Wife gone after 10 months

[Sha2011 0]

dude,sorry,but u need to grow up and find out what a real relationship is like.she mite have been wrong what shedid but even if it is with another girl.cook clean and smell good???come on man.advice--next relationship just love her for who she is and not what she can do for you, thats selfish and believe me filippinas are great woman.

U DONT KNOW EVER FILIPINA, I AM PROUD TO SAY THAT I AM FILIPINA WITH BEAUTY AND HEART, BUT COMMON, EVERY FILIPINA HAVE DIFFERENT VALUES, WE GROW IN DIFFERENT WAYS OF LIVING, WE BEEN RAISE IN DIFFERENT ASPECT BY OUR PARENTS, WERE NOT ALL THE SAME. TRUST ME 2 OF MY FILIPINA FRIENDS ARE MEAN TO THERE WHITE MAN. THEY CHEAT, THEY SPEND MONEY LIKE THEY JUST PICK UP IT ON THE TRESS, THEY PLAY FIRE, WHILE THERE PARTNER IS NOT AROUND. BUT THEY ARE CLEAN. GIVE THIS A TRY, WHAT U HAVE A WIFE WHO DONT WASH HER DOWN EEVRYDAY? WHO DNT KNOW HOW TO BRUSH HER TEETH? WHO DONT TAKE A BATH EVERYDAY OR LET SAY TAKE A BATH EVERY 2 DAYS. THEN U MAKE LOVE? U THINK U CANNOT COMPLAIN OF WHAT UR SMELLING FROM HER? I DONT THINK SO A HUSBAND WILL LOVE TO HAVE A WIFE THAT IS HAVING A BAD ODORS. I GUESS A GOOD HUSBAND WILL STILL COMPLAIN FOR THIS ISSUE AND TRY TO GUIDE HER WIFE FOR THE THINGS SHE NEED TO CHANGE AND WORK OUT. W/O ANY OFFENSE FOR WIFE, THIS THINGS STILL FOR HER OWN GOOD.

ALSO IF UR A WIFE, ITS YOUR RESPONDSIBILITY TO TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOUR HUSBAND WHILE HE IS BUSY AT WORK, COOK, CLEAN HOUSE, WASH CLOTHES AND ETC WHILE YOUR AT HOME AND NOTHIGN TO DO. I GUESS FOR A FILIPINA LIKE US THIS KIND OF THINGS IS NOT HARD FOR US TO DO. THIS IS JUST A BASIS SHARE FOR BEING A WIFE.

I KNOW BOTH HAVE MISTAKES BUT EVERYTHING IS TOO LATE NOW FOR THEN TO SETTLE THE MESS, WELL I HOPE THEY CAB STILL BUT THEY ALREADY AIRED WHAT THEY WANTED TO AIRED. U GUYS NEED TO FORGIVE AND FORGET NOW. NEXT TIME TANGKAS, BETTER LOOK FOR A WOMAN THAT IS YOUR TYPE AND WANTS. BE CAREFUL AND BE COVSERVANT. SO U WOULNDT HAVE THIS MISTAKE IN YOUR LIFE I FEEL BAD ABOUT THIS BUT I FEEL PITTY FOR UR BABY! GOOD LUCK AND MOVE ON!

I have never said anything about Filipino people. My cousin is married to a Filipino-American. My wife so happens to be a Filipina. She could of been from any country. I am not trying to imply any racist or ethnic stereotypes. Let's get that clear.

My mistake is noticing this stuff in her before I married ask her to change it, and went along with the wedding. I lived and learned. I've been patient enough. Don't wait till I try to find someone else without these flaws to try to change them.

I am giving it to God anyways. Thanks for your advice.

HEY READ READ PLEASE! I DIDNT ACCUSE U LIKE HOW U ACCUSE SHONE. LOOK AT THAT MESSAGE... LOOK AND READ DID I WROTE " HEY TANGKAS U DONT EVER KNOW A FILIPINA" DID I? DID I? AND AS FAR AS U READ IT WAS FOR FOR MARK AND JESS THAT SAY "FILIPINAS IS A GREAT WOMAN" WHICH I WANTED TO CORRECT THAT NOT EVERYBODY SINCE I KNEW SOME WHO IS NOT A GREAT FILIPINA WIVES. U KNOW WHAT, U BETTER READ OK, CUZ U DONT ACCUSED ME. U ARE FUN OF ACCUSING SOMEBODY. NOW U LET ME THINK SOMETHING ABOUT WHO REALLU ARE. OH BOY! READ OK READ! LIKE HOW U READ YOUR PHONE NUMBERS AND BUG SOMEBODY AROUND 11PM. PLEASE PLEASE BE EXTRA CAREFUL.

ok i didnt read it right

yeah thank u thats all u say... ok didnt read it right! ur missing something. hope u know what it is.

Right ! I forgot to go down to the courthouse to get the divorce papers. Thanks for reminding me...

Anyone have some USCIS advice ?

[bevs 0]

dude,sorry,but u need to grow up and find out what a real relationship is like.she mite have been wrong what shedid but even if it is with another girl.cook clean and smell good???come on man.advice--next relationship just love her for who she is and not what she can do for you, thats selfish and believe me filippinas are great woman.

U DONT KNOW EVER FILIPINA, I AM PROUD TO SAY THAT I AM FILIPINA WITH BEAUTY AND HEART, BUT COMMON, EVERY FILIPINA HAVE DIFFERENT VALUES, WE GROW IN DIFFERENT WAYS OF LIVING, WE BEEN RAISE IN DIFFERENT ASPECT BY OUR PARENTS, WERE NOT ALL THE SAME. TRUST ME 2 OF MY FILIPINA FRIENDS ARE MEAN TO THERE WHITE MAN. THEY CHEAT, THEY SPEND MONEY LIKE THEY JUST PICK UP IT ON THE TRESS, THEY PLAY FIRE, WHILE THERE PARTNER IS NOT AROUND. BUT THEY ARE CLEAN. GIVE THIS A TRY, WHAT U HAVE A WIFE WHO DONT WASH HER DOWN EEVRYDAY? WHO DNT KNOW HOW TO BRUSH HER TEETH? WHO DONT TAKE A BATH EVERYDAY OR LET SAY TAKE A BATH EVERY 2 DAYS. THEN U MAKE LOVE? U THINK U CANNOT COMPLAIN OF WHAT UR SMELLING FROM HER? I DONT THINK SO A HUSBAND WILL LOVE TO HAVE A WIFE THAT IS HAVING A BAD ODORS. I GUESS A GOOD HUSBAND WILL STILL COMPLAIN FOR THIS ISSUE AND TRY TO GUIDE HER WIFE FOR THE THINGS SHE NEED TO CHANGE AND WORK OUT. W/O ANY OFFENSE FOR WIFE, THIS THINGS STILL FOR HER OWN GOOD.

ALSO IF UR A WIFE, ITS YOUR RESPONDSIBILITY TO TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOUR HUSBAND WHILE HE IS BUSY AT WORK, COOK, CLEAN HOUSE, WASH CLOTHES AND ETC WHILE YOUR AT HOME AND NOTHIGN TO DO. I GUESS FOR A FILIPINA LIKE US THIS KIND OF THINGS IS NOT HARD FOR US TO DO. THIS IS JUST A BASIS SHARE FOR BEING A WIFE.

I KNOW BOTH HAVE MISTAKES BUT EVERYTHING IS TOO LATE NOW FOR THEN TO SETTLE THE MESS, WELL I HOPE THEY CAB STILL BUT THEY ALREADY AIRED WHAT THEY WANTED TO AIRED. U GUYS NEED TO FORGIVE AND FORGET NOW. NEXT TIME TANGKAS, BETTER LOOK FOR A WOMAN THAT IS YOUR TYPE AND WANTS. BE CAREFUL AND BE COVSERVANT. SO U WOULNDT HAVE THIS MISTAKE IN YOUR LIFE I FEEL BAD ABOUT THIS BUT I FEEL PITTY FOR UR BABY! GOOD LUCK AND MOVE ON!

I have never said anything about Filipino people. My cousin is married to a Filipino-American. My wife so happens to be a Filipina. She could of been from any country. I am not trying to imply any racist or ethnic stereotypes. Let's get that clear.

My mistake is noticing this stuff in her before I married ask her to change it, and went along with the wedding. I lived and learned. I've been patient enough. Don't wait till I try to find someone else without these flaws to try to change them.

I am giving it to God anyways. Thanks for your advice.

HEY READ READ PLEASE! I DIDNT ACCUSE U LIKE HOW U ACCUSE SHONE. LOOK AT THAT MESSAGE... LOOK AND READ DID I WROTE " HEY TANGKAS U DONT EVER KNOW A FILIPINA" DID I? DID I? AND AS FAR AS U READ IT WAS FOR FOR MARK AND JESS THAT SAY "FILIPINAS IS A GREAT WOMAN" WHICH I WANTED TO CORRECT THAT NOT EVERYBODY SINCE I KNEW SOME WHO IS NOT A GREAT FILIPINA WIVES. U KNOW WHAT, U BETTER READ OK, CUZ U DONT ACCUSED ME. U ARE FUN OF ACCUSING SOMEBODY. NOW U LET ME THINK SOMETHING ABOUT WHO REALLU ARE. OH BOY! READ OK READ! LIKE HOW U READ YOUR PHONE NUMBERS AND BUG SOMEBODY AROUND 11PM. PLEASE PLEASE BE EXTRA CAREFUL.

ok i didnt read it right

yeah thank u thats all u say... ok didnt read it right! ur missing something. hope u know what it is.

Right ! I forgot to go down to the courthouse to get the divorce papers. Thanks for reminding me...

Anyone have some USCIS advice ?

and teach your self how to say SORRY to someone who u been accused of!

[Sha2011 0]

dude,sorry,but u need to grow up and find out what a real relationship is like.she mite have been wrong what shedid but even if it is with another girl.cook clean and smell good???come on man.advice--next relationship just love her for who she is and not what she can do for you, thats selfish and believe me filippinas are great woman.

U DONT KNOW EVER FILIPINA, I AM PROUD TO SAY THAT I AM FILIPINA WITH BEAUTY AND HEART, BUT COMMON, EVERY FILIPINA HAVE DIFFERENT VALUES, WE GROW IN DIFFERENT WAYS OF LIVING, WE BEEN RAISE IN DIFFERENT ASPECT BY OUR PARENTS, WERE NOT ALL THE SAME. TRUST ME 2 OF MY FILIPINA FRIENDS ARE MEAN TO THERE WHITE MAN. THEY CHEAT, THEY SPEND MONEY LIKE THEY JUST PICK UP IT ON THE TRESS, THEY PLAY FIRE, WHILE THERE PARTNER IS NOT AROUND. BUT THEY ARE CLEAN. GIVE THIS A TRY, WHAT U HAVE A WIFE WHO DONT WASH HER DOWN EEVRYDAY? WHO DNT KNOW HOW TO BRUSH HER TEETH? WHO DONT TAKE A BATH EVERYDAY OR LET SAY TAKE A BATH EVERY 2 DAYS. THEN U MAKE LOVE? U THINK U CANNOT COMPLAIN OF WHAT UR SMELLING FROM HER? I DONT THINK SO A HUSBAND WILL LOVE TO HAVE A WIFE THAT IS HAVING A BAD ODORS. I GUESS A GOOD HUSBAND WILL STILL COMPLAIN FOR THIS ISSUE AND TRY TO GUIDE HER WIFE FOR THE THINGS SHE NEED TO CHANGE AND WORK OUT. W/O ANY OFFENSE FOR WIFE, THIS THINGS STILL FOR HER OWN GOOD.

ALSO IF UR A WIFE, ITS YOUR RESPONDSIBILITY TO TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOUR HUSBAND WHILE HE IS BUSY AT WORK, COOK, CLEAN HOUSE, WASH CLOTHES AND ETC WHILE YOUR AT HOME AND NOTHIGN TO DO. I GUESS FOR A FILIPINA LIKE US THIS KIND OF THINGS IS NOT HARD FOR US TO DO. THIS IS JUST A BASIS SHARE FOR BEING A WIFE.

I KNOW BOTH HAVE MISTAKES BUT EVERYTHING IS TOO LATE NOW FOR THEN TO SETTLE THE MESS, WELL I HOPE THEY CAB STILL BUT THEY ALREADY AIRED WHAT THEY WANTED TO AIRED. U GUYS NEED TO FORGIVE AND FORGET NOW. NEXT TIME TANGKAS, BETTER LOOK FOR A WOMAN THAT IS YOUR TYPE AND WANTS. BE CAREFUL AND BE COVSERVANT. SO U WOULNDT HAVE THIS MISTAKE IN YOUR LIFE I FEEL BAD ABOUT THIS BUT I FEEL PITTY FOR UR BABY! GOOD LUCK AND MOVE ON!

I have never said anything about Filipino people. My cousin is married to a Filipino-American. My wife so happens to be a Filipina. She could of been from any country. I am not trying to imply any racist or ethnic stereotypes. Let's get that clear.

My mistake is noticing this stuff in her before I married ask her to change it, and went along with the wedding. I lived and learned. I've been patient enough. Don't wait till I try to find someone else without these flaws to try to change them.

I am giving it to God anyways. Thanks for your advice.

HEY READ READ PLEASE! I DIDNT ACCUSE U LIKE HOW U ACCUSE SHONE. LOOK AT THAT MESSAGE... LOOK AND READ DID I WROTE " HEY TANGKAS U DONT EVER KNOW A FILIPINA" DID I? DID I? AND AS FAR AS U READ IT WAS FOR FOR MARK AND JESS THAT SAY "FILIPINAS IS A GREAT WOMAN" WHICH I WANTED TO CORRECT THAT NOT EVERYBODY SINCE I KNEW SOME WHO IS NOT A GREAT FILIPINA WIVES. U KNOW WHAT, U BETTER READ OK, CUZ U DONT ACCUSED ME. U ARE FUN OF ACCUSING SOMEBODY. NOW U LET ME THINK SOMETHING ABOUT WHO REALLU ARE. OH BOY! READ OK READ! LIKE HOW U READ YOUR PHONE NUMBERS AND BUG SOMEBODY AROUND 11PM. PLEASE PLEASE BE EXTRA CAREFUL.

ok i didnt read it right

yeah thank u thats all u say... ok didnt read it right! ur missing something. hope u know what it is.

Right ! I forgot to go down to the courthouse to get the divorce papers. Thanks for reminding me...

Anyone have some USCIS advice ?

and teach your self how to say SORRY to someone who u been accused of!

Why so disrespectful ? Now I know why you and my wife are friends.

I came here for USCIS answers. She needs to go back where she came from.

[Ree 9]

. She needs to go back where she came from.

Why? Is she a package so you think you have right to send you back?

[returningVJ 0]

If you have reasons to believe her sole intention was to evade immigration laws through the marriage, file a detailed notarized statement with USCIS explaining the facts.

[Sha2011 0]

. She needs to go back where she came from.

Why? Is she a package so you think you have right to send you back?

She doesn't belong here. She came with the sole purpose of reconnecting with friends and family. I called ICE... I am going to go down to the local USCIS. I am going there in person. Hopefully I'll get more answers and better results.... I've been called a jerk my some Pinay, because I am doing this. Like I should be a sitting duck. We see where their primary motive was for coming here.

. No man deserves a wife that vanishes and tells you in Yahoo instant messager is the only way you can contact her for an extended perioid of time. I did that when she was in the Philippines I thought it would end once she got to America, but here I am at it again. Her aunt supposedly told her that she can only contact me with Yahoo Messenger. She keeps saying I am coming back. I ask her when, and she says on Monday...soon Monday turns to Thurs and and Thurs to Sunday. Evidently she doesn't want to come back. Georgia doesn't have as many Filipinos as California. She probably feels at home there. If she misses home so much, then she should go back home... What's the purpose of my charity. Anyone that would come to conclusion I should just avoid immigration, and let her stay and have happy life. Please ! Like we Americans are made of cast iron. Come on ! Americans if your wife leaves then call USCIS. She doesn't belong her. Our economy is already failing. Soon if many women commit these scams it will become harder for foreign women who do love their American men to come here. I remember in my uncles day all you had to was be married to an American to come here. Its harder now, and if these "marry and leave women" keep at and it goes unreported, it will become much harder...

Don't pitty her ! She deserves deportation and a night in an ICE holding and soon after a ticket back to Philippines. Alas justice I will have justice.

I already have another woman in line. She's Hispanic and yes she has her green card. Praise God !

I wish ya all luck that went down this immigration path and had your marriages workout. I don't think I'll ever go down that path. I don't even think USCIS will let me bring another woman in this country. Plus I don't want to flip the coin. Heads will she leave and tails will she stay...

I am looking for solid immigration advice from ye people.. On what I should do to get this woman out of the country.

[Sha2011 0]

Since my wife arrived in the United States her dad and brother has been bothering her about money. I sent them money once and refused after that time. Soon she began to get upset with me. Once I saw her brother's instant message asking if my parents would send support them, and asking her to come back home so I'll take care of them like I had been doing. Not to mention her dad and brother didn't work when my wife was in the Philippines due to the $500 per month I sent them. They moved into a pretty luxorious apartment, and I paid the rent and bills on that also. After my wife came they wanted me to continue with the money and the rent I paid. I told my wife I have to care for you here now only in US.

Soon my wife began saying she wanted to go back home. Not long after she got in contact with a well off aunt in California that kept asking her to come and stay with her. I remember my wife asking me if she can go to California. This was 2 or 3 weeks after she came. "After 1.5 years of marriage and being separated. in 2 or 3 weeks you want to leave me already ? "

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I believe because I am not caring for her family my wife is not making herself attractive for me. Her personal hygiene has went down. When I ask her to make some Filipino food she takes a whole bunch of mung beans and cabbage and thats it. No Pancit, no adobo, no shopow, no lumpia. I remember once I cooked pancit and lupia because I wanted it so bad, and she freely at of it. I told my wife before she came to US if she could learn how to cook these Filipino delicases. She didn;t work. She didn't do anything but sit home and had everything paid for her when she was in the Philippines. I would of paid for her to get a cooking course if she needed extra. she said she would learn how to cook, but she never did.

My wife wont cook. I have to work and come home and cook. When I do cook she ends up eating the food I cooked. I work nights shift and by 7 hours I have to go back to work. I have to cook my food, and all she does is sit home.

Back to the aunt. Recently, I became very depressed knowing that I spent all this time and effort on a woman that doesn't take care of herself and refuse to help me in anything. I began wanting someone else. My depression caused me to start smoking again. From 3 a day to neary a pack a day.. From their it got worst month by month.My sleep patterns changed. On average I got 2 or 3 hours sleep per day. My grades at school dropped. I lack clarity and find myself forgetful. My depression got worst and caused me to eat one small meal a day. I have lupus. It went into remission but it came back. My doctor said stress would cause it. Sometimes I am in severe pain. At times I would wake up screaming of pain, and she would just lay there in sleep. I didn't care if I lived or died. All I wanted was a woman that take care of herself, has good hygiene, loves me, and can cook her island delicases.

It got to the point whenever we got into an argument she would pack up and attempt to leave. It really hurt me to see this. I had no confidence our relationship would last. I began searching internet dating services hoping I would find someone to love me for me. My wife soon found out. She began accusing me of being the worst human type. I tried to reason with her on why I did it. All she could do is point the finger at me. I tried to tell her to change her faults. I offered to bring her to the doctor to find out why she has the odor she does. I tried !

When your spouse has bad hygiene can you sleep with them and refuses to change it, can you sleep with them. Would you see any hope in the relationship ?

Anyways, time went on. Her well of aunt in the Philippines bought her a ticket. My wife soon left. I came home one day and she said I am leaving

Then she jumps in a vehicle with an older male with two kids and his wife.

My wife didn't even tell me where she was going. I tried calling her friends to find out where she was and they had very nasty attitudes with me. I tried telling them if your husband was missing wouldn't you want to know where he is. They just got more irate. They sent me nasty text messages. Only one of them was semi nice, but yet you can see attitude all over. I have not known many Filipino people. I began resenting Filipino people. I am sory for that, because we can't judge an ethnic group by a few bad seeds.

My wife says her aunt will help her get a working permit and then green card, and she doesn't need me. she's not coming back to my house. When I think about my wife was here for 2 or 3 weeks her aunt had been begging her to come there. Recently, one of my wife's family members had a kid. I guess my wife is helping them out as a domestic. My wife said she'll work for them to pay for her working permit and green card.

I tried calling her aunts this morning, and they got some nasty attitudes with me. One was yelling and how she's an American citizen she can get my wife to stay in US she doesn't need me. One of them denied she knew my wife. I know these are lies.This mad me very angry with Filipino people. I know its not realistic to think all Filipinos are like this. I am sorry for thinking that. I've known some American kids of Filipino descent. They just as I stated Americans of Filipino descent. This is my first time being around Filipinos born in the Philippines. All of the one's my wife know are very unreasonable. If your spouse is missing wouldn't you want to know where there at ? But all I get is a mouth full of curses and yells.

I managed to get one of their addresses I called ICE, USCIS, and Department of State informing them my wife has left permanently. for some reason all of my wife's family members are trying to marry Americans. and once they do I guess they'll go to the aunts house in California. I have valid proof they've done that before with one cano. ICE said this is a fraud scam and they'll look into it. I gave them my wife's visa, and it might be canceled.

I'm sorry to hear that it didn't work out good but at least you already knew her attitude before it gets worst..God do this things for a reason and you deserve someone better than her. Someone who will love you,someone who will always be there for you,someone who will take good care of you and someone who will cherish you. I am a Filipina and it hurts me that some of my fellowmen are doing such thing but not all of us are like because I can't see myself leaving my future husband,it will surely kill me because i love him so much.. I wish u all the luck and may u find your true happiness soon

Right Filipina are usually great women. We have a few that make it look like all Filipina are after green cards. Hopefully, by people like me the scammers in the Philippines will stop trying, and the good Filipina will be free to immigrate her sooner then that 8-10 months long wait

[noel_jas 0]

hi i'm just curious.....can you give me the link to your wife's thread so i can read her story as well.....sorry for being nosy

[Fabulous 1]

So, something doesn't match. You spent $500/mos and when she came you didn't have any money to do the AOS?! Come on! It looks like you just wanted to use her as a housekeeper. And you blame her?! I suggest you to read about emotional abuse. You will find a lot of interesting information.

You still didn't answer the question if she could go in the stores and buy something. Did she have any freedom?

And question to all guys which think that foreign women are too spoiled and want too much. If you don't have money to buy a car you don't buy it, if you don't have money to buy a house you don't buy it because you can't afford it. So, why do you want to have a foreign wife if you can't afford to have her? Don't you think about it before you start dating? Or you don't? Then what are you thinking about? If you think it's too expensive don't bring them here.

[SterlingGirl 1]

I already have another woman in line. She's Hispanic and yes she has her green card. Praise God ! kicking.gif

Yay, a woman you don't have to make any sacrifices for, so she can make them all for you! Yaaaay!

Yep. I can really tell you loved her.

[Mrs.J06 4]

. She needs to go back where she came from.

Why? Is she a package so you think you have right to send you back?

Don't pitty her ! She deserves deportation and a night in an ICE holding and soon after a ticket back to Philippines. Alas justice I will have justice.

I already have another woman in line. She's Hispanic and yes she has her green card. Praise God !

I am looking for solid immigration advice from ye people.. On what I should do to get this woman out of the country.

Now that is a very christian thing to say! Where is the barf-smiley when you need it...

[Chica Yeyé 41]

. She needs to go back where she came from.

Why? Is she a package so you think you have right to send you back?

Don't pitty her ! She deserves deportation and a night in an ICE holding and soon after a ticket back to Philippines. Alas justice I will have justice.

I already have another woman in line. She's Hispanic and yes she has her green card. Praise God !

I am looking for solid immigration advice from ye people.. On what I should do to get this woman out of the country.

Oh please do not mention God in such a vengeful stateswoman...

As if you were the catch of a lifetime. I do feel sorry for whomever crosses your bitter and resentful path.

You don't want a wife, you want a maid that performs sexual favors. Good luck with that.

[nowhereman 1]

Tangkas the point many people are trying to make here (and you are unable or unwilling to accept) is that most stories have two sides. Yea you wrote a book about how bad your wife is & maybe she really is that bad, but you also come across as seeing her as a possession rather than an equal partner. You act like you bought a defective product and you are exchanging it at Walmart for a replacement.

[Sha2011 0]

So, something doesn't match. You spent $500/mos and when she came you didn't have any money to do the AOS?! Come on! It looks like you just wanted to use her as a housekeeper. And you blame her?! I suggest you to read about emotional abuse. You will find a lot of interesting information.

You still didn't answer the question if she could go in the stores and buy something. Did she have any freedom?

And question to all guys which think that foreign women are too spoiled and want too much. If you don't have money to buy a car you don't buy it, if you don't have money to buy a house you don't buy it because you can't afford it. So, why do you want to have a foreign wife if you can't afford to have her? Don't you think about it before you start dating? Or you don't? Then what are you thinking about? If you think it's too expensive don't bring them here.

You don't fully know the issue. I don't have the same job I had when I was giving her the $500. I recently moved to Atlanta from another region of Georgia. My current salary is nowhere near what I made before. Plus the money I sent my wife was for her, not her family. If she wanted to spent it on them. Thats her business. She does what she wants with her money. Once it left my hands, it was hers.

100% freedom. I don't rule my wife. She could come here to Visa Journey, and say I don't rule her. She's free to do what she pleases. I don't think this thread is going to be very constructive, because none of you know my wife or me. It's funny because my wife could easily come here and say I never treated her like a maid. Asking your wife to HELP you cook isn't treating her like a maid. The cooking responsibilites wouldn't fall all on her.

Like I said you don't understand our issues. Plus alll do respect, you dont know us to assume why our relationship turned the way it did. T

It's nothing personal against anyone. It's just many of you are assuming when you don't even know ur or what our relationship was like. It takes two to make a relationship go sour. I admit !

Think about what ? Did I say I can't take care of my wife ? Never did I !....

I don't think a foreign women are too spoiled. Afford to have her ? Who says my wife even wants to drive ? Who says she didn't understand I may not be able to buy her a car right away ?

My friend marriage isn't solely based on what you can provide. Marriage should be based on love. There are many couples that didn't have much when they got married, but together they together to receive the finer things. My parents are a testimony to this.

Your relationship may be a relatioship you felt you had to be able to give your spouse the world. I don't think you have the righ to say a man must be able to buy his wife a car before he even thinks of marriage.

Because I can't buy my wife a car your saying I can't afford to have her ? Come on ! I never said I am struggling to take care of her.

Never said my wife is too expensive. I am 100% able to care for her, nor do I keep my wife chained to a fence... Come on now ! My wife never freted over the fact I couldn't supply a car for her right this moment, nor do you know if my wife even wanted to drive. She never drove in her country. All do respect, but you don't know our situation fully. I am not saying this to be rude, but its actually true...

[Sha2011 0]

Tangkas the point many people are trying to make here (and you are unable or unwilling to accept) is that most stories have two sides. Yea you wrote a book about how bad your wife is & maybe she really is that bad, but you also come across as seeing her as a possession rather than an equal partner. You act like you bought a defective product and you are exchanging it at Walmart for a replacement.

I know this ! My wife has decided to come back and work things out. My wife has her faults, and I have mine also. We've spoken on how we could work our problems, and we MAY give it another shot. Did I say I was getting remarried any time soon. I don't know where your getting this from. Possibly I wasn't clear on the fact I am not looking for another wife