Experience of cold feet before interview?

[Meskal 0]

I am hesitant to post but I will and not really wanting to go into too much details.

I am curious to hear other couples experiences of what I think "cold feet" before interview?

Maybe not necessarily dressed in those exact words but in broad terms re: anxiety about leaving once country, immediate family, elderly parent, trusting one can take care of them once far apart or sort of maybe being at spouses mercy once here, and coming here to US (maybe it seems so permanent?) resulting in irrational behaviour. How have you solved it , what ended up happening?

I am the petitioner, now also anxious, it has taken a year for this long torterous visa process and we are so close.

Expecially those Ethiopian, I would very much appreciate to hear your perspectives.

Also any inside on delaying interview date?

Thanks.

Edited April 25, 2011 by Meskal

[patient2010 93]

I think you need to pray about it...You will be fine it really isnt all that bad here.....

[Azzudiin 26]

My wife got rejected at our first interview K1, though she didn't tell me until after she successfully passed her CR1 interview, she wanted to just walk away the day before interview and go back home. She had no desire to end our relationship but she was scared to death of the interview the day before and really really did not want to go because of the fear of rejection.

The interview process is hard on the nerves, I was waiting outside the consulate for 4 hours at that second interview and that 4 hours was the worst of my life. Several times I would have sworn my watch was turning backwards.

The one thing about the nerves, the stress and everything that goes into the entire process........

That moment in time when she walked out of consulate and I looked at her face, the smile and the look in her eyes I will never forget. Life has been great ever since that moment.

[Peter&Jaime 1]

I am a US Citizen, but I think that leaving your country that you have known your whole life has to be very difficult and stressful. My husband is very family oriented and it took a long time for him to get used to not having family around. Your spouse sounds like he is stressed out about moving to a new country and his new life. All of it is completely unknown to him and he may have an concept of life in the US that is not true. (example negative sterotypes) I think that is completely normal and it will take some time for him to get over it. Of course, there are things you can do to help him with adjusting, example set up a phone plan through google voice or vonage where he can call home whenever he wants, setup a plan to help him takecare of his elderly parents, find him activities to keep him busy, help him make friends when he is here. Really listen to his concerns and make a plan for how you can help. Hope that helps! Good luck on the interview!

[Meskal 0]

(I am sort of gasping for air as I am afraid my husband is panicking to a point that he will not go to the interview...)

[britboy2011 0]

It's tough! My wife moved with me to the UK, and after 12 months, decided she hated it, and took her old job back in the US. I'm now trying to move to the US to be with her. I'm afraid if I hate it, we will have no where to live!

Immigrating is tough, and really tests your marriage! Good luck, and congratulations on making it THIS far!

[J e n n y 26]

(I am sort of gasping for air as I am afraid my husband is panicking to a point that he will not go to the interview...)

When you get to the place where you would worry, stop and pray.

[Peter&Jaime 1]

(I am sort of gasping for air as I am afraid my husband is panicking to a point that he will not go to the interview...)

Pretty normal. It can be a really scarry thing for someone to go to be interviewed about their marriage and to know their future rides on the decision of this one officer. My husband was very nervous and could not sleep the entire night before the interview. He was sure he wouldn't get the visa. Luckily I was there to go with him to the interview and to try to calm him.

Edited April 25, 2011 by Peter'n'Jaime

[JAPrincess 27]

My wife got rejected at our first interview K1, though she didn't tell me until after she successfully passed her CR1 interview, she wanted to just walk away the day before interview and go back home. She had no desire to end our relationship but she was scared to death of the interview the day before and really really did not want to go because of the fear of rejection.

The interview process is hard on the nerves, I was waiting outside the consulate for 4 hours at that second interview and that 4 hours was the worst of my life. Several times I would have sworn my watch was turning backwards.

The one thing about the nerves, the stress and everything that goes into the entire process........

That moment in time when she walked out of consulate and I looked at her face, the smile and the look in her eyes I will never forget. Life has been great ever since that moment.

This just gave me goosebumps!

We too were denied our K1 and I tell you, mustering up the strength to go through this immigration process again was not easy.

But, I so love my husband that I would do it all over if it means we will some day be together.

Meskal, I pray for strength for you and your husband, and that all turns out okay.

You are almost there!!