trusting your fiance

[dora_david 0]

Hi all. How is everybody doing? Happy Easter to all!

I wanted to ask u guys how do u handle the jelousy? Beeing appart for so long is hard and how u handle this? I trust my fiance but im still scared. I know he is mature and i dont aspect from him to cheat of stuff like this but im so scared! i deramed alots of time he is cheating on me...just because im scared.. we also fight sometimes over jelousy..like stupid little things..i have when he's going out even if i go out also..is kinda stupid..but..u never know..i know is nothing to worry about..we will spend out life together but still...distance and time...u are not the same?

[JODO 2]

I trust my fiance wholeheartedly. One just has to have faith in his or her partner and the strength of their love and commitment over the distance.

[mRx 16]

Hi all. How is everybody doing? Happy Easter to all!

I wanted to ask u guys how do u handle the jelousy? Beeing appart for so long is hard and how u handle this? I trust my fiance but im still scared. I know he is mature and i dont aspect from him to cheat of stuff like this but im so scared! i deramed alots of time he is cheating on me...just because im scared.. we also fight sometimes over jelousy..like stupid little things..i have when he's going out even if i go out also..is kinda stupid..but..u never know..i know is nothing to worry about..we will spend out life together but still...distance and time...u are not the same?

Trust...... Stop thinking about what could happen. Personally i think long distances forge relationships. Makes them stronger. It proves your relationship is not fueled only by physical presence. So you just have to overcome the petty jealousy. As for the dreams.... i think your just being crazy.

[Lizzy 0]

I trust my fiance and even when we where apart.. i never had any feelings of jelousy when he went out with his mates... gotta have his own life.

Get this is line.. this kind of emotion can tear couples apart.

[kirk and Jenny 0]

Real tough for me. My fiancee was real jealous. I had no thoughts of someone else. The only time i desired a females company (non-sexual) was when she was ragging on me. It made me feel so low. I just wanted to be around a woman who trusted me for what I am not as some kind of ###### around. My feeling on her is that I trusted her. If she turned into the cheating around type, I would know and good riddance. Either someone will or won't and the worry is not going to make a difference. You cannnot force someone to be faithful.

I trust my fiance and even when we where apart.. i never had any feelings of jelousy when he went out with his mates... gotta have his own life.

Get this is line.. this kind of emotion can tear couples apart.

[Ladylethal 12]

I am super jealous and also had some days I asked myself if he could cheat on me, with all the distance, I would never know, but then I knew, I knew he wouldn't be in this relationship if he didn't really want to, working a part time job while going to the university just to fly every vacation to see me. He worked and studied a lot and still made time for me, etc.

A little jealousy is healthy, but don't let it ruin your relationship.

You dream about it 'cus you're worried about it. The best thing you can do, is talk to him about it, let him know you're insecure, but don't get all over him.

[TracyTN 237]

If we didn't trust each other inherently, we would have never made it this far.

I never worry about him when he goes out with his friends and vice versa.

[sereia 0]

i'm not jealous at all..which is rare for me. something about my fiance i trust 100% he would never seek out another woman. i've never fully trusted a man like this before.

but my fiance on the other hand doesn't like it that i have male friends. when i tell him i'm going out with so-and-so he gets jealous but we don't fight. he just voices that he feels jealous and i tell him not to worry. i foresee this being a problem after we are married. i've had some of these male friends for over 10 years and have never had a sexual relationship with them. i'm not about to give them up now. we'll have to come up with some kind of compromise....................sigh.

[KarenCee 3]

Jealousy was one thing that has never entered our relationship...from a distance to being together all the time. IMHO maturity in the relationship plays a huge part here. I'm not saying you're not mature, but...jealousy - when there's absolutely NO reason for it - is in some ways an immature thing. Neither of us ever thought along these lines. We inherently trusted each other...we HAD to otherwise the relationship would not have worked. Has he given you reason to feel jealous? Has he done anything to cause you to feel this way? If you feel like this now, most likely it will carry over to your married life as well. Again JMHO.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Hi all. How is everybody doing? Happy Easter to all!

I wanted to ask u guys how do u handle the jelousy? Beeing appart for so long is hard and how u handle this? I trust my fiance but im still scared. I know he is mature and i dont aspect from him to cheat of stuff like this but im so scared! i deramed alots of time he is cheating on me...just because im scared.. we also fight sometimes over jelousy..like stupid little things..i have when he's going out even if i go out also..is kinda stupid..but..u never know..i know is nothing to worry about..we will spend out life together but still...distance and time...u are not the same?

It sounds like you're dealing more with your insecurities than with jealousy (unless you are reacting to his actual social interactions with other women). The long distance does make it difficult not to feel uncertain and insecure about how your SO feels about the relationship because you can't talk to them face to face. It really takes a lot of faith in the other person and doing your best not to entertain your insecurites when they creep up. Remind yourself in those times of uncertainty all the wonderful ways he shows you that he loves you and how important you are to him.

[bostonparis 0]

I agree with KarenCee, a level of trust comes from maturity and experience. I'm 10 years older than my fiance, and I don't give it a second thought when he goes out. He's a bartender in Paris and sees beautiful women every night, and they come on to him all the time, but because he sees it all the time, he doesn't give it a second thought either. Yes, I trust him implicitly, but I also know that 10 years ago, I probably wouldn't have been so secure in my relationship, even if I was with the Pope! (I would have been thinking, why are all these people kissing his ring? What did he DOOOOO??)

[MPGGPM 0]

I've been apart from my wife(not fiancee anymore ) for over two years now. You REALLY have to have trust, when you both are thousands of miles away ......for so long.

She can get a "little" on the jealous side (but hey, she's a Scorpio, what do you expect, right? ....they wrote the book on jealousy )..........but she knows darn well how much I love and care about her.

We've gone through quite a bit together , and as others have said...............the whole immigration ordeal etc.......can either make you stronger......or it can break you. In our case, we've learned a lot about each other through these two years, ........SO many ups and downs..............

But we've just about made it through, and these past 2 years, have shown us both, how much we care about each other.......to stand by each other through thick and thin.....for such a long time apart.

If your relationship is a strong one.............................then you and your fiance.................will be the same.

[ajames79 0]

honestly jealousy and trust issues have never come up between us at all. Even being in totally different countries we've just never worried about it.

I think when one of us has a super spectacular evening or weekend...we get a little twinge of "Awwwwhhhh *boo hoo* I wish I was there with you"

[KarenCee 3]

honestly jealousy and trust issues have never come up between us at all. Even being in totally different countries we've just never worried about it.

I think when one of us has a super spectacular evening or weekend...we get a little twinge of "Awwwwhhhh *boo hoo* I wish I was there with you"

Just looked at your timeline! WOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!! Glad to know he's coming home soon!

[ajames79 0]

honestly jealousy and trust issues have never come up between us at all. Even being in totally different countries we've just never worried about it.

I think when one of us has a super spectacular evening or weekend...we get a little twinge of "Awwwwhhhh *boo hoo* I wish I was there with you"

Just looked at your timeline! WOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!! Glad to know he's coming home soon!

*grin* Hey thanks!! I am thrilled!

Everything good on your end???