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Who'se SO here has requested that if he dies before you that his remains will be burried back home ?

I can just see myself as a 90 + year old granny trying to fly his body back to S/L :blink: it costs thousands to get him here now it will

cost thoudands to ship him back :whistle: I can just picture the whole fiasco in my mind :o

He said if I die before he does he will bury me there too :wacko:

I said I don't care just cremate me and I know my soul goes to God.........after explaining cremation he thought that is just

horrible to do that.

LL, S said Liberians are also very adament to be buried in their homeland.........wanna go with me ? :)

My Jamaican husband said the same thing. I told him the only way that would happen is if he was cremated. He balked at that. I just said, whatever....you'll be dead anyhow.

I already paid for my cremation. He can toss me wherever he likes. I don't care anymore. I used to want it to be at 2nd base in the Old Busch Stadium in St. Louis, MO. When they tore that down, my reasons left me.

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My husband has also made me promise that he be buried back in Nigeria in the event something happened and he too wants me to be buried with him. It used to mean a lot to me to be buried with my family here because their is a family plot on my dad's side of the family but that was before I was married and I really don't care I want to be with my husband. Even though we won't be in the ground together spiritually.

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Joseph wants to be buried on his property there . I know the woman he almost married is buries there . She was killed in an auto accident but he had paid bride price so was buried on his land. We plan on tearing down most of the old structures and building new there and using the old bricks to build a sitting place by the stream. That is most likely where he will be buried. I know when others from the village die here in the states they have a meeting and start collecting money for sending him home and having someone here go with the body.

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Good question, Omoba. I never really thought about it. I guess I will have to talk to him about that. I'm sure he'd want to be shipped and buried back in Nigeria. I can understand why he'd want to. I'd feel the same way. I'd want to be buried here in the States, the place where I was birthed and raised.

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If you're dead you won't know where you're buried! :whistle:

:P

I'm just kidding. My husband has made the same request. I haven't looked into the details very closely, but I have heard that the Moroccan embassy here helps with the details. I'm sure it's pretty expensive.

Anywhere from $7000 to $12,000 to send the body home. My husband wants to take out life insurance for bills etc and to ensure I have the money to bury him in Morocco.

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We have spoken about this a lot, of course given our situation. We have decided that if his condition gets worse, he will go back home. But this is pure speculation and as the Beatles put it, tomorrow never knows.

Don't just open your mouth and prove yourself a fool....put it in writing.

It gets harder the more you know. Because the more you find out, the uglier everything seems.

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He absolutely said he does not want to be buried in goris world. he also does not believe in embalment. im trying to explain this concept to him etc

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Nov 22 okd updated financial and etc proof accepted / embassy waiting for security cables

dec 20th one cable back waiting on 2nd

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Who'se SO here has requested that if he dies before you that his remains will be burried back home ?

I can just see myself as a 90 + year old granny trying to fly his body back to S/L :blink: it costs thousands to get him here now it will

cost thoudands to ship him back :whistle: I can just picture the whole fiasco in my mind :o

He said if I die before he does he will bury me there too :wacko:

I said I don't care just cremate me and I know my soul goes to God.........after explaining cremation he thought that is just

horrible to do that.

LL, S said Liberians are also very adament to be buried in their homeland.........wanna go with me ? :)

My Jamaican husband said the same thing. I told him the only way that would happen is if he was cremated. He balked at that. I just said, whatever....you'll be dead anyhow.

I already paid for my cremation. He can toss me wherever he likes. I don't care anymore. I used to want it to be at 2nd base in the Old Busch Stadium in St. Louis, MO. When they tore that down, my reasons left me.

Bush Stadium :lol:

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If you're dead you won't know where you're buried! :whistle:

:P

I'm just kidding. My husband has made the same request. I haven't looked into the details very closely, but I have heard that the Moroccan embassy here helps with the details. I'm sure it's pretty expensive.

Anywhere from $7000 to $12,000 to send the body home. My husband wants to take out life insurance for bills etc and to ensure I have the money to bury him in Morocco.

:dead: I will tell him that ! Either burial or a new car, we will see what wins. A life trip would be nice too :blush:

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I guess it's a cultural thing... And in my culture (Caribbean) and other African cultures, it is a thing to be taken very seriously, and deserves at least some respect. If my husband asks to be buried back home, I will honor his request, because I love and respect him and his view/culture. If I made the same request I would hope he respected my wishes.

And... you must also consider the family of your SO. Your SO's request to be buried back home is surely no secret to his/her family. By not honoring your SO's request, you may be offending or disrespecting his family back home. That can stir up all kinds of ill will and contention. Family is everything in African and Caribbean culture...marrying some one of these backgrounds, call for understanding and respect for their culture, no matter how absurd it might appear to you.

Yes its expensive to send the body back home, but if you plan ahead, it wont be such a financial burden when the time comes. Life insurance is a good way to cover the cost of shipping the body

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I guess it's a cultural thing... And in my culture (Caribbean) and other African cultures, it is a thing to be taken very seriously, and deserves at least some respect. If my husband asks to be buried back home, I will honor his request, because I love and respect him and his view/culture. If I made the same request I would hope he respected my wishes.

And... you must also consider the family of your SO. Your SO's request to be buried back home is surely no secret to his/her family. By not honoring your SO's request, you may be offending or disrespecting his family back home. That can stir up all kinds of ill will and contention. Family is everything in African and Caribbean culture...marrying some one of these backgrounds, call for understanding and respect for their culture, no matter how absurd it might appear to you.

Yes its expensive to send the body back home, but if you plan ahead, it wont be such a financial burden when the time comes. Life insurance is a good way to cover the cost of shipping the body

I agree with you. My husband's request to be buried in Morocco is his request and it doesn't really matter my opinion. I know its expensive, but isn't the average cost of a US funeral about $6000 or more?

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He absolutely said he does not want to be buried in goris world. he also does not believe in embalment. im trying to explain this concept to him etc

What is "goris world"?

Whities :o

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24 March 2009 I-751 received by USCIS

27 March 2009 Check Cashed

30 March 2009 NOA received

8 April 2009 Biometric notice arrived by mail

24 April 2009 Biometrics scheduled

26 April 2009 Touched

...once again waiting

1 September 2009 (just over 5 months) Approved and card production ordered.

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