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Do people Frack for Fun now?

Naah, never happen.

[elmcitymaven 9,711]

This is an interesting and timely discussion for me to take part in. I am currently seeing a man who is in a very long-term relationship with his wife (closing in on 20 years) -- they have not been monogamous for quite a while. They are happy for the other partner to take lovers (HATE that word); he does more frequently than she. For them, this works because the nature of their relationship has changed over the many years they have been together. Their marriage is not so much about sex but companionship.

Right now, I am the "other woman", but with the express consent of his wife. Personally, I never thought I would be in this situation. Part of the reason my marriage disintegrated was because I was cheated on; how I hated the girl he was seeing. But this is something different -- when all parties consent (unlike when I was cheated on), it is not cheating at all. It is more akin to being a long-term mistress who is considered to be part of another functional relationship. I'm not being hidden away, or forced to move in the shadows. I am part of his life. At the moment, I am okay with this because I don't feel like I want to be monogamous at all myself, and there is room for me to see other men if I wish. As soon as I feel that I am uncomfortable with any of this, or that I want to be monogamous, I will move on. He has said that he always loses his mistresses to monogamy; there is this feeling of doom that looms over us, that this is inevitable for me, too.

But to the question, how much value do I place on sexual exclusivity? When I was beginning my sexual career (ahem), very little. I was greedy for experience, and took whatever I wanted. I have no regrets -- I learned what I like, how I like it done, and what sort of person should be doing it. I settled down early (22) and was a faithful wife to both of my husbands. Now at 30-something, I am not so sure how much value I place on it again. I am not convinced that at this moment I want to be giving all of myself to one person. I believe that my mind and body can be nurtured by more than one person at once -- at this time. I fully expect that some day, probably soon, I will get sick of this and be monogamous again. Probably when I meet someone who CAN fulfill my needs again.

Edited July 27, 2010 by elmcitymaven

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

[spookyturtle 9,465]

What's the difference between kinky and perverted?

Kinky is when you use a feather, perverted is when you use the whole chicken.

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What's the difference between kinky and perverted?

Kinky is when you use a feather, perverted is when you use the whole chicken.

This thread sucks. Who wants to help me hijack it?

Edited July 27, 2010 by Legacy member

[elmcitymaven 9,711]

What's the difference between kinky and perverted?

Kinky is when you use a feather, perverted is when you use the whole chicken.

True, but do you find non-monogamous relationships inherently perverted?

This thread sucks. Who wants to help me hijack it?

Naff off. I just spilled my guts and you want to derail it?

Okay, I'm in.

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Okay, I'm in.

Good. Ok so where do we start?

I think #### should help too. Seeing how he wants it to stop.

Come out of hiding, old man. Your skills are needed.

[elmcitymaven 9,711]

Good. Ok so where do we start?

I think #### should help too. Seeing how he wants it to stop.

We can talk about CHOICE. That's always a nice one.

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As long as its non sexual CHOICE. As long as we talk about sex, the risk remains of Madame Cleo bringing her thread back to topic. That can not be allowed.

I'd like to discuss non traditional career CHOICEs. Who here has had a non traditional career path? If you haven't, make one up!

[Peikko 1,575]

Some people are just not comfortable discussing adult subjects

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Some people are just not comfortable discussing adult subjects

Yes, that's it. Thank you. Please abandon any further attempts to bring this thread back to topic. May we achieve victory without even firing a shot. Are you French or something?

[Peikko 1,575]

Yes, that's it. Thank you. Please abandon any further attempts to bring this thread back to topic. May we achieve victory without even firing a shot. Are you French or something?

My son used to think so - very odd.

[elmcitymaven 9,711]

Some people are just not comfortable discussing adult subjects

This is also true. It was kind of weird writing all of that just now, but better out than in. And now everyone knows I really AM the VJ ####### of Babylon, as was suspected.

[Captain Oates 910]

Wait a minute.... Who has sex outside of a relationship?

Do people Frack for Fun now?

Don't knock it til you have tried it

[Peikko 1,575]

Eww, that could be taken completely the WRONG way - please don't go there.