infidelity

[seaborn 1]

I brought this girl from Africa to America, and she was pregnant with our daughter. She has been here for a little over 2 yrs. In February of this year she left the baby next store with some strangers so she can go out and have her secret love affair. Her greencard experience next year in June, because it was only a 2 yr greencard. I will never trust this women again, she has a very bad temper. She decided to leave the baby with me, and I've had the baby girl every since she left in Feb. Now she's in a shelter, and wants to get the baby so she can get housing for her and the baby she saids. She said it's here baby and all that stuff, but how could a mother bring there 1 yr old daughter outside on a cold saturday night without coat, hat, and shoes like she did, and say I'm her mother and I want my daughter? I want her out of my life. She gets high everyday, and talking to all the wrong people. What can I do? I want to call uscis, cuz I think it was fraud.

[Boiler 43,437]

Divorce Lawyer?

[Ryan H 3,790]

***Moved from General Immigration-Related Discussion to Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits forum.***

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If she can show she entered into the marriage in good faith, then she can remove conditions on her own and any fraud investigation you try to have initiated by FDNS will go nowhere.

The other issues have to be resolved in the relevant local court but that outcome will have no bearing on her immigration status.

[aaron2020 11,651]

Hi,

You need to file for divorce.

You need to gain sole custody of your child.

You need to forget about her green card because you can not do anything about it.

Be aware that divorce does not mean she will lose her green card or end your I-864 obligations.

Run to a family/divorce lawyer. You need to go now.

[onye uwaoma 131]

Sorry that this is happening to you but what you said here sound like a broken down relationship than fraud. People change and that's about personality. Why did she move to shelter? Are you aware of vawa claim? Often times, we hear only one side of the story. Hope you do what's best for you and your daughter and let her deal with her greencard. Some people usually use greencard to equate married life, but these are just like two parralell lines. Greencard does not make a person perfect or holy. Again, if you are trying to make her greencard difficult, she can try to help herself. Just a thought....

[seaborn 1]

Sorry that this is happening to you but what you said here sound like a broken down relationship than fraud. People change and that's about personality. Why did she move to shelter? Are you aware of vawa claim? Often times, we hear only one side of the story. Hope you do what's best for you and your daughter and let her deal with her greencard. Some people usually use greencard to equate married life, but these are just like two parralell lines. Greencard does not make a person perfect or holy. Again, if you are trying to make her greencard difficult, she can try to help herself. Just a thought....

Hi, Thanks. No I don't know what Vawa means, maybe u can tell me. yes you are right, it was of a brake down of the marriage. She in a shelter because when she left, she moved into a room and was paying 500 a month, but she could handle it after two months. she could come back to me because my lease ran out and the landlord would not renew it. i'm staying with a family member until my new appartment is ready, and no one from my family wants her around, because of her actions, people are very upset with her, because she brought great shame to everything. i scheduled to go to court on sept 22 to get full custody of the baby. but now she knows if she has the baby she would be better off with getting assistance. very bad situation. its crazy becasue when i met this girl she lived on a refugee camp in ghana, and came here, and want so much more, and i got fustrated.

[onye uwaoma 131]

Vawa is usually a claim of abused by a spouse. Some immigrant spouse sometimes move to the shelter and make this claim against their usc spouse. Often times,you'll never know when this claim has been made against you until you have been arrested for abuse. There are variety of issues that qualify as abusive and she could receive support and advise on how to handle this case if she chooses to pursue this claim. Sometimes the claims are legitimate and sometimes not, but all you have to do is to try and protect yourselve against false abuse claim. There's a vawa thread here on visajourney you may want to see what others are saying.

[seaborn 1]

Ok that all sounds great, but I don't think they're to many women who go through any form of abuse, and not make every effort to escape with there children, if they were ever face with a situation like that. Also in most cases, when the man is abuseive to any women, they usually don't want the children around either. However, thanks for the info.

[Ketsuban 1,034]

Ok that all sounds great, but I don't think they're to many women who go through any form of abuse, and not make every effort to escape with there children, if they were ever face with a situation like that. Also in most cases, when the man is abuseive to any women, they usually don't want the children around either. However, thanks for the info.

I can tell you now that there are millions of families with an abusive father/mother where the spouse has not attempted to leave and the kids remain stuck in such an environment.

[seaborn 1]

Thanks.

[onye uwaoma 131]

Ok that all sounds great, but I don't think they're to many women who go through any form of abuse, and not make every effort to escape with there children, if they were ever face with a situation like that. Also in most cases, when the man is abuseive to any women, they usually don't want the children around either. However, thanks for the info.

Depending on the situation, she may run for dear life... Maybe now she's recovering from the "trauma" of whatever she may have been through, who knows? I am not saying this is what happened, but depending on the circumstance, a woman may forget her child or anything around her to seek refuge first. Abuse varies in degree and is harmful......

[seaborn 1]

Really, yeah I suppose, depending on the circumstances, but that wasn't us. Did we argue over stupid things, yup. Did we say mean things to each during argument, yup. However, at the end of day, her thing was that she felt tried of being a mother, and a wife. She says she 30 yrs old and feels like a old woman, and wants to be free and enjoy her life. I get all that, America can change people, but try to us the baby to get ahead of a situation you find yourself in now. All kind of crazy things happen in household, all you gotta do is turn on the local news. I'm trying to figure out the best way, and only the best way to get out of this mess I got myself into. So I'm not looking for a hypothetical scenarios, I'm looking for the safest and best way out for me and the baby. Period......! If help, help, but if you can't, I'll keep trying.

[Jawaree 717]

Dude U cant make one female not to make u trust others

some ppl are keepers others JFs...I don't think its much U

can or should do regarding immigration...u both have a kid

to be part of the child's life...be careful...she may file vawa

to take the kid...get u a divorce atty if u r sure she is cheating

and don't even take the low road , move on my man, just stay

in your kids life whichever way it goes.