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    trojam227 got a reaction from jessicaruizw in Medical Exam   
    He has convictions from the 1980's and early 90's. No drug charges ever, 1 dui from 20 years ago, and the rest were assault & a GBH sec 20. All fist fights. He never served jail time and received either a small fine or community service. The UK makes you bring the police certificate to the medical appointment.
    She did drill him about all the convictions and also asked him 3 times if he ever did drugs. He said "listen, I never did drugs, drugs were not my thing, and I don't plan on starting now at 48 years old. I hung around with a bunch of lads at the pub when I was younger and punch ups were a weekly occurence." He hasn't been in trouble in a very, very long time but they still want him to repent and rake him through the coals. Now he must have a mental problem associated with harmful behavior that happened while Regan was president!!
    I am losing faith in this country by the minute! Do they realize what kind of people are already here illegally??? Try and do things the legal way and all you get is scrutiny..I am so angry at this system I could spit bullets.
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    trojam227 got a reaction from nate and riyn in My K1 status wife will leave; questions on CR1 or K3 return   
    You would apply for IR1/CR1...the K3 is taking just as long if not longer and is considered obsolete. Can you guys get some marriage therapy before she decides to leave?
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    trojam227 got a reaction from Vicky and Larry in Transition Issues   
    Thanks Rebecca Jo, good tips! I agree that we aren't a good enough reason for anybody's life to come to a standstill. Our lives have been at a standstill for years! It'll be a relief to breath fresh air again and actually work together to build something "real". Limbo, stagnant, whatever you want to call it, is not a comfortable place to be.
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    trojam227 got a reaction from grrrrreat in help..what to do with our situation?   
    I am sorry to say this without sounding abrupt, but your husband's priorities are with you and his daughter! I am sorry his mother is ill but he will have to find someone else to take care of her and start worrying about how he is going to reunite with his own family, whether that is in the Philippines or in the US. Where is his head??
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    trojam227 got a reaction from Ryan H in proof of bonafide relationship   
    Boarding passes are proof that you boarded the plane, and returned home. They certainly are very good proof of genuine relationship. A few pictures to go along with the boarding passes are even better!
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    trojam227 got a reaction from arren in help..what to do with our situation?   
    I am sorry to say this without sounding abrupt, but your husband's priorities are with you and his daughter! I am sorry his mother is ill but he will have to find someone else to take care of her and start worrying about how he is going to reunite with his own family, whether that is in the Philippines or in the US. Where is his head??
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    trojam227 got a reaction from Miss M in help..what to do with our situation?   
    I am sorry to say this without sounding abrupt, but your husband's priorities are with you and his daughter! I am sorry his mother is ill but he will have to find someone else to take care of her and start worrying about how he is going to reunite with his own family, whether that is in the Philippines or in the US. Where is his head??
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    trojam227 got a reaction from Americangirl10 in help..what to do with our situation?   
    I am sorry to say this without sounding abrupt, but your husband's priorities are with you and his daughter! I am sorry his mother is ill but he will have to find someone else to take care of her and start worrying about how he is going to reunite with his own family, whether that is in the Philippines or in the US. Where is his head??
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    trojam227 reacted to maiortum in Petitioner/Sponsor (USC) has adequate income still CO wants Joint Sponsor   
    Rebecca Jo
    Thank you for your candid assessment. In the nation of India, there are currently approximately ONE BILLION 200 MILLION persons living. Christians are a very very small minority about 2 percent. The group becomes smaller if you allow for denomination differences such as Catholics, Protestants, Syrian Orthodox and so on. Protestants are admittedly a very tiny tiny minority. Break it down further by age groups and now you can almost get them in a small town. Now eliminate those females who are not 43 to 55 and single. Further shrink the group to those who have no interest in migrating to the USA. If you are a careful person and not inclined to just plunge headlong in to matrimony with just anybody then you must know the family of the girl for a decent time period so you can verify that representations are truthful. Basically it gets down to slim pickings.
    Now introduce that elusive elixir of life called true love and we are down to my wife and I. My father knew her father for 25 plus years. My dad never mentioned that there is a girl I should consider marrying because she and I have a 14 year age gap. Eventually, when I returned on the injured list and potential brides of the Indian variety viewed me as a langra (disabled) - I told my ma this is not for me and I will not be humiliated.
    My dad passed away suddenly and I was left caring for my ma for 20 years or so. She died in 1998. I then thought about settling down but wondered who would even throw me a second glance given my health issues. Then in 2003, I had a chance to meet my wife in Mumbai. She was a school teacher and I was teaching insurance law. We hit it off but as soon as I got back to USA, I chatted with her and told her that the likelihood we could be a couple in the future is not good. I had fully disclosed to her my injuries and health challenges. She too shared some health issues of her own. We are both devout Christians and we agreed to sit on the topic and pray about it earnestly. Over the next 3.5 years we grew fond of each other not to mention we were aging also. Finally one day we said if it is God's will we will get married and I proposed to her. She accepted but there no sirens blaring - it was a nice loving moment. It felt good. I was not seeking a "caregiver" and she had no interest in leaving her aging mother and father. They live a simple but good life and their lives centers around church and family activities. We decided to get married in Dec 2007. I am an only child so I was going to be the solo attendee at my own wedding. She luckily had her sister and husband and two kids visiting from Germany where he is employed as an engineer. It was a modest church wedding in her church with a few friends and relatives. I was still teaching and I had to go back to states. In January 2008, literally days after our marriage her 75 year old dad slipped in the bathroom and first week in February 2008 he was laid to rest. Her only brother works in Oman and has a good job. Her other sister had to return to Germany. Now her aged ma is left bereaved. I told her to stay put and take care of ma. In this world you only get one ma. That's another commonality we share. I took care of my ma for 20 years so I know what it is like to sacrifice for your ma. In the period Dec 2007 thru June 2011. I visited my lovely wife 5 times and spent half my time with her in Mumbai at her mother's house. Her ma is a wonderful lady. When we married in Dec 2007. I did not need a caregiver or attendant.
    No the bonafides are uncontroverted and I will gladly take it to a jury of our peers any time any place and I will prevail. TRUTH IS GOOD AND TRUTH IS UNASSAILABLE. In Sept 2008, I had a serious health set back and was declared disabled by the VA doctors and my VA doctors said I should have my wife with me as I now need to be monitored - must take my meds and eat properly. My Veteran community has stood by me and I have survived. In Sept 2011, I started her paperwork as her sister had returned from Germany and her ma would have someone to take care of. She lives within walking distance. The visa process finally culminated in May 17, 2012 interview at the Mumbai Consulate. Without any notice seeking whatever bonafides they are looking for they started dancing all over her head accusing her mercilessly and in vehement abusive terms. Hey you want to accuse her or me of something then lets meet in a Federal Court in front of a Federal Judge. I will win. (They have been furnished 3 affidavits, all travel details, and VA paperwork. So this attempt to harass us is just abuse.)
    There is no fraud here. Just two people who journeyed in two time capsules due to circumstances but the love is enduring and has stood the test of time and will so in the future. We are both of solid character. Our needs are few and God watches over us every hour.
    I have no ill will towards government functionaries but do not assail my integrity and that of my wife. That is non negotiable. Peace to all and to you Rebecca a good day. Thanks for your support. My wife joins me to wish you all that is good in this life.
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    trojam227 got a reaction from beejay in Police certificate   
    As beejay said, you won't be able to get a police cert. from Mexico, BUT if if you have ever been arrested in Mexico since you've lived there, you will need police reports & court records. You will need a police certificate from whichever countries you've lived in (for 6mos. or more) since age 16 (if available). You don't need one from the USA.
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    trojam227 got a reaction from Army wife in May 2012 Interviews   
    Because he's procrastinating. Making every excuse why he is not ready. "i don't know if i can get my medical done that quick" "i just started this new job, its short notice to be taking days off so soon" a few others I'd rather not post, but I am so angry with him that I have decided that its all him now. He has to be a big boy and hold up his end of the bargain...like i said, he's known all along how things would go. It's his turn to show me how much he wants this.
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    trojam227 got a reaction from smiles247 in Front loading CR1 petition   
    Just send a snapshot of your relationship starting from when you first started talking until now. Photos together are important but from different periods if possible. Chat & phone bills could be 1-2 pages for each month spent together, boarding passes and of course the affidavits but 15 is a lot, maybe just a few from people who spent the most time with you both together. The last thing you need is for them to look at your petition and roll their eyes, put it aside and work on an easier one. Keep the evidence to key pieces would be my reccommendation. Maybe someone who had a similar situation could give more input. Good luck this time around!
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    trojam227 got a reaction from Saylin in IV Packet to be sent to NVC - Civil Documents??   
    f,g,h,i,and j are all civil documents. Send the original and 1 photocopy of each.
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    trojam227 got a reaction from elmcitymaven in Baked Beans!   
    Thanks Honey! I will try it on the kids this weekend, not that little yanks are good judges of yorkshire puddings but all I got at the mo.
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    trojam227 got a reaction from BethandBilly in Irritated with American attitudes when ending a marriage   
    I would have to say it's probably more "spite for the ex". No person with any brain cell is going to go through this process unless they really, really care about someone. Unless the usc is getting paid and doing it illegally and I would doubt they give a squat enough to put a post up about it. If my husband did that to me, I'd be saying a heck of a lot more than "can i send him back?" lol Broken hearts say crazy things sometimes..us americans aren't so bad.
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    trojam227 got a reaction from SunDancer in Irritated with American attitudes when ending a marriage   
    I would have to say it's probably more "spite for the ex". No person with any brain cell is going to go through this process unless they really, really care about someone. Unless the usc is getting paid and doing it illegally and I would doubt they give a squat enough to put a post up about it. If my husband did that to me, I'd be saying a heck of a lot more than "can i send him back?" lol Broken hearts say crazy things sometimes..us americans aren't so bad.
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    trojam227 got a reaction from Ryan H in May 2012 Interviews   
    Because he's procrastinating. Making every excuse why he is not ready. "i don't know if i can get my medical done that quick" "i just started this new job, its short notice to be taking days off so soon" a few others I'd rather not post, but I am so angry with him that I have decided that its all him now. He has to be a big boy and hold up his end of the bargain...like i said, he's known all along how things would go. It's his turn to show me how much he wants this.
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    trojam227 got a reaction from Ryan H in Waiting   
    No Cathi, the Original Documents & Photocopies of each that you will send to NVC are for Your Husband, not you! lol...only your stuff was sent to USCIS apart from a photocopy of the marriage certificate. Now you will be sending the Original! Plus a lot of other things...read the NVC Stickys here..
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    trojam227 got a reaction from Marilyn. in Uggggh!   
    Actually I stopped watching Oprah in highschool...I got sick of her talking about her imaginary "boyfriend" and not coming out of the closet. Joy Beyhar had a descent talk radio show years back...she's a tough cookie to crumble, but I don't do daytime TV. Not all girls are into that crud..
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