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Hey guys

How can i get over this horrible homesickness... it doesnt seem to be fading at all.

I just want to go home evryday and its horrible!!

Is anyone else feeling like this.. or felt like this?

Is this a forever thing?

Thanks Guys!!

K


K1

08-14-2006 Sent I-129F sent

09-11-2006 NOA1 Received

11-09-2006 RFE Issued

11-17-2006 RFE Arrives via Snail mail

11-27-2006 RFE Returned to visa land

01-09-2007 NOA2!!!!!!!

01-29-2007 Packet 3 Recieved

02-05-2007 Packet 3 sent to embassy

02-13-2007 Medical booked for March 12th

02-15-2007 INTERVIEW MARCH 13th

03-12-2007 medical... easy peasy!

03-13-2007 Interview.... I passed!!

03-20-2007 VISA IN HAND!

03-22-2007 FLY HOME!

04-04-07 Filled for SS #

04-05-2007 Wedding!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

04-10-2007 Marrige Cert arrived in post!

AOS

04-12-2007 Sent off

04-14-2007 Arrived in Chicago

04-23-2007 NOA1

04-23-2007 Cheque cashed

04-30-2007 Biometrics appointment May 10th

05-10-2007 Biometrics appointment.. quick and easy

05-17-2007 Moved to CSC

06-01-2007 Recieved at CSC

06-03-2007 Touched

06-04-2007 Touched

06-05-2007 Touched

06-06-2007 Touched.... waaaaaa Is this good or bad???

06-19-2007 WELCOME LETTER EMAIL!!!!!!!!!!!!

06-20-2007 Touched

06-24-2007 Touched

06-25-2007 GREEN CARD in HAND!!!!!!!!

EAD

04-12-2007 Sent off

04-14-2007 Arrived in Chicago

04-23-2007 NOA1

04-23-2007 Cheque cashed

04-30-2007 Biometrics appointment May 10th

05-10-2007 Biometrics appointment.. quick and easy

06-27-2007 Card Ordered

AP

04-12-2007 Sent off

04-14-2007 Arrived in Chicago

04-23-2007 NOA1

04-23-2007 Cheque cashed

06-27-2007 Aprroved... after green card!

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You have been here, what?, 14 months? No, that's not a good thing at all. I think you may need to see a professional about this.


Life's just a crazy ride on a run away train

You can't go back for what you've missed

So make it count, hold on tight find a way to make it right

You only get one trip

So make it good, make it last 'cause it all flies by so fast

You only get one trip

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I'm so sorry to hear you are homesick, I know exactly how you feel.

My homesickness has lasted over 2 years. I'm moving back home in 30 days, we planned for this about a year ago when we both realized I couldn't live in England away from my family. Have you discussed with your partner how you feel? Are you planning to move back home eventually? Some things I wish I would have done that I think would have made my time easier here....

1. Getting out on my own and making new friends.

2. Letting go of the past and starting to live in the present.

3. Getting a job, even if it's only part-time.

4. Join a gym and exercise daily!

5. Visit museums, libraries, parks and even go see a movie by yourself!

Happiness is a state of mind, focus on what you can do to make yourself happy. Remind yourself daily of the wonderful things you have in your life. Speak with your partner about how unhappy you are and find a solution together. Even if its a plan well into the future, it will give you something to look forward to.

I hope you feel better soon, I know it's rough but try to get yourself out there and make a new life for yourself. :)


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Mar 05 - boy flew out to San Francisco to meet me, it was love at first site!

May 05 - I flew to Bristol, first time ever in England!

Sept 05 - boy flew back to SF, we got married!

Nov 05 - boy flew to SF for 2 week visit

Feb 06 - I moved with my dog to Bristol

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4 visits home for 2 weeks at a time during these 2 years

(very homesick and not happy living in England)

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April 4th - Credit card charged!

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Hey Kat

I'm so sorry to hear that your struggling. I haven't moved yet and I am super worried about it. I've never moved out of my parents house and all of a sudden I'm going to the other side of the world...#######? As Alan spent a lot of time away from his family when he was in the army & Iraq he was taught some adjustment techniques and is starting to prepare me for the process. You've been in the US a while now and whilst I would expect you to have "your moments" it sounds like its a lot more than that. Have you been home yet? Maybe your long over due a trip back over here. It will only take half a day in London to make you wish you were back in the US.

Are you working? Maybe you could join some volunteering groups to meet some more people. Your new life is never going to be the same as your old one, you will need to try and let go of comparing them. Just because they can't be the same doesn't mean that the new one can't be just as good. Maybe try spending a bit more time chatting to people from home or spending time with people on the UK forum. You can get the feeling of home rather than it being a 100% clean break.I have managed to find several people from the UK in the surrounding area where I am moving and although they don't know it yet they are going to form a massive part of my support group. If there is anything specific you would like let me know, I'm not adverse to sending a care package if it would brighten your mood. . . I'm not certain I can get your friends and family in a box but maybe some kitkats and walkers sensations! :)

Best Wishes

Bex xx


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18.06.08 ~ Packet 4

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22.07.08 ~ POE Atlanta

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28.11.08 ~ Biometrics

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Sorry you are feeling so homesick. My husband has gone through the same thing.

One of the things that has helped was finding an Aussie Meet Up group out here. We get together a couple of times a month and he gets to commiserate with some of his countrymen and they in turn also help him with his adjustment out here.

It might be a good idea to see if you can track down a group in your area. We found ours via MeetUp.com.

Hope you feel better soon!


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Thats the one thing I am worried about when it happens. Not mainly on missing home itself but missing the kids.

It's difficult and hard for some but I think i will be ok as I have worked in the USA, Canada and Germany in the past.

There will be hard days along with the good. Just got to keep telling myself I will be only a days trip away.


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You have been here, what?, 14 months? No, that's not a good thing at all. I think you may need to see a professional about this.

wow, how cruel.

If you recall the OP has had some struggles. I don't think feeling homesickness merits a professional visit. VJ Sheesh.

Kat - I think it gets less as time goes by but it's always there to a degree.

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You have been here, what?, 14 months? No, that's not a good thing at all. I think you may need to see a professional about this.

wow, how cruel.

If you recall the OP has had some struggles. I don't think feeling homesickness merits a professional visit. VJ Sheesh.

Kat - I think it gets less as time goes by but it's always there to a degree.

I didn't mean it in a mean way.....perhaps if it was spoken word you might get the inflection in my voice in that statement. No need to jump on me for it.

I just meant it's been a long time......perhaps it is time to talk to someone who could help her through it. It's not an unreasonable statement.


Life's just a crazy ride on a run away train

You can't go back for what you've missed

So make it count, hold on tight find a way to make it right

You only get one trip

So make it good, make it last 'cause it all flies by so fast

You only get one trip

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Kat - I seem to remember you were struggling a little bit with money and jobs and what not a few months back. Has that got better? I guess when things are less than ideal here in the US, it's perfectly normal to miss your old life back home.


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I am not sure if I will ever get over homesickness, there are just some things I miss and will always miss -- my family, my favourite beach, snow, favourite stores, etc etc -- things that can't be replicated here -- there is a big difference between Nova Scotia and Oklahoma.

The key has been learning to live with it and not let it control me. It takes a while, and I still have bad days, but it's ok. Don't beat yourself up too much. :)


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Kat, I wish I could say some magic words and make this all go away for you!!!

Are you still living in/near Orlando? If so, maybe we could meet up for lunch/pint at the pub!!! My treat!!!

Darren's moving soon (beginning of July), and we'd both love to meet you both!!! There are so many of us US/UK couples in this area we should all get together!!!


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7/11/08 - legal wedding

7/20/08 - AOS/EAD/AP sent to Chicago Lockbox

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11/25/08 - Received welcome letter...and Green Card!!!

12/21/08 - ceremonial wedding

10/9/10 - Sent I-751 and started the fresh hell that is ROC

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Thank you all SO much for your lovely and comforting words.

You dont know how much it means to me!!

Dawn, Russell and I would love to meet upwith you guys and I think having a brit meeting in orlando sometime would be amazing too....


K1

08-14-2006 Sent I-129F sent

09-11-2006 NOA1 Received

11-09-2006 RFE Issued

11-17-2006 RFE Arrives via Snail mail

11-27-2006 RFE Returned to visa land

01-09-2007 NOA2!!!!!!!

01-29-2007 Packet 3 Recieved

02-05-2007 Packet 3 sent to embassy

02-13-2007 Medical booked for March 12th

02-15-2007 INTERVIEW MARCH 13th

03-12-2007 medical... easy peasy!

03-13-2007 Interview.... I passed!!

03-20-2007 VISA IN HAND!

03-22-2007 FLY HOME!

04-04-07 Filled for SS #

04-05-2007 Wedding!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

04-10-2007 Marrige Cert arrived in post!

AOS

04-12-2007 Sent off

04-14-2007 Arrived in Chicago

04-23-2007 NOA1

04-23-2007 Cheque cashed

04-30-2007 Biometrics appointment May 10th

05-10-2007 Biometrics appointment.. quick and easy

05-17-2007 Moved to CSC

06-01-2007 Recieved at CSC

06-03-2007 Touched

06-04-2007 Touched

06-05-2007 Touched

06-06-2007 Touched.... waaaaaa Is this good or bad???

06-19-2007 WELCOME LETTER EMAIL!!!!!!!!!!!!

06-20-2007 Touched

06-24-2007 Touched

06-25-2007 GREEN CARD in HAND!!!!!!!!

EAD

04-12-2007 Sent off

04-14-2007 Arrived in Chicago

04-23-2007 NOA1

04-23-2007 Cheque cashed

04-30-2007 Biometrics appointment May 10th

05-10-2007 Biometrics appointment.. quick and easy

06-27-2007 Card Ordered

AP

04-12-2007 Sent off

04-14-2007 Arrived in Chicago

04-23-2007 NOA1

04-23-2007 Cheque cashed

06-27-2007 Aprroved... after green card!

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Best to go back home for 2-4 weeks. Then quickly you will find yourself homesick again, but this time - for your new home.

Rika

Hey guys

How can i get over this horrible homesickness... it doesnt seem to be fading at all.

I just want to go home evryday and its horrible!!

Is anyone else feeling like this.. or felt like this?

Is this a forever thing?

Thanks Guys!!

K


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March'07 NOA1 date, case transferred to CSC

June'07 NOA2 per USCIS website!

Waiver I-751 timeline

July'09 Check cashed.

Jan'10 10 year GC received.

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You have been here, what?, 14 months? No, that's not a good thing at all. I think you may need to see a professional about this.

wow, how cruel.

If you recall the OP has had some struggles. I don't think feeling homesickness merits a professional visit. VJ Sheesh.

Kat - I think it gets less as time goes by but it's always there to a degree.

I didn't mean it in a mean way.....perhaps if it was spoken word you might get the inflection in my voice in that statement. No need to jump on me for it.

I just meant it's been a long time......perhaps it is time to talk to someone who could help her through it. It's not an unreasonable statement.

I understood. I took it to mean that you felt it was getting very serious and were expressing concern. Seeing someone, if possible, is not a bad idea. It could help work out why the feelings are still so strong.

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I'm sorry you are so homesick. I do have some questions for you however. Are you homesick because of family and friends, lifestyle, or culture?

Have you been able to get work here yet? Could it be that you feel lost because you have not been able to find the kind of work you were doing back home?


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*Touched* : 2008-07-18

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RFE Reply(s) :

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NVC Left :

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