Bringing my 4 year old step son

[atsleumas 3]

Im a confused. Can someone steer me in the right direction?

I am currenting waiting for my husbands interview (CR1) Hopefully a May interview. We did not include his son on our original petition as he felt he should come first to the states and bring him at a later date. He is only 4 years old. Now I wish we would have as it may have saved us a long process.

So after my husband comes to the US - what steps do we take to start the process for his son? What documents do we need to get started? My son's biological mother is still undecided if she is going to cooperate so I am fearful of all sorts of things now.

While my husband is still oversea, Id love to know what he can do there to get the ball rolling. I want my little boy here!!!

Any help, guidance is appreciated.

[Luvnevrymin 1]

Im a confused. Can someone steer me in the right direction?

I am currenting waiting for my husbands interview (CR1) Hopefully a May interview. We did not include his son on our original petition as he felt he should come first to the states and bring him at a later date. He is only 4 years old. Now I wish we would have as it may have saved us a long process.

So after my husband comes to the US - what steps do we take to start the process for his son? What documents do we need to get started? My son's biological mother is still undecided if she is going to cooperate so I am fearful of all sorts of things now.

While my husband is still oversea, Id love to know what he can do there to get the ball rolling. I want my little boy here!!!

Any help, guidance is appreciated.

The process is exactly the same as it was for your husband. You will file a separate I-130 petition for your step-son. Beware that you will have to provide a legal paper signed by the biological mother saying that the child has permission to travel to the U.S., so you may be better off to wait until she decides she approves. We are going through the process now with older children. I filed for them before my husbands cr-1 was approved. The process will take about a year give or take.Our kids interviews are next week.

[Luvnevrymin 1]

Im a confused. Can someone steer me in the right direction?

I am currenting waiting for my husbands interview (CR1) Hopefully a May interview. We did not include his son on our original petition as he felt he should come first to the states and bring him at a later date. He is only 4 years old. Now I wish we would have as it may have saved us a long process.

So after my husband comes to the US - what steps do we take to start the process for his son? What documents do we need to get started? My son's biological mother is still undecided if she is going to cooperate so I am fearful of all sorts of things now.

While my husband is still oversea, Id love to know what he can do there to get the ball rolling. I want my little boy here!!!

Any help, guidance is appreciated.

Is your husband in the military? I'm just curios. We are a military family. As far as I know, if you are the sponsor, your husband really can't do anything to get the ball rolling, except to possibly convince the bio mom to sign that legal doc I was talking about. If he is military, though, there is another route he may pursue.

[atsleumas 3]

Is your husband in the military? I'm just curios. We are a military family. As far as I know, if you are the sponsor, your husband really can't do anything to get the ball rolling, except to possibly convince the bio mom to sign that legal doc I was talking about. If he is military, though, there is another route he may pursue.

Good luck on your kids interviews!!! No, he is not in the miliary. I hope the bio mom will come to her senses soon, and we can file the I130 as soon as my husband gets here.

[NickD 203]

Im a confused. Can someone steer me in the right direction?

I am currenting waiting for my husbands interview (CR1) Hopefully a May interview. We did not include his son on our original petition as he felt he should come first to the states and bring him at a later date. He is only 4 years old. Now I wish we would have as it may have saved us a long process.

So after my husband comes to the US - what steps do we take to start the process for his son? What documents do we need to get started? My son's biological mother is still undecided if she is going to cooperate so I am fearful of all sorts of things now.

While my husband is still oversea, Id love to know what he can do there to get the ball rolling. I want my little boy here!!!

Any help, guidance is appreciated.

I, the sponsoring USC petitioned both for my wife and her daughter even before we got married, that's twice the price. And my step-daughter received the same conditional LPR card as her mom. Wondered what would have happened if I got close to my step-daughter but broke up with her mom. But that didn't even come close to happening. I had to do an I-864 for my step-daughter as well.

Being a step parent is weird to say the least, in some aspects like attending school or any problems with the law, I was liable. But if her mom and I divorced, I would not be liable for child support. If I kicked the bucket, she would not receive SS benefits, so I feel that step parent thingy as the law defines it would be more apply called a half parent.

Her biological father abandoned my step daughter seven years before I met my wife. Really no problem getting permission from him, he had the choice of paying at total of eleven years of child support payments or just signing her over to her mom. But that piece of paper had a lot of strings attached, I could not sign for a passport for her nor giving her permission to leave her home country. He used that privilege in an attempt to blackmail wanting thousands of dollars for those letters of permission. My step daughter understood this and she wasn't able to return to her home country until she reached the age of 18. Step-daughter was also given the choice of living with her mom or her dad. Neither was a good choice for her, she wanted to stay with her friends, but not friends anymore, her life is entirely different and she doesn't want to go back.

I wonder about your situation, isn't her husband paying child support payments and wouldn't his ex lose that if the child came her?

Anyway, when children are involved, your life gets far more complicated. When my step-daughter reached 18, we could finally become friends, and she really appreciates having a dad that takes good care of her. But I wanted all that settled before I married her mom and they both came here together. Children from broken homes always have problems, but much easier with a four year than a 14 year old. I did want to adopt my step-daughter, but that would have to be done in her own corrupt country, and she would have become a grandma before it was finalized. Complications is the name of this game, but for us, all this is history now.

[Darnell 8,478]

Good luck on your kids interviews!!! No, he is not in the miliary. I hope the bio mom will come to her senses soon, and we can file the I130 as soon as my husband gets here.

You could file it on Monday, for the derivative CR-2 visa. No need to wait on anything.

YOU would be the petitioner, not yer husband.

Good Luck !

[atsleumas 3]

I, the sponsoring USC petitioned both for my wife and her daughter even before we got married, that's twice the price. And my step-daughter received the same conditional LPR card as her mom. Wondered what would have happened if I got close to my step-daughter but broke up with her mom. But that didn't even come close to happening. I had to do an I-864 for my step-daughter as well.

Being a step parent is weird to say the least, in some aspects like attending school or any problems with the law, I was liable. But if her mom and I divorced, I would not be liable for child support. If I kicked the bucket, she would not receive SS benefits, so I feel that step parent thingy as the law defines it would be more apply called a half parent.

Her biological father abandoned my step daughter seven years before I met my wife. Really no problem getting permission from him, he had the choice of paying at total of eleven years of child support payments or just signing her over to her mom. But that piece of paper had a lot of strings attached, I could not sign for a passport for her nor giving her permission to leave her home country. He used that privilege in an attempt to blackmail wanting thousands of dollars for those letters of permission. My step daughter understood this and she wasn't able to return to her home country until she reached the age of 18. Step-daughter was also given the choice of living with her mom or her dad. Neither was a good choice for her, she wanted to stay with her friends, but not friends anymore, her life is entirely different and she doesn't want to go back.

I wonder about your situation, isn't her husband paying child support payments and wouldn't his ex lose that if the child came her?

Anyway, when children are involved, your life gets far more complicated. When my step-daughter reached 18, we could finally become friends, and she really appreciates having a dad that takes good care of her. But I wanted all that settled before I married her mom and they both came here together. Children from broken homes always have problems, but much easier with a four year than a 14 year old. I did want to adopt my step-daughter, but that would have to be done in her own corrupt country, and she would have become a grandma before it was finalized. Complications is the name of this game, but for us, all this is history now.

My husband and his BM were never married. Both are on my step-son's birth certificate. No child support is being paid through any court system in JA- my husband takes care of all the necessities etc.

Being a step parent is tough! Especially when the biological birth mother uses the the child as a pawn and doesnt think of his future.

You could file it on Monday, for the derivative CR-2 visa. No need to wait on anything.

YOU would be the petitioner, not yer husband.

Good Luck !

So, I can file this now? how! We still need to get my step-sons passport- we have his birth certificate.. any way to get around his biological mother since they were never married?

[NickD 203]

We don't make the laws, just have to follow them, ironically, only the USC sponsoring spouse, the step parent can petition for the kid. Even though my wife showed her divorce papers giving her full physical custody of her daughter, the USCIS still wanted a letter of permission or a death certificate of the biological parent. The latter put naughty thoughts in my mind.

Money sure works in cases like this and shows the sincerity of the biological parent and so does reverse psychology, you support and raise the kid, I don't want anything to do with it.

Ever try to adopt a kid from a country that can't even afford to raise it? If they know you want the kid, will cream you to get one. Its crazy, can only wish you good luck.

[Darnell 8,478]

So, I can file this now? how! We still need to get my step-sons passport- we have his birth certificate.. any way to get around his biological mother since they were never married?

Yes, you (The USC) file an I-130 for a CR-2 petition, to the lockbox address in Chicago.

If you don't have some documents required for the I-130 petition, don't submit it until you DO have them.

At some point, the child will need a letter from the mother, IIRC, no later than interview day, 'granting permission for him to immigrate to the USA'.

Good Luck !

[Darnell 8,478]

Time Passes. you make decision on the I-130 ?

(why do I feel like a DungeonMaster and why do 'hit points' stay in my brain?)

[NickD 203]

Time Passes. you make decision on the I-130 ?

(why do I feel like a DungeonMaster and why do 'hit points' stay in my brain?)

For the US sponsor to file a petition, that is the easy part. To get an unwed mom to give up her kid is a different story. All the unwed moms I know are taking their former boyfriends to court for child support, that is a lot more common. If they didn't want the kid, could have gotten an abortion instead.

I happen to be one of the rare guys that got full physical custody of my kids in the State of Wisconsin that highly favors the mom, the dad is only good for money. But it was a very hard and expensive three year battle.

I had no say in getting permission for my step daughter to come here, had to be done by my intended and in her home country. She had about 12 years of lack of child support payments in her favor plus both wife and child abuse charges against her ex. Still took six months, all I could do was to provide the cash for the court cases and hope for the best.