She wants to bring her Mom here

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

But I would do all I can to get whatever she needed to set up home here.

And charge your realtor commission in the process? B)

[Fandango 1,439]

But I would do all I can to get whatever she needed to set up home here.

And charge your realtor commission in the process? B)

Double even :P

[gimygirl 0]

Thank god my husband's mother doesn't want to move to the US. I'd rather chew broken glass than have that harridan in my house.

Alright then. It's not like I'm an a$$hole. However, I married my husband...not his weirdo family...and I don't like them in my house for any longer than is absolutely necessary.

must be comforting to know that you've fallen in love with someone raised by such a weirdo family!

[almaty 19]

We're both Indian by heritage and in our culture you marry a family, not an individual.

That's the theory. In reality, you have to temper expectations with practicalities like health insurance and other things. I'd let my in-laws move in with me in a heartbeat if they could pay their own medical insurance.

They're visiting us right now and it's been nice having them around.

Moms home cookin eh..?

always a treat

Thank god my husband's mother doesn't want to move to the US. I'd rather chew broken glass than have that harridan in my house.

Alright then. It's not like I'm an a$$hole. However, I married my husband...not his weirdo family...and I don't like them in my house for any longer than is absolutely necessary.

must be comforting to know that you've fallen in love with someone raised by such a weirdo family!

sister monique..you are right thinking type of lady

[dalegg 143]

That's the theory. In reality, you have to temper expectations with practicalities like health insurance and other things. I'd let my in-laws move in with me in a heartbeat if they could pay their own medical insurance.

They're visiting us right now and it's been nice having them around.

What is this? Are they looking over your shoulder as you type or something?

[homesick_american 1]

Thank god my husband's mother doesn't want to move to the US. I'd rather chew broken glass than have that harridan in my house.

Alright then. It's not like I'm an a$$hole. However, I married my husband...not his weirdo family...and I don't like them in my house for any longer than is absolutely necessary.

must be comforting to know that you've fallen in love with someone raised by such a weirdo family!

He turned out fine in spite of them.

[fish_oinc 0]

Thank god my husband's mother doesn't want to move to the US. I'd rather chew broken glass than have that harridan in my house.

Alright then. It's not like I'm an a$$hole. However, I married my husband...not his weirdo family...and I don't like them in my house for any longer than is absolutely necessary.

must be comforting to know that you've fallen in love with someone raised by such a weirdo family!

He turned out fine in spite of them.

That you know of....so far.

But he has the same blood that they do. Bwahahahahaa...

[sparkofcreation 0]

You know it takes years and years and years to bring a parent to the US, right? I mean, it's not like they'd be moving in the week after the honeymoon.

My wife can apply for citizenship 3 years after her entry into the US. It takes about a year to petition a parent so that's 4 years.

We talked about this but what in the world would she do here? She doesn't know any English and there are not many Filipinos in Tucson. I don't think she would be very happy being alone and isolated even if living with us. All her family and friends are back home.

If she enters on a CR-1 or IR-1 visa, three years later she can apply for citizenship. From application to oath is between six months and a year. If she then files the I-130 the next day, it's another six months to a year before it's adjudicated. Then it has to be sent to the consulate, she has to get an appointment, then be interviewed, and so on. I'd say the best-case scenario from your wife's entering the US to her mom's entering on the IR-5 is four years and three months, more likely five and a half years.

[homesick_american 1]

That you know of....so far.

But he has the same blood that they do. Bwahahahahaa...

He's adopted. No, just kidding. He's like his dad...phlegmatic. His mom and sister are something else entirely, though.

[gimygirl 0]

That you know of....so far.

But he has the same blood that they do. Bwahahahahaa...

He's adopted. No, just kidding. He's like his dad...phlegmatic. His mom and sister are something else entirely, though.

phlegmatic!?!? i certainly wouldn't list that as one of my husband's positive qualities. *shakes head* although you are vehement at times so maybe that makes for a good match ...

[homesick_american 1]

phlegmatic!?!? i certainly wouldn't list that as one of my husband's positive qualities. *shakes head* although you are vehement at times so maybe that makes for a good match ...

Well, don't worry about it. You're not married to him; I am.

[Dr. Obvious 49]

I don't think I would ever have this problem. My parents-in-law have a decent life in Germany and below zero interest in coming to the US, though they encourage their son to do so. At most, it could be that my siblings-in-law could eventually express an interest, but that is a stretch right now.

No way in hell I would live with my mom or let her live with me. She is master of the guano. I would live with or allow to live with me any other member of my tiny family.

[Caladan 19]

I would be very surprised if my fiance's mom wanted to move here, but we'd do it if she wanted to. His family is huge and very close-knit.

[Garfield fan 0]

I wouldn't have this problem either. My parents own a small business in Indonesia and they have zero intention of moving here. They are happy with their lives there, have friends and other things that will make it hard for them to move.

Neither of us want our in-laws to live with us under one roof. It's just privacy thing above all else.

[Yodrak 7]

Ruteger,

Better be sure that your fiance(e) is of the same opinion, then. In most instances a person is marrying the spouse's family. You'd best recognize the nature of the familial relationships - whatever they are - before considering the deal.

Yodrak

...

I know the family unit in other countries seems to be much tighter, but my opinion is that, "hey, I am marrying you, not your mom and dad."

As for me this would be a deal breaker.

Edited September 30, 2006 by Yodrak