Would you let your Spouse party till the early morning on their own????

[Sister Fracas 5]

HECK NO i would not let my husband go to the club and get his party on without me. I dont think husband and wives should go to parties. Parties are for single people , thats what I believe. am I being mean?

husbands and wives shouldn't go to parties...

Edited September 6, 2006 by Frances

[ChasUK 0]

One of the reasons that I reached the decision to go to the US to be with Tracy is the simple fact that our relationship is strong. In other words, I trust her implicitly. I'm sure she feels the same about me. That is one of the things I feel MUST be in place before even considering such a colossal move. Anyone who even considers going through the visa process without that is inviting tragedy. Something seen so often here on VJ. So anyone who has to consider that shouldn't even be thinking about emigrating. Sorry if that offends some, but it's the truth. Get your relationship secure BEFORE you decide to spend your life with someone. Seems obvoius, but it's amazing how many don't.

[KarenCee 3]

Those who prefer to stay away from crowds, and enjoy a quiet evening in, will generally find themselves attracted to someone of a similar mindframe.

This is precisely why Joel and I are so well suited. At the same time, neither one of us uses the word "let" in the context of giving permission. That has NO place in marriage. NONE.

Just my 2cents worth.

[Sister Fracas 5]

Those who prefer to stay away from crowds, and enjoy a quiet evening in, will generally find themselves attracted to someone of a similar mindframe.

This is precisely why Joel and I are so well suited. At the same time, neither one of us uses the word "let" in the context of giving permission. That has NO place in marriage. NONE.

Just my 2cents worth.

I can agree that people are attracted to someone of a similar mindfrind, but in my opinion, people come to relationships as individuals and they shouldn't lose the things they enjoy as individuals, such as hobbies, just because they get married. As I said before, hubster is more of a "go out with the mates" type than I am and I have no desire to squelch that. I don't "let" him go out.... that's silly... LOL

[Fandango 1,440]

I think it's a very dangerous thing to lose the 'I' in 'we'

[nayalamb 1]

jigga is going out tonight with his best friend who is visiting from out of the country. he has a key so he can let himself in. i won't wait up and i won't blast his cell phone every hour to check up on him. he's a responsible adult and i trust that he will make the right decisions while he's out. and he feels the same when i go out with my friends. neither of us is the wild club-hopping type, but i see nothing wrong in seeing friends and sharing a meal and/or a few drinks and having a good time. if i held him back and said don't go, he wouldn't. but why would you want to keep the person you love so much on a short leash? he's my hubby, but he's still himself. the only "rules" we have is... if you are gonna drink, don't drive ( mrsushi66). staying away from crack houses, hookers, and timeshare presentations is pretty much a given.

[Caladan 19]

Are we talking partying like Girls Gone Wild or going out with friends to a bar or a club or a movie and stumbling home late?

My fiancé and I are apart now, and it would be ridiculously asinine of me to tell him, 'No, you must not go to the pool hall and play billiards with your brother and no having a drink. You must sit at home.' Just as it would be ridiculous of him to tell me 'Yes, I'm 2000 miles away, but you may not go out to dinner with your friends or have a margarita with your roommate.'

After he here, the biggest thing I'm looking forward to other than the constant sex is that when I go to a party at a friend's house, I won't have to go alone. But I imagine that there will be times that I go out with colleagues or friends and he'll opt to stay home. Our interests are close, but not parallel. Neither of us are wild or stupid or drunkards, and we trust each other.

[KarenCee 3]

Those who prefer to stay away from crowds, and enjoy a quiet evening in, will generally find themselves attracted to someone of a similar mindframe.

This is precisely why Joel and I are so well suited. At the same time, neither one of us uses the word "let" in the context of giving permission. That has NO place in marriage. NONE.

Just my 2cents worth.

I can agree that people are attracted to someone of a similar mindfrind, but in my opinion, people come to relationships as individuals and they shouldn't lose the things they enjoy as individuals, such as hobbies, just because they get married. As I said before, hubster is more of a "go out with the mates" type than I am and I have no desire to squelch that. I don't "let" him go out.... that's silly... LOL

Well, this is also one area in which Joel and I haven't lost a thing. We are "we", yet we are still individuals. If Joel wanted to go out with new friends then he knows I am ok with that and vice versa. It just happens that we are of the same kind...we like a quiet evening at home. Besides, the way I work right now I'm just too darn tired to go out. The weekends are spent together...as a mutual decision...since our time together during the week is limited.

[Sister Fracas 5]

staying away from crack houses, hookers, and timeshare presentations is pretty much a given.

[Mirorgate 0]

HECK NO i would not let my husband go to the club and get his party on without me. I dont think husband and wives should go to parties. Parties are for single people , thats what I believe. am I being mean?

husbands and wives shouldn't go to parties...

It's true.... I live such a boring life now. no parties. no friends. no life. no love. no sex. no kids. no pets. no no no no nononononononononono

husbands and wives should always just be alone together. 24/7. no work either

[*Robert* 2]

Welshie... your new avatar scares me!!!

me too........

ahhh... now this one is much better!

[seekingsUsan 1]

After reading many posts and one just today about people partying till the early hours would you honestly let your SO do this with girlfriends/guyfriends without you?? On a personal level no I would be one unhappy bunny if my SO did this to me. How do you feel about this. My SO and I are not into the partying scene anyway so would not make much of a difference. I feel like many do that when you go into a marriage that you should leave the partying scene behind. No I am not boring, we do find other things to entertain us

Janice

Being married is part of a commitment ,the party scene is just an invitation to disaster when one spouse goes off and leaves the other behind .no matter how commited the other spouse is into the relationship ,temptation is always out there waiting to weave its web ....

[kirk and Jenny 0]

After reading many posts and one just today about people partying till the early hours would you honestly let your SO do this with girlfriends/guyfriends without you?? On a personal level no I would be one unhappy bunny if my SO did this to me. How do you feel about this. My SO and I are not into the partying scene anyway so would not make much of a difference. I feel like many do that when you go into a marriage that you should leave the partying scene behind. No I am not boring, we do find other things to entertain us

Janice

No way, I dealt with that for years. I do not trust anyone who would put me through the agony of wondering where they are at 4:00 in the morning. Are they ###### around, are they in a crash, have they passed out in the snow and are freezing to death on the way home. Then how are they the next day. Sleeping into all hours of the afternoon, not helping one with the house. My ex did that. I left her. Another woman I was with, after my ex,did it once; that ended the relationship and started me in on an international date line.

[shoe 0]

Me and my husband give each other space sometimes. We go out drinking together alot but sometimes he goes out with his boys and I go with my girls and we still have fun and trust each other. Of course we call and check in with each other to make sure everything is okay but hey everyone needs space dont you think?? It does NOT mean we dont love each other!!!!