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Experience of cold feet before interview?

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I am hesitant to post but I will and not really wanting to go into too much details.

I am curious to hear other couples experiences of what I think "cold feet" before interview?

Maybe not necessarily dressed in those exact words but in broad terms re: anxiety about leaving once country, immediate family, elderly parent, trusting one can take care of them once far apart or sort of maybe being at spouses mercy once here, and coming here to US (maybe it seems so permanent?) resulting in irrational behaviour. How have you solved it , what ended up happening?

I am the petitioner, now also anxious, it has taken a year for this long torterous visa process and we are so close.

Expecially those Ethiopian, I would very much appreciate to hear your perspectives.

Also any inside on delaying interview date?

Thanks.

Edited by Meskal

Beautiful Ethiopia:

USCIS

I 130 sent 5/22/10

I 130 receipt- NOA1 5/28/10

touched 6/1/10

NOA2 10/25/10 (150 days)

NVC

NVC # 11/10/2010 (got through 11/15/2010)

DS 3032 emailed 11/15/2010

IID issued 11/17/2010

AOS fee paid 11/18/2010

DS3032 mailed 11/18/2010

AOS fee accepted 11/19/2010

hardcopy for IIN received 11/18/2010

AOS package sent 11/20/2010

AOS package received at NVC 11/23/2010

DS 3032 received 11/24/2010 per operator('received' per NVC email 11/29/10)

IV Bill generated 11/29/2010 (email notice 11/30/2010)

IV Bill paid 12/02/2010 -accepted 12/4/2010 by NVC

IV documents sent 12/15/2010 (mail trouble)

IV docs received 12/20/2010 NVC signed receipt (12/23/10 per system response)

SIF 01/10/2011

case complete 01/11/2011 (63 days from case#)

EMBASSY

INTERVIEW DATE 5/3/2011 (yes... 4 months from CC ???!!!)

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I think you need to pray about it...You will be fine it really isnt all that bad here..... :blink:


November 5, 2010 Interview 7am APPROVED!!!!!! (6months 4weeks 1day) THANK YOU LORD!!!!!

(look at my about me page in my profile if you want to see my entire k1 journey)

AOS Journey:

Feb.4, 2011 Mailed AOS packet

Feb. 7, 2011 Pkt delivered in Chicago

Feb. 10, 2011 Received txt and email of NOA for AOS, EAD, and AP

Feb. 11, 2011 Check cashed for AOS

Feb. 12, 2011 Touched

Feb. 14, 2011 received hard copy of NOA for AOS, EAD& AP

Feb. 18, 2011 received appt letter for biometrics

Feb. 28, 2011 biometrics appt @10am

Feb. 28, 2011 received txt/email AOS case transferred to csc

Mar 1, 2011 AOS Touched

Mar 3, 2011 received hard copy of AOS transfer to csc

Mar 4, 2011 AOS Touched

Mar 28, 2011 Received txt/email saying card production has been ordered. (1month 3eeks 3days)

Mar 28, 2011 Received 2nd txt/email saying we have registered this customer permanent residence status

Mar 29, 2011 Received 3rd txt/email says card production has been ordered.

April 1, 2011 greencard and welcome letter in hand!!

April 5, 2011 received txt/email EAD card production ordered

Will Start Removing Conditions Dec 2012!!!!

Dec. 26, 2012 mailed ROC paperwork

Dec. 28, 2012 NOA for ROC paperwork

Jan. 7, 2013 received bio appt letter

Jan. 24, 2013 bio appt.

June 22, 2013 10yr green card received

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My wife got rejected at our first interview K1, though she didn't tell me until after she successfully passed her CR1 interview, she wanted to just walk away the day before interview and go back home. She had no desire to end our relationship but she was scared to death of the interview the day before and really really did not want to go because of the fear of rejection.

The interview process is hard on the nerves, I was waiting outside the consulate for 4 hours at that second interview and that 4 hours was the worst of my life. Several times I would have sworn my watch was turning backwards.

The one thing about the nerves, the stress and everything that goes into the entire process........

That moment in time when she walked out of consulate and I looked at her face, the smile and the look in her eyes I will never forget. Life has been great ever since that moment.

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I am a US Citizen, but I think that leaving your country that you have known your whole life has to be very difficult and stressful. My husband is very family oriented and it took a long time for him to get used to not having family around. Your spouse sounds like he is stressed out about moving to a new country and his new life. All of it is completely unknown to him and he may have an concept of life in the US that is not true. (example negative sterotypes) I think that is completely normal and it will take some time for him to get over it. Of course, there are things you can do to help him with adjusting, example set up a phone plan through google voice or vonage where he can call home whenever he wants, setup a plan to help him takecare of his elderly parents, find him activities to keep him busy, help him make friends when he is here. Really listen to his concerns and make a plan for how you can help. Hope that helps! Good luck on the interview! :thumbs:


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USCIS *CR-1 Visa*

2008-07-26 : I-130 Sent

2009-04-02 : Interview at Embassy in Lima, Peru Approved

2009-04-08 : POE Atlanta (256 days from sending I-130)

USCIS *Removal of Conditions*

2011-02-28 : Mailed I-751

2011-03-02 : USPS Delivery Confirmation

2011-03-10 : Check Cashed

2011-03-11 : Touched

2011-03-25 : USCIS confirmed they did not mail NOA 1, given case number

2011-04-05 : Infopass appointment passport stamped with I-551

2011-04-19 : Walk in Biometrics completed (2 weeks early)

2011-05-03 : Biometrics appointment (3 year anniversary)

2011-08-25 : Approved

2011-08-31 : Card in hand (184 days after sending I-751)

*Application for Naturalization*

2012-03-24 : Mailed N-400

2012-03-26 : NOA1

2012-03-29 : Check Cashed

2012-05-14 : Biometrics Appointment

2012-06-04 : Interview Letter

2012-07-09 : Interview in Raleigh, NC (Passed)

2012-07-20 : Oath Ceremony (119 days after sending N-400)

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(I am sort of gasping for air as I am afraid my husband is panicking to a point that he will not go to the interview...)


Beautiful Ethiopia:

USCIS

I 130 sent 5/22/10

I 130 receipt- NOA1 5/28/10

touched 6/1/10

NOA2 10/25/10 (150 days)

NVC

NVC # 11/10/2010 (got through 11/15/2010)

DS 3032 emailed 11/15/2010

IID issued 11/17/2010

AOS fee paid 11/18/2010

DS3032 mailed 11/18/2010

AOS fee accepted 11/19/2010

hardcopy for IIN received 11/18/2010

AOS package sent 11/20/2010

AOS package received at NVC 11/23/2010

DS 3032 received 11/24/2010 per operator('received' per NVC email 11/29/10)

IV Bill generated 11/29/2010 (email notice 11/30/2010)

IV Bill paid 12/02/2010 -accepted 12/4/2010 by NVC

IV documents sent 12/15/2010 (mail trouble)

IV docs received 12/20/2010 NVC signed receipt (12/23/10 per system response)

SIF 01/10/2011

case complete 01/11/2011 (63 days from case#)

EMBASSY

INTERVIEW DATE 5/3/2011 (yes... 4 months from CC ???!!!)

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It's tough! My wife moved with me to the UK, and after 12 months, decided she hated it, and took her old job back in the US. I'm now trying to move to the US to be with her. I'm afraid if I hate it, we will have no where to live!

Immigrating is tough, and really tests your marriage! Good luck, and congratulations on making it THIS far!

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(I am sort of gasping for air as I am afraid my husband is panicking to a point that he will not go to the interview...)

Pretty normal. It can be a really scarry thing for someone to go to be interviewed about their marriage and to know their future rides on the decision of this one officer. My husband was very nervous and could not sleep the entire night before the interview. He was sure he wouldn't get the visa. Luckily I was there to go with him to the interview and to try to calm him.

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USCIS *CR-1 Visa*

2008-07-26 : I-130 Sent

2009-04-02 : Interview at Embassy in Lima, Peru Approved

2009-04-08 : POE Atlanta (256 days from sending I-130)

USCIS *Removal of Conditions*

2011-02-28 : Mailed I-751

2011-03-02 : USPS Delivery Confirmation

2011-03-10 : Check Cashed

2011-03-11 : Touched

2011-03-25 : USCIS confirmed they did not mail NOA 1, given case number

2011-04-05 : Infopass appointment passport stamped with I-551

2011-04-19 : Walk in Biometrics completed (2 weeks early)

2011-05-03 : Biometrics appointment (3 year anniversary)

2011-08-25 : Approved

2011-08-31 : Card in hand (184 days after sending I-751)

*Application for Naturalization*

2012-03-24 : Mailed N-400

2012-03-26 : NOA1

2012-03-29 : Check Cashed

2012-05-14 : Biometrics Appointment

2012-06-04 : Interview Letter

2012-07-09 : Interview in Raleigh, NC (Passed)

2012-07-20 : Oath Ceremony (119 days after sending N-400)

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My wife got rejected at our first interview K1, though she didn't tell me until after she successfully passed her CR1 interview, she wanted to just walk away the day before interview and go back home. She had no desire to end our relationship but she was scared to death of the interview the day before and really really did not want to go because of the fear of rejection.

The interview process is hard on the nerves, I was waiting outside the consulate for 4 hours at that second interview and that 4 hours was the worst of my life. Several times I would have sworn my watch was turning backwards.

The one thing about the nerves, the stress and everything that goes into the entire process........

That moment in time when she walked out of consulate and I looked at her face, the smile and the look in her eyes I will never forget. Life has been great ever since that moment.

This just gave me goosebumps!

We too were denied our K1 and I tell you, mustering up the strength to go through this immigration process again was not easy.

But, I so love my husband that I would do it all over if it means we will some day be together. (L)

Meskal, I pray for strength for you and your husband, and that all turns out okay.

You are almost there!! (F)

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