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This is not my situation, but what if your girl/woman/potential bride insisted on bringing her Mother/Father etc. also to America after you were married?

I know the family unit in other countries seems to be much tighter, but my opinion is that, "hey, I am marrying you, not your mom and dad."

As for me this would be a deal breaker.

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We're both Indian by heritage and in our culture you marry a family, not an individual.

That's the theory. In reality, you have to temper expectations with practicalities like health insurance and other things. I'd let my in-laws move in with me in a heartbeat if they could pay their own medical insurance.

They're visiting us right now and it's been nice having them around.


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We're both Indian by heritage and in our culture you marry a family, not an individual.

That's the theory. In reality, you have to temper expectations with practicalities like health insurance and other things. I'd let my in-laws move in with me in a heartbeat if they could pay their own medical insurance.

They're visiting us right now and it's been nice having them around.

Moms home cookin eh..? ;)


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This is not my situation, but what if your girl/woman/potential bride insisted on bringing her Mother/Father etc. also to America after you were married?

I know the family unit in other countries seems to be much tighter, but my opinion is that, "hey, I am marrying you, not your mom and dad."

As for me this would be a deal breaker.

You know it takes years and years and years to bring a parent to the US, right? I mean, it's not like they'd be moving in the week after the honeymoon.


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This is not my situation, but what if your girl/woman/potential bride insisted on bringing her Mother/Father etc. also to America after you were married?

I know the family unit in other countries seems to be much tighter, but my opinion is that, "hey, I am marrying you, not your mom and dad."

As for me this would be a deal breaker.

I would say "praise the lord". Her family is hard working, nice and industrious. My God; those people who have needed places to stay and have lived in my house have either ripped me off or destroyed things. I would love a community of good people in my house. Jenny's family "come on down".


Date I-129F Sent : 03/17/2006

Date I-129F NOA1: 04/03/2006

I-129F RFE(s) : 08/10/2006

I-129F RFE Reply(s) : 08/17/2006

Date I-129F NOA2 (Approved) : 08/18/2006

Date Package Received By NVC : 09/05/2006

Date Sent to Embassy: 09/18/2006 assigned number MNL2006743xxx

Date Embassy received 09/26/2006

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It wouldn't be deal breaker for me. But Rey would never, ever want to do that. I would be fine with it if she had an apartment of her own, and I'd be fine with paying for that. NOT with her living with us. But I think this would be more of an over-Rey's-dead-body issue.

If you could get them their own apartment, would it be as big a deal? I mean, most American couples live near at least one set of in-laws...

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This is not my situation, but what if your girl/woman/potential bride insisted on bringing her Mother/Father etc. also to America after you were married?

I know the family unit in other countries seems to be much tighter, but my opinion is that, "hey, I am marrying you, not your mom and dad."

As for me this would be a deal breaker.

You know it takes years and years and years to bring a parent to the US, right? I mean, it's not like they'd be moving in the week after the honeymoon.

I thought they can get a visitors visa rather quickly.


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This is not my situation, but what if your girl/woman/potential bride insisted on bringing her Mother/Father etc. also to America after you were married?

I know the family unit in other countries seems to be much tighter, but my opinion is that, "hey, I am marrying you, not your mom and dad."

As for me this would be a deal breaker.

You know it takes years and years and years to bring a parent to the US, right? I mean, it's not like they'd be moving in the week after the honeymoon.

I thought they can get a visitors visa rather quickly.

Depends on country of origin and state of their finances...


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This is not my situation, but what if your girl/woman/potential bride insisted on bringing her Mother/Father etc. also to America after you were married?

I know the family unit in other countries seems to be much tighter, but my opinion is that, "hey, I am marrying you, not your mom and dad."

As for me this would be a deal breaker.

You know it takes years and years and years to bring a parent to the US, right? I mean, it's not like they'd be moving in the week after the honeymoon.

I thought they can get a visitors visa rather quickly.

From many countries, yes, but I thought this post was about the foreign spouse wanting to sponsor his/her parents to move to the US permanently. Mostly because I certainly hope the OP isn't so much of an ******* that he'd forbid his wife from ever having her parents *visit*.

Edited by sparkofcreation

Bethany (NJ, USA) & Gareth (Scotland, UK)

-----------------------------------------------

01 Nov 2007: N-400 FedEx'd to TSC

05 Nov 2007: NOA-1 Date

28 Dec 2007: Check cashed

05 Jan 2008: NOA-1 Received

02 Feb 2008: Biometrics notice received

23 Feb 2008: Biometrics at Albuquerque ASC

12 Jun 2008: Interview letter received

12 Aug 2008: Interview at Albuquerque DO--PASSED!

15 Aug 2008: Oath Ceremony

-----------------------------------------------

Any information, opinions, etc., given by me are based entirely on personal experience, observations, research common sense, and an insanely accurate memory; and are not in any way meant to constitute (1) legal advice nor (2) the official policies/advice of my employer.

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It is good to see that the love for our spouse is so unselfish. I feel all warm and runny inside.

Edited by kirk and Jenny

Date I-129F Sent : 03/17/2006

Date I-129F NOA1: 04/03/2006

I-129F RFE(s) : 08/10/2006

I-129F RFE Reply(s) : 08/17/2006

Date I-129F NOA2 (Approved) : 08/18/2006

Date Package Received By NVC : 09/05/2006

Date Sent to Embassy: 09/18/2006 assigned number MNL2006743xxx

Date Embassy received 09/26/2006

letter-touched 10/17/2006

information on medical and interview 11/17/2006

Packet with Information 11/29/2006

Medical 1/12/2007

Interview 1/19/2007

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You know it takes years and years and years to bring a parent to the US, right? I mean, it's not like they'd be moving in the week after the honeymoon.

My wife can apply for citizenship 3 years after her entry into the US. It takes about a year to petition a parent so that's 4 years.

We talked about this but what in the world would she do here? She doesn't know any English and there are not many Filipinos in Tucson. I don't think she would be very happy being alone and isolated even if living with us. All her family and friends are back home.

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