Over - Whelming sense of jealousy!!

[Lucy NY 1]

Just thought I would post to ask if anybody else gets the over- whelming sense of jealousy from other couples? My good friend has just announced she is pregnant and I am so happy for her but also i look at them both and they are so happy and im jealous that they get to be together and that i dont even get to see my OH on a regular basis.

Everytime I see a couple wandering together, or having dinner together, I just wasnt to shout at them do u know how lucky you are!! I also have that horrible jealousy feeling.

Today is also the day that I was due to move to NY on a year traineeship programme, i pulled out as the K1 was a longer term investment and the trainee programme I would of been subject too a home residency agreement. Looking at all my class mates leaving at the airport to go and be there and I am still stuck here.

What an emotional roller-coaster this stuff is!!

[Canadiandggal 49]

Yes I think a lot of people do get "that Feeling" from time to time, You have to remember what you are going through and how your feelings are totally normal. You must also remember that one day you will be "that Couple", you will have dinner together,movies and make people like us jealous! The journey is always worth the end result. I have had moments where I feel that exact way as though it is unfair that people get to just Be together and we don't. How some people seem to think this is such an easy process and how people always forget how lucky they are to be with that one person! I cannot wait to be "home" for good and I truly hope that your journey through this will come an end soon! Good luck

[candn 17]

I sometimes feel jealous at those that get processed so quickly while the rest of us are sitting in limbo. I am about to have surgery soon and my fiance is not here with me. The best we can do is webcam one another daily. When he goes to his friends weddings he says he feels down seeing everyone paired off and we can't even as much as touch one another. Although, I am happy for those who have made it through the process, I sometimes get upset. I have thought about leaving VJ a few times because I get so emotional with the wait especially when the VSC is moving 20+ days faster than the CSC (which seems to be at a standstill).

[Lucy NY 1]

I sometimes feel jealous at those that get processed so quickly while the rest of us are sitting in limbo. I am about to have surgery soon and my fiance is not here with me. The best we can do is webcam one another daily. When he goes to his friends weddings he says he feels down seeing everyone paired off and we can't even as much as touch one another. Although, I am happy for those who have made it through the process, I sometimes get upset. I have thought about leaving VJ a few times because I get so emotional with the wait especially when the VSC is moving 20+ days faster than the CSC (which seems to be at a standstill).

We have the same timeline an if its any consulation, I am waiting from Vermont. Nothing seems to be moving!!

[Amyyduck 20]

Lisa,

I just realized, your timeline says NOA1 8/17/10 but your signature says 7/17/10. Which is it?

Also I totally do this jealous thing all the time. The absolute worst of it though is when you've just left each other at the airport. Airports are really hard places for me now. They either represent the absolute gut wrenching heartbreak of saying goodbye or the amazing ecstatically happy feeling of seeing my fiance for the first time in however many days I had to wait between visits. It's really incredibly difficult not to cry when I've just said goodbye to Chris for who knows how long only to get on the train and be stuck sitting across from some disgustingly happy PDA couple. It makes me crazy.

It also makes me sad when my friends who are in regular relationships complain about how their partner did XYZ and it made them mad and blah blah blah when I'm sitting by myself in my house wishing DESPERATELY that my fiance was around just so I could get irritated at him for snoring or forgetting to put the toilet seat down or whatever! I'm hoping I'll be able to remember that feeling after we get married when I finally do have the chance to get irritated about stupid stuff like that. Its like they say you never appreciate what you have until its gone, but we've got it sort of backwards. We'll all really appreciate what we have (when we finally have it) because we know what its like to not have it!

[Lucy NY 1]

Lisa,

I just realized, your timeline says NOA1 8/17/10 but your signature says 7/17/10. Which is it?

Also I totally do this jealous thing all the time. The absolute worst of it though is when you've just left each other at the airport. Airports are really hard places for me now. They either represent the absolute gut wrenching heartbreak of saying goodbye or the amazing ecstatically happy feeling of seeing my fiance for the first time in however many days I had to wait between visits. It's really incredibly difficult not to cry when I've just said goodbye to Chris for who knows how long only to get on the train and be stuck sitting across from some disgustingly happy PDA couple. It makes me crazy.

It also makes me sad when my friends who are in regular relationships complain about how their partner did XYZ and it made them mad and blah blah blah when I'm sitting by myself in my house wishing DESPERATELY that my fiance was around just so I could get irritated at him for snoring or forgetting to put the toilet seat down or whatever! I'm hoping I'll be able to remember that feeling after we get married when I finally do have the chance to get irritated about stupid stuff like that. Its like they say you never appreciate what you have until its gone, but we've got it sort of backwards. We'll all really appreciate what we have (when we finally have it) because we know what its like to not have it!

Ooooh good spotting, my bad - its the 07/17/10 - not used to wrtiting the dates this way round lol!! Sorry - coming up to two months Hopeing for some news soon - i doubt it will be Sepetember!!

[Amyyduck 20]

Oh jeez ok good! I totally thought it took you over a month to get your NOA1 and i was like, what?!?! But that makes much more sense. You're probably right in that it won't be September, but I think you can reasonably think that you'll get your NOA2 in October. I'm looking out for mine in November so heres hoping!

[lucky Jimmy 7]

I dont like the waiting but I dont get jealous of other people.

[Utha 10]

I feel the same. Jealous to the couple that i met. It makes me miss my love so much. Can't wait tobe like them.

[♥Muslimqueen♥ 2]

I do i feel jealous that most my cousins are married and having babies and i have to keep waitting till he comes here to be able to start our family and have kids. we both want kids realy bad. and being forced to wait is hell.

I also get jealous when i see couples walking holding hand and i get so annyoed with couples are like "OMG! like what am i gonna do i cant see my BF this weekend its not fair!!!!" im like oh yah i have not been able to see my husband in a year and a half and still dont know when he will be able to get here hows that for unfair?

[magdasal 19]

Just thought I would post to ask if anybody else gets the over- whelming sense of jealousy from other couples? My good friend has just announced she is pregnant and I am so happy for her but also i look at them both and they are so happy and im jealous that they get to be together and that i dont even get to see my OH on a regular basis.

Everytime I see a couple wandering together, or having dinner together, I just wasnt to shout at them do u know how lucky you are!! I also have that horrible jealousy feeling.

Today is also the day that I was due to move to NY on a year traineeship programme, i pulled out as the K1 was a longer term investment and the trainee programme I would of been subject too a home residency agreement. Looking at all my class mates leaving at the airport to go and be there and I am still stuck here.

What an emotional roller-coaster this stuff is!!

It's a tough road, for sure. Only 2 things to consider on the 'plus' side here...1) Over the course of your happy lives together, this will be a short blip in the timeline and 2) Having to wait and be apart like this will make your time together that much sweeter. The day you get approved will be one of the greatest high moments of your life...and most people don't get to experience that. Also, during the ups and downs of your married life, you can look back on this and remember what it was like to be apart from your special one...and it is good to have that.

Good luck and your time will come sooner than you think.

[Max1gk 68]

More then feeling jealous,It personally pisses me off when I see couples complaining because maybe for few weeks or few months they have to live like 50 miles apart...It makes me wanna tell them off really badly. I agree with Amyduck about airports..in less then an year when finally me and my girlfriend will get married,I don't want to see anymore a webcam and the airport for a while; she even said she want to buy a laptop specifically without a webcam LOL

[Davis1 1]

Just thought I would post to ask if anybody else gets the over- whelming sense of jealousy from other couples? My good friend has just announced she is pregnant and I am so happy for her but also i look at them both and they are so happy and im jealous that they get to be together and that i dont even get to see my OH on a regular basis.

Everytime I see a couple wandering together, or having dinner together, I just wasnt to shout at them do u know how lucky you are!! I also have that horrible jealousy feeling.

Today is also the day that I was due to move to NY on a year traineeship programme, i pulled out as the K1 was a longer term investment and the trainee programme I would of been subject too a home residency agreement. Looking at all my class mates leaving at the airport to go and be there and I am still stuck here.

What an emotional roller-coaster this stuff is!!

Oh ofcourse....Jealousy is human Nature...!!!!

[Utha 10]

Lisa,

I just realized, your timeline says NOA1 8/17/10 but your signature says 7/17/10. Which is it?

Also I totally do this jealous thing all the time. The absolute worst of it though is when you've just left each other at the airport. Airports are really hard places for me now. They either represent the absolute gut wrenching heartbreak of saying goodbye or the amazing ecstatically happy feeling of seeing my fiance for the first time in however many days I had to wait between visits. It's really incredibly difficult not to cry when I've just said goodbye to Chris for who knows how long only to get on the train and be stuck sitting across from some disgustingly happy PDA couple. It makes me crazy.

It also makes me sad when my friends who are in regular relationships complain about how their partner did XYZ and it made them mad and blah blah blah when I'm sitting by myself in my house wishing DESPERATELY that my fiance was around just so I could get irritated at him for snoring or forgetting to put the toilet seat down or whatever! I'm hoping I'll be able to remember that feeling after we get married when I finally do have the chance to get irritated about stupid stuff like that. Its like they say you never appreciate what you have until its gone, but we've got it sort of backwards. We'll all really appreciate what we have (when we finally have it) because we know what its like to not have it!

Your words make me cry. It is exactly the same like what i feel everytime i must let him go in airport.

[jrmejia 31]

I don't feel the jealous. I just feel happy for them.

I dont like the waiting but I dont get jealous of other people.

Same here. I just let them be happy. Yes I want to be with my baby but the jealous part never cross my mind.