help for my friend please

[bluemist 0]

Hello fellow VJ'ers,

My friend from the Philippines came here in the US on K1 visa last November 12,2009.Unfortunately,she is not getting marry with her fiancee (petitioner) anymore due to relationship problem.They have a daughter who is 9months old and a US citizen through CRBA.My friend arrived here in the US with her baby.Her problem is,her fiancee doesn't want her to go back to Philippines with their daughter.He said she can stay here in US and they can get marry,stay in the house to be with their baby and just treat each other like friends only..The guy (petitioner) has a girl and my friend found it out just lately.She want to go home as soon as possible before her I-94 expires with her baby.

My question is,how can she get the custody to have her daughter go back to the Philippines?Her fiancee told her that she can't leave with her daughter without custody and he even told her before that if they get marry,they have to do the pre-nuptial.

She told me that her fiancee is taking/using drugs.Her fiancee doesn't hurt him or anything but she doesn't want to stay with him anymore.She's in North Georgia (Flintstone) and don't know anybody who can help her.I told her to go to Atlanta to the Immigration,US Embassy or Phil.Consulate,but the Philippine Consulate that covers Georgia is at Washington,DC.

She don't know how to drive yet,no greencard,no license.She don't know what to do anymore.

Btw,her daughter has a Philippine passport too so her baby is dual-citizen.

Please I need some help or information for her.

Thanks for the advance and speedy answers!!!!!!

[happywifeymom 4]

Hello fellow VJ'ers,

My friend from the Philippines came here in the US on K1 visa last November 12,2009.Unfortunately,she is not getting marry with her fiancee (petitioner) anymore due to relationship problem.They have a daughter who is 9months old and a US citizen through CRBA.My friend arrived here in the US with her baby.Her problem is,her fiancee doesn't want her to go back to Philippines with their daughter.He said she can stay here in US and they can get marry,stay in the house to be with their baby and just treat each other like friends only..The guy (petitioner) has a girl and my friend found it out just lately.She want to go home as soon as possible before her I-94 expires with her baby.

My question is,how can she get the custody to have her daughter go back to the Philippines?Her fiancee told her that she can't leave with her daughter without custody and he even told her before that if they get marry,they have to do the pre-nuptial.

She told me that her fiancee is taking/using drugs.Her fiancee doesn't hurt him or anything but she doesn't want to stay with him anymore.She's in North Georgia (Flintstone) and don't know anybody who can help her.I told her to go to Atlanta to the Immigration,US Embassy or Phil.Consulate,but the Philippine Consulate that covers Georgia is at Washington,DC.

She don't know how to drive yet,no greencard,no license.She don't know what to do anymore.

Btw,her daughter has a Philippine passport too so her baby is dual-citizen.

Please I need some help or information for her.

Thanks for the advance and speedy answers!!!!!!

That is really avery sad situation. She can call an organization like church to help her. Wish someone can help her with this dilemma..really sorry for her.

[bluemist 0]

That is really avery sad situation. She can call an organization like church to help her. Wish someone can help her with this dilemma..really sorry for her.

Yea.She doesn't know any organization at their area.She is trying to do some research.

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[marklovetina 52]

Hello fellow VJ'ers,

My friend from the Philippines came here in the US on K1 visa last November 12,2009.Unfortunately,she is not getting marry with her fiancee (petitioner) anymore due to relationship problem.They have a daughter who is 9months old and a US citizen through CRBA.My friend arrived here in the US with her baby.Her problem is,her fiancee doesn't want her to go back to Philippines with their daughter.He said she can stay here in US and they can get marry,stay in the house to be with their baby and just treat each other like friends only..The guy (petitioner) has a girl and my friend found it out just lately.She want to go home as soon as possible before her I-94 expires with her baby.

My question is,how can she get the custody to have her daughter go back to the Philippines?Her fiancee told her that she can't leave with her daughter without custody and he even told her before that if they get marry,they have to do the pre-nuptial.

She told me that her fiancee is taking/using drugs.Her fiancee doesn't hurt him or anything but she doesn't want to stay with him anymore.She's in North Georgia (Flintstone) and don't know anybody who can help her.I told her to go to Atlanta to the Immigration,US Embassy or Phil.Consulate,but the Philippine Consulate that covers Georgia is at Washington,DC.

She don't know how to drive yet,no greencard,no license.She don't know what to do anymore.

Btw,her daughter has a Philippine passport too so her baby is dual-citizen.

Please I need some help or information for her.

Thanks for the advance and speedy answers!!!!!!

yep agree!!, really this is a very bad situation.. sorry for ur friend.. but this situation also gave us warning... hope someone can help her there in her place.. no relatives there in USA?...

[f1_gurl 0]

Sorry to hear about this... I'm sure your friend feels helpless having no drivers license or any family or relatives close to her... try asking her to call the consulate...

[Krikit 1,163]

Moving from Philippines Regional forum to Effects of Major Changes.

[bluemist 0]

Thanks for all of you who replied.I feel very sad for her.I hope that her fiancee will just let her go home with their daughter.

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

Her ex-fiance has a valid point. If she takes the child out of the US without his permission then she could be accused of kidnapping. It's very unlikely she'll get full physical and legal custody before her I-94 expires. She's only got a few weeks left, and the family courts in the US just don't move that fast. Even if she gets full custody, she'll probably still need his permission to take the child out of the US, unless the child's father gives up his parental rights or the court revokes them. Family courts rarely revoke a parent's rights, even if the parent is a drug addict and/or criminal.

Given the limited time she has left, I think your friend's best chance of getting out of the US with her child before the I-94 expires is to negotiate directly with the father. Perhaps she can persuade him to sign a quit claim by offering to give up her right to seek child support payments.

[When2RNLove 6]

Hello fellow VJ'ers,

My friend from the Philippines came here in the US on K1 visa last November 12,2009.Unfortunately,she is not getting marry with her fiancee (petitioner) anymore due to relationship problem.They have a daughter who is 9months old and a US citizen through CRBA.My friend arrived here in the US with her baby.Her problem is,her fiancee doesn't want her to go back to Philippines with their daughter.He said she can stay here in US and they can get marry,stay in the house to be with their baby and just treat each other like friends only..The guy (petitioner) has a girl and my friend found it out just lately.She want to go home as soon as possible before her I-94 expires with her baby.

My question is,how can she get the custody to have her daughter go back to the Philippines?Her fiancee told her that she can't leave with her daughter without custody and he even told her before that if they get marry,they have to do the pre-nuptial.

She told me that her fiancee is taking/using drugs.Her fiancee doesn't hurt him or anything but she doesn't want to stay with him anymore.She's in North Georgia (Flintstone) and don't know anybody who can help her.I told her to go to Atlanta to the Immigration,US Embassy or Phil.Consulate,but the Philippine Consulate that covers Georgia is at Washington,DC.

She don't know how to drive yet,no greencard,no license.She don't know what to do anymore.

Btw,her daughter has a Philippine passport too so her baby is dual-citizen.

Please I need some help or information for her.

Thanks for the advance and speedy answers!!!!!!

I think JimVaPhuong made a better point. Try to get the Father to just let her go back to the Philippines. Thinking about marrying the guy, in my opinion, may be frowned upon as consituting fraud, marrying for the sake of the child. VJers are not going to help someone by offering advice in that matter. Don't give up in trying to reason with the guy in letting her go back with the child.

[a-star 0]

Hi, does she have enough money to buy a palne ticket? Buy a plane ticket and two days b4 her flight turn him in to police for the drugs and while his inside the jail she can leave and her baby and go back to the philippines. Dont let him know her plans though.

My friend from the Philippines came here in the US on K1 visa last November 12,2009.Unfortunately,she is not getting marry with her fiancee (petitioner) anymore due to relationship problem.They have a daughter who is 9months old and a US citizen through CRBA.My friend arrived here in the US with her baby.Her problem is,her fiancee doesn't want her to go back to Philippines with their daughter.He said she can stay here in US and they can get marry,stay in the house to be with their baby and just treat each other like friends only..The guy (petitioner) has a girl and my friend found it out just lately.She want to go home as soon as possible before her I-94 expires with her baby.

My question is,how can she get the custody to have her daughter go back to the Philippines?Her fiancee told her that she can't leave with her daughter without custody and he even told her before that if they get marry,they have to do the pre-nuptial.

She told me that her fiancee is taking/using drugs.Her fiancee doesn't hurt him or anything but she doesn't want to stay with him anymore.She's in North Georgia (Flintstone) and don't know anybody who can help her.I told her to go to Atlanta to the Immigration,US Embassy or Phil.Consulate,but the Philippine Consulate that covers Georgia is at Washington,DC.

She don't know how to drive yet,no greencard,no license.She don't know what to do anymore.

Btw,her daughter has a Philippine passport too so her baby is dual-citizen.

Please I need some help or information for her.

Thanks for the advance and speedy answers!!!!!!

[When2RNLove 6]

Hi, does she have enough money to buy a palne ticket? Buy a plane ticket and two days b4 her flight turn him in to police for the drugs and while his inside the jail she can leave and her baby and go back to the philippines. Dont let him know her plans though.

So you're telling her to kidnap the child!!!!!! That's not good. We on this site are trying to help people do things legally.

Edited January 18, 2010 by Mike N Julie

[medasman 0]

Hi, does she have enough money to buy a palne ticket? Buy a plane ticket and two days b4 her flight turn him in to police for the drugs and while his inside the jail she can leave and her baby and go back to the philippines. Dont let him know her plans though.

this is what i would do because i did this with a friend take the child and lady to a shelter for woman and show that the m,an brought her here and she found out that he uses drugs the police arrested him and the shelter ask a lawyer to help the woman and the woman got to stay here and raise her child

[a-star 0]

So you're telling her to kidnap the child!!!!!! That's not good.

Thats not kidnapping who will take care of the child while his in jail. So you rather a drug addict raise the child? Well rather make a way to get out than stay with him miserable.

[rheanick 42]

Hello fellow VJ'ers,

My friend from the Philippines came here in the US on K1 visa last November 12,2009.Unfortunately,she is not getting marry with her fiancee (petitioner) anymore due to relationship problem.They have a daughter who is 9months old and a US citizen through CRBA.My friend arrived here in the US with her baby.Her problem is,her fiancee doesn't want her to go back to Philippines with their daughter.He said she can stay here in US and they can get marry,stay in the house to be with their baby and just treat each other like friends only..The guy (petitioner) has a girl and my friend found it out just lately.She want to go home as soon as possible before her I-94 expires with her baby.

My question is,how can she get the custody to have her daughter go back to the Philippines?Her fiancee told her that she can't leave with her daughter without custody and he even told her before that if they get marry,they have to do the pre-nuptial.

She told me that her fiancee is taking/using drugs.Her fiancee doesn't hurt him or anything but she doesn't want to stay with him anymore.She's in North Georgia (Flintstone) and don't know anybody who can help her.I told her to go to Atlanta to the Immigration,US Embassy or Phil.Consulate,but the Philippine Consulate that covers Georgia is at Washington,DC.

She don't know how to drive yet,no greencard,no license.She don't know what to do anymore.

Btw,her daughter has a Philippine passport too so her baby is dual-citizen.

Please I need some help or information for her.

Thanks for the advance and speedy answers!!!!!!

If she has the money, buy a ticket, pack her bag, call a taxi and board the plane. She is the mother. Also, they are not married. She could do anything she wants with the baby. She could leave anytime with the baby. She does not need to tell him that she is leaving him.

Edited January 18, 2010 by rheanick