She is a Control Freak!

[KimandRuss 0]

HA ! HA ! you married an american women......and as what I heard from several american men...they all are control freak

No offense

well I'll pray for you..and may the best for both of you comes out of it

That's right!! Unfortunately, AW are very skilled at making you think they are decent people, up until the wedding is over and you take them home. Then it's as if a screw pops loose and they turn into monsters. I'm sure there are exceptions, but I have never heard of any...

These are both stereotypical statements that I, an American woman, find VERY offensive! You don't know me. You can not just classify one group, one sex, one minority all with certain traits. Both are extremely arrogant, biggoted and uneducated statements. You just sound foolish and I would ask you to keep your idiotic comments to yourselves. Thanks.

To the OP... Only you know what is best for you. Search your soul. I hope you can find peace and love.

[KarenCee 3]

HA ! HA ! you married an american women......and as what I heard from several american men...they all are control freak

No offense

well I'll pray for you..and may the best for both of you comes out of it

That's right!! Unfortunately, AW are very skilled at making you think they are decent people, up until the wedding is over and you take them home. Then it's as if a screw pops loose and they turn into monsters. I'm sure there are exceptions, but I have never heard of any...

Hmmm...most interesting. How is it that either of you can justify placing all American women in the same category? You have proof? Statistics? Care to share exactly how you plan to prove this statement as fact, rather than opinion? I assume you can do that...?

What about American men who are control freaks and abuse their wives...I was one of them. But I don't lump all American men into that category. Getting burned by one doesn't make the whole lot of them bad. Men or women. Rather than offering this kind of diatribe why not offer the OP some sound advice? Would that be too hard?

[frustrated1 0]

controlling women, just like controlling men, always remain controlling. it is a personality disorder.

however, it sounds like she's the one earning so far. She feels like she has the upper hand. the relationship may be more balanced once you start working. this may sound conventional but intrinsically, it is an unsaid expectation even in today's day and age. I'm no marriage counselor but apparently the first 3 years are the toughest especially when the circumstances don't fit the norm.

I do hope things work out for you.

[Krikit 1,164]

I have to agree. I am not an American woman, but I also find the sweeping generalized statements against American women offensive.

Edited February 16, 2008 by Crikey!

[Krikit 1,164]

Sorry. Duplicate post.

Edited February 16, 2008 by Crikey!

[PlatyPius 5]

Sorry. Duplicate post.

I find your duplicate post offensive!!!

[Krikit 1,164]

Sorry. Duplicate post.

I find your duplicate post offensive!!!

[Eagleeye 1]

i recently posted at wife is a control freak things are getting worse I CGC Holder is being falsely accused by USC wife of being violent,i have never hit a woman or child or pet,i have no record of domestic abuse.i realize she does this to have a ground to mess up my life.i have only been here less than a year but i know the implication of having a recod of violence,During an arguement she threatened to put me out and call the police,i have never hit her and since she is very skilled in the art of manipualtion,i believe she can go as far as getting bruises and putting it on me.

She threatened to call the police on me and accuse me of putting her life in danger because i raised my voice at her,i would learn later that she lied to her relatives that i break stuff,kick stuff around when i am annoyed.I came home late from an online study group and she locked the doors from inside so i could not get in.Its funny because she claims she is scared of her life but i when i try to get away from her when she is yelling so she would not make any false allegations but she stands in the door and tells me i can get out! when she did this i sat in a corner and waited until she finished ranting.I have no relatives in this state and frankly i have no trust as to what next she would do.Its all coming to light for me now though we are married and live at the same place my name is not on the lease.

She has threatened that if i left her family would deal with me.i have talked with a police officer telling to ask i i could file a compalint that she is falsly accusing me but was told that until a crime is commited no records can be made.Does any one know how i can protect myself from future allegations?

I need advice as fast as possible,my instinct is telling me to leave the house to avoid any future accqusations.

Thanks

[PlatyPius 5]

Leave.

Get a restraining order, if they'll let you.

Have witnesses when you take your stuff, or she might accuse you of theft as well. Also, you'll want someone there when you leave so that she can't fake an abuse charge against you.

[tito 1]

It's just amazing how bad all these USC's are. It's amazing that anyone would want to marry one.

What a terrible shame. Definitely call the police.

[diadromous mermaid 36]

Leave.

Get a restraining order, if they'll let you.

Have witnesses when you take your stuff, or she might accuse you of theft as well. Also, you'll want someone there when you leave so that she can't fake an abuse charge against you.

According to the OP's post he has a conditional green card, yet his profile says AOS pending. If he has the card, he needs to gather as much evidence for removing conditions that he can place his hands on quickly, and then leave.

[mtracksport 0]

leave as soon as possible, get a restraining order/no contact order. under NO circumstances take witnesses with you to get your items. TAKE a police officer. other wise she will file charges against you for intimidation also.

[LaL 418]

Continuation of the topic has been merged into one thread.

[desert_fox 32]

Only beat her from now on in places where it wont show.

[mnieto 2]

HA ! HA ! you married an american women......and as what I heard from several american men...they all are control freak

No offense

well I'll pray for you..and may the best for both of you comes out of it

That's right!! Unfortunately, AW are very skilled at making you think they are decent people, up until the wedding is over and you take them home. Then it's as if a screw pops loose and they turn into monsters. I'm sure there are exceptions, but I have never heard of any...