Fiance backed out from interview

[newlyweds2010 208]

I'm very sorry for you! But try to see the half-full glass. What if she had come here and you two had married, before finding this out? It would have been a bigger pain in the @$$. Withdraw your petition immediately, although the fact that she didn't go to the interview means that she did not get her visa.

[Whyus0heartless 0]

Sjowol> that would be scenario number (1)

[Whyus0heartless 0]

newlyweds2010 >that's correct she didnt show up for the interview and never even called or even gave me an explanation, i'm still thankful that her cousin called and explained the reason why! I will withdraw the petition immediately. Thanks!

[TeapotGirl 66]

i'm concerned of a future fiancee visa petition if i do finally find the right woman in my life.. Need help! Advice! Thank you!

Just tell them honestly that it just didn't work out. At least it shows that yo are not making money out of wanna be immigrants. Others can correct me but their is easier compared to those people who's ex made in the US up to becoming USC.

Edited November 4, 2011 by teapotgurl1983

[Scafidi454 22]

How long were the two of you together? How did the two of you meet? How much time did you spend together?

[jen1217 5]

awwwweee sorry to hear that,things happens for a reason dnt worry you will find the right one for you.

[james&olya 1,121]

anyone that stupid should probably just give the money away anyway, it is bound to happen, maybe the girl will make better use if it.

Better, from the standpoint of the one paying, is to know they immediately squandered the money and end up broke! At least that is the way I felt about the money I was forced to give my ex by the judge!

[TBoneTX 47,544]

i'm still thankful that her cousin called and explained the reason why!

You see? This was very positive, even in the face of what might devastate a guy of lesser caliber than you. It's the beginning of better things to come.

I will withdraw the petition immediately.

Super! This will give you closure, which is never to be underrated.

I can tell you that there are a LOT of sweet, beautiful Ecuadorian women who will NOT take you for a ride (their culture is not geared toward that), and who yearn only for a guy who will treat them with consideration and respect. They'll return that loyalty a thousandfold (I speak from experience). When you're healthily past this current episode and you're completely in a position to look ahead, holler to me to get you set on the path, si man.

[Chronopath 0]

Best of luck to you. At least you found out early and you know she's definitely not worth marrying. In time, you will get over her and will possibly meet someone worthwhile. Sometimes, we take chances on people and it goes both ways. In this case, you didn't luck out for this woman.

[Farsider 7]

How long were the two of you together? How did the two of you meet? How much time did you spend together?

Yup - wondering the same questions. The questions might seem a bit invasive.... but on the other hand the answers might be helpful to others on this site.

Sure, it's possible that something like this could happen to a couple who have known each other for several years and spent a lot of time together - but not likely.

My wife & I have known each other for almost 5 years now.... married just this past January.... we have spent many months together over these years in the PI, and she has also been to the U.S. once and met many of my friends and relatives and gotten a taste of life in the U.S. There are no guarantees in life.... but we feel pretty confident in our relationship.

We are sorry to hear the OP's story - but like so many have already said, he is better off in the long run, no doubt!

Still.... it would be interesting to know the answsers to the questions posed, above.

[TBoneTX 47,544]

Still.... it would be interesting to know the answsers to the questions posed, above.

Interesting for us, sure, but the OP needs to look forward, not back. We can be curious, but we shouldn't make him feel compelled to answer. The simple idea that he's willing to move on is satisfying enough for me, si man.

[MalaysianGirl 26]

Interesting for us, sure, but the OP needs to look forward, not back. We can be curious, but we shouldn't make him feel compelled to answer. The simple idea that he's willing to move on is satisfying enough for me, si man.

Once again I agree with TBone.

[bobby231 3]

As much as i sympathize with u on your present situation, i would however advice that u apply caution before taking a final decision on what u wanna do. For one thing, u have not heard directly from your fiancee whom i assume u are madly in love with. You might wanna ask yourself why she hasn't been able to contact u herself explaining why she didn't show up for the interview instead of taking her cousin's words for it. For all we know, a thousand and one thing could have made her not to appear for the interview. She might be in trouble, she might have been prevented from going for the interview against her will., i mean this is someone who was planing to spend a lifetime with u. The fact that her cousin called to tell u she cheated should not make u jump the gun immediately. My advice, try every other means to get in touch with her, let her tell u herself why she decided to not go for the interview or to marry u either. I think this will give u a more formal sense of closure and then u may go ahead and withdraw the petition if u so chooses. Good luck to you.

[Whyus0heartless 0]

I met her through a coworker of mine, it was her niece. We started talking on the phone, chat, skype, etc.. Eventually i decided to meet her. I got the chance to get to know her more when i stayed there for a month, came back to the states and we continued talking, and i decided to go back in january to propose to her..which she said yes and we both decided to work on her petition so we can be together, and everything was going along well until the day of interview, she never showed up and no calls from her as in no communication.. Even her family didnt know wat was going on..and so i just gave up trying to get a hold of her, i wanted to go and see her, but work has really made it hard for me to leave and find out the truth.

[Whyus0heartless 0]

I still dont want to jump to conclusion and believe her cousin, but i will try talking to her again, i'm just left hanging right now..i wish she would just call or write and just tell me its over..