LaLaLeesha

No! You don't fall deeply in love with someone and then marry 2 days later! Especially if you are in the middle of an affair that involved a pregnancy and abortion! Even the Kardashian clan would probably acknowledge this! And being that this was an 'arranged' marriage, she was lying from the very beginning! She was a LIAR, is a LIAR, and probably always will be a LIAR! Marriage requires a very deep level of trust. She has violated that in a very fundamental way! Get out now! Don't worry about whether she gets sent back or not. Just take care of yourself and get away from this woman!

WOW someone wakes up in the wrong side of the bed. Chill dude. This is just a forum nothing toooo personal. ALL of us had their own opinion or decision so it’s up to the person if they will follow the advice or not. Just saying!!!

It's not 2012 all over the world, if you catch my drift.

If ICE or any kind of Immigration official showed up at my door, if I was or wasn't home, drunk or sober, or even at the Lord's birthday party, you can bet your booty my @$$ would have been there in a nanosecond.

Jesus. How do you even get through children's parties without alcohol? And since when is not meeting with law enforcement officials proof of wrongdoing?

The 'child' who was celebrating her birthday is 25. Whether or not alcohol was being served is moot.
OP, you keep repeating that your lawyer says you have nothing to prove, that you are in a real relationship and not to worry, that you don't have to prepare much, that your human rights were about to be violated. I don't believe any of what your lawyer is telling you is correct.
Now that you and your husband have refused to co-operate with USCIS, you can prepare yourselves to expect the consequences of those actions.

The IO was probably accompanied by an ICE enforcement officer. They probably wanted you to come home because they wanted to inspect your home for evidence that you were actually living together.
Your husband had every right to respond the way he did. Simultaneously, he probably made your situation much worse. Immigration is not a "right", so he can scream "human rights" all he wants but it simply doesn't apply here. You and your husband asked the US government for a privilege. They asked you to prove you're eligible for that privilege by allowing them to inspect your home. Your husband basically said he wasn't going to cooperate with them, which is certainly his right. They now have enough evidence to deny your adjustment of status.
Your lawyer has been blowing smoke up your skirt. An IO can't read your mind and determine if your relationship is genuine. They need evidence to back up your claim. They apparently found something about your relationship that made them suspicious (your age difference, for example), and they wanted to conduct a home inspection to verify your claims. Your husband exercised his right to refuse. They may try another home inspection visit, but I think it's more likely they'll just deny the AOS. They don't like getting jacked around. Your lawyer wins in either case because now you'll have to pay him to file your appeal and represent you in immigration court.
Your husband drew a line in the sand. Immigration crossed that line. Now he has to be willing to accept the consequences. Nobody's rights are being violated here.

It's hard to understand some of what you are saying.
Either way I fail to see what this has to do with human rights. And it is less ballsy and more like foolish to be stubborn with USCIS. Do what you have to do and suck it up for a few months - you are applying for something that they are under no obligation to give you. It is on you and your husband to fall into line and he needs to understand that.

I apologize for saying "People like you", that wasn't appropriate I admit. I should have said "people who do what you are planning to do" are the reason legal immigration is so difficult. You haven't committed visa fraud yet so I was too quick to put you in that category. Perhaps you are just very confused.

Or trolling....

IMPORTANT!! This is ONLY for I-130, IR/1 and CR/1 cases. This does NOT apply to I-129F (K1 or K3) people.
That's what it's written at the top... lol I'm an I-129F, sorry

I was gonna say it but I didn't want to be a jerk! lol!

If there was a dental exam, we British would be screwed.

thxxxx that makes me feel a lot better! now on to the paper work! lol

If she wanted and appreciated you then you would never have to chase her... She would be available to you always. Give up and go home. Take all your papers with you.

It doesn't seem that he disclosed confidential information. Anyway, did she even introduce herself? I mean, if I got a call from someone who simply asks "do you speak English?", I would answer "Speak THIS!" and hang up. Just me.

Was calling to see if you kids want to go out for pizza and beer tonight? My Pashto is a little rough so switched to English.

Your fiance is seeing how easy you are to manipulate. This won't be the only example.
You are in what researchers call the "evaluation phase" of this manipulator, where they try different tactics on you to see what works. If they see that they can bait you and then withold the information to keep themselves in power over you then it will be played again and a gain in a thousand different configurations.
Nobody knows better than the manipulator that what they are doing is mean and stressful. But they put on this act, pretending their motivations are good. The purpose of doing this is to see if they can get away with saying the opposite of what they are doing. Naiive, gullible, and super-conscientious people will listen to their smiling lies instead of watching their nasty actions.
The literature says this: first, pay attention to your gut instincts: your gut says something is wrong, which is why you posted. You're darn tootin' something is wrong: you're being manipulated. Look very carefully for where else your gut was saying "red flag". Did you let them explain them away?
Second, it says to cut manipulative people out of your life instead of suffering the insufferable. Manipulative people make for horrific marriages.
Third, if you have to live with one because it is family or a work co-hort or whatever, they say to give them choices - and these choices have to be enforceable. I don't know the specifics in your case but if this was someone new to me I would say to them that they either tell me or else this is the end of our acquaintance: I don't put up with manipulative #######. If this is some kind of outlier (which I doubt), then a similar choice is to tell them that this is the end of any conversations with them until they tell the truth. You cannot let people pull this on you or there's no end to it.
If they are cruel and unreasonable they will say they are sorry they brought it up and blame you for pressing them: then you know you have a real nasty one on your hands. A nice person is going to apologize immediatly because they have empathy for you, and tell you. The cruel person starts with a mean trick like this and then ends up blaming you for it. That isn't love. It's a war. That is how a manipulator views relationships: A war for power and control, but played in dirty underhanded tactics instead of being honest and open about it. Because underneath this mask is coward who works by deception instead of open and above-board.
There will be people saying I am reading too much into this, but they aren't the ones who have to live with a person that does this to you. If you like how you feel now, then just multiply by a thousand to understand what a life with them is going to be like if they are pulling this kind of ####### on you.

They? How many fiance's does she have?

I always say, if you want to surprise me (either in a good or bad way) don't ever tell me you have a surprise/something to tell me. I just lose it till I know what it is, that means I get to know it in within a day or two max! So either shut up and keep it to yourself until the time is right or you need to tell me immediately!!

I would immediately stop typing in all caps.

possibly the OP is hard of hearing? eh?

I think you need to breath and wait. Don't just jump to conclusions as you don't know where he is! Be smooth...ask questions and get him to mail back your stuff first before you just cut him off!