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So me and my husband are non-religious and simple - to us, we married out of love and because we want to create a life together here in the US since he got a job here and I want to be able to live and work here. We were thinking of maybe having a wedding cermony next summer when we have saved up some money, to please our parents and because its nice to have a reason to party.

We haven't told a lot of people as frankly, I absolutely hate the "omg omg omg you're married AAAAAAH" bullshit. Also, all the social pressure about how things should go down with rings and bla bla bla.

Now, I'm not worried as we have a lot of proof of our five years together and we haven't done anything illegal, but i know how this country works , so what can we actually say to the people in the interview? I wanna say the truth "We married for our own sake, out of love. We wanted it simple and no unecessary fuss." Will they deny us because we don't follow the "norm"?

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March 2008 - Met my husband (US Citizen)

10/10/2012 - Arrived to the US on M-1 Visa

01/13/2013 - Husband arrives to the US

03/15/2013 - Got married in NYC City Hall!Received marriage license on the same day.

03/30/2013 (Day 0) - Sent in I-130, I-485, I-765 and I-131

04/03/2013 (Day 4) - Package received in Chicago

04/10/2013 (Day 11) - NOA 1 text(s) and emails received.

04/15/2013 (Day 16) - Biometrics appointment letter for the 7th of May 2013.

04/22/2013 (Day 23) - Successful Biometrics walkin Varick Street, NY

04/30/2013 (Day 31) - I-485 case status updated to testing and interviewing. Still no updates on EAD or AP

05/07/2013 (Day 38) - Biometrics appointment

06/07/2013 (Day 69) - EAD updated to Card production. AP updated to Post Decision Activity.

06/15/2013 (Day 77) Recieved EAD/AP combo card

07/10/2013 (Day 102) Received first interview appointment
08/10/2013 (Day 132) Interview (which we rescheduled because I was out of the country at the time of the interview)

08/24/2013 (Day 146) Notification that our interview has been successfully rescheduled

11/25/2013 (Day 239) New Interview date: 16th of December 2013

12/16/2013 (Day 260) INTERVIEW! - Approved on the spot, will have green card within a few months

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You should be fine, we didn't have a big thing either. It was just me, my husband and my son. Afterwards we went for lunch. Nothing fancy and just for us. I didn't get questioned about it at all.

Noa 1 August 15th 2011
Noa 2 March 2nd

NVC case numbers March 22nd
My sons AOS and IV bill paid March 23rd (status in progress)
My sons AOS and IV bill shows as paid March 26
My IV bill paid March 26
Both packages sent on March 26
My IV bill shows as paid on March 27th
CC on both cases March 30

Current record holder of fastest through the NVC :D

Medical exam in Stockholm April 13th
Interview on May 16th !!!

POE Anchorage July 12th!! 2012

July 2015 n-400 in the mail

September 2015, interview

October 23rd 2015, Oath ceremony!!!!!​​

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You'll be fine. So many people are in your situation.. Don't worry about not having a "real" wedding. As long as you can show evidence your marriage is real, you will not be denied based on not having a ceremony.


03/07/2013 Day 0 - Sent off I-130, I-485, I-765
03/08/2013 Day 1 - Received by USCIS Chicago
03/13/2013 Day 6 - Received 3 texts & emails
03/18/2013 Day 11- Received 3 NOA hardcopies
03/22/2013 Day 15- Received Biometrics appointment letter
04/11/2013 Day 35- Biometrics done in Orlando, FL
04/17/2013 Day 41- Status update: Now ready for interview scheduling!
04/26/2013 Day 49- Status update: interview scheduled June 3 in Jacksonville!

04/29/2013 Day 52- Received Interview Hardcopy.

05/10/2013 Day 63- EAD went in production

05/18/2013 Day 71- EAD received

06/03/2013 Day 87- INTERVIEW ! APPROVED (10yr green card)dancin5hr.gif !

06/03/2013 Day 87 - Received email: CPO

06/06/2013 Day 89 - Received email: CPO

06/07/2013 Day 90 - Received email: GC Mailed

06/11/2013 Day 94 - Received Green Card!dancin5hr.gif

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Same here.. Its just too expensive, quite frankly we wanted a house as opposed to throwing a wedding for other people to enjoy the free food and drinks while I pay $20k for them

We were asked at the AOS interview:

Where did you get married? Justice of the peace

No wedding? Nope, too costly and all of the family wouldnt be able to attend

Who was there? A few members of his family

Why not mine? They are in Jamaica and was too expensive (plus it was January and too cold for them)

Why wasnt his mom there? She thinks we are too young (22) btw

Ok, you guys are good... and that was it... I think they understand that we are not all into the wedding "bliss" and it doesne mean a thing in regards to your love


01/06/10 - Got Married

AOS from F-1 visa (2 months 2 1/2 weeks or 82 days)

04/14/10 - Sent AOS Package

04/26/10 - Hardcopy NOAs Received

05/16/10 - Biometrics letter

05/19/12 - Successful Walk-in Biometrics in Dover DE

07/07/10 - Interview Appointment in Philly- July 7 @ 11:05 am APPROVED

07/19/10 - 2 YEAR Green Card received

Removal of Conditions (9 months 1 1/2 weeks or 285 days)

04/08/12 - Eligibility date

04/19/12 - Sent ROC Package

04/26/12 - Hardcopy NOAs Received

05/17/10 - Biometrics letter

05/24/12 - Successful Walk-in Biometrics in Dover DE

01/25/13 - APPROVED- ROC card production ordered

02/05/13 - 10 YEAR Green Card received

Naturalization (5 months 2 days or 155 days)

04/15/13 - Eligibility date

06/07/13 - Sent Package

06/20/13 - Hardcopy NOAs Received

06/27/12 - Successful Walk-in Biometrics in Dover DE

07/05/13 - Interview letter sent/In-line notification

08/14/13 - Interview scheduled in Philly @ 1:30 pm APPROVED

11/07/13 - Oath Ceremony

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My wife and I eloped. It never came up during the interview.

07/14/2012: Eloped in Texas Hill Country
08/11/2012: Mailed I-130, I-485, and I-765 to Chicago Lockbox
08/13/2012: Package received by Chicago Lockbox
08/14/2012: Priority Date
08/17/2012: Notice of receipt sent
08/21/2012: Biometrics appointment notice sent
08/27/2012: Walk-in biometrics completed
09/19/2012: Interview scheduled for October 26
10/24/2012: EAD production ordered
10/26/2012: Interview in San Antonio. AOS approved!
11/5/2012: USCIS claims green card delivered, nothing in mailbox.
12/5/2012: Service request filed for non-delivered green card.
12/7/2012: Service request replied to (but not delivered).
1/4/2013: Filed I-90, paid another $450
1/24/2013: Biometrics again...
4/1/2013: First Green Card from November finally arrived...

4/22/2013: Replacement Green Card arrived.

8/9/2014: Filed I-751

8/14/2014: Received NOA for I-751

3/12/2015: ROC Approved!

7/18/2016: Sent in N-400 to Texas lockbox

7/21/2016: N-400 delivered

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it's very common nowadays, We only had a court marriage no ceremony, Rejection from the family, because of religion difference and we got approved on the spot. So, just think about the evidence , and you will be good don't worry :)


day 1 -- 04/11/2012-- package sent to Chicago

day 2 -- 04/12/2012-- package was received.

day 43-- 05/23/2012-- Notice for an interview is received for 06/26 @ 2pm

day 63-- 06/12/2012-- Received a Text & email for an update- Card production EAD/AP

day 77-- 06/26/2012-- interview / approved on the spot.

day 86-- 07/05/2012-- Received my GC in the mail.


day 1 -- 04/07/2014 -- ROC Package delivered to VSC

day 16 -- 04/23/2014 -- Walk-in Bio.

day 197 -- 10/20/2014-- Approval Letter received dated 10/16/2014

day 202 -- 10/25/2014-- GC received

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