depressing depressing depressing

[Brian & Kathy 0]

Me and Kathy haven't been together for a major holiday yet, be it christmas, new years or Chinese new year. This year, we'll get to bring in the new year together just as you. I am in complete agreement, it's a special thing to start 2008 together, hoping it will be the year we begin our lives together.

we've known each other for more than four years... been together for almost three... still no Christmases together

doesn't bother me HUGELY, though I'm looking forward to Christmas 2008 - he's already invited all the family to ours

and of course this year I get the unexpected bonus surprise of New Year in Paris

I don't go in much for New Year celebrations, but if I had to pick one of the two (ie Christmas or New Year), I think I'd pick New Year; it's sort of fitting that we'll get to start 2008 together, when it's the year we're going to start our lives together

[Steve'sGirl 0]

I agree with the previous posts. Don't take the risk. Next Christmas will make up for this rough holiday season. Next year this time you will be with your SO, you'll be married and you'll have a lovely Christmas and New Year's.

I feel your pain and I'm sure lots of others here do too.

You'll make it through!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[scottsvisa 9]

I agree with the previous posts. Don't take the risk. Next Christmas will make up for this rough holiday season. Next year this time you will be with your SO, you'll be married and you'll have a lovely Christmas and New Year's.

I feel your pain and I'm sure lots of others here do too.

You'll make it through!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks very much for your post

your right I don't want to risk anything I would be devastated if i didn't get my visa coz of one short trip to the States. I'm just so desperate for some kind of solution but i don't think I will find one

I will be there eventually but the sooner the better

[mox 298]

your right I don't want to risk anything I would be devastated if i didn't get my visa coz of one short trip to the States. I'm just so desperate for some kind of solution but i don't think I will find one

Just to be clear, this is a very unlikely situation. The only thing that would jeopardize your K-1 is if you were caught trying to enter the US fraudulently, or if you overstayed your VWP visa. Being put back on a plane because they think you've visited too often on the VWP will not jeopardize your K-1.

As I see it, your bigger issue is simply the heartache and expense of being put back on the next flight instead of spending Christmas with your SO.

Chin up, you have a lot of Christmases in your future in which you'll be together!

[*julez* 124]

I agree qith the others about holding off on coming to the US again. My fiance did two near 90 day visits on the VWP, with 2 mos. in between, then waited 3 & 1/2 months before coming over agian and was grilled in secondary for visiting too often. Frankly, I am surprised you've been allowed 4 such visits! And envious, as my fiance would have come back for another visit had they not told him to stay out of the US until he had a visa.

But like Mox said, being turned away on the VWP will not jeopardize your K1 visa. It will however cost you lots of money, since you are sent home on the first flight back to the UK at your expense! Bring your sweetie to the UK for the hols if you can't wait! Even with the exchange rate, I'd hazard a guess it'd be cheaper than getting turned away in the US. Plus, the heartbreak of that getting turned away scenario is too killer for me! How bad would that suck??

For us, we had last Christmas together, but not this year. Its really sad for me and him, but I'm heading over mid-January and spending a week then to have a belated Christmas. With any luck he'll be back with me on his K1 visa within a month of that!

You're in the home stretch now Scott! You can make it!!

[Madzia+James 0]

I met my fiance right before Christmas 2006 and we had our first date on December 30th He is coming to Poland for Christmas and New Year'e Eve now and I am soooo happy. We have a lot to celebrate

wow yeah, it woulda been

pretty cool anniversary, too

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

I don´t really understand how it´s meant with the exchange rate. She buys a ticket for dollars so she doesn´t need to exchange money for that and you can pay stuff in UK with pounds so noone has to exchange anything. Or am I missing something?

Personally if I were you I´d be pretty sure that I was gonna be turned away at the POE which I would never like to go through but that´s just me sometimes I am too suspicious about things lol. But I am not you and you are not me so they might still let you in. I wouldn´t risk it though I think.

It doesn´t even occur to me that Xmas is so soon this year anyways. So much excitement going on these days that Xmas is just kind of passing by me lol. We spent last Xmas together and spent a lot of time together this year. And in Nov/Dec Scott was visiting here and left like a week ago and we will be together in a month I think. So not pushing Xmas this year. I wouldn´t even pay the crazy amount of money they ask for some Xmas plane tickets. And also these days when Xmas in stores start almost in September it feels like it´s been Xmas for a couple of months already. And we have been to some stores and look at crazy things lol. Besides we are always online together so we are spending everything together anyways.

If you decide to go I wish you good luck and have fun

[missing.my2angels 0]

How close to the Canadian border is your S/O? If it is fairly close try flying into Canada and then crossing the border to see her. If they do refuse you entry they will just tell you to stay in Canada thus you are still close enough for her to see you xmas day and you do not have the worry of expensive return flights forced on you at an american airport?

Like many others I am in heartbreak over the fact that I can not be with my loved one this xmas as like you I have no ties so working on that at the moment by getting a job etc but I wish you all the best of luck in trying to see your SO

[scottsvisa 9]

Thanks every one for all the advice Its all been very useful. I'm still contemplating what i should do but i guarantee any information that is in this thread will be used.

I have been given a bit of a boost in confidence and will keep searching for more information on my options

I agree qith the others about holding off on coming to the US again. My fiance did two near 90 day visits on the VWP, with 2 mos. in between, then waited 3 & 1/2 months before coming over agian and was grilled in secondary for visiting too often. Frankly, I am surprised you've been allowed 4 such visits! And envious, as my fiance would have come back for another visit had they not told him to stay out of the US until he had a visa.

But like Mox said, being turned away on the VWP will not jeopardize your K1 visa. It will however cost you lots of money, since you are sent home on the first flight back to the UK at your expense! Bring your sweetie to the UK for the hols if you can't wait! Even with the exchange rate, I'd hazard a guess it'd be cheaper than getting turned away in the US. Plus, the heartbreak of that getting turned away scenario is too killer for me! How bad would that suck??

For us, we had last Christmas together, but not this year. Its really sad for me and him, but I'm heading over mid-January and spending a week then to have a belated Christmas. With any luck he'll be back with me on his K1 visa within a month of that!

You're in the home stretch now Scott! You can make it!!

You always seem to come up with an answer that helps me out JULEZABELLE

So everyone is sure that getting turned away at point of entry will not jeopardise my K1

and the worst is they will interrogate me and make me pay for a flight back to the UK ?

Edited December 13, 2007 by scottsvisa

[*julez* 124]

Thanks every one for all the advice Its all been very useful. I'm still contemplating what i should do but i guarantee any information that is in this thread will be used.

I have been given a bit of a boost in confidence and will keep searching for more information on my options

You always seem to come up with an answer that helps me out JULEZABELLE

So everyone is sure that getting turned away at point of entry will not jeopardise my K1

and the worst is they will interrogate me and make me pay for a flight back to the UK ?

I'm glad I can be of help, Scott.

Regarding your question that I bolded above, the answer is yes, that is the worst that will happen. It has happened to UK VJers in the past and it has not interfered with the K1 whatsoever.

Whatever you decide, I wish you the best of luck!

[Slightly Bonkers 0]

Possible to meet midway?

If our process takes longer than we're expecting (8mths)

I might make a trip to canada...

Depends where your FI is in the US if it's worth your while