Do I stand a chance?

[diadromous mermaid 36]

The answer would be quite simple, I'd imagine. I left the USA to join my daughter and to avail myself of the comfort of my family whilst going through a tricky and emotionally charged divorce from my US citizen husband.

Edited July 9, 2006 by diadromous mermaid

[Sweetgirl 0]

An update:

I had emailed to the lawyer Psoft told me about. The lawyer emailed me back soon. Basically what he said was that I had better get to USA ASAP before my daughter's stay outside USA exceeds one year. And most likely I won't have any problems in re-entrying. Though I may be asked why I stay away for so long and do I still have some proof of residence in USA.

Hi Leila,

Thats true .You should defenetely get the plain tickets for the soonest date as possible as it wil be better for you and for your daughter. You should get a reasonable good answer on why you have stayed away so long outside of the U.S .r Work different variations on the possible questions in your head so you will be ready to give a good answer in case if they ask.As about of some proof of Residence in USA i dont know what to tell you,do you have any proof? Probably the Bank account and your exams? or anything else maybe?

You should defenetely take a chance and come back as everything might gonna be fine at the airport but just be prepared with the good answers ,just in case anyway.

Best Wishes.

Sincerely.

[meauxna 15]

I think if they ask me about why I stayed outside USA for so long I would be able to answer that satisfactorily. But if they ask me about my marriage and husband and my current address, I would have a hard time coming up with an answer which is not a lie and which does not compromise my case. I just hope they won't ask any questions at all and would just wish me good luck. Oh how I wish it would be as easy and as simple as that.

My husband returned to the US alone a couple of times--he was never questioned about our marriage or current address, simply 'How long have you been gone?' & 'Welcome Home'. It is perfectly reasonable for you to ahve gone to your home country for an extended visit with your family; I would not be nervous as you are not trying to do anything wrong.

You also do not have to go to Houston directly (or at all); if you have a friend you can stay with, all the better. I recommend the site www.craigslist.org (choose your specific sity) for lots of kinds of housing including sublets or temporary furnished places. Any sort of website or group that serves your ethnic or religious community would be a good help too.

It sounds like you are building your courage to do what is right for you and your family!

[dmartmar 1]

have asked the social worker for the NGO which helped me during those difficult times to consult a US immigration attorney on my behalf and let me know what he thinks of my case. I hope I hear from them very soon. Because if I am to get to USA I better do it before mid July as that would make a year for my daughter's stay outside of USA. I had to bring her back to my home country as the situation over there was getting worse and worse with my ex-husband's teenaged son's involvement in drugs and watching porno movies with his male friends at home. I did not feel it to be a safe environment for my daughter.

diadromous mermaid,

my time line is:

- got married in April 2003 in my country.

-Ex husband applied for K-1 visa in May 2003

-Got K-1 and K-2 Visas in June 2004.

-Came to USA in Oct 2004

-Got conditional green cards in June 2005

- My daughter was sent back home because of the unsafe environment in July 2005

- Divorce filed by husband, as I did not have filing fees in Oct 2005.

-I signed the divorce papers in Nov 2005 and came back to my country.

-Divorce decree awarded by court in Jan 2006, my lawyer represented me at the court.

But according to your timeline, apparently the environment was "safe" enough for you and your daughter to hold out until you got your GCs, then moved out the month after you got them.

Edited July 14, 2006 by dmartmar

[laila 0]

have asked the social worker for the NGO which helped me during those difficult times to consult a US immigration attorney on my behalf and let me know what he thinks of my case. I hope I hear from them very soon. Because if I am to get to USA I better do it before mid July as that would make a year for my daughter's stay outside of USA. I had to bring her back to my home country as the situation over there was getting worse and worse with my ex-husband's teenaged son's involvement in drugs and watching porno movies with his male friends at home. I did not feel it to be a safe environment for my daughter.

diadromous mermaid,

my time line is:

- got married in April 2003 in my country.

-Ex husband applied for K-1 visa in May 2003

-Got K-1 and K-2 Visas in June 2004.

-Came to USA in Oct 2004

-Got conditional green cards in June 2005

- My daughter was sent back home because of the unsafe environment in July 2005

- Divorce filed by husband, as I did not have filing fees in Oct 2005.

-I signed the divorce papers in Nov 2005 and came back to my country.

-Divorce decree awarded by court in Jan 2006, my lawyer represented me at the court.

But according to your timeline, apparently the environment was "safe" enough for you and your daughter to hold out until you got your GCs, then moved out the month after you got them.

No. I think you are misunderstanding me. Probably because of the missing information.

We got here in Oct 2004. At that time it was just me , my daughter and my then husband.

His son got back from UK end of January 2005. For the first couple of months he did not get into any drugs or porno stuff and his friends were nice boys.

Then he made friends with junkies, got into drugs and pornogrpahy, breaking in the house with his friends in early morning hours and other stuff. That started happening around April/ May. And things went bad pretty quickly. That was when I really felt that my daughter was not safe there.

I did not marry my ex husband for the green card. If that is what you are implying at. If I had I would have not returned to my country even before my divorce decree was awarded.

[dmartmar 1]

I did not marry my ex husband for the green card. If that is what you are implying at. If I had, I would have not returned to my country even before my divorce decree was awarded.

But YOU DID return to your country AFTER you got the green card!

Edited July 14, 2006 by dmartmar

[laila 0]

I did not marry my ex husband for the green card. If that is what you are implying at. If I had, I would have not returned to my country even before my divorce decree was awarded.

But YOU DID return to your country AFTER you got the green card!

Getting that two year green card and returning to my country did not at all mean that I could benefit from that green card in any way. And had I and my daughter not to face any stigmatization I would not have been thinking about getting back to USA.

Why do you find it so hard to understand?

[john_and_marlene 162]

I did not marry my ex husband for the green card. If that is what you are implying at. If I had, I would have not returned to my country even before my divorce decree was awarded.

But YOU DID return to your country AFTER you got the green card!

Getting that two year green card and returning to my country did not at all mean that I could benefit from that green card in any way. And had I and my daughter not to face any stigmatization I would not have been thinking about getting back to USA.

Why do you find it so hard to understand?

Because he got burned and has lost any objective perspective.

[laila 0]

I did not marry my ex husband for the green card. If that is what you are implying at. If I had, I would have not returned to my country even before my divorce decree was awarded.

But YOU DID return to your country AFTER you got the green card!

Getting that two year green card and returning to my country did not at all mean that I could benefit from that green card in any way. And had I and my daughter not to face any stigmatization I would not have been thinking about getting back to USA.

Why do you find it so hard to understand?

Because he got burned and has lost any objective perspective.

I am sorry that he got burned. But it is not healthy or fair to become suspicious of every one else on account of one person.

[vartan 0]

I am sorry that he got burned. But it is not healthy or fair to become suspicious of every one else on account of one person.

I have seen this before and this is just my observations but many times the bad aspects of the marriage wont come out until that green card.. Now I don't know your situation completely so these are just assumptions.. But when you don't have your green card you are pretty much reliant on him to help you get it .. without him you can't.. and so that is power.. once you get the green card the power he had over you is gone and makes them scared and resort to violence aggression, etc.. to keep you "in line" This is just what I have seen with some of my family members..

Edited July 14, 2006 by vartan

[john_and_marlene 162]

I did not marry my ex husband for the green card. If that is what you are implying at. If I had, I would have not returned to my country even before my divorce decree was awarded.

But YOU DID return to your country AFTER you got the green card!

Getting that two year green card and returning to my country did not at all mean that I could benefit from that green card in any way. And had I and my daughter not to face any stigmatization I would not have been thinking about getting back to USA.

Why do you find it so hard to understand?

Because he got burned and has lost any objective perspective.

I am sorry that he got burned. But it is not healthy or fair to become suspicious of every one else on account of one person.

I agree

[dmartmar 1]

I am sorry that he got burned. But it is not healthy or fair to become suspicious of every one else on account of one person.

I am suspicious of you on your account, just based on the below info. YOU posted:

my time line is:

-got married in April 2003 in my country.

-ex-husband applied for K-1 visa in May 2003

-got K-1 and K-2 Visas in June 2004.

-came to USA in Oct 2004

-got conditional green cards in June 2005

-my daughter was sent back home because of the unsafe environment in July 2005

-divorce filed by husband, as I did not have filing fees in Oct 2005.

-I signed the divorce papers in Nov 2005 and came back to my country.

-divorce decree awarded by court in Jan 2006, my lawyer represented me at the court.

No. I think you are misunderstanding me. Probably because of the missing information.

We got here in Oct 2004. At that time it was just me , my daughter and my then husband.

His son got back from UK end of January 2005. For the first couple of months he did not get into any drugs or porno stuff and his friends were nice boys.

Then he made friends with junkies, got into drugs and pornogrpahy, breaking in the house with his friends in early morning hours and other stuff. That started happening around April/ May. And things went bad pretty quickly. That was when I really felt that my daughter was not safe there.

You say his son got back home at the end of Jan. '05 and didn't start doing drugs and/or watching porno until April or May of that same year. So basically, you and your daughter stayed in that "unsafe" environment throughout the whole month of June, which coincidentally is the month you got your GCs in, then exactly a month later (July) you sent your daughter back home, but already with a GC in hand.

If it was so "unsafe" and "dangerous" to live in the same household before you both got your GCs; why did you then wait until AFTER you got your GCs to leave?

Edited July 14, 2006 by dmartmar

[gimygirl 0]

I am suspicious of you on your account, just based on the below info.

[laila 0]

I am sorry that he got burned. But it is not healthy or fair to become suspicious of every one else on account of one person.

I am suspicious of you on your account, just based on the below info. YOU posted:

my time line is:

-got married in April 2003 in my country.

-ex-husband applied for K-1 visa in May 2003

-got K-1 and K-2 Visas in June 2004.

-came to USA in Oct 2004

-got conditional green cards in June 2005

-my daughter was sent back home because of the unsafe environment in July 2005

-divorce filed by husband, as I did not have filing fees in Oct 2005.

-I signed the divorce papers in Nov 2005 and came back to my country.

-divorce decree awarded by court in Jan 2006, my lawyer represented me at the court.

No. I think you are misunderstanding me. Probably because of the missing information.

We got here in Oct 2004. At that time it was just me , my daughter and my then husband.

His son got back from UK end of January 2005. For the first couple of months he did not get into any drugs or porno stuff and his friends were nice boys.

Then he made friends with junkies, got into drugs and pornogrpahy, breaking in the house with his friends in early morning hours and other stuff. That started happening around April/ May. And things went bad pretty quickly. That was when I really felt that my daughter was not safe there.

You say his son got back home at the end of Jan. '05 and didn't start doing drugs and/or watching porno until April or May of that same year. So basically, you and your daughter stayed in that "unsafe" environment throughout the whole month of June, which coincidentally is the month you got your GCs in, then exactly a month later (July) you sent your daughter back home, but already with a GC in hand.

If it was so "unsafe" and "dangerous" to live in the same household before you both got your GCs; why did you then wait until AFTER you got your GCs to leave?

You are welcome to be as suspicious of me as you wish to be. You don't have the whole picture of all that went wrong and why. And how much I suffered and lost because of that mariage. And I am not going to waste my time or your time trying to explain my self to you.

[diadromous mermaid 36]

I am sorry that he got burned. But it is not healthy or fair to become suspicious of every one else on account of one person.

I am suspicious of you on your account, just based on the below info. YOU posted:

my time line is:

-got married in April 2003 in my country.

-ex-husband applied for K-1 visa in May 2003

-got K-1 and K-2 Visas in June 2004.

-came to USA in Oct 2004

-got conditional green cards in June 2005

-my daughter was sent back home because of the unsafe environment in July 2005

-divorce filed by husband, as I did not have filing fees in Oct 2005.

-I signed the divorce papers in Nov 2005 and came back to my country.

-divorce decree awarded by court in Jan 2006, my lawyer represented me at the court.

No. I think you are misunderstanding me. Probably because of the missing information.

We got here in Oct 2004. At that time it was just me , my daughter and my then husband.

His son got back from UK end of January 2005. For the first couple of months he did not get into any drugs or porno stuff and his friends were nice boys.

Then he made friends with junkies, got into drugs and pornogrpahy, breaking in the house with his friends in early morning hours and other stuff. That started happening around April/ May. And things went bad pretty quickly. That was when I really felt that my daughter was not safe there.

You say his son got back home at the end of Jan. '05 and didn't start doing drugs and/or watching porno until April or May of that same year. So basically, you and your daughter stayed in that "unsafe" environment throughout the whole month of June, which coincidentally is the month you got your GCs in, then exactly a month later (July) you sent your daughter back home, but already with a GC in hand.

If it was so "unsafe" and "dangerous" to live in the same household before you both got your GCs; why did you then wait until AFTER you got your GCs to leave?

dmartmar,

While occasionally you do have an acute perception of possible underpinnings, in this case, *if* an alien was only intent upon tolerating a union/relationship until receiving a green card, and once in his/her trusty hands,promptly move to terminate the marriage, why on earth would the alien move out of the country? Wouldn't "down the street" have achieved your alledged objective?