section Chief; wrote him.

08-07-08 = E-mail from consulate, promising to issue visa "as soon as we get her passport" (on 8/12, per DHL).

08-27-08 = Phoned consulate (they "couldn't find" our file); visa DHL'd 8/28; in hand 9/1; through POE on 10/9 with NO hassles(!).

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Sorry to hear about that. Try to convince her, if you can, to give it a month or so before giving up. Culture shock is normal when entering a new environment. This is the second recent post about someone not even lasting a week, and both of them from California.. hmmm :huh:

Best of luck to you and your fiancé moving forward.

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I-612 Waiver of J1 Two Year Rule
12/31/2011 - Wife Entered U.S. on J-1 visa, Foreign Residence Requirement Applies
9/28/2013 - Married in the U.S.
7/23/2014 - NOA1 form I-612 for Waiver of the Foreign Residence Requirement (Basis: Extreme Hardship)
8/8/2014 - RFE Received
11/14/2014 - NOA2 I-612 Waiver Denied, Could not establish hardship
12/15/2014 - Sent another I-612 packet to U.S. Dept of state (Basis: No-Objection Statement)
12/15/2014 - Sent in application to Philippines Govt. for No-Objection Statement
1/14/2015 - No Objection Statement granted
4 months of waiting - The Philippines Govt. forgot about us!!!!
5/8/2015 - After multiple calls and emails the No Objection Statement was finally transmitted to DOS
6/4/2015 - I-612 Waiver APPROVED!

IR-1 Visa
6/3/2015 - Sent I-130 to Phoenix Locbox
6/4/2015 - NOA1
108 Days of waiting
9/22/2015 - NOA2
9/24/2015 - Case sent to NVC
10/1/2015 - Case received at NVC
10/14/2015 - Case number assigned
10/15/2015 - AOS Fee Paid online
10/19/2015 - CEAC AOS Fee status changed to "Paid" - AOS and IV packets sent to NVC
10/27/2015 - DS-261 was reviewed over the phone
10/29/2015 - DS-261 confirmed complete (over phone) and IV Bill Received - Paid online immediately "In Process"
10/30/2015 - Scan Date
11/2/2015 - IV Bill marked "Paid" and DS-260 completed

12/4/2015 - Case Complete (need to bring 1 corrected doc to Embassy)

1/6/15 - Medical Exam Complete

1/19/2015 - Interview Date

1/22/2015 - Visa Received (yellow envelope damaged)

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Hi Everyone...

Well, not everyone has a happy ending for their story. After 8 long months of working toward the goal of getting Maria her K1 visa completed and approved, it finally happened!

Then, after she arrived in the USA (Sacramento, California) she became so homesick and overwhelmed, I finally had to give in and I booked her a flight home tomorrow night (June 26th, 2015)

My question is, and even though we are cutting it off between us (I mean what choice do I have? She is returning to the Phils) I want her to be comfortable, and to have a stress free return trip home.

Is there anything else she needs to leave the USA besides her valid Philippine Passport? Obviously we talked about her "Losing" her ability to stay in the USA by leaving before we get married and file the AOS... I just want her to be able to get on the plane in Sacramento, California without any hassles if possible.

I'm heartbroken and completely hurt by all of this but I am a gentleman and I care for her a lot...

Any help would be greatly appreciated as she is scheduled to leave in less than 24 hours...

I don't know how good your relationship is but if you're relationship is good then sending her home because she's been homesick for a week seems like an extremely rash decision. Everyone experience homesickness, it's a big step to leave your home country. Talking to her, taken her out to do fun things to keep her mind of off the homesickness would have been a better strategy.

But yeah, it is your call of course. And she will only need her ticket and passport to go home. Let the embassy in her home country know she won't be using the K1.





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I'm very sorry for you that you believe things aren't working and she believes that leaving is the best way.

But in my honest opinion she is being very rash...

It's been ONE week. ONE!

She's not given you or America a chance.

In her mind she's left everything and everyone she knows and it's really freakin scary.

She probably thinks it won't get better.

But one week is not enough time to find out.

At least use most of the 90 days to find out.

Explore the area, meet your family and friends.

Spend time driving around.

I really think you both need to sit down, this obviously isn't a case of compatibility, she's just homesick..

You both worked so hard for this, she really needs to give it more of a chance than just one week, and you deserve that too.

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It took me nearly 2 years to stop being homesick, I stayed for 12, and now I'm homesick for the U.S after been gone for 3. One week isn't enough time to even get adjusted to being in the U.S. Good luck though!

Married 2001, conditional resident 2003, permanent resident 2005.Left U.S 2012, abandoned green card 2013.Applied I-130 Nov 2014, approved Dec 2014. DS260 13th Apr 2015. Docs sent 27 Apr. Scan date May 1. Case complete June 4!Interview July 14th, rescheduled to Oct 20th.  Applied for N400 on November 6th, 2018. I'm the immigrant :)

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***** Moving from K1 to Effects of Major Changes forum as the most suitable for the thread *****

Bye: Penguin

Me: Irish/ Swiss citizen, and now naturalised US citizen. Husband: USC; twin babies born Feb 08 in Ireland and a daughter in Feb 2010 in Arkansas who are all joint Irish/ USC. Did DCF (IR1) in 6 weeks via the Dublin, Ireland embassy and now living in Arkansas.

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7 days is still jet lagging.

I would not give her a choice, Tell her she needs to spend 2 months here and adjust.

If after that she wants to go home then fetch her back home

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I never feel homesick the moment i arrived here in Ohio i remember we were filing the k1 together till u guys recieve rfe.. i arrived here last april n i sometimes missed my family but every weekend my fiance now my husband make sure to take me out n see places taste food meet his family go shopping look for filipino store n he did everything to make me so i wont miss home n skype n viber with my family makes me feel their just near me... hope she still change her mind

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