Unrelated..What to do when husband is going on deployment

[AC1022 27]

Every military wife has to face this at some point..when husband is going away for 9 month or even more...what to do and how to deal with the separation?

My husband had been to Kuwait for 9 month and it was not great for me, really don't want to be separated from him again in the future!

[NikLR 13,227]

I don't think anyone wants to be separated for that long. We have a friend who is currently deployed and due back in April. His wife has done fairly well because she works and has a kiddo but i think it's still rather hard on them. Are there any military resources you can look into?

[AC1022 27]

I don't think anyone wants to be separated for that long. We have a friend who is currently deployed and due back in April. His wife has done fairly well because she works and has a kiddo but i think it's still rather hard on them. Are there any military resources you can look into?

Hi, thank you for the reply. I am currently working too and my husband just went on a six month training in Arizona while I am in Georgia. I don't really know any military resources..if you can share any useful information, will be very appreciated!

[April-n-Gary 17]

Wow, as a service member I can't believe that so many people are unaware of all the support families of service members are entitled to. As a until recently single person, I can't think of how many hours I've sat thru briefings on all the support the married people are offered. Every base should have some sort of "Family Support Group" that offers counseling, financial advisors, etc. If nothing else the base chaplains are another place to start or every unit should have some sort of family liaison. Remember, the first step is asking the question.

Another good place to start is this website: http://www.militaryonesource.mil

[haggarda.versoza 3]

Wow, as a service member I can't believe that so many people are unaware of all the support families of service members are entitled to. As a until recently single person, I can't think of how many hours I've sat thru briefings on all the support the married people are offered. Every base should have some sort of "Family Support Group" that offers counseling, financial advisors, etc. If nothing else the base chaplains are another place to start or every unit should have some sort of family liaison. Remember, the first step is asking the question.

Another good place to start is this website: http://www.militaryonesource.mil

Depends on your location. From where I live there's no nearby "Support Group" here for families with loved ones deployed. So pretty much I just joined support groups online like forums of militarysos, japanbases (as my husband is deployed in Japan), etc.

Back to the OP..

What branch is your husband in? I can see your AOS is still pending. Have you tried calling USCIS to expedite your case? If your husband is land-based in Kuwait, you may opt to visit him during his 9-month deployment there once you got your AP or AOS approval. Meanwhile, I can see you're working, just stay focused on your work to keep yourself busy, and importantly, never lose communication with your husband. I talk to my husband everyday while he's in Japan over the phone or Skype. You can also browse Military Support group online too like militarysos.com, militaryspouse.com etc. and talk to spouse who's same situation as you.

[AC1022 27]

Hi Thank you April and Thank you Haggarda for your helpful information and support.

I currently have AOS pending with USCIS for two years conditional GC and I am going on the interview by myself this 23th (as the officer at local officer told me I could). My husband is in the army and he was deployed to Kuwaitt for 9 month last year (which also made us to have find sponsor since his 9 month payment cannot be counted on W2..)

Now he just started a UAV school training in AZ, Fort Huachuca and it can be from 6 month to a year. I have a stable job in Georgia which I cannot really just give up. So what we do everyday of course is trying our best to communicate. I' m sure there is some sort of military family counseling on the base however there isn't any in Atlanta. I think what I will do is to join online community as well.

Thank you again!

[thelastpetitioner 218]

The hardest part is the first couple of months, specially if you're long at a longtime deployment or training. The easiest way to deal with it is go with the flow. Don't force communication because they have to focus on training and deployment. It gets a lot easier once you find your own comfortable routine and flow. Be as zen as possible about it. I know there will be times where you just can't help but think about how easier it would be if he was here, but imagine how much harder it would be if you were going through this as his girlfriend or fiancée, half way around the world.

[AliAli 11]

Tell me about it! My husband deployed shortly after I came to the US so I didn't even get my driver license. I try always to stay busy but not knowing anybody here and living in a really small city does not help at all At least now all the big holidays are gone and we're halfway there.

[JbTin 51]

Tell me about it! My husband deployed shortly after I came to the US so I didn't even get my driver license. I try always to stay busy but not knowing anybody here and living in a really small city does not help at all At least now all the big holidays are gone and we're halfway there.

Florida? Are u near Pensacola? Thats where we will be living soon!

[AliAli 11]

Florida? Are u near Pensacola? Thats where we will be living soon!

Yes, Ma'am We're in Crestview, like 1:30 hrs away from Pensacola. There are 3 bases around here. Are you in Hawaii now? How fun!

[JbTin 51]

Yes, Ma'am We're in Crestview, like 1:30 hrs away from Pensacola. There are 3 bases around here. Are you in Hawaii now? How fun!

Oh ok, ive been searching for houses or apartments around the place and ive encountered the name crestview a lot. no, not in hawaii, i wish though.. It's like paradise there! but i dont think i can still make it to hawaii since he will be pcs-ing soon to florida

[AliAli 11]

Oh ok, ive been searching for houses or apartments around the place and ive encountered the name crestview a lot. no, not in hawaii, i wish though.. It's like paradise there! but i dont think i can still make it to hawaii since he will be pcs-ing soon to florida

Oh, I saw Hawaii on you profile and automatically thought that you were there. Oops, my bad!

It's been difficult for me to live here but the truth is that people here are super friendly, the weather is nice and the beaches are just gorgeous!!!

[JbTin 51]

Oh, I saw Hawaii on you profile and automatically thought that you were there. Oops, my bad!

It's been difficult for me to live here but the truth is that people here are super friendly, the weather is nice and the beaches are just gorgeous!!!

My hubby is in Hawaii thats why hehe im still here in the Phils. Do you also hang out with other military wives out there? Yeah ive seen pictures of the beaches, and theyre beautiful! Im excited i hope we will get approved soon so i can join my husband already.

[Messybrownhair 251]

I went to school and I had a baby.. That's what I did during the deployment! Lol