Happytobe

I don't really understand why you are dogging her for this. Nothing better to do on a sunday night?
Troll is as troll does.

cease badgering the op.
if one does not have anything beneficial to add to the topic, don't post please.

Thanks for all the suggestions. My fiance told me not to worry about it and we will buy whatever clothes I need there. So I think I will just pack a few things I can wear if it is warm along with some sweaters for the colder nights. Three more weeks and I should be there YAY!!!

I read it that they would be living in Germany, admittedly unclear.

I read a lot of the older posts and lurked before posting much of anything myself. But as Sarah and Adnan stated, that does not seem to be the norm, considering many things are addressed over and over and over.... And like Abbi stated, reading a lot of the older posts, does help to "see" and prepare one for some of the "blunter" posts. A warning should be posted, something to the effect of "if you take offense easily by posters on this site, how will you handle the Consulate Officers?" Just saying....

No kidding! But then they are the folks that come here saying that COs are just big meanies and they're out to get them. COs are doing their job whether anyone likes what they do or not.

A Cashier's check from a bank does not require a signature. It is more secure than a money order. This is what I used to file with... no problems. A money order does require a signature from the person that bought it....

I'm really glad to know you can draw out the process a little longer. So I'm thinking we will do the i-130 but know that even once that is approved we will wait to build our relationship more and gather more evidence.
I really want to do a summer language study in Cairo. Then we could get an apartment together for a month, then spend a week or two in 6 October together. Maybe get two months in if it is possible for him with work and everything.
I'm not in nursing school but have decided that's what I want to go into. I won't really start my focus in nursing until next fall. I just want to get my CNA certification so I can at least get a feel for some of what nursing is and have a job that isn't flipping burgers

Do you think it would be wise for us to wait to file? We are trying to plan a trip for me to come to Egypt in the summerm. By next school year I should be able to get a job as a nursing assistant as long as next quarter goes fine and I will be better prepared financially. It would also give him more time to save up some of his own money. He is a man of faith and I'm more of a realist which will make discussing this a tad difficult. There are times where turning it all over to god isn't the best option, you also have to put in some work before relying on faith. I think the best point from this post is that waiting wouldn't hurt. Except for even more time apart, which won't kill us.

Wise self-advice I also think you should really really really try to make a trip there in the summer happen. I'm sure you want to anyway, but I think it would help your case as well. Plus it will give you lots of memories to store up for those long months apart. And finally, regarding your "red flags"...you are the only one who knows what is between you and your husband...trust your instincts, and listen to them too. I think your instincts about putting in the work before relying on God, do you credit. And to that I would add, love doesn't conquer all when it comes to this visa ordeal...being very very well prepared is what conquers all at the consulates Cheers!

They wanted the employment information (salary, employer, etc) from me last month when I got married in Fes. You should have your fiance ask his adoul about your situation and what you should bring. However, I would bring more than what is asked for, as some things get lost in translation...LOL I sent my papers early, as well, so they could be translated and they could pick-and-choose what they wanted. That way, if they needed something that I didn't send, I could bring it with me. Granted, the package was "lost" for about a week, but it did arrive unopened well before I left.
Good luck and Congrats! May this year be a good year for us all!

The ocean.
The fresh produce within walking distance of home.
The fresh seafood within walking distance of home.
The ability to choose parts of Moroccan and parts of American culture and live in the way I want to that is also acceptable to the majority of society.
The connectedness with people.
The respect people have for elders.
The way children take care of parents in old age.
That even people who have next to nothing themselves can still be seen giving a dirham to a beggar with a blessing.
The communal eating style.
The freshness of the bread.
The hospitality lavished on guests.
The feeling of being in a room with all women and that intimacy that comes from it.
The shared experience of a nation fasting.
The constant reminder of the divine with the call to prayer.
The white tombs on the side of the road.
The greeting of one another with kisses or touching one's heart.
Watching grown men embrace, walk down the street arm in arm, or laugh unabashedly like children.
Old men with cell phones in their jellaba caps.
People's willingness to get to know a stranger.
Hospitality and charity as a form of worship.
Children still playing in the streets.
Children growing up and having a great childhood without hundreds of toys or gadgets.
The crowded mass of humanity at souk or in old parts of the medina at night.
Work meetings at cafes.
Living somewhere with the privilege of being able to interact comfortably with people from all walks of life from the most impoverished to the most elite.
The architecture.
Getting lost in an old medina.
The rich history.
Talking to older people about the past and their memories.
Multilingualism, code-switching, and conversations in multiple languages.
Getting to know "my shopkeeper," "my butcher," "my baker," "my chicken guy," "my cafe guy," "my juice guy...."
Public transportation.
Seeing things that are handmade on such a regular basis.
Being able to see artisans on a daily basis and purchase what they make for practical purposes.
Taking naps after lunch.
Not needing to plan to spend the night places but being able to just stay with friends whenever with no problem.
Being able to get things fixed easily and inexpensively.
5 dirham DVDs/cds.
Being able to have serious conversations with people on such a regular basis.
Traveling inexpensively.
The slower pace of life.
Cheap healthcare.
Being able to shop on credit (I rarely did it, and only really if they couldn't make change for a large bill, but just that you could do it was incredible)
I typed all this without stopping to think. I could go on. I miss it every day. I think I was there too long...

I hqve not seen pepsi; but I have had a few Hawai and cappucinos yummy

I hqve not seen pepsi; but I have had a few Hawai and cappucinos yummy

Hi Abbi! I am going to Morocco in December to marry my fiance, and then we will file the CR-1. The complete path for the CR-1 is a bit less expensive than the K-1 and the filing for AOS. If approved on the CR-1, he can start work sooner, as he would have the 2 yr conditional green card. The CR-1 can take a little longer, but from what I have seen it's not too inconvenient. My fiance is very close with his family, so I am happy that we can share the marriage with them (I'm not that close with mine).
There is a lot of paperwork that you need to gather for the marriage there, if you choose to go that route. There are several posts on here about them, but the requirements can change. Check with his Adoul for what is needed in his city as well as the Moroccan main government. This is the list from my fiance's Adoul:
The foreign party:
* Certificate of Nationality (translated into Arabic).
* Of good conduct (translated into Arabic)
* Certificate of fare (translated into Arabic)
* Birth Certificate (translated into Arabic)
* Certificate of work (translated into Arabic)
* Four photographs
* A copy of the passport with the date of entry to Morocco
* Held that divorce was never
* Certificate of Eligibility for the marriage of the Consulate General of Morocco (translated into Arabic)
* Criminal record from the Ministry of Justice in Morocco
* Islam hold that the foreign party was stated
* A statement certified by the religion that the foreign party was female.
* A medical certificate (in Arabic)
There are 2 documents that have to be acquired at the consulate in Casablanca. They are $50 each. They are the Certificate of Nationality and the Certificate of Eligibility to Marry. I have seen where they wanted something certifying the religion, and other documents, so I am preparing everything I can think of, and sending them to him for translation before I go. They require a background check, so I am sending one from the FBI and I will also have one done in my city, just to cover my bases. The papers must first be filed in Rabat, and then in the local family court.
I think I have covered most things. Let me know if you have any other questions. Good luck! I hope this has helped

Hi Abbi! I am going to Morocco in December to marry my fiance, and then we will file the CR-1. The complete path for the CR-1 is a bit less expensive than the K-1 and the filing for AOS. If approved on the CR-1, he can start work sooner, as he would have the 2 yr conditional green card. The CR-1 can take a little longer, but from what I have seen it's not too inconvenient. My fiance is very close with his family, so I am happy that we can share the marriage with them (I'm not that close with mine).
There is a lot of paperwork that you need to gather for the marriage there, if you choose to go that route. There are several posts on here about them, but the requirements can change. Check with his Adoul for what is needed in his city as well as the Moroccan main government. This is the list from my fiance's Adoul:
The foreign party:
* Certificate of Nationality (translated into Arabic).
* Of good conduct (translated into Arabic)
* Certificate of fare (translated into Arabic)
* Birth Certificate (translated into Arabic)
* Certificate of work (translated into Arabic)
* Four photographs
* A copy of the passport with the date of entry to Morocco
* Held that divorce was never
* Certificate of Eligibility for the marriage of the Consulate General of Morocco (translated into Arabic)
* Criminal record from the Ministry of Justice in Morocco
* Islam hold that the foreign party was stated
* A statement certified by the religion that the foreign party was female.
* A medical certificate (in Arabic)
There are 2 documents that have to be acquired at the consulate in Casablanca. They are $50 each. They are the Certificate of Nationality and the Certificate of Eligibility to Marry. I have seen where they wanted something certifying the religion, and other documents, so I am preparing everything I can think of, and sending them to him for translation before I go. They require a background check, so I am sending one from the FBI and I will also have one done in my city, just to cover my bases. The papers must first be filed in Rabat, and then in the local family court.
I think I have covered most things. Let me know if you have any other questions. Good luck! I hope this has helped

So....what r the odds of getting it back to the embassy or stay at the embassy & getting approved?? Is it better to fight to get it approved or withdraw it & get married???
Thanks everybody!!
Monica

Monica,
I'm sorry you're going through this. It's such an awful roller coaster of emotions.
From what I've read and seen, one of the things you need to do is get as much information as possible about why it was denied. Write the consulate emails, call them - get specific information. Did they give him any paperwork? The denial paperwork? What did it say on it?

No problem! You're lucky to be able to get away for 5 weeks! Another thing I should mention - my husband did any of the stuff he could before I got there. I scanned and/or emailed and/or sent him any documents I could ahead of time, including my passport, birth certificate, letters from my job and bank, and criminal clearance. He had them translated before I got there, and once I got there with the originals all we had to do was show the translator the originals and pick up the translated copies. That probably shaved a couple of days off the process. If you want the contact info for the translator we used, who was very nice and professional, pm me.
I got there on a Wednesday and we were married two Monday's later - roughly 8 working days later. (not counting the one American holiday where the consulate was closed). Another thing we did - right from the airport we went to the consulate for their morning US citizen hours to get the papers from the consulate I needed. Make sure you get both things you need - certificate of eligibility to marry AND notarized copy of your passport. The guy at the consulate said I most likely wouldn't need the notarized copy of the passport, but we did and that delayed things another day b/c of going back to the consulate, etc.
On the first day, right from the consulate, we went right to the translator to show him the originals of the things we had sent ahead, and to get him to translate the paper/s from the consulate. It's a grueling way to start the trip there on the first day, but it's one of the things that got us married within 8 working days.
Good luck! When do you leave?