Period of Adjustment

[Rob and Melinda 0]

I am sure that Melinda and I are not the only ones going through a "Period of Adjustment" as she has finally made it here to our home in America.

I think it would be helpful for those of us who finally have our spouses here with us, to share the difficulties in adjusting to the new marriage, the language dificulties, understanding each other, how you work through problems and what the benefits are of sticking together and working through all the problems couples go through when they are first re-united in the US.

Melinda and I have already been through many, many times of missunderstanding, dissagreements, anger, pride, being humbled, saying "I'm sorry", admitting fault, compromising, and then always continuing to love each other.

How about you? What are your stories, and how do you work things out? Hopefully all of us are not giving up just because at times it is hard.

We can tell you that working through all those problems and always coming back together and continuing to love each other, is such a blessing and so fulfilling. It is what make the marriage so satisfying and what makes life so wonderful.

Rob and Melinda

[Tim and Bethanie 1]

I think we touched on this before in another thread which turned ugly, cuz you shouldn't have problems!

The adjustment phase lasted about two months for us, we both had to learn to live with someone again, cultural differences, children adjusting to a new parent in the home etc. We did the misunderstanding and crying bit, then finally figured out how to live with each other. Life is normal, all we are missing now is the white picket fence!

Just be patient and open minded and you will get through it.

Bethanie

[Mags 112]

Well, we didn't really have any problems at all...certainly nothing that sticks in my mind or is worth mentioning. I found the process very easy, as did my husband.

[Fuzzness 2]

no major adjustment here, other than you are looked down on if you badmouth the govt, which happens in every other country

[Ban Hammer 12,835]

no major adjustment here, other than you are looked down on if you badmouth the govt, which happens in every other country

it's just not a national sport here like it is in europe.