Luckywife2007

If your fiancé isn't getting prepared then tell him to get off the stick. You guys should be talking about your new life and talking Bout every aspect of it. Stop the lovey dovey talk and talk about the details of your new life here.

I will answer ur questions honestly based on my own experience. I met my husband online in 2003 and we chatted everyday for 3 long years before he finally came to the Philippines to met me in person. We are now happilly married for almost 4 years with a 2 yr. old baby plus my 2 kids.
To answer ur questions:
1. Will it work? Yes but it will all depends to both of u if uare willing to do whatever it takes to make ur relationship works.
2. Yes..just make urself busy so u won't get homesick. Do volunteering, Join organizations etc. etc.
3.Yes the same thing if u were to ask will u love him for the rest of his life? Are u willing to commit urself into him and to ur marriage. Marriage is not all a bed of roses..there are all the time UPS and DOWNS...it's a matter of choice if u are willing to live with him in good and in bad, for better or for worst. We all need to work in our marriage.
I admit we had so many trials during the first year of marriage(adjustment period) but I am thankful to God my husband is just being soooo patient and understanding (despite of me having 2 kids of my own).
4.Not exactly 100 %. U will never know the true color of a person till u live with him. Like I said ask urself the same question. Will ur husband feels the same way u do? Will u not change and show ur real self when ur together by then? When i came here 4 yrs. ago i have no relatives just myself and had to leave my family and my 2 kids to be with my husband.
No matter what,,we always put or best foot forward when we are in the dating or getting to know each other stage.But real color comes out when u live with each other. But i learned a lot. When u commit ur self to ur marriage and willing to compromise and put ur best effort on it..then there is nothing impossible. A happy marriage is not all about money.
Marriage is not all about happiness,,it's also about sacrifice, patience, believing and FAITH in him is the most important.
I tell u my hubby was unemployed for more than 16 months and was in the middle of petitioning my 2 kids when he lost his job.. I was not working then. But LOVE conquers all.. God made a way. I got a good job now(working at the hsptal-) and my 2 kids are finally here with us.
Believe in HIM and He will find a way.

One of the really nice things about the USA is that we are a "melting pot" made up of peope from every corner of the globe who all come here seeking something: freedom, love, success, whatever. You will not have to try very hard to find others who share your experiences and perhaps even your culture and background. Although there are no gaurantees that things will work out, I am certain that you will enjoy the benefits of what in my opinion is the still the beacon of freedom: The United States of America! Can't wait to welcome you to the USA and good luck on your journy!

You have a lot of good questions, here is the way I would approach this move.
1) A relationship is only as good as the too people willing to put effort behind it.
2) Do not build up your partner too high, as they will make mistakes. Forgiveness and #1 are central to the continuous cycle of closeness for any marriage.
3) Plan on making friends, be purposeful about this. No one can live life without having friends, and they should be close. Use this forum to find other couples with similar backgrounds as a starting point. Ask your partner for help in this area too, and not just his friends, but help on resources for reaching out to others of your culture locally.
4) Do not put so much pressure on your partner to "perform" a certain way because you have left and come here. This undermines a relationship and undervalues to other person saying they should "owe" you for something. The choice to come here is yours, and yours alone. Your choice is to work on a relationship, hopefully your partners will be going forward and everything will go great. But no one is perfect, so be careful not to put lots of pressure...as that can crush any relationship.
5) It is perfectly normal to have these thoughts, just keep in mind not to allow them to affect the results of your actions. Be purposeful in making the relationship first and not your worries. The biggest problem with relationships now days is one party giving up to easy, and letting fear dominate the relationship. Be purposeful that you will do everything to prevent that from your side, and leave it up to your partner to do the same. Be the reason your partner can't stand to loose you...and you have no worries.
My two cents worth. I am currently not moving, but should something happen with the visa, I have already given thought to going to be with Oksana. It would be scary, and part of the reason we are doing it this way is because her kids can come and mine would not be able to. Without the kids, I would no doubt move in a heartbeat and do those things I have lined out above.

I'ts not only scary for the girls leaving their countries, but for the girls who are bringing their male fiances to the United States as well.
My fiance is coming here from Peru. I'm not nervous about our relationship, but I'm nervous about him adjusting to the US. Not only will he not have friends other than me and my friends (although he is really close to my parents), he also doesn't speak English! So he's going to be so isolated in so many ways.
We did have a normal dating period (we met while I was living abroad) and we lived together before I came back to the states to get a job and pursue higher education. Even so, I remember how isolated I felt in Peru when all my friends had left and I wasn't totally comfortable in Spanish. I was so lonely and sad almost all the time, even though I had the love of my life with me. I'm worried the same will happen to him.
My advice would be, as soon as you get to the US, try to make friends outside of your fiance. Join a book club, or a sports team or something! Do something where you can make friends that are not your fiance's friends, so that you can feel like you are establishing a real life here. If you do that, it will help ease the stress of your relationship, and you'll have friends to turn to where you can ###### about your fiance/husband (because we all need to vent sometimes!).

1, no one really KNOWs if it will last the long run, things change people grow differently.
2, Its been 1.5 years for me and i'm still adjusting to the USA and i'm only from Canada...
3, no one can say they will love you forever like #1 things change, my husband doesn't value anything about me leaving to move to the USA its part of being together and if not then we wouldn't of been married or anything.
4, no one can tell you if he will be the same, my husband kept saying he would be the same, for the most part he is but he has changed big time for some certain things.
Life and people are perpetually changing, be happy with things now but be prepared for changes and compromises. Marriage is not a chocolate & roses street, its work and compromise.

Hi all
I really would like to ask the girls out here,who are about to leave their home country and move to their lovely fiancee's country, that isn't it scary to u all to leave everything back here and move? I know we all love our respective fiancee,and we all knew from the start that this would eventually happen,but honestly when i'm finally doing this i am extremely nervous.So many questions are on my mind:
1) Will this relationship work in the long run (since we never had normal dating period, for years, before settling down)?
2)Will i be able to adjust to a new country?
3) Will my fiancee love me forever and value the fact that i have left behind everything just to be with him for the rest of my life?
AND MOST IMPORTANTLY
4) Will i see exactly what i have thought of him all these months and he doesn't change colors (no offense to him, but this is what i hear from people around that men change after marriage).
I really hope my relationship works out and we have a good married life,God willing.
Nonetheless my fiancee is a great guy but when people around tell u that 'i hope u r doing the right thing,its not a matter of few hours journey that we can come to your rescue if anything goes wrong,u have no friends no family there and no one to share your problems..blah blah blah' it makes me numb and scare me all the more.
I practically have NO ONE in the US,its only him whom i know and no one else in that huge country.Its dam scary.But i do trust him and God.Hope everything will be fine,finger crossed. I really love this man,and i hope he would love me the same or more for doing this all for him.

Hello. I think that this type of arrangement may be possible in that as you stated in this type of marriage or arrangement there is correspondence between the two parties that intend to marry. For the purposes of a K-1 visa, you have to show intent to marry and proof of a relationship. However, the "relationship" in this case may be quite different from other relationships where there is a lot more romantic types of wording throughout the documents provided as evidence. That being said, I would assume that if you are able to show evidence of a viable relationship, such as phone/calling cards, discussions on MSN (not sure if that is allowed or encouraged) Skype things of that nature, you can prove or show evidence of correspondence between the two of you. From what I have read on the K-1 visa documents, it does not state that you must be truly madly deeply in love, it only states that you must show evidence of a relationship and intent to marry, both of which are present in this case, correct? Also, you have to show evidence of personal meet, so as long as you have those bases covered you should be okay. I know you stated below that you do not have any proof of personal meet, such as photos, but can you get copies or pull up records for any flights you may have taken there or get signed documents from family members on both sides that state you both met personally and that they observed the meet? Otherwise I would suggest planning another trip to show evidence of personal meeting. The only stipulation I can add however is the interview itself. They will ask questions along the lines of why does your intended want to marry you etc. etc. etc. In that circumstance, I certainly would not suggest saying anything other than the truth, however, I am not sure how the government would look upon the answer "because this is an arranged marriage," or anything along those lines. My suggestion to you would be to go in for a free consultation with an immigration attorney or a few and get their feedback on this subject. It could never hurt to get the advise of some people that are legally versed in this particular subject.
I hope this helps and i wish you the best of luck!

We American didn't think we held such a commodity for some people. Life is a circle, what goes around always find a way to come back to you.

I would definitely get a hold of them and say that he wanted to withdraw his support and was starting divorce proceedings due to her marrying him only for a green card and ask how to go about withdrawing the support document. That may get them to take special notice.

I have noticed conflicting advice with regard to filing taxes whilst the spouse of a USA citizen is out of the country. This is the procedure we used. It is recommended that once married, for maximum financial benefit, the spouses file as married, filing jointly. The foreign spouse does NOT need to be in the USA in order to do this.
Firstly, it is impossible to e-file, as e-filers need SSN's for both spouses. As the non USA spouse will not have an SSN, it is necessary to apply for an ITIN number.
The procedure is as follows:
Download IRS form W7, and the instructions from the IRS website.
http://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/fw7.pdf
http://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/iw7.pdf
The foreign spouse must complete the form, sign it and send it to the USA spouse complete with a notarized copy of their passport.
On receipt, the USA resident has to file taxes by mail. I highly recommend Turbo Tax 2010, as this program allows a the IRS tax returns to be easily printed and filed. As stated above, you can NOT use the e-file feature, you print the tax return the old fashioned way.
http://turbotax.intuit.com/
Once you have completed (married, filing jointly) and printed the return, gather your supporting documents, attach your foreign spouses completed W7 form to the front, and mail to:
Internal Revenue Service
ITIN Operation
P.O. Box 149342
Austin, TX 78714-9342
You must do this before April 17th 2011. Once this is received, an ITIN number will be issued, and the tax form processed. You should get your refund in around 8 weeks, as it takes 6 weeks to get the ITIN number allocated.
That's all there is to it.

I absolutely believe you and I am sure if he was calm and not beating the snot out of you, you may have even helped him
The fake scratches and false vawa should send out a warning siren to women marrying men from overseas. It doesnt mean its going to happen but its an example of what CAN happen when you take the papers away from someone who married you for them. Its terrifying for the American, absolutely terrifying. I think if he would have been calm , I think you would have helped him anyway but when someone is hitting you, then screaming and then people from their culture are telling you to put up with the ####### like they always do, its infurtiating. Whats worse is when AMERICAN women dont stand up for an american petitioning who is being abused by lets say someone from the country your husband is from, and then blame you , it makes you insane

Personally I think we should have a forum of Shame. Put all the locked threads, deleted threads so we know what juicy stuff happened. Also the mods can post stats of the whiners daily if they pushed the report button more than once a day. Also have a thread where we can see all the banned people so we can make fun of them especially since they can't reply.
Failing all that can we at least stickee the boobs thread?

When I first filed for a K-1 visa, I saved all the Yahoo Messenger chat we'd had as a text document. We have been using words like husband, wife, and marry throughout our chats. I had to edit and replace with fiance, fiancee, and engaged as necessary in order not to raise any doubts about the level of our relationship at he consulate. It was quite easy to edit, but before we could present our chats at he interview, we were denied for another reason. However, it is still important to carry along as evidence, as you never know! Also, I've heard printscreens could work as well.

Fiancee visas are garbage. They are lifelong commitments for puppy love. If the USC doesn't have the guts to marry their "love" in his/her country or if that person doesn't have the means to get a tourist visa then maybe it's not "made to be." I will raise the stakes and say anyone who makes less than 45,000 a year should not even be considered to sponsor someone and no co-sponsors. I am just sick of reading things where people can't afford a 2,500 dollar trip at least every 6 months. Or they gripe about a 20 dollar charge for this or for that. Grow up folks. Life is expensive.

I don't know why I can't edit my posts! Techno challenged I guess...
Timbo: Age is not against the law. Listen here "old man" lol, when a Filipina loves, she loves deeply. She doesn't "see age". She sees nothing but "heart" + = :wub:
At least that's how I see My Sweetheart!!
So don't get all "Crinkly" on us ... lol, you're young in spirit!! She's mature in heart. You love who you love... it's real and it's gonna be alright!
Mari

No, it used to be that countries could make their own rules for residency, but a few years ago this changed to 6 months for all countries; India was the last to fall in line, and in fact I believe we still have some DCFers from there who were able to file after less than 6 months. Though certainly the speed of the process once filed and the details of how it's done (by mail or in person etc) is different in different countries.

I am very happy you made this comment. I read a post yesterday and it seems the couple may have been denied the visa because of the age difference. I have been very worried about this. There is not a dramatic age difference between my fiance and I but still I was concerned. But it is great to see people stating that they have received visas even with their age differences and I think it is great that people are making positive posts here concerning that issue. My personal stance is that age is a number, the maturity of a person, what they feel in their heart and the way the two people interact with each other is what is really important. AGE means nothing. Thanks for your post!

Most DCFers use a co-sponsor, where did you hear this was not allowed? Manila generally doesn't allow co-sponsors for K1, but I never heard of that problem with DCF spousal visas. Also, no job is required.
There is no waiver- your other options are to sponsor on assets, or for the USC to go home as soon as the I-130 has been accepted, start a job, and send paystubs and employment letter with beneficiary to interview.

Seriously dude, you need to calm down. Does it suck that we have to wait so long on getting NOA2? Yes. Yes it does. I will hit 6 months on Saturday, and I know others who have waited even longer. We all knew it was going to be a long tough road, but guess what??? We CHOSE to do this. No one forced you to file for a K-1 visa. I completely understand missing your loved one, I haven't seen mine since October, and will not see him again until we get married (whenever that is) because it's so darn expensive to travel back and forth. So believe me, I feel your pain and frustration. But seriously. You need to calm down and remember that you're not the only person in the world. If all the people in war-torn countries, or places that had had terrorist attacks etc got expedites, there would be THOUSANDS more petitions that would "cut in line" before yours. So guess what? You'd still be in the same boat you are now. And speaking of boats, quit rocking this one and leave well enough alone. Kthxbai!

Uh.... was that directed at me? Sorry it took me so long to reply, but I had to shine my 'rose coloured glasses'... btw it's not, "blind, wearing (no transparent at all) glasses".
But if you're insinuating I was saving the reputation of the USCIS, let me show you what it looks like from inside my glasses. I promise to be as transparent as I can, OK?
I don't think I've said one thing regarding my position on the TPS immigrants (Haitians), nor the backlog at the VSC in any of my posts on this thread.
I said it was extremely insensitive and selfish of the OP to [attempt to] use a tragic incident to gain approval on a K-1 expedite for his fiance. To use such is an absolute mockery of the US Govt & to those personnel who work in war zones and risk their lives for us, HERE AT HOME. What others have said and I agree with, is that the Expedite is for the USC and there must be a hardship / emergency to be eligible.
Is that clear enough? Crystal?
Mari

Ohhhhhhhh my gawwwwwwwd.... I'm not going to sugarcoat what I have to say to you AL, as you continue to offend our Government, it's people and foreign nationals who are in tragic situations!

Will you & YOUR BRIDE be booking flights thru that same airport you do not want her exposed to? Could you not comprehend how sensitive this subject is for many of us? Afterall, you did say, " Yesterday, January 24, there was a devastating terror attack in Domodedovo Airport in Moscow..........I do not want my bride to live in a country where there is an active terrorist group on the loose that made a mass strike in an airport she uses all of the time." Your'e right, I don't like your tactics; they're annoying & objectionable due to being a showoff and the only pursuit I see you have is attracting undue attention to oneself. You may not bathe in the luxury of what others think of you, but don't impose the rest of us to your junk either! Beneath anger is fear. What are you so afraid of?? Honestly, you sound like a 53yr old little boy who didn't get picked to play on the better team! Your last post? Good! Take your ball and go home!!! Come back when you get a postive attitude. And as for your closing statement, "happy now?"...... What do you think? By the way, your comment about our Military being expedited 'because they deserve it'? Even if we were offered such, my fiance, nor I, would take it because there are a bazillion other US CIVILIANS WE RESPECT and we will not cut in line to do as you say," Anything to cut this hideous delay by any amount of time, even by one day, is something I will do without doubt or hesitation of any kind."
Mari
PS: Grow up, Man up, and please sit still..... YOU GET TO WAIT LIKE THE REST OF US! You're appearing wet behind the ears!

Good Heavens. I thought you were working on your other topic, RE: your letter. Now I'm seeing this post which very much annoys me.
You know what? My fiance is on at the USAF Base in Iraq. Just this morning he called to tell me there has been bombings in Baghdad and its not safe to travel. If its not safe, then military will NOT let the contractors off base to go home! And guess what?? I get to deal with it and so does he. That's the way it is. In fact, if we did get our NOA2 now, and he was scheduled for interview there is a very good chance he wouldn't make it because of situations such as this!!!
And while this is tragic in Russia,and SEVERAL OTHER COUNTRIES whom have been terrorized, there is not one day I don't worry he'll call me during our very limited 3 min phone connection before we lose signal just to say they're going to bunker and he'll call when its safe! That happened on Christmas Morning Al, and you have no idea what I went through for 3 days of silence until he called. And still, I don't get on the forum to whine and complain about it, or grab at straws for an expedited case file.
What you say here is a mockery of the US Govt. for attempting to use this tragic event of others and seeminly selfish of you to even think this is a way to get YOUR BRIDE here any earlier then the rest who wait patiently! Especially, for those who have remained calm, waiting for the day they see their [future] Husband or Wife come home from a war zone and knowing their life is on the line!
I think it was already stated by Bob and Jim that an Expedite is for the USC and it requires a hardship / emergency.
We didn't need this... it was offensive.
Mari
PS: Can you fly over to visit her?

All of your Topics, and most of your posts this past week have been notoriously obnoxious and wordy (imho). The only point I read, was the fact that you have been grossly obsessed with the TPS program and the Haitians! OK WE GET IT! You are against their expedited Visas! That was yesterday's news! Now what? This topic has been very offensive to many as I stated earlier. Isn't it strange that the only common denominator is you and your bride weaved throughout the fabic sending a message, "It's all about ME"?
Here is a picture of what I've seen today and why I found your post distasteful. THIS IS WHERE MY GROOM IS! This has been going on all week! Now please, leave it.
Mari

Here you go! Try this link for USCIS change of address.
http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/menuitem.5af9bb95919f35e66f614176543f6d1a/?vgnextoid=c1a94154d7b3d010VgnVCM10000048f3d6a1RCRD&vgnextchannel=db029c7755cb9010VgnVCM10000045f3d6a1RCRD
I believe you can also change it online from their site. I'll also be moving during the wait period so when I have the new physical home address I'll be filling out the AR-11 also.
Hope that helps,
Mari