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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: England
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My boyfriend and I aren't officially engaged yet. The ring has been purchased but the proposal can't happen until next month when he comes to visit me. Tomorrow morning I'm flying home to California to announce the exciting news to my parents that we're getting engaged and starting the exciting but arduous K-1 process! Unfortunately my mom is severely disapproving of young marriage (we're both 22, will be 23 for the wedding)I think my Dad will be pretty excited, but I'm going to be completely heartbroken if my mom isn't supportive.

Any advice on the best way to tell them? They know I've know my SO since we were 10 and have been best friends since we were 15 or 16 (see my profile for the whole story) but I just don't think they see this coming! Help!!

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Jamaica
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Just come out and tell them, if they are happy for you great, if they arn't then to bad for them. It's your life you have to do whats right for you. Hope your journey is a good one, and don't let anything change your path. Good Luck.


09-21-2009 - Met for the first time

10-31-2009 - Visited for 5 days

12-30-2009 - visited for 11 days (informal engagement)

1-13-2010 - Mailed I129F Petition

1-15-2010 - Recieved NOA1

1-21-2010 - Touched

3-09-2010 - visiting for 6 days

3-12-2010 - Formal Engagement in Ochee

4-20-2010 - Recieved NOA2 (no previous touches)

4-22-2010 - NVC Recieved my Petition, Assigned New Case#

4-23-2010 - Case leaving NVC (have DHL tracking# so I can follow case to Kingston)

4-23-2010 - Recieved NOA2 (hard copy) in the mail

4-26-2010 - Kingston Embassy Recieved Petition (signed by Mr. Morgan)

4-25-2010 - visiting for 5 days

4-30-2010 - Kingston Embassy mailed out Packet# 3

5-3-2010 - E-Mailed Kingston Embassy DS-230

5-4-2010 - Embassy e-mailed interview date

5-26-2010 - Medical

6-6-2010 - Flying down for interview

6-8-2010 - INTERVIEW...APPROVED!!!!

6-23-2010 - VISA RECIEVED!!!

6-27-2010 - Flying down to Jamaica

06-30-2010 - POE (JFK)

09-25-2010 - WEDDING!!!

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Colombia
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My boyfriend and I aren't officially engaged yet. The ring has been purchased but the proposal can't happen until next month when he comes to visit me. Tomorrow morning I'm flying home to California to announce the exciting news to my parents that we're getting engaged and starting the exciting but arduous K-1 process! Unfortunately my mom is severely disapproving of young marriage (we're both 22, will be 23 for the wedding)I think my Dad will be pretty excited, but I'm going to be completely heartbroken if my mom isn't supportive.

Any advice on the best way to tell them? They know I've know my SO since we were 10 and have been best friends since we were 15 or 16 (see my profile for the whole story) but I just don't think they see this coming! Help!!

Just tell your parents your plan and let them know what your plans are. You are an adult and its your life to live and not your parents. I know how it feels not to have 100% support of your family but you have to do what you believe is best for yourself.

Id say go for it and dont worry about what your mother will say.


Blog: http://fianceek1visa.blogspot.com/

K1 Timeline:
Service Center : Vermont Service Center
Consulate : Bogota, Colombia
2009-12-26 : I-129F Sent
2009-12-28 : I-129F NOA1
2009-12-28 : I-129F NOA2
2010-04-02 : NVC Received
2010-04-05 : Consulate Received
2010-04-20 : Packet 3 Sent (via Fax)
2010-04-22 : Packet 3 Received by Consulate
2010-06-09 : Interview Date (APPROVED)
2010-06-24 : Visa Delivery (Via Domesa)
2010-07-01 : POE (Fort-Lauderdale)

2010-09-04 : Married !!!!

AOS Timeline
2010-09-11 : Packaged express mailed to Chicago Office:
2010-09-13 : Package delivered to USCIS Chicago
2010-09-20 : NOA1 via e-mail
2010-10-15 : Case Xfered to California Service Center
2010-12-01 : Inquiry made regarding delay of biometrics appointment letter
2010-12-15 : Received biometrics appointment letter (Scheduled for 2011-01-05)
2011-01-05 : Biometrics Appointment
2011-01-12 : Work Authorization Card Received
2011-01-26 : Two Year Green Card Received (Thank you VJ!!!!)

Us Citizen

May 2014

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Tell both of them when you are all together. Very often one parent is not happy about their child getting engaged, but life happens. Be sure to talk of your love and joy of being together and show lots of excitement. The shock will wear off and the reality will eventually start to settle in.

Most parents want what is best for their child, so they may have some misgivings about anyone, but possibly about your intended. You want to air any complaints now instead of letting them simmer.

I suspect that both of your parents will be okay with it as long as they know you and he will be able to support yourselves and have planned your futures together. I know this sounds like that pie in the sky talk, but that's what most parents want.

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I had quite the opposite reaction from my mom - she screamed and clapped and the whole bit when I told her, but I'm pretty sure it was because I'm pushing 35 and younger sisters were married off in their twenties. :lol:

Let us know how it went, Amyyduck! I'm cheering you on from the England portal!


THE JOHN (UK) AND CAMIE (US) SHOW

K-1

[*]I-129F Sent : 2009-02-19 [*]I-129F NOA1: 2009-02-23 [*]I-129F NOA2: 2009-03-23 [*]John's Medical: 2009-05-11 [*]John's INTERVIEW - APPROVED!!: 2009-06-08 [*]VISA ARRIVES!!: 2009-06-12 [*]Camie Goes to England : 2009-06-18 [*]Our POE : 2009-06-24 [*]Got married and went to Jack-in-the-Box : 2009-07-07

AOS

[*]AOS Package Sent: 2010-02-13 [*]AOS Package Delivered (per USPS): 2010-02-15 [*]USCIS Email Confirmation (WOO HOO!!): 2010-02-23 [*]AOS Fee Check Cashed: 2010-02-23 [*]USCIS Status Check Available Online: 2010-02-24 [*]I-485 NOA1 Received and touch : 2010-02-26 [*]I-765 NOA1 Received and touch : 2010-02-26 [*]Biometrics: 2010-03-18 (letter received 2010-03-08) [*]EAD CARD RECEIVED: 2010-05-06 [*]INTERVIEW: 2010-05-21 - APPROVED [*]RECEIVED GREEN CARD: 2010-06-17 - Lakers FTW, then off to Disneyland to celebrate!

ROC

[*]I-751 Package Sent: 2012-05-18 [*]I-751 Package Delivered (per USPS): 2012-05-19 [*]CSC Fee Check Cashed: 2012-06-06
[*]I-751 NOA1: 2012-06-07 (dated 2012-05-21)
[*]Biometrics: 2012-07-16 (letter received 2012-06-25) [*]RFE: 2013-01-18 (responded on 2013-04-08)
[*]I-751 APPROVED: 2013-04-25 (dated 2013-04-19)

[*]10-Year GC Received: 2013-06-17

Christopher Midian Chance - 7lbs., 5oz., born 11-19-14 :wub:

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What a great story! Seems like destiny has its workings (and by the way - the two of you make an adorbale couple hehe).

Just be straight up and tell them (I can sense the butterflies fluttering) ;)

Youth should not always be measured in age but in maturity as well. Sometimes mom just does not want to let go (dad's too). The best thing you can do is show that you have the maturity and responsibility to take care of lifes adventure and that you are prepared to move forward with your hopes and dreams.

I wish you both the very best!


6/15/2009 Filed I-129F

12/15/2009 Interview (HCMC, VN)

1/16/2010 POE Detroit

3/31/2010 MARRIED !!!

11/20/2010 Filed I-485

12/23/2010 Biometrics (Buffalo, NY)

12/31/2010 I-485 Transfered to CSC

2/4/2011 Green Card received

1/7/2013 Mailed I-751 package

1/14/2013 I-751 NOA (VSC)

2/07/2013 Biometrics (Buffalo, NY)

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: England
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@John and Camie and @Bernie C,

Thank you so much for the kind words, I went out to dinner tonight with my parents and my grandparents and finally made the announcement! After the initial "whoa, shock" and a couple of "this is a serious thing" and "are you sure you're sure?" type comments they seemed to be fully on board! Maybe not as excited as one would hope, but way better than I was expecting! I'm so happy! It feels amazing to get this weight off my shoulders and start the whole process for real! Because, of course, its not official until you tell your parents!

:D:D:D:D:D:D:D

Thanks for all your support! It really means a lot to me!! (L)

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Alright :thumbs:

Now its time to get to work :yes:

Study the guide and get very familiar with the process and you will do just fine. I get a sense that you have a good head on your shoulders so you should not have any trouble with the forms (of course you will have some questions).

Mentally prepare yourself becuase there is a lot of waiting that takes place in the process and it can be very frustrating at times.

Good Lick and Best Wishes on your journey!


6/15/2009 Filed I-129F

12/15/2009 Interview (HCMC, VN)

1/16/2010 POE Detroit

3/31/2010 MARRIED !!!

11/20/2010 Filed I-485

12/23/2010 Biometrics (Buffalo, NY)

12/31/2010 I-485 Transfered to CSC

2/4/2011 Green Card received

1/7/2013 Mailed I-751 package

1/14/2013 I-751 NOA (VSC)

2/07/2013 Biometrics (Buffalo, NY)

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Jamaica
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Congrats, and Good Luck :thumbs:


09-21-2009 - Met for the first time

10-31-2009 - Visited for 5 days

12-30-2009 - visited for 11 days (informal engagement)

1-13-2010 - Mailed I129F Petition

1-15-2010 - Recieved NOA1

1-21-2010 - Touched

3-09-2010 - visiting for 6 days

3-12-2010 - Formal Engagement in Ochee

4-20-2010 - Recieved NOA2 (no previous touches)

4-22-2010 - NVC Recieved my Petition, Assigned New Case#

4-23-2010 - Case leaving NVC (have DHL tracking# so I can follow case to Kingston)

4-23-2010 - Recieved NOA2 (hard copy) in the mail

4-26-2010 - Kingston Embassy Recieved Petition (signed by Mr. Morgan)

4-25-2010 - visiting for 5 days

4-30-2010 - Kingston Embassy mailed out Packet# 3

5-3-2010 - E-Mailed Kingston Embassy DS-230

5-4-2010 - Embassy e-mailed interview date

5-26-2010 - Medical

6-6-2010 - Flying down for interview

6-8-2010 - INTERVIEW...APPROVED!!!!

6-23-2010 - VISA RECIEVED!!!

6-27-2010 - Flying down to Jamaica

06-30-2010 - POE (JFK)

09-25-2010 - WEDDING!!!

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