I NEED ADVISE ON WHAT TO DO

[Tiffaniat 2]

Hey guys, im in problems and need advise from all of you.

Im here on a Conditional Residence Card, been married for seven months full of pain and agony. My husband is just too much and i cant take it any more. He abuses me, calling me all sorts of words, embarrasses me. I was applying for jobs and happened to get an interview, my husband told them that i cannot make it for the interview and that i dont need the job. I dont have my own cellphone so i use his. I talked to him about getting a drivers licence and he told me that he doesnt have time for that. And that i dont need the licence coz my work is to sit at home cook, clean and do stuff for him. He doesnt give me any money. He doesnt even take me to hospital when im sick. I feel that this is becoming too much for me to handle, my heart cant take it anymore. I have done my best, give it my best and its just not working. Anytime i try and talk about things like what we can do to make our future better, he tells me that everthing i say its bullshit. This hurts so bad. I do my best not to urgue with him, so i just cry and cry to let it all out. But now im done crying coz its too much and i dont know what he will do next.

My questions are can i still remove my conditions alone? What will i need to do? I also dont have a lot of evidence coz he would not add me to his bills and stuff. I just have some but not all that is required. He told me that he wants a divorce, i was shocked i didnt expect it. Then we live in a very small village such, and its only me and him, our neighbours are like 1.5 miles away and he would not let me talk to anyone at all. He doesnt have friends. I talked to his sister once and she told me that he is just bad, even the family doesnt stand him. He treats them so bad they dont like him. Im just stressed coz i know its hard to prove emotional abuse. Please help me good people. I just need advice. Thanks and God bless.

[murid2010 6]

Sorry to hear you story.

You may be able to lift your condition on your green card by applying for a waiver I-751. You can download this form at wwww.uscis.gov/forms.

However, you must prove to USCIS that you entered the marriage in good faith. Since you don't have joint bills, you can use rental lease, affidavits from his sister if possible, mails you receive at your common residence. Applying for waiver will be more easier than applying for abuse. You can only write your own notarized statement about your marriage.

[Brother Hesekiel 2,235]

From your description it sounds like your husband imported himself a wife that does what he wants her to do, exclusively for him.

What country are you from and how did you enter the US?

[Harsh_77 716]

Hey guys, im in problems and need advise from all of you.

Im here on a Conditional Residence Card, been married for seven months full of pain and agony. My husband is just too much and i cant take it any more. He abuses me, calling me all sorts of words, embarrasses me. I was applying for jobs and happened to get an interview, my husband told them that i cannot make it for the interview and that i dont need the job. I dont have my own cellphone so i use his. I talked to him about getting a drivers licence and he told me that he doesnt have time for that. And that i dont need the licence coz my work is to sit at home cook, clean and do stuff for him. He doesnt give me any money. He doesnt even take me to hospital when im sick. I feel that this is becoming too much for me to handle, my heart cant take it anymore. I have done my best, give it my best and its just not working. Anytime i try and talk about things like what we can do to make our future better, he tells me that everthing i say its bullshit. This hurts so bad. I do my best not to urgue with him, so i just cry and cry to let it all out. But now im done crying coz its too much and i dont know what he will do next.

My questions are can i still remove my conditions alone? What will i need to do? I also dont have a lot of evidence coz he would not add me to his bills and stuff. I just have some but not all that is required. He told me that he wants a divorce, i was shocked i didnt expect it. Then we live in a very small village such, and its only me and him, our neighbours are like 1.5 miles away and he would not let me talk to anyone at all. He doesnt have friends. I talked to his sister once and she told me that he is just bad, even the family doesnt stand him. He treats them so bad they dont like him. Im just stressed coz i know its hard to prove emotional abuse. Please help me good people. I just need advice. Thanks and God bless.

Were you not aware of this before you got married?

How could this have passed by your for many months that you guys were enagaged or married before you moved to US?

[rlogan 2,036]

First of all, divorce him. Life is not worth all the pain. Second of all, you can apply for removal of conditions on your own despite the divorce. The marriage just has to have been entered into in good faith.

[rodceasar 34]

Leave him, start over without him and apply for removal of conditions on your own. Document as much as possible. Good luck and am sorry for your experience!

[Tiffaniat 2]

From your description it sounds like your husband imported himself a wife that does what he wants her to do, exclusively for him.

What country are you from and how did you enter the US?

I feel the same too and it gets worse everyday, and he thinks that there is nothing i can do about it since i dont have a place to go to.

I came here on a K1 Visa. Im from Uganda.

[Tiffaniat 2]

Were you not aware of this before you got married?

How could this have passed by your for many months that you guys were enagaged or married before you moved to US?

He visited me in my country and we got engaged. We only lived together for one month when he was in my home country and he was nottreating me bad. Things chaged when i came here and we got married. If i was aware he would do this i would not have married him!

[Tiffaniat 2]

Sorry to hear you story.

You may be able to lift your condition on your green card by applying for a waiver I-751. You can download this form at wwww.uscis.gov/forms.

However, you must prove to USCIS that you entered the marriage in good faith. Since you don't have joint bills, you can use rental lease, affidavits from his sister if possible, mails you receive at your common residence. Applying for waiver will be more easier than applying for abuse. You can only write your own notarized statement about your marriage.

Thanks for your reply, i will do my best and collect as much evidence as possible.

Thanks for all your replies.

[TracyTN 237]

Just curious - if you have no job prospects, can't drive and have no friends or family here - why do you wish to stay in the US? Is returning home just not an option for you for some reason?

[Tiffaniat 2]

Just curious - if you have no job prospects, can't drive and have no friends or family here - why do you wish to stay in the US? Is returning home just not an option for you for some reason?

Oh yes i have job prospects. I am a Nurse and i also have my CPA. So yes, i can get these jobs all over. I can drive, but i dont have a US driver's licence and i do have friends all over the US. I just wanted to work on my marriage. Also returning home is an option too but im not ready for that right now since i still have other options here

[simel1110 4]

Oh yes i have job prospects. I am a Nurse and i also have my CPA. So yes, i can get these jobs all over. I can drive, but i dont have a US driver's licence and i do have friends all over the US. I just wanted to work on my marriage. Also returning home is an option too but im not ready for that right now since i still have other options here

So you do have prospects but you're just being held back by a controlling husband. Get your license and a job, and divorce him. He's abusive. I'd go to your DMV asap and get your license. Here in PA my husband had to submit a lease (proof of residence, one utility bill in his name and his green card. I signed that he lived here anyhow so that wasn't really needed, but we wanted to be sure. I'm guessing your husband isn't going to sign for you if your state needs proof of residency. But you can google your state and see the requirements for applying.

I know since is from the UK they made him get a permit first and then do the driver's test.

[shefellfromheaven 18]

I'm sorry you are going through so much pain. What part of the country are you residing?

Edited May 23, 2011 by shefellfromheaven

[Married2009 32]

Look thru your phonebook, and see if there is a number for Center for battered women. You can call them, or the police, and they will take you to a shelter. I am not sure how long you are allowed to stay there, but it will get you out of your husband's house. (I went to one almost 30 years ago, so my info might be outdated).