GUILT !

[John&Juvy 36]

Ok I dont know how to start... coz I dont know where to start lol. But anyway, tag-lish ko na lng mga sis kasi minsan nag oonline din dito asawa ko baka mabasa pa nya to . First I'm going to ask if there is any of you here experienced at the present of your marriage with your husband na magtago ng sekreto for the first time with him for his own good...... and for your peace of mind ? I mean anything... tulad ba ng sulat na hindi mo pinakita sa kanya which is you decided na mas mabuti ng hindi nya na mabasa kasi baka mas lumaki pa yung problema ? I know na mali yung gagawin mo na ikaw yung mag de-decide if what is good or wrong for him pero what if kung ikaw mismo nakikita na yung asawa mo eh blinded with the situation that he into right now..... Na sa umpisa pa lang against ka na, pero syempre dahil mahal mo xa and his your husband you tried to understand him (specially there is nothing really wrong of what his doing naman) and be a little bit more open-minded about it before.

So eto ang ff. ng ngyari

nga after 6 months na sumasama ang loob ko dahil sa ginagawa ng asawa ko na hindi naman masama... pero as in sumobra naman kasi nga nakikita mo yung super effort and pagod nya na hindi nya naman dapat ginagawa just to tried to change the things that he cannot. Tapos eto nga, lately medyo na realized nya na rin konti medyo tama nga ako so medyo lumi-low na xa ng konti sa ginagawa nya.. and then, for the 2nd time na nakakita ako ng tsansa na as in putulin na talaga yung kumunikasyon nya sa grupo na yun kanina sa pamamagitan ng pagtago ko nung huling tsansa nung nasa grupo na makumbinsi ulit ang asawa ko na tumulong ulit sa kanila lalo na na yung asawa ko lng naman as in yung nag bibigay talaga ng sobra-sobrang oras, effort and sariling pera minsan para dito and then yung mga idiot and mga wala man lng pakialam at utang na loob kahit konti yug mga punyeta na mga kasama nya sa na contribute nya sa grupo.

Alam kong hindi ko aaminin sa kanya kung ano ginawa ko lol... pero 50% na baka malaman nya pa rin then 50% na baka hindi nya na talaga malaman.

I really felt guilt sa ginawa ko... pero I think atleast god knows why I did it. This for his own health, marriage and our LIFE !

So the quistion still the same lol. Atleast na experience nyo na ba kahit paano na may itinago sa asawa nyo for a good reason or kung baga sabi nga nila "White Lies "? Walang plastikan ha.... Hindi pa naman ako perfect wife .

[Otto 83]

English only (please) outside of Regional Forums

[AbbynSheryl 0]

English only (please) outside of Regional Forums

i agree

abby n sheryl

[Dakine 26]

No fair! We want the dirty details!!

[John&Juvy 36]

LOl that's why I said "Pinay or Pinay wives Only " Maybe Mods can put this in filipino forums Sorry guys.

[Malrothien 6]

English only (please) outside of Regional Forums

[one...two...tree 2,762]

You can say that again.

[Kathryn41 3,205]

Moved from Off-Topic to the Philippines Regional Forum as non-English is allowed here and more Pinays will see the topic here than in Off Topic

[sunandmoon 450]

ah come on... do I have to wait for my wife to translate... then again, maybe I don't want her to read it...

[enfm 0]

Ok I dont know how to start... coz I dont know where to start lol. But anyway, tag-lish ko na lng mga sis kasi minsan nag oonline din dito asawa ko baka mabasa pa nya to . First I'm going to ask if there is any of you here experienced at the present of your marriage with your husband na magtago ng sekreto for the first time with him for his own good...... and for your peace of mind ? I mean anything... tulad ba ng sulat na hindi mo pinakita sa kanya which is you decided na mas mabuti ng hindi nya na mabasa kasi baka mas lumaki pa yung problema ? I know na mali yung gagawin mo na ikaw yung mag de-decide if what is good or wrong for him pero what if kung ikaw mismo nakikita na yung asawa mo eh blinded with the situation that he into right now..... Na sa umpisa pa lang against ka na, pero syempre dahil mahal mo xa and his your husband you tried to understand him (specially there is nothing really wrong of what his doing naman) and be a little bit more open-minded about it before.

So eto ang ff. ng ngyari

nga after 6 months na sumasama ang loob ko dahil sa ginagawa ng asawa ko na hindi naman masama... pero as in sumobra naman kasi nga nakikita mo yung super effort and pagod nya na hindi nya naman dapat ginagawa just to tried to change the things that he cannot. Tapos eto nga, lately medyo na realized nya na rin konti medyo tama nga ako so medyo lumi-low na xa ng konti sa ginagawa nya.. and then, for the 2nd time na nakakita ako ng tsansa na as in putulin na talaga yung kumunikasyon nya sa grupo na yun kanina sa pamamagitan ng pagtago ko nung huling tsansa nung nasa grupo na makumbinsi ulit ang asawa ko na tumulong ulit sa kanila lalo na na yung asawa ko lng naman as in yung nag bibigay talaga ng sobra-sobrang oras, effort and sariling pera minsan para dito and then yung mga idiot and mga wala man lng pakialam at utang na loob kahit konti yug mga punyeta na mga kasama nya sa na contribute nya sa grupo.

Alam kong hindi ko aaminin sa kanya kung ano ginawa ko lol... pero 50% na baka malaman nya pa rin then 50% na baka hindi nya na talaga malaman.

I really felt guilt sa ginawa ko... pero I think atleast god knows why I did it. This for his own health, marriage and our LIFE !

So the quistion still the same lol. Atleast na experience nyo na ba kahit paano na may itinago sa asawa nyo for a good reason or kung baga sabi nga nila "White Lies "? Walang plastikan ha.... Hindi pa naman ako perfect wife .

if his nothing your not here in u.s try make simple...need translation

[huntherx17 0]

even I cant understand what ur saying

sounds like her husband was contributing to some group she didnt name..

and she did something that'll make him not contribute.. she didnt say what..

[adiiann 163]

Hehehehe!

I don't think I will have same problem with things like that. I mean, di ko kailangan magsinungaling or magtago sa asawa ko kasi masyado kaming open sa isa't isa. Then, di naman ako taklesa but whatever bothers me, I let my husband know what I think and feel. I know that there is a probability na di nya maintindihan kung bakit bother ako, but at least I told him. If I wanted him to stop for something, I will let him explain to me his logic to convince me that he is right, pero I will show to him too the reasons why I wanted him to stop for that something. Then, we're gonna have compromise or truce maybe.

White lies for me is like... example, ask ako ng husband ko na mag-walking kami after dinner, pero sasabihin ko masama pakiramdam ko kasi tinatamad ako mag-lakad sa labas kasi malamig, para di nya ako kulitin lumabas.

[NArocks 13]

Dude Wait I wanna read this and cant. MARIE Help me

[Chica Yeyé 41]

[rheanick 42]

My 2 cents

If you are making a decision for him... you are indirectly telling us that he does not know how to decide.

You should trust your husband enough to make his own decision.

You could tell him your opinion and views, still, he should be the one to make the final decision.

If the information is for him, respect him enough to forward it to him.

Btw, regarding the money thing, if he is the one who earns that money, let him decide where to use it. If your money is involved. That's another story.

If he still can think let him think and make the decision.