My Experience in the States

[pine 0]

Top of the day,

Infact it's my first time of going through all these and to be real with you. I came into the STATE [uS] on May this year and things never been the same it was when she visited me in Nigeria. 'm a rugby coach back home before I quit and came down and ofcourse she don't want me to pay the tickect and she did, now 'm thinking maybe that's why 'm going through these.

Ever since I was here, she's been complaining that 'm not eating what she cook but this shouldn't be harsh on me cos most of my foods back home was rejected by her and she called it ''horrible'' . Sure we got married in June and she used to keep my letters away from me saying that '' it's all junked, after all she paid for my ticket to be here '' she never allows me to talk to my manager or friends back home, I hardly spoke with my family back home [ parents ] I can't respond back if anybody says ''hi'' to me cos she'll be mad. She said it to my face that '' If you think in anyway you're getting your paper file , you're just wasting your time '' and she later says it's because she was angry that 'm not holding her or talking [ we're at the greyhound bus station in Virginia at the time ].

No stable place, we're just traveling around and besides 've travelled more than people that has live here for twenty years!

've being to Virginia from here [ New York ]. Virginia to Maine [ at motel 6 with her two sons '' keith-22yrs/Dylan-17yrs '' back to Portland in motel 6 and we ended up at her ex husband cos they all said [ mother & sons ] '' this is not their father '' there's a good job and I moved with them. We ended up sending out of his house though I figures some kind of game between them. I was helped with transport by some Nigerians down there and able to buy my own phone cos despite keith telling her I needed a phone, she never respond until August 06th,2008. And I got kicked out on August 15th cos I called my own mother back home [ $2.00 international call ] As of now, 'm in shelter [ Many story to say ] 've being to DSS and they put me here [ for two weeks, since Dec. 5th friday till 19th friday ] .

I was at Immigration Office that friday and they asked me to write how we met and all, and I did. They felt sorry and said they're going to follow my case and b'cos of my situations, they printed out the forms I-360 [ AMERASIAN ] . Infact they gave me some lunch [ was shocked and I appreciate that ]. A lot to say, I keep going back based on her email sent to me saying things will be fine but it keep getting worsen.

Thank you for been there.

A friend from VisaJourney.

[Perseverance 1]

Top of the day,

Infact it's my first time of going through all these and to be real with you. I came into the STATE [uS] on May this year and things never been the same it was when she visited me in Nigeria. 'm a rugby coach back home before I quit and came down and ofcourse she don't want me to pay the tickect and she did, now 'm thinking maybe that's why 'm going through these.

Ever since I was here, she's been complaining that 'm not eating what she cook but this shouldn't be harsh on me cos most of my foods back home was rejected by her and she called it ''horrible'' . Sure we got married in June and she used to keep my letters away from me saying that '' it's all junked, after all she paid for my ticket to be here '' she never allows me to talk to my manager or friends back home, I hardly spoke with my family back home [ parents ] I can't respond back if anybody says ''hi'' to me cos she'll be mad. She said it to my face that '' If you think in anyway you're getting your paper file , you're just wasting your time '' and she later says it's because she was angry that 'm not holding her or talking [ we're at the greyhound bus station in Virginia at the time ].

No stable place, we're just traveling around and besides 've travelled more than people that has live here for twenty years!

've being to Virginia from here [ New York ]. Virginia to Maine [ at motel 6 with her two sons '' keith-22yrs/Dylan-17yrs '' back to Portland in motel 6 and we ended up at her ex husband cos they all said [ mother & sons ] '' this is not their father '' there's a good job and I moved with them. We ended up sending out of his house though I figures some kind of game between them. I was helped with transport by some Nigerians down there and able to buy my own phone cos despite keith telling her I needed a phone, she never respond until August 06th,2008. And I got kicked out on August 15th cos I called my own mother back home [ $2.00 international call ] As of now, 'm in shelter [ Many story to say ] 've being to DSS and they put me here [ for two weeks, since Dec. 5th friday till 19th friday ] .

I was at Immigration Office that friday and they asked me to write how we met and all, and I did. They felt sorry and said they're going to follow my case and b'cos of my situations, they printed out the forms I-360 [ AMERASIAN ] . Infact they gave me some lunch [ was shocked and I appreciate that ]. A lot to say, I keep going back based on her email sent to me saying things will be fine but it keep getting worsen.

Thank you for been there.

A friend from VisaJourney.

Wow so sorry to hear that you have gone through this kind of trouble. Can you look into your heart and decide what you would like to do? Where is she? Has she had any contact with you? Please stay strong. Glad that you are safe and warm.

[WhidbeyGirl 1]

Boye, so sorry to hear all you have been throught, it sounds so horrible. I will keep you in my prayers. I don't have any advice I am so surprised that people treat one another as you have been treated, it's just not right.

Edited December 19, 2008 by WhidbeyGirl

[Zee Bee 61]

I'm so sorry for how you have been treated

Are you planning on staying here? Or do you want to go back home?

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

Where are you now? Are you still at the shelter? They have computers for you to use at the shelter?

[Enlighten one :) 5]

Hello,

Your story is sad and distressing. Are you still in Maine? My husband will arive from Nigeria tomorrow. I would welcome sharing his number so you two could meet. Love to have you over for dinner, Christmas even service at my church. My husband is a pastor, I have several Nigerian friends in the maine area that could support you through this difficult time.

Best regards,

Mrs. Jibowu

Top of the day,

Infact it's my first time of going through all these and to be real with you. I came into the STATE [uS] on May this year and things never been the same it was when she visited me in Nigeria. 'm a rugby coach back home before I quit and came down and ofcourse she don't want me to pay the tickect and she did, now 'm thinking maybe that's why 'm going through these.

Ever since I was here, she's been complaining that 'm not eating what she cook but this shouldn't be harsh on me cos most of my foods back home was rejected by her and she called it ''horrible'' . Sure we got married in June and she used to keep my letters away from me saying that '' it's all junked, after all she paid for my ticket to be here '' she never allows me to talk to my manager or friends back home, I hardly spoke with my family back home [ parents ] I can't respond back if anybody says ''hi'' to me cos she'll be mad. She said it to my face that '' If you think in anyway you're getting your paper file , you're just wasting your time '' and she later says it's because she was angry that 'm not holding her or talking [ we're at the greyhound bus station in Virginia at the time ].

No stable place, we're just traveling around and besides 've travelled more than people that has live here for twenty years!

've being to Virginia from here [ New York ]. Virginia to Maine [ at motel 6 with her two sons '' keith-22yrs/Dylan-17yrs '' back to Portland in motel 6 and we ended up at her ex husband cos they all said [ mother & sons ] '' this is not their father '' there's a good job and I moved with them. We ended up sending out of his house though I figures some kind of game between them. I was helped with transport by some Nigerians down there and able to buy my own phone cos despite keith telling her I needed a phone, she never respond until August 06th,2008. And I got kicked out on August 15th cos I called my own mother back home [ $2.00 international call ] As of now, 'm in shelter [ Many story to say ] 've being to DSS and they put me here [ for two weeks, since Dec. 5th friday till 19th friday ] .

I was at Immigration Office that friday and they asked me to write how we met and all, and I did. They felt sorry and said they're going to follow my case and b'cos of my situations, they printed out the forms I-360 [ AMERASIAN ] . Infact they gave me some lunch [ was shocked and I appreciate that ]. A lot to say, I keep going back based on her email sent to me saying things will be fine but it keep getting worsen.

Thank you for been there.

A friend from VisaJourney.

[kk_mine 0]

Wow! My heart goes out to you and my prayers! So sorry to know someone would treat anyone this way. Guess it looks like we are all wondering where you are? I wonder can someone help you with calling cards to call back home? As making them from the cell is really costly!

Edited December 19, 2008 by kk_mine

[forchika 4]

Sorry!!!! My thoughts and prayers are with you!!!!!

[ForeverAmen 0]

So sorry for all you are going through.

If you have a way of providing me with an address, please send me a PM and I will be glad to mail you some calling cards.

Boaz

[Naijabound 1]

Boye, I am sorry to hear what you have been put through. This breaks my heart. You are in a new country and I assume you dont really know anyone here. God will make a way for you. I am curious as someone else has asked, are you planning on returning home or staying in the states?

[anitacastillo 0]

Sorry to hear things are not working out. Sounds like she wasn't really ready for you in her life.

[Ta Ta 1]

Sorry for the things you are going through

Find friends and support through the Nigerian Association. Consider counseling and a consultation with a good immigration attorney if things won't work out.

Stay focused.

Best wishes.

[galaxy_2008 0]

Sorry for the things you are going through

Find friends and support through the Nigerian Association. Consider counseling and a consultation with a good immigration attorney if things won't work out.

Stay focused.

Best wishes.

Boye,i am sorry for the situation you are have passing through....i wish we can send the real picture of this situation to our brother at home and to let them see what we you are passing through. so,send me the PM i will like to talked to you.

[boo boo 1]

My thoughts and prayers are with you, please be strong. I am sorry that you are going thru so much

[oh hene wa 0]

Please keep your head up. Get the help you need. God is with you, please lean on him.

I am so very sorry you are going through this. You desirve to be treated so much better.

God is holding your hand, please hold on to his, because he will see you through.

You have people here who do care, so please do update us as to how you are and where you are.

God be with you and bless you.