Fear of it not working out

[HannahP 119]

I agree with you 100%. Unfortunately some people don't like to hear opinions that are different to theirs, but oh well! No offense Michelle, but there is a lot of people on this site whose relationships are bogus.

Spot on, fella. And it's those petitions cluttering up the USCIS system that are holding the genuine ones up.

In that case I assume you think your relationship is the genuine one? Why should we believe that when you feel the need to express your doubts about other people´s relationships?

What a very good question - allow me to answer it for you:

A) The age difference between us is 3 years

B - We're both decidedly average in the appearance stakes - about 5 or 6 outta ten. We've always been well aware of this, and have cut our cloth accordingly.

C) We've been together 7 years.

D) For 2 of those years, (2004 - 2006) we lived together - take note, Hannah P (lol @ you saying "y'all" - my missus is a hick too!! )

That do ya, Scott & Marta?

Meh. I practically have the same relationship statistics as you do, including living together for several years before we filed for the petition. (The only different possibly being that we became mutually exclusive at a ridiculously young age - 14/15.) It certainly doesn't make the day-to-day workings of our relationship any easier or smoother. People aren't static. They change. They grow. Dating in person for several years and then living together after that certainly helped the transition into married life; we didn't have a lot of those little hurdles that new couples endure, although we didn't have a honeymoon period. (Saaaad.) But you can't count on those things to make your relationship work in the present. You can't look back and say "well, the last two years were easy" and then expect the next sixty to fly by.

Um, so what I'm really trying to say, is that it's easy to judge people from the position that you're in. But you shouldn't assume that what makes your relationship "more legitimate" than others is also what will lead to a smooth, happy marriage. Because it just doesn't work like that.

[brnidokiegurl 0]

People divorce after being married 30 yrs, people marry after knowing 30 days and it lasts forever, hard to say there is a reason other than destiny

[Damian P 92]

Meh. I practically have the same relationship statistics as you do, including living together for several years before we filed for the petition. (The only different possibly being that we became mutually exclusive at a ridiculously young age - 14/15.) It certainly doesn't make the day-to-day workings of our relationship any easier or smoother. People aren't static. They change. They grow. Dating in person for several years and then living together after that certainly helped the transition into married life; we didn't have a lot of those little hurdles that new couples endure, although we didn't have a honeymoon period. (Saaaad.) But you can't count on those things to make your relationship work in the present. You can't look back and say "well, the last two years were easy" and then expect the next sixty to fly by.

No problem with any of this - couldn't agree more

Um, so what I'm really trying to say, is that it's easy to judge people from the position that you're in.

Certain people, yes.

But you shouldn't assume that what makes your relationship "more legitimate" than others is also what will lead to a smooth, happy marriage. Because it just doesn't work like that.

I never once suggested otherwise, Hannah. What I'm saying, is that I firmly believe that the motives of some of the beneficiaries on this site (and countless others who haven't ever graced these boards) are, at best, dubious.

Quite simple, really.

Edited August 1, 2008 by Damian P

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

I rolled my eyes at this bit of your reply, I really did.

But then....................

........I thought, "haha, this one at least has a sense of humour...!!"

...but then you went and spoiled it all with.............

Quit while you're ahead, S&M, quite while you're ahead......

Well if this is all you were able to come up with then I am certainly still ahead. But I don´t care about that. Your ideas are sad and it´s good to know none of us (who have to roll our eyes over your prehistoric thoughts and judgments) are destined to live with you. If you are so jealous about other people´s relationships working so well despite their age difference, then it´s your problem. Don´t bother us with it any longer. Oh, and let us know in about 30 years how your bogus relationship turned out

[pcana 0]

I rolled my eyes at this bit of your reply, I really did.

But then....................

........I thought, "haha, this one at least has a sense of humour...!!"

...but then you went and spoiled it all with.............

Quit while you're ahead, S&M, quite while you're ahead......

Well if this is all you were able to come up with then I am certainly still ahead. But I don´t care about that. Your ideas are sad and it´s good to know none of us (who have to roll our eyes over your prehistoric thoughts and judgments) are destined to live with you. If you are so jealous about other people´s relationships working so well despite their age difference, then it´s your problem. Don´t bother us with it any longer. Oh, and let us know in about 30 years how your bogus relationship turned out

[Damian P 92]

Well if this is all you were able to come up with then I am certainly still ahead.

Actually, I think you lost this one a while ago

But I don´t care about that.

Oh I think you do. I really think you do

Your ideas are sad

Ideas? What ideas? Ah, I see - you mean my opinions. OPINIONS. Please try to keep the conversation on track, S&M. And why, pray tell, is my OPINION that there are an awful lot of devious beneficiaries (and incredibly gullible petitioners) around here, "sad" exactly? Is it because, in your case at least, the cap fits perhaps?

and it´s good to know none of us (who have to roll our eyes over your prehistoric thoughts and judgments) are destined to live with you.

If by, "none of us" you are refering to the unscrupulous types to whom I have been refering in this thread, then thank God for small mercies.

If you are so jealous about other people´s relationships working so well despite their age difference, then it´s your problem.

Oh my...................hang on a minute..............let me wipe the tears out of my eyes....................ahhhh, that's better. Right, where was I? Oh yeah....................jealous!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You really haven't been listening (or reading, as the case may be) to any of this, have you S&M? I have a wonderful COMPLETELY GENUINE 7 year (and counting) relationship with the soundest bird you'll ever meet. Why in the name of all things holy would I be "jealous" ( ) of ANYONE else's relationship, let alone a dodgy "gimme a greencard" farce!!!????????

Don´t bother us with it any longer.

But S&M - I'm enjoying myself!!!!!

h, and let us know in about 30 years how your bogus relationship turned out

No worries, S&M. I'll just make a note in my diary!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

Yes ofcourse, now the cap must definately fit, because you know exactly who we are and everything else about us. You are ridiculous

Learn how to mock yourself before you mock others. Then you might find out what fun is all about.

[Damian P 92]

Yes ofcourse, now the cap must definately fit,

I knew it!!! Go me!!!

ecause you know exactly who we are and everything else about us.

No, no - it's just a guess. Really!!!

You are ridiculous

Of course I am, S&M, of course I am! Interesting choice of smiley there, btw!

Learn how to mock yourself before you mock others. Then you might find out what fun is all about.

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

Nope you actually didn´t know it. In the meantime you can go and look up what sarcasm is.

[Damian P 92]

Nope you actually didn´t know it. In the meantime you can go and look up what sarcasm is.

Oh I see!!!!!!!!!!!! So this has all been one big wind-up on your part, has it!!!!!!?????????/ Oh of course!!!!!!! I mean it's so obvious now I think about it!!!!!

Sarcasm -

Edit - oh my God, now it's even funnier!!!!!!!! ####, sorry I was a bit slow there!!! You think I actually was saying "I knew it" as in I really "knew it!!"

LOLOLOL!!!!! Perhaps you should go look up the same word!!!!!! And go look up "facetious" while you're at it!!!!!!!!!!

Edited August 1, 2008 by Damian P

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

Yes, other people understand it.

[Damian P 92]

Yes, other people understand it.

Quick, S&M - go look at my last post again!! I did a quick edit!!

[brnidokiegurl 0]

Yes, other people understand it.

Quick, S&M - go look at my last post again!! I did a quick edit!!

and how are are you again......... i hope you all are really just jokeing with each other

[Jeraly 4]

I rolled my eyes at this bit of your reply, I really did.

But then....................

........I thought, "haha, this one at least has a sense of humour...!!"

...but then you went and spoiled it all with.............

Quit while you're ahead, S&M, quite while you're ahead......

Well if this is all you were able to come up with then I am certainly still ahead. But I don´t care about that. Your ideas are sad and it´s good to know none of us (who have to roll our eyes over your prehistoric thoughts and judgments) are destined to live with you. If you are so jealous about other people´s relationships working so well despite their age difference, then it´s your problem. Don´t bother us with it any longer. Oh, and let us know in about 30 years how your bogus relationship turned out

[Damian P 92]

Yes, other people understand it.

Quick, S&M - go look at my last post again!! I did a quick edit!!

and how are are you again......... i hope you all are really just jokeing with each other

brnidokiegurl, let me just clarify a couple of things:

The bit about me firmly believing that there are beneficiaries on here that are only after one thing (and it's not true love) is 100% true - make no mistake about that.

However, the vast majority of material from page 8 onwards is just pure message board comedy gold! Seriously, how easy is he to wind up!!??? My kingdom for a worthy adversary!

And that, my peeps, is that for the night. It's past midnight, and I need to focus fully on my Limewire session.

Peace, luv, and hugs to all - goodnight.

-x-

Now I must away.

Edit - hang on...............

Edited August 2, 2008 by Damian P