Abuse question

[kaikeen 0]

Hi everyone!

I haven’t posted here for a while… I have this very difficult situation. My husband and I had an argument last night. He started yelling at me to shut up and then he hit me. I actually was sitting on the sofa and he kicked me real hard on my leg. He was very drunk too.

I was crying whole night… I stayed with a Russian friend this night. I dint go home. I don’t know what to do. I didn’t call the police. I love him. And I want to go back to him. .

I don’t know what to do. He told me he is sorry. But on the other hand he told me I can’t leave him now cause I will not get green card. I don’t think he is sorry if he is saying this. He has been drinking a lot lately and got mad at me several times and was screaming. Shall I file for divorce? What do I do in situation like this? Please help

[mari joe 1]

I think Counceling would help. Just my 2 cents.

[baron555 934]

Hi everyone!

I haven’t posted here for a while… I have this very difficult situation. My husband and I had an argument last night. He started yelling at me to shut up and then he hit me. I actually was sitting on the sofa and he kicked me real hard on my leg. He was very drunk too.

I was crying whole night… I stayed with a Russian friend this night. I dint go home. I don’t know what to do. I didn’t call the police. I love him. And I want to go back to him. .

I don’t know what to do. He told me he is sorry. But on the other hand he told me I can’t leave him now cause I will not get green card. I don’t think he is sorry if he is saying this. He has been drinking a lot lately and got mad at me several times and was screaming. Shall I file for divorce? What do I do in situation like this? Please help

He needs AA counseling.

[dakay ♥ 10]

Both need to talk about your situation, he needs help, but first he must accept it, and perhaps you can fix your marriage. Anyway, do not let him that he hurts you, when he is drunk is not the same man you love, take care.

[Marisol73 0]

Hi everyone!

I haven’t posted here for a while… I have this very difficult situation. My husband and I had an argument last night. He started yelling at me to shut up and then he hit me. I actually was sitting on the sofa and he kicked me real hard on my leg. He was very drunk too.

I was crying whole night… I stayed with a Russian friend this night. I dint go home. I don’t know what to do. I didn’t call the police. I love him. And I want to go back to him. .

I don’t know what to do. He told me he is sorry. But on the other hand he told me I can’t leave him now cause I will not get green card. I don’t think he is sorry if he is saying this. He has been drinking a lot lately and got mad at me several times and was screaming. Shall I file for divorce? What do I do in situation like this? Please help

Hi Kaikeen..

Im sorry about what happened with your husband. If he is like that ONLY when he is drunk, ask him to stop drinking.. if he is truly sorry he will do it. Also.. the green card is not reason to stay with him !...And yes... I agree with you..if he was really sorry he shouldnt metion that to convince you.

I think nobody deserves violence in exchange of a green card o anything else.

Take care.

[Blake and Jeanie 4]

Hi everyone!

I haven’t posted here for a while… I have this very difficult situation. My husband and I had an argument last night. He started yelling at me to shut up and then he hit me. I actually was sitting on the sofa and he kicked me real hard on my leg. He was very drunk too.

I was crying whole night… I stayed with a Russian friend this night. I dint go home. I don’t know what to do. I didn’t call the police. I love him. And I want to go back to him. .

I don’t know what to do. He told me he is sorry. But on the other hand he told me I can’t leave him now cause I will not get green card. I don’t think he is sorry if he is saying this. He has been drinking a lot lately and got mad at me several times and was screaming. Shall I file for divorce? What do I do in situation like this? Please help

You know, filing for divorce right now might make things even worse. I can't say for sure, I don't know your husband, but from what you're saying it sounds like he might get even more violent. And no, you can't just ask a person to stop drinking, they simply won't. If you can stay with your friend and wait this out, that would be your best bet. I would stop communicating with your husband and wait till he makes the first step to peace. If he does, then there'll be room to work out a compromise. If he doesn't and things cool off a bit, file for divorce. But don't make that decision now. Do not tolerate the abuse, it seems as if he's well aware of the consequences that may arise if you divorce him. It is likely that he will use that (like, you not being able to get a green card) to control you, and even try to make you come back. If you can't stay with your friend, there should be shelters for women in abusive situations.

[Bobby+Umit 161]

Hi everyone!

I haven’t posted here for a while… I have this very difficult situation. My husband and I had an argument last night. He started yelling at me to shut up and then he hit me. I actually was sitting on the sofa and he kicked me real hard on my leg. He was very drunk too.

I was crying whole night… I stayed with a Russian friend this night. I dint go home. I don’t know what to do. I didn’t call the police. I love him. And I want to go back to him. .

I don’t know what to do. He told me he is sorry. But on the other hand he told me I can’t leave him now cause I will not get green card. I don’t think he is sorry if he is saying this. He has been drinking a lot lately and got mad at me several times and was screaming. Shall I file for divorce? What do I do in situation like this? Please help

If I were you, I would talk to a lawyer, and report him if he is abusing you.

Really depends on what you want to do, which will dictate any other advice given.

[kevin@anna 7]

you need to call the police now and file a report.even if this happened previously it still helps to have a report.let him know you aremt screwing around with him when hes abusive.dont let him play that little drunk stuff with you.once abusive,always abusive im sorry to say.please protect yourself and report him now.if and when it happens again it will show a pattern of abuse and he will be arrested and have manditory jail and classes that he needs.

[Old Dominion 26]

Whatever it takes, you can't let this happen ever again. If ever he starts to get nasty, call 911 and also your friend to come get you ASAP. He can't wilthdraw your green card application, nor his sponsorship. Catholic Charities nearest you has an immigration specialist to help you work through the process from here on out.

Edited March 12, 2010 by Old Dominion

[schatzi3277 6]

Hi everyone!

I haven’t posted here for a while… I have this very difficult situation. My husband and I had an argument last night. He started yelling at me to shut up and then he hit me. I actually was sitting on the sofa and he kicked me real hard on my leg. He was very drunk too.

I was crying whole night… I stayed with a Russian friend this night. I dint go home. I don’t know what to do. I didn’t call the police. I love him. And I want to go back to him. .

I don’t know what to do. He told me he is sorry. But on the other hand he told me I can’t leave him now cause I will not get green card. I don’t think he is sorry if he is saying this. He has been drinking a lot lately and got mad at me several times and was screaming. Shall I file for divorce? What do I do in situation like this? Please help

If he has abused you more then once then he will do it again. You need to report this. The true person and feelings come out in drunk people because they can not control their emotions and feelings anymore. That is the time they can't act anymore. So if he threatens you that you won't receive your GC thats his way of controlling you, don't take that from him. If you decide to leave him let me know and VAWA posters can assist you in further steps.