a lot of issues and concerns

[crateer 0]

hey everyone, it's been a wild journey for me as i'm sure its been for you all.

i recently went to japan with the intentions being reversed, i was going to live with my girlfriend there.

i don't know how much to say, i dont want to make this seem dramatic, but there has been many issues.

i can't go into too much detail, but her mother completely ruined her life. while i was there, she made it extremely

uncomfortable for me and her daughter- i couldn't do anything, no one would hire me (our original idea was marriage, and suddenly her mother said that was not okay either.) my girlfriend worked such long, crazy hours 6 days a week as i was forced to stay in her one room isolated from her crazy mother for 3 months until i was forced to leave the country.

her mother has always caused her so many problems, she doesn't deserve it. my girlfriend always helped me when i had my problems, and i wish i could return the favor. i decided i wanted to try to bring her here and begin the process. i researched the things i had to do, and while some things were left unclear i printed the documentation for the forms. I asked several questions on Yahoo Answers but it was always so vague, and i always found myself in more question.

i currently have two great supporting parents that i live with, i want her to live with them so she could experience the parenthood she should have had- having her biological father abandon her too.

i went to enlist in the military, but was rejected because i was baker acted 3 times when I was 15, (which she helped me through when I was broken) now I am 19 and she is 20. We have visited eachother 2 times this year, so i know i have that settled.

i have applied for many jobs but i have been having a very hard time finding them. i am considering going to school now, but here's where one of my serious problems lies..

if i'm going to school, i might not get a job that will pay enough for the income? would it be possible my parents could sponsor her until i get a job which i go to school for?

and is it possible to marry her while the k-1 is processing? i just want to get her away from that mad woman and give her the life that she deserves. she's honestly saved my life i can say, and i want her to get back on track too now.

[Lainie B 465]

Yes you can use a co-sponsor if necessary.

No you can't marry her while waiting for the K-1. If you do that you would have to start again with the CR-1 process.

[apple21 953]

The purpose of K1 is to get married in the US. Either you file that or you chase the i-130 spousal visa (get married in Japan).

Either way, you'll need a joint sponsor for the affidavit of support. Your parents can as long as their income meets the poverty guidelines.

What is this?

i went to enlist in the military, but was rejected because i was baker acted 3 times when I was 15,

[del-2-5-2014 1,340]

The purpose of K1 is to get married in the US. Either you file that or you chase the i-130 spousal visa (get married in Japan).

Either way, you'll need a joint sponsor for the affidavit of support. Your parents can as long as their income meets the poverty guidelines.

What is this?

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=baker-acted

To be involuntarily commited to a mental health treatment facility. The term comes from Florida's Baker Act, which allows authorities such as police to do this.

[Lola2014 2]

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Florida_Mental_Health_Act

[iammrsregie 265]

if 1 of your parents are willing to be a joint sponsor, go for k1. sorry to hear your girlfriend's mom is being difficult I hope she gets her act straight so she wont lose a daughter and... I hope your gf will have courage to stand up to her mom if the mom disagrees with you petitioning her daughter (which she most likely will)

Edited December 6, 2013 by iammrsregi

[apple21 953]

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=baker-acted

To be involuntarily commited to a mental health treatment facility. The term comes from Florida's Baker Act, which allows authorities such as police to do this.

Thanks for the info.

[Jawaree 719]

Dude don't want to be harsh but that woman U want to get her away from

raised her (even if alone) did not abort her and seem she turned out ok, with

stability & holding a job.

Maybe mom began to see some things she did not like for her daughter, she

would want to see support a man who wants to work and help take care of things,

there's a saying" see me, live with me 2 different things" daughter is in love

and don't see the large picture yet.Quit blaming everyone except yourself.

Trying to bring her to live in your parents home is not a good idea, she'd

be setting herself up for mistreatment, U have no job, not sure of a path it

seem. but to take her from that woman as U put it.

Best thing dude get a job, then an Apt. and then U petition her and can still ask

your parents to be co-sponsors, but bringing her home to mom kitchen????

two bulls cannot reign in one kitchen/pen