Feeling pretty stressed right now..........

[Girona40 0]

Immigration issues aside - they just depress the hell out of me - 2007 hasn't gotten off to a brilliant start for me.

My brother, in England, had a major car accident just before Christmas. Three days later he had a brain seizure!

My father, has been told he has a "lump" on the remaining half of his thyroid and is in for surgery at the beginning of next month!

My mother is beside herself with worry over both of them.

My daughter is in England at the moment - went over for New Year. Tells me that my son, her twin brother, joined the Army back in July and hid it from both me and her, but his father knew all about it and kept the secret too.

Today I find out that I have to go in for surgery in three weeks to have my gall-bladder removed.

Son's EAD has been approved, but hasn't arrived yet - this is the fourth one and I am fed up dealing with this problem every year!

Sorry - feeling a little fed up tonight.

[rebeccajo 14]

Jeez, that's a load of stuff to have to deal with at one time, G.

It's Friday night. Sounds like beer-thirty time to me.

[rebelheart 0]

Immigration issues aside - they just depress the hell out of me - 2007 hasn't gotten off to a brilliant start for me.

My brother, in England, had a major car accident just before Christmas. Three days later he had a brain seizure!

My father, has been told he has a "lump" on the remaining half of his thyroid and is in for surgery at the beginning of next month!

My mother is beside herself with worry over both of them.

My daughter is in England at the moment - went over for New Year. Tells me that my son, her twin brother, joined the Army back in July and hid it from both me and her, but his father knew all about it and kept the secret too.

Today I find out that I have to go in for surgery in three weeks to have my gall-bladder removed.

Son's EAD has been approved, but hasn't arrived yet - this is the fourth one and I am fed up dealing with this problem every year!

Sorry - feeling a little fed up tonight.

I'm really sorry for the hang-ups and stress with the USCIS you've gone and been going through. Your whole family will be in my prayer's. Stay more stronger, they needed you more than anything else. Wishing for a good recovery for your brother and father. And about your operation as well, you get through succesfully with all of these hardships in life.

God bless!

[Trompe le Monde 1,107]

It's Friday night. Sounds like beer-thirty time to me.

Beer thirty!

Sorry to hear about your troubles, Girona. And not to be trite, but the January weather probably doesn't make it any better either

[Girona40 0]

It's Friday night. Sounds like beer-thirty time to me.

Beer thirty!

Sorry to hear about your troubles, Girona. And not to be trite, but the January weather probably doesn't make it any better either

Well, the raspberry vodkas are kicking in nicely! Not sure what the weather is like where you are, but it has been really warm here today - forecast in the 70's tomorrow! Scarey really.

Son just popped in to visit - gone to the store with hubby to get beer. Seems like we have all had a bad day. Son's employer asking which employees will agree to being laid-off, voluntarily, until the end of February. It never rains is pours!

Thank goodness when we are all together we can laugh - you couldn't make this stuff up if you tried!!! lol

[TracyTN 237]

Hugs Glenys. I hope today is better (if you're not hungover!

[Fandango 1,439]

Keeping you in my thoughts & prayers!

[Ladylethal 12]

It's a lot to deal with, but take it a day at a time, deep breaths all day, and I hope everything will be fine.

[RaspberrySwirl 20]

::big cyber hugs::

Mmm raspberry vodka. How's the hangover though? Hehe.

Seriously, that is alot to deal with, immigration madness aside.

One day at a time.

[pj1959us 0]

I'm so sorry to hear of your current problems on top of everything else! If anybody deserves to tie one on, it's you! Bottoms up!!!!

Take care and hope all goes well for you and yours.

PJ

[one...two...tree 2,762]

I'm sorry about your troubles. I don't think anyone can ever prepare for the inevitable crisis that happen throughout our lives - the only comfort I find is to believe that everything has meaning and purpose, and that I don't have to go it alone.

[Widge 0]

Life's a ###### thats for sure and it never rains but it pours !!!!!! The good news I can give you is on two counts my aged father-in-law had his thyroid removed last year and is like a spring chick post op and I myself have lived happily without a gall-bladder for thirty years so hopefully both of these will be as successful for you

[sarah and hicham 3]

Wow you poor thing I can't imagine having all of that in my mind at once.

I hope things look up and that everyone gets better and healthy.

[maggieNomar 0]

Hugs Glenys. I hope today is better (if you're not hungover!

Take care of yourself.

[Girona40 0]

It's nice to read that people I have never met, or spoken to in person, care about others enough to reply. Thank You.

I didn't have a hangover - thank goodness! Haven't had one of those in such a long time - I always seem to be the designated driver when we go anywhere. Still.

Things didn't get much better this weekend. My eldest son, the one that we are having all the immigrations issues with, is just so stressed-out that I fear he will do something stupid. He is already on anti-depressants because he can't cope with not being able to make many future plans, because he is still without a defined status here. He "lost it" last night and verbally attacked me, saying that I was a bad mother etc. etc. It was particularly hurtful, but I know that he was saying it because he was stressed, feels that this is all my fault and I am unable to get him out of this situation. I feel really bad about it and just wish it was over.

I spoke with my brother, he is doing better after his "frontal lobe seizure" and is back working, albeit from home. He is a Director of Immigration in England, ironically, and he can't understand what is happening here. It is a situation that doesn't arise if an American immigrates to the UK. He said, and it struck a nerve I guess "How can the US government do this to a family?" I keep asking myself that and have been asking that for years now.

I guess the stress of all this, as we now enter the 5th year of this and already we have problems because my son's fourth EAD hasn't arrived and a 5 hour drive to Pittsburgh is necessary, is just getting to me.

Someone mentioned that I was rather "snippy" or used a similar term. I am sorry, if that is the case, but I am so close to a breakdown I am finding this whole situation extremely difficult to deal with any more. My husband deals with our attorney now, because it has gotten so complicated that it just washes over me when they talk about it. They look at it logically, I can't help but get emotional - I am a mother after all. I just ask "What did he do wrong?" and nobody can answer me.

Had a chat with another immigration attorney/ex-congressman. He didn't tell us anything more than our attorney has already, only that my son is accruing unlawful presence and will be subject to a 10 year bar if he should leave the country! So, that didn't actually help us much, it just made me feel worse. Is there nothing we can do to put this right? It seems a long, expensive, court battle is what we have ahead of us in 2007, rather than being able to enjoy our lives and spend time together minus all this stress.

Thanks guys, for your support. It really makes a difference. So many friends and neighbours can't understand what is going on, don't understand the legalities of it all, don't know why such a nice young man should be deported, but many of you do have some idea of how painful and unjust this process can be. Bear with me. I'll try not to complain any more.

Hugs

G.