what if you found out that he or she is cheating on you?

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

Stupid question!

[bulaklak 0]

what if you found out that he or she is cheating on you?

what u gonna do? :reading: :pop:

I'd be gone quick and throw his belonging! I won't cry not worthy of my tears. I will forgive him in the future but I don't want him in my life anymore....

invite friends over into my house to have drinks; .

Edited April 25, 2009 by lotus101

[-B&T- 1]

I am gonna chop his balls off with a rusty knife and sew her ##### with an old very rusty used needle.

[It's me 1]

[100% Al Ahly Fan 53]

If the person truly loved you, they wouldn't cheat on you. PERIOD! It won't get better....just leave, or kick them out! Time to move on.

[babykim 0]

what if you found out that he or she is cheating on you?

what u gonna do? :reading: :pop:

I'd be gone quick and throw his belonging! I won't cry not worthy of my tears. I will forgive him in the future but I don't want him in my life anymore....

invite friends over into my house to have drinks; .

cool...

[rlogan 2,036]

When it happened to me I confronted her. She denied it.

I tricked her into thinking I was leaving for the weekend and then followed her car to his house. She spent the night.

I knocked on the door in the morning and confronted her. Told her it was "stop" or divorce.

No anger. Just hurt. Confusion.

Incredibly, she still denied it and wanted to live separately, but no counselling and still see this jerk as "friends".

So yes - I divorced her.

But this idea of "revenge sex" and killing them, etc - childish.

Take care of yourself. One day at a time. Find support in good friends and family. Don't act rashly. The worst part of this is being confused about the future. I felt so much better once I knew the future (divorce) and could take steps organizing my life.

My sympathies to her.

[bulaklak 0]

If the person truly loved you, they wouldn't cheat on you. PERIOD! It won't get better....just leave, or kick them out! Time to move on.

That is understatement...."love" has nothing to do why some people cheated on their love one.

It is mainly about the character of a person

or perhaps they think they can get away from it; and

sometimes friends are bad influence

A B*tch or a jerk guys have excuses they cheated on their spouse because they're not so good or their spouse do not pay attention to them that is why they seek somewhere else. which is BS!

Edited April 26, 2009 by lotus101

[HannahP 119]

To offer an earnest reply:

I have put a lot into my relationship. We have been together for eight years now, living together for four. We don't have kids or even really any assets.

Yet.

I think I would consider the /type/ of affair first. A one night stand? Or a mistress? What was the level of emotional involvement? Is he still emotionally involved with me?

I would also consider how long we'd been together as a couple.

I'm not into the whole sanctity of marriage bs. But I'm not sure that I'd throw away my hard-earned marriage/relationship for my hubby's one night stand. Trust CAN be rebuilt.

[bulaklak 0]

If the person truly loved you, they wouldn't cheat on you. PERIOD! It won't get better....just leave, or kick them out! Time to move on.

That is understatement...."love" has nothing to do why some people cheated on their love one.

It is mainly about the character of a person

or perhaps they think they can get away from it; and

sometimes friends are bad influence

A B*tch or a jerk guys have excuses they cheated on their spouse because they're not so good or their spouse do not pay attention to them that is why they seek somewhere else. which is BS! no matter what reason it is, you have NO right to cheat. if you are not happy anymore in the relationship simply just divorce him/her instead of cheating.

[bulaklak 0]

I'm not into the whole sanctity of marriage bs. But I'm not sure that I'd throw away my hard-earned marriage/relationship for my hubby's one night stand. Trust CAN be rebuilt.

Trust maybe can rebuilt but most likely is not.......

I think I would consider the /type/ of affair first. A one night stand? Or a mistress? What was the level of emotional involvement? Is he still emotionally involved with me?

And what about the risks of stds? it is worth?... def not.

To me if my husband doing in the above you mention, I def kick hiss ####, no matter how long we have been married. I cannot tolerate that kind of behavior.

Edited April 26, 2009 by lotus101

[jundp 191]

I think it would depend very much on the state of the relationship prior to the "cheating", how long it had been going on and whether there was a sincere desire to move forward.

Of course given that so much emotion is riding on it - I think its hard to say for sure how anyone would react.

I agree. Too many variables to make it just a one answer fits all scenario.

[bulaklak 0]

I'm not into the whole sanctity of marriage bs. But I'm not sure that I'd throw away my hard-earned marriage/relationship for my hubby's one night stand. Trust CAN be rebuilt.

Trust maybe can rebuilt but most likely is not.......

I think I would consider the /type/ of affair first. A one night stand? Or a mistress? What was the level of emotional involvement? Is he still emotionally involved with me?

And what about the risks of stds? it is worth?... def not.

To me if my husband doing in the above you mention, I def kick hiss ####, no matter how long we have been married. I cannot tolerate that kind of behavior. I love and respect myself. I can find a much better man than him, who is NOT A CHEATER....... A good marriage takes two people to work it out.

[MARM 7]

Stupid question!

^^^agree!

[HannahP 119]

I'm not into the whole sanctity of marriage bs. But I'm not sure that I'd throw away my hard-earned marriage/relationship for my hubby's one night stand. Trust CAN be rebuilt.

Trust maybe can rebuilt but most likely is not.......

I think I would consider the /type/ of affair first. A one night stand? Or a mistress? What was the level of emotional involvement? Is he still emotionally involved with me?

And what about the risks of stds? it is worth?... def not.

To me if my husband doing in the above you mention, I def kick hiss ####, no matter how long we have been married. I cannot tolerate that kind of behavior.

Um, as someone who has had to rebuild trust with her husband (no affairs or other men) -- I take offense. We have a very strong, trusting marriage, despite what I have done.

I imagine that my hubby would be smart enough to wear a hat. Even if he didn't & caught something...it happens. My sister is an example of an unfortunate situation.

My husband has put up with a lot of ###### from me; I have never cheated on him, never thought of another man or wanted one. Or woman. Yet he puts up with me. We made a commitment.