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How Bedbugs Can Ruin Your Relationship

The little critters known as bedbugs are infesting beds and relationships across the country. Here's how to sleep together safely (and insect-free).

By Elise Nersesian-Solé

We already know bedbugs have become an epidemic," says Jody Gangloff-Kaufmann, Ph.D., an entomologist at Cornell University. "But now we're seeing bedbugs threaten romance. You basically double your odds of an infestation when you start dating someone." Here's how to handle it:

Can I prescreen a guy for bedbugs? Yes. If you know his home address or even what area he lives in, visit the Bedbug Registry (bedbugregistry.com) for a list of infested homes and neighborhoods.

Can I tell upon sight that he has bedbugs? People tend to look for the typical bite pattern (three red circles dubbed "breakfast, lunch, and dinner" after bedbugs' feeding habits), but you're better off scanning his skin for a rash. Bedbugs inject you with an anesthetic so you can't feel anything, then they probe again, to draw your blood. And red blotches on the skin are often an allergic reaction to the anesthetic. Make a point to check out his arms, face, backs of hands, and neck.

Any date ideas in bug-free zones? Avoid the theater. Bedbugs love to hide in plush furniture. And although people think they come out only in the dark, the truth is, bedbugs don't care what time it is as long as they're hungry. Opt for ice-skating, bars without padded booths, or museums.

How can I subtly inspect his apartment? Look up at the ceiling. Bedbugs often congregate in a big group where the wall and ceiling meet, waiting to drop on a prospective meal from above. And since adults are the size of apple seeds, they're visible even from the ground. Also, look at the electrical outlets and light-switch plates for a lovely black-and-brown combo (fecal matter). And finally, breathe deep. Bedbugs emit a rotten raspberry scent.

Is it rude to directly ask if he has bedbugs? Just like any other vital info (are you normal? Are you sleeping with anyone else? Do you have an STD?), knowing his bedbug status is simply your right.

If he has them, is sleeping together off-limits? At his place, yes. But as long as his clothes have been thoroughly sanitized, it's OK to bring him home with you.

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"...for the system to be credible, people actually have to be deported at the end of the process."

US Congresswoman Barbara Jordan (D-TX)

Testimony to the House Immigration Subcommittee, February 24, 1995

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Is this what dating etiquette has come to in 21st century America? YIKES!

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"Credibility in immigration policy can be summed up in one sentence: Those who should get in, get in; those who should be kept out, are kept out; and those who should not be here will be required to leave."

"...for the system to be credible, people actually have to be deported at the end of the process."

US Congresswoman Barbara Jordan (D-TX)

Testimony to the House Immigration Subcommittee, February 24, 1995

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I'm pretty sure it's easier to get rid of crotch crickets than bedbugs. Plus, you get to use that cute little comb (I've heard).


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It's impolite to talk about such things in pubic, si man.


06-04-2007 = TSC stamps postal return-receipt for I-129f.

06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

07-20-2007 = Phoned Immigration Officer; got WAC#; where's NOA1?

09-25-2007 = Touch (first-ever).

09-28-2007 = NOA1, 23 days after their 45-day promise to send it (grrrr).

10-20 & 11-14-2007 = Phoned ImmOffs; "still pending."

12-11-2007 = 180 days; file is "between workstations, may be early Jan."; touches 12/11 & 12/12.

12-18-2007 = Call; file is with Division 9 ofcr. (bckgrnd check); e-prompt to shake it; touch.

12-19-2007 = NOA2 by e-mail & web, dated 12-18-07 (187 days; 201 per VJ); in mail 12/24/07.

01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

01-23-2008 = Consulate gets file; outdated Packet 4 mailed to fiancee 1/27/08; rec'd 3/3/08.

04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

05-05-2008 = Infuriating $12 call to non-English-speaking consulate appointment-setter.

05-06-2008 = Better $12 call to English-speaker; "joint" interview date 6/30/08 (my selection).

06-30-2008 = Stokes Interrogations w/Ecuadorian (not USC); "wait 2 weeks; we'll mail her."

07-2008 = Daily calls to DOS: "currently processing"; 8/05 = Phoned consulate, got Section Chief; wrote him.

08-07-08 = E-mail from consulate, promising to issue visa "as soon as we get her passport" (on 8/12, per DHL).

08-27-08 = Phoned consulate (they "couldn't find" our file); visa DHL'd 8/28; in hand 9/1; through POE on 10/9 with NO hassles(!).

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