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Elbereth   0

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show him pictures of some teenage american babes :P

dd/mmm/aaaa

05/jun/2007 - Got married

I-130

08/aug/2007 - I-130 Packet sent to NSC

09/aug/2007 - I-130 Packet received

19/sep/2007 - NOA1 receipt date

25/sep/2007 - NOA1 arrived

23/apr/2008 - APPROVED

Timeline estimated adjudication on March 4, 2008. It was adjudicated on April 23.

Our I-130 was approved in 258 days.

I-129F

09/oct/2007 - I-129F Packet sent to CSC

10/oct/2007 - I-129F Packet received

12/oct/2007 - NOA1 receipt date

20/oct/2007 - NOA1 received

23/apr/2008 - APPROVED

Timeline estimated adjudication on April 4, 2008. It was adjudicated on April 23.

Our I-129f was approved in 197 days.

NVC

08/may/2008 - replied to my e-mail sent on april 30, saying that our petition has been sent to the consulate.

Consulate

20/JUN/2008 - Interview - APPROVED!!!

AOS

18/mar/2009 - Packet delivered

24/mar/2009 - NOA for AOS and EAD date

25/mar/2009 - Check cashed

15/apr/2009 - Biometrics done

22/may/2009 - EAD approved

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Since when does a minor child dictate to a parent? The boy needs some serious butt whipping by the mother. I would never bribe a child.

Married Wendy (Dominican) in Aruba

Filed at CSC

Embassy Caracas

Form 1-130

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4/30/2007 I-130 Sent

5/23/2007 I-130 (NOA1) Received

12/13/2007 Approved - Total 231 Days

Form 1-129F

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5/26/2007 I-129F Sent

6/28/2007 I-129F (NOA1)

7/12/2007 Case transferred to California Service Center

7/17/2007 Case received and pending at CSC

12/13/2007 Approved - Total 199 Days

After Approval (Estimated 3 Months to Interview)

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NVC Received : Jan 10, 2008

NVC Left : Jan 14, 2008

Consulate Received : Jan 16, 2008

Packet 3 Received : Sent Embassy an email on Jan 18 telling that I had all the forms listed on their website complete

Packet 3 Sent : Received on email from Embassy on Jan 24 with interview date

Packet 4 Received : No Packet 4

Interview Date : Feb 28, 2008

Visa Received : Feb 29, 2008

US Entry : Feb 29, 2008

Form 1-485 and EAD

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4/14/2008 I-485 Sent

4/21/2008 I-485 (NOA1)

5/15/2008 Biometric Appt

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you explain NOTHING to him.. he's the one that should listen to you.. if he can make decisions, then he can make enough money and move out.. :angry:

I-130 STAGE 1 : 533 days - 1 year 6 months (4/16/2007 to 9/22/2008)

Priority Date I-130 : 4/16/2007 ( 533 days , APPROVED 9/22/2008)
Transferred to local office based on "security checks" : 11/27/2007
wrote hundreds of letters - received letter from FBI Records Management Chief stating no security checks
local office interview : 2/21/2008 - brought my parents too (result : you will get approval within 2-3 weeks)
5/2/2008 - (lawsuit) Writ of Mandamus - OFFICIAL DATE (7/29/2008)
9/22/2008 - CALL AND EMAIL COPY OF APPROVAL NOTICE FROM LAWYER

NVC STAGE 2 : 99 days - 3 months (9/30/2008 to 1/7/2009)
NVC Received : 9/30/2008
Received Packet 3 (I-864/DS-230) : 11/10/2008
NVC says "RFE sent out 12/9/08 for missing documents" : 12/10/2008
CASE COMPLETE - 1/7/2009

CONSULATE STAGE 3 : 96 days - 3 months (1/8/2009 to 4/14/2009)
CLEARED CUSTOMS - 3/10/2009
**APPOINTMENT DATE : 4/14/2009, 7:15AM**
** BLUE SLIP **

AP STAGE 4 : 97 days - 3 months (4/14/2009 to 7/20/2009)
DOS call to receive I-601 (Waiver of Grounds for Inadmissibility - basically denial) from Guangzhou : 6/24/2009

REMOVAL OF I-601 due to my letters to the USCIS Director, Michael Aytes: 6/29/2009
CALL-IN LETTER NOTIFIED : 7/8/2009
CALL-IN LETTER (APPROVAL)!! : 7/16/2009
ALL DONE!! (got both GREEN CARD & SSN CARD) : 10/1/2009

"http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/194075-feel-like-a-cr-1-csc-castaway/page-60" (pages 53-63) for more updates and letter I wrote to Director Michael Aytes and his replies and back and forth..

HER PARENTS - 10 months so far

I-130 Sent In : 1/7/2013

I-130 Approval : 3/28/2013

Transfer to NVC : 6/12/2013

Case Complete : 8/25/2013

"Ready for Interview" (Ready to wait for 1-3 Months, this is official NVC letter transfer date) : 9/9/2013

DHL Tracking : arrived 9/24/2013

P4 Letter : 11/21/2013

Interview Date : 12/9/2013, originally 12/3, stupid lawyer filled out her dad's passport number wrong..

Interview Passed : 12/9/2013

Visa "Issued" on CEAC : 12/10/2013

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well, we are telling her what to do.. just giving some advice.. well, there's just two things that's going to happen : 1) he comes to the interview, 2) he doesn't.. doesn't mean he won't get approved if he doesn't come.. just making it harder for him and OP later on..

I-130 STAGE 1 : 533 days - 1 year 6 months (4/16/2007 to 9/22/2008)

Priority Date I-130 : 4/16/2007 ( 533 days , APPROVED 9/22/2008)
Transferred to local office based on "security checks" : 11/27/2007
wrote hundreds of letters - received letter from FBI Records Management Chief stating no security checks
local office interview : 2/21/2008 - brought my parents too (result : you will get approval within 2-3 weeks)
5/2/2008 - (lawsuit) Writ of Mandamus - OFFICIAL DATE (7/29/2008)
9/22/2008 - CALL AND EMAIL COPY OF APPROVAL NOTICE FROM LAWYER

NVC STAGE 2 : 99 days - 3 months (9/30/2008 to 1/7/2009)
NVC Received : 9/30/2008
Received Packet 3 (I-864/DS-230) : 11/10/2008
NVC says "RFE sent out 12/9/08 for missing documents" : 12/10/2008
CASE COMPLETE - 1/7/2009

CONSULATE STAGE 3 : 96 days - 3 months (1/8/2009 to 4/14/2009)
CLEARED CUSTOMS - 3/10/2009
**APPOINTMENT DATE : 4/14/2009, 7:15AM**
** BLUE SLIP **

AP STAGE 4 : 97 days - 3 months (4/14/2009 to 7/20/2009)
DOS call to receive I-601 (Waiver of Grounds for Inadmissibility - basically denial) from Guangzhou : 6/24/2009

REMOVAL OF I-601 due to my letters to the USCIS Director, Michael Aytes: 6/29/2009
CALL-IN LETTER NOTIFIED : 7/8/2009
CALL-IN LETTER (APPROVAL)!! : 7/16/2009
ALL DONE!! (got both GREEN CARD & SSN CARD) : 10/1/2009

"http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/194075-feel-like-a-cr-1-csc-castaway/page-60" (pages 53-63) for more updates and letter I wrote to Director Michael Aytes and his replies and back and forth..

HER PARENTS - 10 months so far

I-130 Sent In : 1/7/2013

I-130 Approval : 3/28/2013

Transfer to NVC : 6/12/2013

Case Complete : 8/25/2013

"Ready for Interview" (Ready to wait for 1-3 Months, this is official NVC letter transfer date) : 9/9/2013

DHL Tracking : arrived 9/24/2013

P4 Letter : 11/21/2013

Interview Date : 12/9/2013, originally 12/3, stupid lawyer filled out her dad's passport number wrong..

Interview Passed : 12/9/2013

Visa "Issued" on CEAC : 12/10/2013

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even you yourself said "Change is scary".. but life is all about changes.. we go to school to learn new things, we get married (some of us), we have kids, we grow old and learn from our mistakes.. either the OP will give in, or the kid.. I would rather not see the OP to give in.. he must learn that you always have to adapt to life.. not everyone has the finances to everything they want in life.. if you start giving them everything, they will never learn themselves the meaning of money.. just using that as an example.. Also, he cannot stay under his "mother's" wing his whole life.. Then he won't experience a lot of things by himself (including "american babes").. haha, but to be serious, just let him do what he wants.. if he wants to come (that's fine), if he doesn't (that's fine too).. It's his decision and he will live by it.. we don't always have the time to make the right decision (is there a right one?).. there might not be perhaps because there are advantages/disadvantages to both.. if he doesn't move, good thing is he doesn't leave his friends and doesn't change.. he can also learn to be independent (still too young I know, but later on I mean).. bad thing is he doesn't get to experience a new life (America) which probably would be different and maybe even more exciting..

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I-130 STAGE 1 : 533 days - 1 year 6 months (4/16/2007 to 9/22/2008)

Priority Date I-130 : 4/16/2007 ( 533 days , APPROVED 9/22/2008)
Transferred to local office based on "security checks" : 11/27/2007
wrote hundreds of letters - received letter from FBI Records Management Chief stating no security checks
local office interview : 2/21/2008 - brought my parents too (result : you will get approval within 2-3 weeks)
5/2/2008 - (lawsuit) Writ of Mandamus - OFFICIAL DATE (7/29/2008)
9/22/2008 - CALL AND EMAIL COPY OF APPROVAL NOTICE FROM LAWYER

NVC STAGE 2 : 99 days - 3 months (9/30/2008 to 1/7/2009)
NVC Received : 9/30/2008
Received Packet 3 (I-864/DS-230) : 11/10/2008
NVC says "RFE sent out 12/9/08 for missing documents" : 12/10/2008
CASE COMPLETE - 1/7/2009

CONSULATE STAGE 3 : 96 days - 3 months (1/8/2009 to 4/14/2009)
CLEARED CUSTOMS - 3/10/2009
**APPOINTMENT DATE : 4/14/2009, 7:15AM**
** BLUE SLIP **

AP STAGE 4 : 97 days - 3 months (4/14/2009 to 7/20/2009)
DOS call to receive I-601 (Waiver of Grounds for Inadmissibility - basically denial) from Guangzhou : 6/24/2009

REMOVAL OF I-601 due to my letters to the USCIS Director, Michael Aytes: 6/29/2009
CALL-IN LETTER NOTIFIED : 7/8/2009
CALL-IN LETTER (APPROVAL)!! : 7/16/2009
ALL DONE!! (got both GREEN CARD & SSN CARD) : 10/1/2009

"http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/194075-feel-like-a-cr-1-csc-castaway/page-60" (pages 53-63) for more updates and letter I wrote to Director Michael Aytes and his replies and back and forth..

HER PARENTS - 10 months so far

I-130 Sent In : 1/7/2013

I-130 Approval : 3/28/2013

Transfer to NVC : 6/12/2013

Case Complete : 8/25/2013

"Ready for Interview" (Ready to wait for 1-3 Months, this is official NVC letter transfer date) : 9/9/2013

DHL Tracking : arrived 9/24/2013

P4 Letter : 11/21/2013

Interview Date : 12/9/2013, originally 12/3, stupid lawyer filled out her dad's passport number wrong..

Interview Passed : 12/9/2013

Visa "Issued" on CEAC : 12/10/2013

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maybe telling him that just becuz they have to go to the interview, doesn't mean his HAS TO move, just gives him that option and no one knows what the future holds. If they get the visas, he at least has the option to move.

jen

effective May 13, 2011 - back in Canada, journey is over

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Ok, I'll throw in my tuppence worth. (This is by no means judging your parenting skills, I have no idea about what techniques you have used, I'm just going with some common reasons for teens to act in this way)

Shouting at him and making him do it will only the the reverse action. I have worked with hundreds of kids about this age and never have I seen that technique work. I have seen this type of behavior lots of times.

At 16 he is feeling like he is a full grown up and should be treated as such. Sitting down as a family and listening to each other might help. He is probably scared about moving and leaving all his friends behind. He probably has some really good friends he doesn't want to leave. Another factor might be the lack of control. This can be scary for anyone at anytime. Moving is one of the most stressful things you can do, if you are just told "You are moving, suck it up" about 90% of people (adults as well) will fight this. Regardless of where or why, its an instinct, you want choice in the matter. Most of the time teens just want to be asked their opinions. They feel like nobody listens

My best advice is talk about how he is feeling, about his hopes and fears. Tell him you feelings, about what you want for the future. This can be pretty painful to do with a 16 year old boy, his immediate reaction will be to clam up and not talk, so it may involve you talking a lot first, but he will soon open up. Really listen to his input and see how much you can accommodate for him.

If that fails striking a deal is the second option (aka bribery but not as obvious as "Here, have a playstation and come with us")

Finally if all else fails he is still a minor in the eyes of the USCIS, which means he can pretty much say what he wants but I'm pretty sure it won't make a difference. Not 100% sure what will happen when he goes to the interview but I'm sure taht because he is still seen as a child they won't refuse his visa because of a tantrum.

As I said, I am in no way commenting on your parenting, you may have tried all this already. I some experience with this but everybody is different and its a case of finding what makes someone tick. Everyone reacts differently.

Good luck with the interview, I hope it all goes well

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find the reason why he doesn't want to come ( has a girl friend?)..then try to go from there to convince him to come with you...i am sure that he will regret this option to go to the state in the future, and you also going to miss him. so my advise is to deal with him wisely.

good luck.

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12/28/2007 : married

I-130 :

01/20/2008 : I-130 sent

02/20/2008 : NOA1

05/06/2008 : touched

11/08/2008 :approved

I-129f:

02/26/2008 : I-129f sent

03/17/2008 : NOA1

04/02/2008 : touched

04/03/2008 : touched

11/08/2008 : approved

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pushbrk   12,234

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Hey folks, with all due respect - how about we answer the OP's question instead of judging her parenting practices?

She asked a specific question AND asked for advice. She has the answer and she's getting advice. Anybody reading the thread can see that. So, with all due respect, did you read the thread? :no:

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Hey folks, with all due respect - how about we answer the OP's question instead of judging her parenting practices?

She asked a specific question AND asked for advice. She has the answer and she's getting advice. Anybody reading the thread can see that. So, with all due respect, did you read the thread? :no:

pushbrk,

Yes, I did read the thread and responded. What I did not do was go on a "WELL, HE DOESN'T GET A SAY" rant. I find it strange that you would respond to me in this way pushbrk, since you usually are quite elegant. I guess we all have our days.

Peace out, L.

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pushbrk   12,234

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Hey folks, with all due respect - how about we answer the OP's question instead of judging her parenting practices?

She asked a specific question AND asked for advice. She has the answer and she's getting advice. Anybody reading the thread can see that. So, with all due respect, did you read the thread? :no:

pushbrk,

Yes, I did read the thread and responded. What I did not do was go on a "WELL, HE DOESN'T GET A SAY" rant. I find it strange that you would respond to me in this way pushbrk, since you usually are quite elegant. I guess we all have our days.

Peace out, L.

I'm suggesting that if you have advice for the OP, offer it without slamming others for offering advice you wouldn't offer. Let the OP decide how to evaluate the opinions of others. In other words, make your responses about the topic instead of about other posters.

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Hey folks, with all due respect - how about we answer the OP's question instead of judging her parenting practices?

She asked a specific question AND asked for advice. She has the answer and she's getting advice. Anybody reading the thread can see that. So, with all due respect, did you read the thread? :no:

pushbrk,

Yes, I did read the thread and responded. What I did not do was go on a "WELL, HE DOESN'T GET A SAY" rant. I find it strange that you would respond to me in this way pushbrk, since you usually are quite elegant. I guess we all have our days.

Peace out, L.

I'm suggesting that if you have advice for the OP, offer it without slamming others for offering advice you wouldn't offer. Let the OP decide how to evaluate the opinions of others. In other words, make your responses about the topic instead of about other posters.

***deleted*** never mind.

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OMG.... Teenager Hormones Kicking In and our lives are in the balance....

The 16year old has gone into a typical teenager rebellion... I flew to Canada on Saturday, we are leaving tomorrow to drive to Montreal for our interview on Wednesday. The 16 year old says he is NOT going to the interview, that if he does he will tell them that he does not want to go to the states.

What do we do? Will we be denied if he is not there? Will we be denied if he makes that statement?

Lord knows WHY he's chosen now after all of this time......

Anyone have any answers or advice? HELPPPPPPP!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I just want to curl up in the fetal position and CRY!!!!!!!

Wish you good luck on your interview! :thumbs:

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