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[JoeMama 0]

One thing we don't know is how much time had passed before she lost contact with her former boyfriend and the time she contacted him about receiving an appointment for her interview. It's obvious if her and her former were no longer in contact, I would have thought the same as her. That it was simply over. Unless, she lived in the jungle, it cannot be impossible to keep in contact with someone you love. So, she found someone new. That doesn't say she's trying to commit fraud or asking help to commit the crime. Maybe she's found love with her new boyfriend and doesn't want to screw things up in the future visa process if she decides to marry this new guy who happens to be a USC.

Edited March 7, 2007 by altimixdj

[Nanusia & Lukaszek 0]

Did you all read her post?

"I dont want to be with him and as much as i want to go to the US "

Its only after people tell her that she should file a waiver & that she thinks its a better idea to wait for Michigan boyfriend.... otherwise she was excited as heck to get the cash for a flight & to be in the US. That is fraud. You are only allowed to come here if you are going to get married in 90 days! She does not deserve an apology, if I was the immigration officer, I think it was a scam.

[DA BOMB 1]

My apologies to Betty..I didnt see her second post.

[DA BOMB 1]

Did you all read her post?

"I dont want to be with him and as much as i want to go to the US "

Its only after people tell her that she should file a waiver & that she thinks its a better idea to wait for Michigan boyfriend.... otherwise she was excited as heck to get the cash for a flight & to be in the US. That is fraud. You are only allowed to come here if you are going to get married in 90 days! She does not deserve an apology, if I was the immigration officer, I think it was a scam.

Chill out Nanusia...Read her second post. If you just read the first it looks like she's considering running off the the US riding on Perry's petition. If you read the second you'll see that she only wanted to know what to do about the interview and medical from packet three as she DOESNT want to screw up future plans with her new guy in Michigan. Easily misconstrued but no reason to offend the poor gal. GAWD SOMETIMES PEOPLE GET TOO WOUND UP!

[JoeMama 0]

Did you all read her post?

"I dont want to be with him and as much as i want to go to the US "

Its only after people tell her that she should file a waiver & that she thinks its a better idea to wait for Michigan boyfriend.... otherwise she was excited as heck to get the cash for a flight & to be in the US. That is fraud. You are only allowed to come here if you are going to get married in 90 days! She does not deserve an apology, if I was the immigration officer, I think it was a scam.

Chill out Nanusia...Read her second post. If you just read the first it looks like she's considering running off the the US riding on Perry's petition. If you read the second you'll see that she only wanted to know what to do about the interview and medical from packet three as she DOESNT want to screw up future plans with her new guy in Michigan. Easily misconstrued but no reason to offend the poor gal. GAWD SOMETIMES PEOPLE GET TOO WOUND UP!

My sentiments exactly!

[bostonparis 0]

Wow - some of you are sure quick to jump on the "FRAUD!! FRAUD!!" wagon. She's CLEARLY not asking that. To those of you that are reading her questions clearly, I think you are responding correctly to her. (I have no value to add, but had to say something about the fraud claim, because I clearly see it differently.) Clearly (clearly that's my word of the day!).

[Yodrak 7]

Betty,

You can do nothing, and the consulate will sooner or later close the file on you, or you can write to the consulate telling them that the engagement is off and you will not be applying for the visa.

Yodrak

..... I dont want to be with him and as much as i want to go to the US i dont want to be it like that. So help me pls... what do i do next?

Need help,

Confused Betty

[JoeMama 0]

Wow - some of you are sure quick to jump on the "FRAUD!! FRAUD!!" wagon. She's CLEARLY not asking that. To those of you that are reading her questions clearly, I think you are responding correctly to her. (I have no value to add, but had to say something about the fraud claim, because I clearly see it differently.) Clearly (clearly that's my word of the day!).

I agree with ya on this one! I never could understand why someone would be so quick to make accusations like that toward someone. I saw her first post and her second. She's not asking for assistance in committing visa fraud. She's only inquiring how to vacate the petition of the former boyfriend who filed the petition in the first place. She's no longer with him. They lost contact with each other. Giving her the impression the relationship was over and she moved. In the meantime, she found someone else who's interested in her. She had to contact the former boyfriend to tell him she received an appointment for an interview at the embassy. He never cancelled the K-1. When she did contact him, it is the former boyfriend who offered her to come here and would send her the money to get the plane tickets. She doesn't love him and doesn't want to be with him. She refused the offer. Because she has a new boyfriend in Michigan, she's trying to find out how to terminate the K-1 from her end. So it would not be used against her if she decides to marry her boyfriend from Michigan in the future. I can't see how that is fraud. Fraud would have been going to the interview and taking the offer of the plane ticket. Most of the hard work was virtually completed for her motive "just to get to the US". Since every foreign fiance'(e) or foreign spouse is wanting to come to the US, for whatever reason, it would appear that everyone is committing fraud. Right?

Edited March 7, 2007 by altimixdj

[ken and mintra 0]

Hello everyone, Im Betty and im new here. My story goes like this. I met my ex-fiance "Perry" a year ago and we decided to be together.. he filed for the petition, and somewhere along the way, we got separated. And i never heard from him again... I was transferred to Davao (south of the Phils) becoz of work and never came back here in manila until March 2007. Now my landlady who's been handling all my mails handed me a bunch of em and told me that mostly are from the USemb in manila.

The thing is, when i opened everything esp the last letter there was already an interview date and medical schedule... OMG!!! I tried to reach Perry and when i did, (he was still in love with me) and i told him that i got all of the mails from the USEM. He said that if i want to continue we can and i can go home and will send me money for the tickets.... (sheesh!)

I mean HELLO! I dont want to be with him and as much as i want to go to the US i dont want to be it like that. So help me pls... what do i do next?

Need help,

Confused Betty

Sounds like an easy decision. If you don't want to be with him then be honest, tell him that, and don't come to America. I'm not sure where the confusion is!

[TimsDaisy 0]

The original post was confusing and the later posts don't clear everything up. Somewhere along the way they got separated? And she can't figure out that "Cancel it" is the answer she'll get. I don't think she was necessarily asking for advice to go ahead and commit fraud in bad faith. I do think she was probably hoping someone would say "well, if you're this far a long anyway, go for it." Be realistic, everyone here would sell a kidney to speed up the process if they could, right? We don't for a lot of reasons, but human nature is human nature.

But this is also like the 25th post this week where people seem to get in shouting matches over what the OP's intent was. Cleary, anyone posting a reply is posting his/her opinion based on his/her experience in the process and personal interpretation of the OP's intent/meaning in the original post. Yelling at the OP, then getting yelled at, then switching sides and starting to yell at other people who hold your original interpretation - well, that's just annoying.

[seattlegirl27 0]

I dont know why some people make it soo hard to understand what's the OP want to know..helllarrr read it again to make sure people shouting fraud understand what she want....

May God bless you all!

Good day...

[Melyssa 0]

No one knows the true motives of the poster here, but I don't see at all from her post that she is "clearly trying to commit fraud," although I can understand why it might look suspicious to some. She did not write that she 'JUST wants to get into the U.S.' although she did say she does WANT to come to the U.S. (implied from her statement, 'as much as I want to come to the U.S.' - the two statements don't mean the same thing at all!) My impression was that she does not any longer care for her original fiancé which is the reason she doesn't want to do all the visa stuff with him - it is HIM she was referring to when she said she doesn't want to be with him and doesn't love him. Yes she has another fiancé in the U.S. and I can totally see this looking suspicious but I don't think it's fair to automatically assume she is committing fraud. I think some of her statements are being mixed up here!

[JoeMama 0]

No one knows the true motives of the poster here, but I don't see at all from her post that she is "clearly trying to commit fraud," although I can understand why it might look suspicious to some. She did not write that she 'JUST wants to get into the U.S.' although she did say she does WANT to come to the U.S. (implied from her statement, 'as much as I want to come to the U.S.' - the two statements don't mean the same thing at all!) My impression was that she does not any longer care for her original fiancé which is the reason she doesn't want to do all the visa stuff with him - it is HIM she was referring to when she said she doesn't want to be with him and doesn't love him. Yes she has another fiancé in the U.S. and I can totally see this looking suspicious but I don't think it's fair to automatically assume she is committing fraud. I think some of her statements are being mixed up here!