Questions to Ask Each Other Before Marrying (NYTimes)

[Alex+R 0]

I feel like there might have been a similar topic recently but I didn't find it... (sorry if so)

From yesterday's New York Times:

Published: December 17, 2006

Relationship experts report that too many couples fail to ask each other critical questions before marrying. Here are a few key ones that couples should consider asking:

What questions do you think are important to ask before marriage?

1) Have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver?

2) Do we have a clear idea of each other’s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh?

3) Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores?

4) Have we fully disclosed our health histories, both physical and mental?

5) Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect?

6) Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and fears?

7) Will there be a television in the bedroom?

8) Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another’s ideas and complaints?

9) Have we reached a clear understanding of each other’s spiritual beliefs and needs, and have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education?

10) Do we like and respect each other’s friends?

11) Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship?

12) What does my family do that annoys you?

13) Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage?

14) If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other’s family, are we prepared to move?

15) Do each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges we may face?

You could go here and read what all the readers added.

[Jenn! 918]

A lot of these just sound like fight starters to me...

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12) What does my family do that annoys you?

You gotta be kidding me.

[Jenn! 918]

12) What does my family do that annoys you?

You gotta be kidding me.

Yeah, that's the one that I was thinking of in particular.

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7) Will there be a television in the bedroom?

this one sounds silly. how about discussing whether we're gonna have an L-shaped sofa in the living room or not?

[Alex+R 0]

12) What does my family do that annoys you?

You gotta be kidding me.

Yeah, that's the one that I was thinking of in particular.

Hahahah yeah I know. A lot of people commented "if I had asked my husband this we wouldn't be married now."

When I read that, I asked myself if I would even have the courage to ask, ha!

[Karen_L 1]

15) Do each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges we may face?

Wouldn't the answer to this one more or less have to be 'yes'? This seems more like a question you would have to ask yourself prior to proposing/accepting a proposal.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

15) Do each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges we may face?

Wouldn't the answer to this one more or less have to be 'yes'? This seems more like a question you would have to ask yourself prior to proposing/accepting a proposal.

yeah why kinda schmuck would say 'no' to a question like that.

[mybackpages 0]

7) Will there be a television in the bedroom?

this one sounds silly. how about discussing whether we're gonna have an L-shaped sofa in the living room or not?

I think its their way of asking about sexual expectations

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

7) Will there be a television in the bedroom?

this one sounds silly. how about discussing whether we're gonna have an L-shaped sofa in the living room or not?

I think its their way of asking about sexual expectations

Having a TV in the bedroom can both help and hinder sex. Depends on what you watch

[one...two...tree 2,762]

A lot of these just sound like fight starters to me...

7) Will there be a television in the bedroom?

this one sounds silly. how about discussing whether we're gonna have an L-shaped sofa in the living room or not?

I think its their way of asking about sexual expectations

Having a TV in the bedroom can both help and hinder sex. Depends on what you watch

The Weather Channel?

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

7) Will there be a television in the bedroom?

this one sounds silly. how about discussing whether we're gonna have an L-shaped sofa in the living room or not?

I think its their way of asking about sexual expectations

Having a TV in the bedroom can both help and hinder sex. Depends on what you watch

The Weather Channel?

Jerry! Jerry! Jerry!

[mybackpages 0]

A lot of these just sound like fight starters to me...

7) Will there be a television in the bedroom?

this one sounds silly. how about discussing whether we're gonna have an L-shaped sofa in the living room or not?

I think its their way of asking about sexual expectations

Having a TV in the bedroom can both help and hinder sex. Depends on what you watch

The Weather Channel?

well..there ARE all kinds of fetishes

[almaty 19]

7) Will there be a television in the bedroom?

this one sounds silly. how about discussing whether we're gonna have an L-shaped sofa in the living room or not?

I think its their way of asking about sexual expectations

Having a TV in the bedroom can both help and hinder sex. Depends on what you watch

i agree....it depends on the viewing............

[ceriserose 1]

A lot of these just sound like fight starters to me...

7) Will there be a television in the bedroom?

this one sounds silly. how about discussing whether we're gonna have an L-shaped sofa in the living room or not?

I think its their way of asking about sexual expectations

Having a TV in the bedroom can both help and hinder sex. Depends on what you watch

The Weather Channel?

Hopefully there aren't too many 'cold fronts' then.