How would you respond?

[Calypso 465]

That's another great one.

Uh, it makes me heart sick remembering the times when I taught high school. After two years of teaching, I decided to do something else. I told myself that when I get married, I just couldn't work that much anymore. Teaching is so time-demanding. I had to use my time before the class so the students wouldn't get plain lecture. After class, I had to check papers and prepare for another day. Although the joy of being with those teens is incomparable, I had to let go.

[William33 110]

It was merely a hypothetical. There's a tendency for all 6 responses by parents and teachers, which unfortunately do not result a positive reaction from the teenager. This somewhat explains why parents and teenagers don't seem to connect or when they do, sparks fly.

Thus my response, which did not fit in the "confines" of the responses you offered. I always believe that people should think outside the box...

Hypothetical situation? Well, darn Steven....I was hoping to provide some helpful advice to someone.....

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Thus my response, which did not fit in the "confines" of the responses you offered. I always believe that people should think outside the box...

Hypothetical situation? Well, darn Steven....I was hoping to provide some helpful advice to someone.....

LOL...well, I'm sure you did for some future situation.

Uh, it makes me heart sick remembering the times when I taught high school. After two years of teaching, I decided to do something else. I told myself that when I get married, I just couldn't work that much anymore. Teaching is so time-demanding. I had to use my time before the class so the students wouldn't get plain lecture. After class, I had to check papers and prepare for another day. Although the joy of being with those teens is incomparable, I had to let go.

You were a very dedicated teacher...your students must have loved you for it.

[Calypso 465]

You were a very dedicated teacher...your students must have loved you for it.

I hope so.

I remember these lines from my students.

Patrick: Your mom is a milf.

Haruka: Yeah. When we go shopping to Ayala, more people look at her than they look at me. I'm getting insecure.

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John Paul: Miss Ariadne, my left ball is bigger than my right ball. Is this normal?

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Ivonne: I enjoy looking at camel toes.

Me: Ivonne, watch your language.

Kayna: Oh! Miss knows what camel toes are. How come she knows these things?

[웃 910]

Not sure. I'd probably say don't let it get to you, practice makes perfect so keep at it, and next year I'm sure you'll make the team.

.............

In middle school I was cut from the 7th grade team. It was devastating because I literally was one of the top 4-5 players. I should have been starting shooting guard. I was just extremely nervous playing 'professionally' instead of 'street ball'. I was a nervous wreck.

Anyways, later in 7th grade there was a 3 on 3 basketball tournament. One of my teammates had somewhere to go before the tournament ended and had to take off early. So we were down to 2 players, myself, and my friend Zach. To make a long story short we devoured everyone. Won the tournament.

Next year (8th grade) I made the team. But I was still a nervous wreck for some reason. I was used to backyard basketball or at a local gym. And there was never any pressure in these games, they were unofficial. For some reason I couldn't get past my nerves. Probably didn't help that I rarely played so when I did get in the game I was even more nervous than usual! But I never played so it didn't matter. I might have gotten 2 minutes a game.

Then came the 3 on 3 basketball tournament for 8th grade and my team won it again.

Don't play anymore due to a knee injury though....

Edited February 2, 2010 by Lord Infamous

[Peikko 1,575]

I agree there are no formulas, but there is form. I'm not sure where you are coming from about books not being helpful. Sure there are lots of books not worth your trouble, but there's no harm in someone sharing their experience, knowledge and expertise through text that you could benefit from.

My experience with real people is that they look at these things as specific answers, not as examples of a type of thinking that can unlock a more postive response from a surly kid. I just wonder how useful these 'hypothetical' situations are. More than that, I am not sure that everyone benefits from unguided self examination when it comes to bringing up kids.

Edited February 2, 2010 by Madame Cleo

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

so you work as an individual...then your work is combined into the teams results.

no obsession, i used it as an example....nothing is given for being a part of. you work for money so you can have what you need or want....how many people work to make your paycheck? 1 ... yah thats what i thought.

you assume each 'task' is assigned to a single person? you assume each 'task' is worked on solely by a single person with no assistance from others, ever? you'd be wrong.

[chri'stina 190]

I feel like this is some secret psychological quiz...

I think I would go with #3, without the "what are you going to do now?" bit. My first reaction would be to ask, "why, what happened?" I would assume the coach would have explained why.

[Wei&Shu(Joe) 2]

The question is, what is the stereotypical 2010 response of a parent to such a situation. It used to be, "practice harder or we are simply not all made out to be top athletes and you will find your niche." Nowadays, when a kid is simply not talented at a sport or gets kicked off for not practicing and slacking off, it's automatically the coaches fault.

Just the other day, I saw a story on the local news of teenagers who hacked into the schools system and changed their grades. Parent's response: "Well the kids have it so tough these days". Are these folks for real or just retarded?

Interesting how one's pre-existing opinions get overlayed on facts. In all the stories about this event there are questions about how much the pressure to succeed may played a role in these choices but not one (that I can find, please link if I'm wrong) that excused the actions based on that. I can't find one person quoted who said "The have it so tough these days." Yet, that is apparently your bias about parents in 2010 so you just projected it onto the story and, seeing the reflection of your own notions caused you to believe you had found validation. The parents who were quoted mostly expressed their worries about the possibility that someone with the password could have changed some people's grades downward or upgraded people who never asked to be upgraded to make trouble for them if the scheme was discovered. Pretty valid concerns but you only saw your own thoughts apparently.

[Wei&Shu(Joe) 2]

I don't believe in stock responses from a formula in a book. Each child is different, each sistuation is different. If you start looking for a book to provide you with answers, you are in trouble. I guess the idea of the book is to give you 'indicators' of good parenting techniques, but still...

yes, one can learn to be a telephone operator from a book or how to build a rocket that goes to the moon but when it comes to parenting it is always best to pull something out of your *ss based on your own past experience which you have no way to evaluate as good or bad and assume to be the way to do things. Of course, that means we treat parenting like the most unimportant job in the world but we can defend that approach by ignoring the evidence that certain approaches are demonstrably better than others and and justify the "winging it is best for unimportant jobs like parenting model" with a non-sequiter like "all kids are different" (amazing discovery there) and all situations are different.

In other words, I couldn't possible learn to make lentil soup from a recipe because all pots are different and all stoves are different, therefore it is best not to bother learning to make lentil soup. Makes sense.

[Wei&Shu(Joe) 2]

Very true.

Likewise: If a child is taught that it's always someone else that is to blame, they fail to learn to take responsibility for their actions and circumstances.

Likewise: If a person learns to only be able to deal with the world by simplifying it into talking points and prejudices, they have difficulty evaluating reality without cramming it into one of their preconceived generalizations about the world.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

yes, one can learn to be a telephone operator from a book or how to build a rocket that goes to the moon but when it comes to parenting it is always best to pull something out of your *ss based on your own past experience which you have no way to evaluate as good or bad and assume to be the way to do things. Of course, that means we treat parenting like the most unimportant job in the world but we can defend that approach by ignoring the evidence that certain approaches are demonstrably better than others and and justify the "winging it is best for unimportant jobs like parenting model" with a non-sequiter like "all kids are different" (amazing discovery there) and all situations are different.

In other words, I couldn't possible learn to make lentil soup from a recipe because all pots are different and all stoves are different, therefore it is best not to bother learning to make lentil soup. Makes sense.

That was awesome.

[Ban Hammer 14,584]

That was awesome.

steven, i think we have a new hero

[Peikko 1,575]

Easily pleased. Missed the point of my post. Surprised? Not really.

I'm not getting in any rockets you built either -

[Jasman0717 9]

Where's the "beat the ####### out of the coach" option