Jump to content

89 posts in this topic

Recommended Posts

Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Egypt
Timeline

Okay, some of you know me here, some may not. I have once before posted about the problems in my marriage, then there was some improvment, now, it has gotten even worse.

A few months ago, I became aware of my husband constantly looking into womens profiles on yahoo, to the point that I felt the need to install spyware on my computer. This spyware records everything done on the internet.

In every post he made to women online, he denied being married, and said that he lived with a "friend" and had no family here. This was the same on every forum he belonged to, myspace,facebook,ringo, etc....

The chats he had with women soon turned into cyber sex meetings, mostly with the same woman, on myspace. I found out about this when he accidently left himself logged on.

Of course, I confronted him about it, after I took a hammer to my desk top that he had been doing all of this on. He begged, cried, promised me he would never do it again.

Then, yesterday, while checking the spyware, I was shocked and humiliated once again. There was my husband, and another woman from his myspace, naked on the cam, having cyber sex. They even joked about hoping that I didn't see it.

So, you can understand WHY I want out.

The problem is, he has already received his EAD, and his SS card, and interviewed for the AOS.

What are my options to get out of this marriage, assure myself that he does NOT get his green card, and that I am NOT financially responsible for him for the next 10 years?????

Can any one help, or give me any leads to follow?

Thank You All!!!

PS, forgot to add that I have hard copies of all of this, chats, cam usage, cyber sex, denial of marriage multiple times, etc.....

Edited by tammy sue kay

My life has been blessed with the love of 4 of the sweetest men in the world. James, Jonathan, Nicolas, and Islam, my sons and my S/O.

OPSSSSSSS I DID IT AGAIN!

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Egypt
Timeline
Im so sorry that this has happened to you, this is certainly not something you expect or plan for in a marriage. I have no advice bcz I cant even begin to know what to do. You will be in my prayers and I hope if this is all true and he is busted then you leave ASAP! Thats one of two things I wouldnt tolerate... adultery or abuse in any way. . . (F)
10407819_701840296558511_659086279075738
Link to comment
Share on other sites

Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Egypt
Timeline

Im terribly sorry u re going thru this!! :( i wish i had something better to say but im dumb-founded!! HUGSSSSS

unfortunately i dont know much about this but u can check this forum: http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showforum=127

lyrics.jpg
Link to comment
Share on other sites

Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Egypt
Timeline

Tammy I am so sorry for this. Kick him out of the house first. Second notify an attorney of your decision to divorce submitting the evidence that he is an adulterer and third notify immigration of your intentions to divorce and submit the evidence to them as well.

paDvm8.png0sD7m8.png

mRhYm8.png8tham8.png

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Filed: Timeline

Why is it that when a relationship involving a visa doesn't work out, the USC seems to ALWAYS want to yank the Green Card away from the other person?

Don't get me wrong.... he's obviously a chopf##k and you should probably teach him a lesson with some common household items - like a dull knife, vinegar, drain cleaner, and jumper cables - but why does everyone want to take the green card away? Is it revenge?

Lady, people aren't chocolates. Do you know what they are mostly? Bastards. ####### coated bastards with ####### filling. But I don't find them half as annoying as I find naive bobble-headed optimists who walk around vomiting sunshine.
Link to comment
Share on other sites

Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Egypt
Timeline
Why is it that when a relationship involving a visa doesn't work out, the USC seems to ALWAYS want to yank the Green Card away from the other person?

Don't get me wrong.... he's obviously a chopf##k and you should probably teach him a lesson with some common household items - like a dull knife, vinegar, drain cleaner, and jumper cables - but why does everyone want to take the green card away? Is it revenge?

umm bcz maybe the spouse felt USED? maybe? :unsure:

10407819_701840296558511_659086279075738
Link to comment
Share on other sites

Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Egypt
Timeline

No, really it's not revenge, it's self protection. It took everything I had, every penny I had to pay for the immigration, the plane tickets, AOS and supporting him for these 9 months. I have nothing left and live pay check to pay check now. My biggest scare is if I am financially responsible for him for the next ten years. I cannot do that. At this moment I am looking at having to file bankruptcy to recover my losses.

If he could have the green card, which he obviously married me for, I don't care. I didn't marry him for those reasons, so I don't have any guilty feelings.

My life has been blessed with the love of 4 of the sweetest men in the world. James, Jonathan, Nicolas, and Islam, my sons and my S/O.

OPSSSSSSS I DID IT AGAIN!

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Morocco
Timeline

this will open a can of worms on here, i would just go to a lawyer and get the options, you will hear so much on here, get it straight from the lawyer, sorry you were done this way, what is it with these men and the continueing on the computer after here.......

TIMELINE

04/04/2007 K1 Interview from H...w/the devil herself

06/12/2007 Rec'd Notification Case Now Back In Calif. only to expire

-------------

11/20/2007 Married in Morocco

02/23/2008 Mailed CR1 application today

03/08/2008 NOA1 Notice Recd (notice date 3/4/08)

08/26/2008 File transfered fr Vermont to Calif

10/14/2008 APPROVALLLLLLLLLLLL

10/20/2008 Recd hard copy NOA2

10/20/2008 NVC Recd case

11/21/2008 CASE COMPLETE

01/15/2009 INTERVIEW

01/16/2009 VISA IN HAND

01/31/2009 ARRIVED OKC

BE WHO YOU ARE AND SAY WHAT YOU FEEL, BECAUSE THOSE WHO MIND DONT MATTER AND THOSE WHO MATTER DONT MIND

YOU CANT CHANGE THE PAST BUT YOU CAN RUIN THE PRESENT BY WORRYING OVER THE FUTURE

TRIP.... OVER LOVE, AND YOU CAN GET UP

FALL.... IN LOVE, AND YOU FALL FOREVER

I DO HAVE THE RIGHT TO REMAIN SILENT, JUST NOT THE ABILITY

LIKE THE MEASLES, LOVE IS MOST DANGEROUS WHEN IT COMES LATER IN LIFE

LIFE IS NOT THE WAY ITS SUPPOSED TO BE, ITS THE WAY IT IS

I MAY NOT BE WHERE I WANT TO BE BUT IM SURE NOT WHERE I WAS

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Egypt
Timeline
this will open a can of worms on here, i would just go to a lawyer and get the options, you will hear so much on here, get it straight from the lawyer, sorry you were done this way, what is it with these men and the continueing on the computer after here.......

ahhh I have an idea.... you can always take the offending parts off... eyes, hands, and main thing... :devil::yes:

10407819_701840296558511_659086279075738
Link to comment
Share on other sites

Filed: Timeline
No, really it's not revenge, it's self protection. It took everything I had, every penny I had to pay for the immigration, the plane tickets, AOS and supporting him for these 9 months. I have nothing left and live pay check to pay check now. My biggest scare is if I am financially responsible for him for the next ten years. I cannot do that. At this moment I am looking at having to file bankruptcy to recover my losses.

If he could have the green card, which he obviously married me for, I don't care. I didn't marry him for those reasons, so I don't have any guilty feelings.

Regretfully, I agree with Plat on this one. You don't have the privilege of expungin your obligation to the USCIS just because the marriage is not going to sustain. This is a prime example of why it is crucial that couples get to know each other, much better before taking the plunge. If you had spent more time together, signs of his infidelity would have showed.

"diaddie mermaid"

You can 'catch' me on here and on FBI.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Filed: Other Country: China
Timeline
No, really it's not revenge, it's self protection. It took everything I had, every penny I had to pay for the immigration, the plane tickets, AOS and supporting him for these 9 months. I have nothing left and live pay check to pay check now. My biggest scare is if I am financially responsible for him for the next ten years. I cannot do that. At this moment I am looking at having to file bankruptcy to recover my losses.

If he could have the green card, which he obviously married me for, I don't care. I didn't marry him for those reasons, so I don't have any guilty feelings.

If his green card is approved, it's too late to withdraw your affidavit of support. You don't mention the result of the AOS interview, only that it occured.

Facts are cheap...knowing how to use them is precious...
Understanding the big picture is priceless. Anonymous

Google Who is Pushbrk?

A Warning to Green Card Holders About Voting

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/606646-a-warning-to-green-card-holders-about-voting/

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Egypt
Timeline
No, really it's not revenge, it's self protection. It took everything I had, every penny I had to pay for the immigration, the plane tickets, AOS and supporting him for these 9 months. I have nothing left and live pay check to pay check now. My biggest scare is if I am financially responsible for him for the next ten years. I cannot do that. At this moment I am looking at having to file bankruptcy to recover my losses.

If he could have the green card, which he obviously married me for, I don't care. I didn't marry him for those reasons, so I don't have any guilty feelings.

Regretfully, I agree with Plat on this one. You don't have the privilege of expungin your obligation to the USCIS just because the marriage is not going to sustain. This is a prime example of why it is crucial that couples get to know each other, much better before taking the plunge. If you had spent more time together, signs of his infidelity would have showed.

I dont really agree... the fact that having a long distance relationship and then marriage early doesnt mean its going to work or be doomed... and it doesnt prove your statement

10407819_701840296558511_659086279075738
Link to comment
Share on other sites

Filed: Timeline
No, really it's not revenge, it's self protection. It took everything I had, every penny I had to pay for the immigration, the plane tickets, AOS and supporting him for these 9 months. I have nothing left and live pay check to pay check now. My biggest scare is if I am financially responsible for him for the next ten years. I cannot do that. At this moment I am looking at having to file bankruptcy to recover my losses.

If he could have the green card, which he obviously married me for, I don't care. I didn't marry him for those reasons, so I don't have any guilty feelings.

Regretfully, I agree with Plat on this one. You don't have the privilege of expungin your obligation to the USCIS just because the marriage is not going to sustain. This is a prime example of why it is crucial that couples get to know each other, much better before taking the plunge. If you had spent more time together, signs of his infidelity would have showed.

I dont really agree... the fact that having a long distance relationship and then marriage early doesnt mean its going to work or be doomed... and it doesnt prove your statement

It doesn't, but having spent more time with another would permit a person to have glimpses of behaviour that is unacceptable. In this case, the OP did rush into the marriage, if her profile reads correctly, in my opinion.

"diaddie mermaid"

You can 'catch' me on here and on FBI.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Filed: Country: Morocco
Timeline

NM, afraid of giving bad advice.

Edited by caybee

I'm the USC.

11/05/2007........Conditional permanent residency effective date.

01/10/2008........Two-year green card in hand.

08/08/2009........Our son was born <3

08/08/2009........Filed for removal of conditions.

12/16/2009........ROC was approved.

11/05/2010........Eligible for Naturalization.

03/01/2011........Separated.

11/05/2012........Eligible for Naturalization.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Filed: Timeline
as well as a statement from you that he moved out of your bedroom two weeks after arriving in the U.S. may be helpful.

Mentioning that, if it's a fact, might compromise her veracityy. After all, she did follow through with the AOS, knowing what she did then.

"diaddie mermaid"

You can 'catch' me on here and on FBI.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

 
Didn't find the answer you were looking for? Ask our VJ Immigration Lawyers.

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
- Back to Top -

Important Disclaimer: Please read carefully the Visajourney.com Terms of Service. If you do not agree to the Terms of Service you should not access or view any page (including this page) on VisaJourney.com. Answers and comments provided on Visajourney.com Forums are general information, and are not intended to substitute for informed professional medical, psychiatric, psychological, tax, legal, investment, accounting, or other professional advice. Visajourney.com does not endorse, and expressly disclaims liability for any product, manufacturer, distributor, service or service provider mentioned or any opinion expressed in answers or comments. VisaJourney.com does not condone immigration fraud in any way, shape or manner. VisaJourney.com recommends that if any member or user knows directly of someone involved in fraudulent or illegal activity, that they report such activity directly to the Department of Homeland Security, Immigration and Customs Enforcement. You can contact ICE via email at Immigration.Reply@dhs.gov or you can telephone ICE at 1-866-347-2423. All reported threads/posts containing reference to immigration fraud or illegal activities will be removed from this board. If you feel that you have found inappropriate content, please let us know by contacting us here with a url link to that content. Thank you.
×
×
  • Create New...