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hv u considered whether he is or those illegal immigrants are using other pple ssn to attain these things? and then wen its time to do things legally, like gettin their own ssn, they cant

i don't think they will send an official transcript to the individual directly. and places like WES wants the official transcript. dealing with Nigerian schools will be stressful.. with numerous visits needed and yes, probably the "extra" money. i had my fiancee go get hers as part of her preparation in leaving Nigeria.. and God bless her for the headache she had to deal with to get something that should be hers.. and then we had the official transcript sent somewhere (lets just say undercover)..lol.. its tough chasing something in Nigeria when you are not there.. gdluck though

screw dat.. i think most of these replies are from beneficiaries.. i mean i understand homesick, but dang, it shouldnt be a reason or excuse.. im a guy and a petitioner.. shld a petitioner be future sick? cuz i knw hw much of one's future gets put on hold while goin thru visa process.. as a matter of fact a beneficiary continues their life in their country until they get visa meanwhile a petitioners future is on hold right from NOA1.. and flirting wit a girl is not a sign of missin home.. unless dats wat he was doin then... yah, dnt hld da GC over his head.. but dnt settle for hmesick each time.. both couples nd to knw sacrifices comes from both sides.. otherwise, why da heck do couples tell each other "i will be with u no matter where and how".. luk for signs..okay, marriages are difficult but distrust is sign of danger.

I get irritated when all people say is God.. prayer without work is nothing.. ok.. you need to do the work and then pray for the labor you do be blessed and favored... do you think people that go approve did not pray? but i tell you they make all the paper work and sacrifices needed. do you think people that got denied because they have suspect/false documents do not pray? This journey is not easy, so why leave your self open to setback.. so if the CO says we deny you cuz you did not make another trip.. you will then go home and wish you had made that trip or be willing to trade that trip for anything at that point? i understand times are hard and money is not easy, but if things are very tough now and you can't make trip, how can you show support on the I-134 then. so why not make that trip now and pray God sees you effort and makes it all worthwhile at the end... is it an evil spirit that resides in all COs?

this is the kinda of post that the VJ moderator people need to be reviewing or even deleting.. yes, no one wants to judge or offend if its real, but if it smells bad, it is bad.. why would you have people responding/aideing post thats so suspicious as this? instead the moderators are going around deleting and removing other comments... riduclous..
let me guess, maybe when the OP's "cousin" said passed away, they really don't mean died, right... just that the person moved along and she ran into someone else... OP, when did ur cousin meet the new guy? was it at the wake-keeping or the funeral or when she was place flowers by the grave? real relationships are getting stuck at embassies...

this is the kinda of post that the VJ moderator people need to be reviewing or even deleting.. yes, no one wants to judge or offend if its real, but if it smells bad, it is bad.. why would you have people responding/aideing post thats so suspicious as this? instead the moderators are going around deleting and removing other comments... riduclous..
let me guess, maybe when the OP's "cousin" said passed away, they really don't mean died, right... just that the person moved along and she ran into someone else... OP, when did ur cousin meet the new guy? was it at the wake-keeping or the funeral or when she was place flowers by the grave? real relationships are getting stuck at embassies...

this is the kinda of post that the VJ moderator people need to be reviewing or even deleting.. yes, no one wants to judge or offend if its real, but if it smells bad, it is bad.. why would you have people responding/aideing post thats so suspicious as this? instead the moderators are going around deleting and removing other comments... riduclous..
let me guess, maybe when the OP's "cousin" said passed away, they really don't mean died, right... just that the person moved along and she ran into someone else... OP, when did ur cousin meet the new guy? was it at the wake-keeping or the funeral or when she was place flowers by the grave? real relationships are getting stuck at embassies...

this is the kinda of post that the VJ moderator people need to be reviewing or even deleting.. yes, no one wants to judge or offend if its real, but if it smells bad, it is bad.. why would you have people responding/aideing post thats so suspicious as this? instead the moderators are going around deleting and removing other comments... riduclous..
let me guess, maybe when the OP's "cousin" said passed away, they really don't mean died, right... just that the person moved along and she ran into someone else... OP, when did ur cousin meet the new guy? was it at the wake-keeping or the funeral or when she was place flowers by the grave? real relationships are getting stuck at embassies...

YAY, still excited got approved today. But before I go into brief VJ hiatus (i don't need to have the record for most posting, u knw who u are.. lol) I feel the need to share some insights on this journey especially for couples just starting and mostly for those going thru difficult Lagos consulate. This is also a view from what I have noticed from various VJ journey especially through Lagos. I know somethings are repetition and some can be sensitive, but I mean no negative thought...
- really consider front loading on your initial application. You don't have to submit 200 pages of paper to USCIS to start, but begin building your interview process by letting them understand your story right away. For example, you don't have to put 20 pictures, but you can put 10 pictures of both of you, and few with family/friends. Same applies for emails, phone-records and others
- do your own research, and not just what VJ has or says. We actually stumbled on VJ a day before we sent the petition. Go to the USCIS website when in doubt and follow the steps. For example, we knew we didn't need letter from bank but because we knew lagos is unpredictable, we still gave them all and closed the loop-holes an unhappy CO might want to pick on
- be each others eyes and critic. read and then proof-read each others task when putting documents together. we can count experiences where people got denied because of such errors
- start preparing for the interview process ahead, if possible. do away with last minute preparation/organization
- here's sensitive: for couples with different culture/race, age/religious difference, if possible, just consider a CR-1 application right from the start. From what I observed (and i'm sure its not just me), Lagos is not trusting interracial relationship going through a K-1 visa and especially if the male is the Nigerian. It stinks because when you get denied, you then switch to CR-1 and wait another 6-7 months and still not guaranteed. If its possible, spend more time together to build a CR-1 visa and then file.
- please tackle your Red flags head-on. If you can question yourselves about something so small, then find answers to it. And USC, we need to take charge and ask your partner to reveal everything in their past to you. Couples should be on same page and need to understand that they can't hide any past interaction with U.S embassies/consulates.
- prepare for the worst CO and then pray you get an easy one. prayer without work is nothing, so don't just wish something will be missed by the CO's.
I'm not suggesting all above guarantees a visa, because Lagos is unbearable, but at least you made it hard for the CO to find unsupported cause to deny you. I also hope I haven't given fraudsters any hints because they are the reason real relationships get denied at Lagos.
This initial stage of the journey is a tiring project and even feels longer when you apply distance to it, my heart always sadden for couples when i read a denial, but then my head shakes when its due to something that could have been prepared for.
The journey continues.... Are we there yet?!!!

so sry to read it ends like this for u.. makes all this journey scary.. especially witout prayer.. i suggest u change ur locks on ur door too.. if ur kids gets picked up at school, let them knw only u shld be allowed to pick dem up or see them.. change ur pswrds.. be heads up dat he will try to come back once he realizes he needs da green card.. dnt buy his begging acts.. if he does cme back, secretly, calmly go to a room and call cops to come remove him.. dat way u hve a police rpt.. i think pickin ur mails at post office for a second while is gd idea.. dwnload a text program dat allows u to store/dwnload texts.. be alert, adjust ur routes and daily time if possible.. pray for strength

so sry to read it ends like this for u.. makes all this journey scary.. especially witout prayer.. i suggest u change ur locks on ur door too.. if ur kids gets picked up at school, let them knw only u shld be allowed to pick dem up or see them.. change ur pswrds.. be heads up dat he will try to come back once he realizes he needs da green card.. dnt buy his begging acts.. if he does cme back, secretly, calmly go to a room and call cops to come remove him.. dat way u hve a police rpt.. i think pickin ur mails at post office for a second while is gd idea.. dwnload a text program dat allows u to store/dwnload texts.. be alert, adjust ur routes and daily time if possible.. pray for strength

i second the above respond. Don't just listen to VJers or lawyers, read and do ur research. the preparation and your hubby's answers at interview is key. fyi: complete ur timeline as you go so pple can help. All da best.

well.. do you have pictures to show you two have seen each other within the last 2 years? Real pictures, not photoshop kinda of thing? Do you also have passport stamps that one or both of you made a trip to see each other? If so, then you have a good chance to pass thru USCIS (might cuz urself extra review). Now, the consulate/embassy stage is where you could struggle. But since that takes 5-6mnths to get to, you can start doing those things you don't have like emails (dont make it obvious), sign up for a phone system/card that will give you call records when needed.

well.. do you have pictures to show you two have seen each other within the last 2 years? Real pictures, not photoshop kinda of thing? Do you also have passport stamps that one or both of you made a trip to see each other? If so, then you have a good chance to pass thru USCIS (might cuz urself extra review). Now, the consulate/embassy stage is where you could struggle. But since that takes 5-6mnths to get to, you can start doing those things you don't have like emails (dont make it obvious), sign up for a phone system/card that will give you call records when needed.

well.. do you have pictures to show you two have seen each other within the last 2 years? Real pictures, not photoshop kinda of thing? Do you also have passport stamps that one or both of you made a trip to see each other? If so, then you have a good chance to pass thru USCIS (might cuz urself extra review). Now, the consulate/embassy stage is where you could struggle. But since that takes 5-6mnths to get to, you can start doing those things you don't have like emails (dont make it obvious), sign up for a phone system/card that will give you call records when needed.

first suggestion is to get it straight... the words wife and husband can't be found next to the word K1
- the lady just knew about the filing now? what magic did he pull off on the 325, letter or ppixs?

yah, stinks n sry to hear.. but did you know about a place like VJ or friends to express concerns (red flags) before you filed either petition? It's tough to change stories with those guys cuz they keep records forever! I'm a little surprised USCIS passed ur petition twice without much delay though. So on your first petition in 2010, you had not seen him yet, so how did you prove you had met to USCIS? No pictures? since u said you only actually first met in February 2011. I'm not trying to re-visit your past, but just so you understand how USCIS could look at it now when they start reviewing for revocation. Even the spouse route will be tough. Rethink ur next steps well, embassy's are no joke.

yah, u got red flags written over ur post.. even starting with the words Nigeria and student.. but if you can hang in, prove it, then u can beat it...
btw, just curious, but u are ready to marry smeone u met 3mnths ago and to be a father of two? Also curious, more often than not, its usually the USC that comes on and ignites the process on vj and USCIS.

yah, u got red flags written over ur post.. even starting with the words Nigeria and student.. but if you can hang in, prove it, then u can beat it...
btw, just curious, but u are ready to marry smeone u met 3mnths ago and to be a father of two? Also curious, more often than not, its usually the USC that comes on and ignites the process on vj and USCIS.