kennym

Well ask you your questions. Dont invent reasons to attack someone

You sound like a drama queen.. To somehow associate something that happened when she was 12 and make any assumptions whatsoever, is simply (as nicely as I can put it, to not violate TOS) ridiculous...
We aren't suggesting that she is perfect, nobody is.. but you're taking something out of context and trying to associate an event that occured when she was 12 years old, and likely that you know nothing about.. Sounds like you want to create some drama...
I hit got in some pretty good fights as a 13-14 year old as well,, And boy did I kick some butt back then. And it felt good to give someone a butt-kicking when they deserved it.. But, that has nothing to do with the way I handle my adult affairs.. And to try to make a correlation here is simply..................
..................well I dont want to violate any TOS...
It seems like like you need to find something to fill your spare time..,

Quiet extreme view for someone who benefits from the freedoms that others have fought for...
Thankfully we have plenty of brave souls fighting for our freedom and our country's security..
I do however, agree with some of the comments you made.. Not sure where these other comments (regarding military and Murder) came from what they have to do with the subject, if anything other than BS ... Very odd.. But thankfully, in this country, people have fought and died for your right to make such ridiculous comments..
Very perplexing...

-50 points

Boy, when I see stupid extreme comments like this, it hard to stay quiet.. to the Mods, isnt there a mimimum age limit for members..
to the poster.. when you grow up, here are somethings to consider..
this is absolutely ridiculous statement.. I was never in the military, but my father retired from the Military, after fighting in vietnam. I can assure you, that this is one of the most ignorant statements of all time.. People enroll in the US Armed services for all kinds of reasons.. Some, because it's a job, some because it's an excellent oppurituty for your future in so many ways, third many beleive in something that is woth fighting for..
Regardless, you have no right to condemn them.. What kind of job do you have?
Thankfully, America doesnt need those friends of yours. The US enjoys the freedoms we have because of Brave Americans willing to fight for something rightous.. Especially for you and your friends...
Said from the peace and security of your living room.. Do you have a clue, how many forreigners would love to have that peace and security.. Thankfully, you have a Government that provides that...
Well, "Read to do it" you sure dont deserve any respect, but those that put their lives on the line, deserve it whether you agree with it or not.. again, a freedom to not only feel how you feel, but say how you feel is something you have from those brave men and women who fought and died for it..

You could easily jump to that conclusion with all that's been posted, or there could be a legitimet explaination for all he's done for his wife.. regardless, it certainly isn't our place to draw that conclusion especially with the evidence we've seen...
It could be as simple as a man who genuinely loves his wife and wants to help her out..
It is absolutely wrong to assume just because there are some suspicious behaivior items in his posts that it's certain to be fraud..

Part of the issue is, that we all have the same limitations to deal with..
There are those that accept the issues with the Visa Limitations and there are those that seem they deserve something that the rest of us doesnt..


Cant buy a plane ticket until the VISA is received


Cant plan anything prior to the VISA Recieved


Ceremonial Weddings are a bad idea prior to POE for K-1


Can't plan a wedding until in the US,


Only 90 days to get married after POE for K1


Beneficiaries cant work until they receive the EAD or GC


They cant travel until they receive AP ot the GC


Cant honeymoon out of the Country...
Those are some of the drawbacks that everyone of us know about going into this.. Everyone of us have a choice to go through this or not, and many of us have decided that it's worth the sacrifice to have our loved ones here. Those that disregard those limitations for whatever seem like they simply dont care about the concequences or they don't care about the immigration of their SO.. There are soo many ways to solve those problems and stay within the guidelines, that it just seems rediculous to consider sacrificing everything you work for...
The key to success for yourself is to be completely familiar with the guidelines AND be completely up front with the beneficiaries.. Let them know they are basically in limbo once they arrive until they have their GC.. They have the right to know these things before they get here and find out you either didn't tell them in fear that they will back out, or you you didn't know.. Either way, you should've known and you should have been up front with your SO..
Complaining about thoee sacrifices simply upsets many because these things are well published and there for everyone to read before getting started and if you didn't know, then you didn't do your homework..
My sugestion is to accept the fact that you made an error for not studying the material and take the harrasment for asking a question to something you should've known.. we all ask questions, and some of them are things that we should've known, and there are always those of us that will ###### on you when that happens, because it's happend to us..
Kenny

You need a petition for your dog and get a K-9 visa.

i am fairly new here.. but i would have assume.. your case is NOT the norm nor should it be something i would try to follow or anybody else to try to copy!..
i don't think the views were pessimistic.. you are reckless in your choices but it worked out for you congrats for you and your future better half.. experienced people were simply telling you that from PAST EXPERIENCES this did not work before hand..
just my two cents

Boy, when I see stupid extreme comments like this, it hard to stay quiet.. to the Mods, isnt there a mimimum age limit for members..
to the poster.. when you grow up, here are somethings to consider..
this is absolutely ridiculous statement.. I was never in the military, but my father retired from the Military, after fighting in vietnam. I can assure you, that this is one of the most ignorant statements of all time.. People enroll in the US Armed services for all kinds of reasons.. Some, because it's a job, some because it's an excellent oppurituty for your future in so many ways, third many beleive in something that is woth fighting for..
Regardless, you have no right to condemn them.. What kind of job do you have?
Thankfully, America doesnt need those friends of yours. The US enjoys the freedoms we have because of Brave Americans willing to fight for something rightous.. Especially for you and your friends...
Said from the peace and security of your living room.. Do you have a clue, how many forreigners would love to have that peace and security.. Thankfully, you have a Government that provides that...
Well, "Read to do it" you sure dont deserve any respect, but those that put their lives on the line, deserve it whether you agree with it or not.. again, a freedom to not only feel how you feel, but say how you feel is something you have from those brave men and women who fought and died for it..

Quiet extreme view for someone who benefits from the freedoms that others have fought for...
Thankfully we have plenty of brave souls fighting for our freedom and our country's security..
I do however, agree with some of the comments you made.. Not sure where these other comments (regarding military and Murder) came from what they have to do with the subject, if anything other than BS ... Very odd.. But thankfully, in this country, people have fought and died for your right to make such ridiculous comments..
Very perplexing...

-50 points

Hi Femloveron,
Yes my husband is born american citizen.And i am very close with his mom,anyway,im doing good now without thinking him,But yesterday he sent me sms telling he did not forget me,he love me.well..i did not reply,,,what for?he knew me,,,if he said he love me,i will be fine.But calling him for not only 100 times a day,not only once,and he did not answer, i think is good enough he doesn't love me,before it was fine,i always understand whatever reason he made but since i talked to the girl.I won't believe him anymore.Yes,i really love him until now but i think i need to be smart.I already forgive him once,but i think he will continue hurting me so its better to end the relation,if love only exist and there is no respect,that will not be good,also i dont believe him now if he really love me.So,even trust is gone.Thanks.

Part of the issue is, that we all have the same limitations to deal with..
There are those that accept the issues with the Visa Limitations and there are those that seem they deserve something that the rest of us doesnt..


Cant buy a plane ticket until the VISA is received


Cant plan anything prior to the VISA Recieved


Ceremonial Weddings are a bad idea prior to POE for K-1


Can't plan a wedding until in the US,


Only 90 days to get married after POE for K1


Beneficiaries cant work until they receive the EAD or GC


They cant travel until they receive AP ot the GC


Cant honeymoon out of the Country...
Those are some of the drawbacks that everyone of us know about going into this.. Everyone of us have a choice to go through this or not, and many of us have decided that it's worth the sacrifice to have our loved ones here. Those that disregard those limitations for whatever seem like they simply dont care about the concequences or they don't care about the immigration of their SO.. There are soo many ways to solve those problems and stay within the guidelines, that it just seems rediculous to consider sacrificing everything you work for...
The key to success for yourself is to be completely familiar with the guidelines AND be completely up front with the beneficiaries.. Let them know they are basically in limbo once they arrive until they have their GC.. They have the right to know these things before they get here and find out you either didn't tell them in fear that they will back out, or you you didn't know.. Either way, you should've known and you should have been up front with your SO..
Complaining about thoee sacrifices simply upsets many because these things are well published and there for everyone to read before getting started and if you didn't know, then you didn't do your homework..
My sugestion is to accept the fact that you made an error for not studying the material and take the harrasment for asking a question to something you should've known.. we all ask questions, and some of them are things that we should've known, and there are always those of us that will ###### on you when that happens, because it's happend to us..
Kenny

I simply don't agree with the assesment that anyone is being harsh or rude.. And the point is about the lack of sympathy from the Agencies, is they also dont care about your ability to follow instructions, if you make a mistake, regardless of you abiltiy to understand or whatever barriers, you will either have major delays, RFE's or even possibly a denial..
My suggestion is that when you say people are being rude, please stop making generalizations.. Nobody is being rude!

Part of the issue is, that we all have the same limitations to deal with..
There are those that accept the issues with the Visa Limitations and there are those that seem they deserve something that the rest of us doesnt..


Cant buy a plane ticket until the VISA is received


Cant plan anything prior to the VISA Recieved


Ceremonial Weddings are a bad idea prior to POE for K-1


Can't plan a wedding until in the US,


Only 90 days to get married after POE for K1


Beneficiaries cant work until they receive the EAD or GC


They cant travel until they receive AP ot the GC


Cant honeymoon out of the Country...
Those are some of the drawbacks that everyone of us know about going into this.. Everyone of us have a choice to go through this or not, and many of us have decided that it's worth the sacrifice to have our loved ones here. Those that disregard those limitations for whatever seem like they simply dont care about the concequences or they don't care about the immigration of their SO.. There are soo many ways to solve those problems and stay within the guidelines, that it just seems rediculous to consider sacrificing everything you work for...
The key to success for yourself is to be completely familiar with the guidelines AND be completely up front with the beneficiaries.. Let them know they are basically in limbo once they arrive until they have their GC.. They have the right to know these things before they get here and find out you either didn't tell them in fear that they will back out, or you you didn't know.. Either way, you should've known and you should have been up front with your SO..
Complaining about thoee sacrifices simply upsets many because these things are well published and there for everyone to read before getting started and if you didn't know, then you didn't do your homework..
My sugestion is to accept the fact that you made an error for not studying the material and take the harrasment for asking a question to something you should've known.. we all ask questions, and some of them are things that we should've known, and there are always those of us that will ###### on you when that happens, because it's happend to us..
Kenny

Part of the issue is, that we all have the same limitations to deal with..
There are those that accept the issues with the Visa Limitations and there are those that seem they deserve something that the rest of us doesnt..


Cant buy a plane ticket until the VISA is received


Cant plan anything prior to the VISA Recieved


Ceremonial Weddings are a bad idea prior to POE for K-1


Can't plan a wedding until in the US,


Only 90 days to get married after POE for K1


Beneficiaries cant work until they receive the EAD or GC


They cant travel until they receive AP ot the GC


Cant honeymoon out of the Country...
Those are some of the drawbacks that everyone of us know about going into this.. Everyone of us have a choice to go through this or not, and many of us have decided that it's worth the sacrifice to have our loved ones here. Those that disregard those limitations for whatever seem like they simply dont care about the concequences or they don't care about the immigration of their SO.. There are soo many ways to solve those problems and stay within the guidelines, that it just seems rediculous to consider sacrificing everything you work for...
The key to success for yourself is to be completely familiar with the guidelines AND be completely up front with the beneficiaries.. Let them know they are basically in limbo once they arrive until they have their GC.. They have the right to know these things before they get here and find out you either didn't tell them in fear that they will back out, or you you didn't know.. Either way, you should've known and you should have been up front with your SO..
Complaining about thoee sacrifices simply upsets many because these things are well published and there for everyone to read before getting started and if you didn't know, then you didn't do your homework..
My sugestion is to accept the fact that you made an error for not studying the material and take the harrasment for asking a question to something you should've known.. we all ask questions, and some of them are things that we should've known, and there are always those of us that will ###### on you when that happens, because it's happend to us..
Kenny

I think every post needs the positives and negatives of every potential outcome. It's irrelevant whether feelings are hurt, it's not the response the OP is looking for etc. The responses to any question or post help not only the OP but also future readers in a similar situation. Optimism, pessimism, what have you is all irrelevant. Posts need answers and hopefully the correct answers, not the politically correct or feel-good answers. I've seen people write on this board that this site is for picking people up or for moral support. Really? I use it to gain info, knowledge, and facts. I can go to a therapist if I need to be picked up or need moral support. It's funny to think that many OPs get offended when they ask a question or for advice and someone makes a post that either a) they do not agree with or b) they get argumentative and say how rude the answer was etc. If they don't want advise from every angle, then they shouldn't be asking for advice.

While there are a few people here who are perennial pessimists, most people here are genuinely trying to help. When someone says that they've done something, or suggests that they want to do something, that's well known here to be a big mistake then people are definitely going to strongly recommend against it. That's why this site exists - to make sure people are getting good advice.
People are told repeatedly not to make any concrete plans until after they have the visa in hand. This advice even comes from the consulates. When someone insists on doing something that they've been told repeatedly not to do then it's only proper for people here to condemn that action. It may not be "nice", but if people "don't say anything at all" then other new members will get the impression that it's OK, and they'll blame VJ for not warning them when their world collapses around them because their visa was postponed or denied.
Just because one person does something they were warned not to do and they get away with it, that doesn't make it advisable for others. One person's experience does not become a blueprint for everyone else. It's the collective experience of everyone that should be relied upon. You might have made firm wedding plans in advance and things might have worked out fine for you. If so, congratulations. However, if you advise someone else to do the same thing and their plans blow up in their faces because the visa is delayed then you'll have to live with the fact that you helped contribute to their misery.

Anyone who uproots someone and makes a commitment like wedding vows, then wants to call it quits over a small cultural diference after two
weeks even after all the sacrifices made by the foriegn spouse... well schmuck wouldn't be the way I would describe that person, it would be much harsher...
But, I am willing to concede to the fact that everyone makes mistakes, but a comitment is a comitment.. There are justified reasons for breaking that commitment, but small cultural diference is not one of them.. Those kinds of issues requires work which is a requirement for any relationship whether it's matrimony or any other type relationship...
I respect your right to comment... This is a item I feel strongly about, and therefore, I will also take advantage of the right to comment.. And not agreeing with me is your right.. But never the less, I hope somebody reading this in the future, and considering a petition for someone, would realize that, first there is the commitment, second there are cultural diferences to consider, third, there is someone making a huge sacrifice to leave their entire life behind with the hope of being with someone they love and trust, and wouldnt think they would be kicked to the curb over a small cultural diference and be expected to return to a life that no longer waits for them back home..
But thankfully, the OP and his wife seemingly will make an attempt to work through this, and I hope others who haven't considered these items, will read this and give this serious thought if they haven't already...

Vanessa, This is hilarious that you replied to seemingly nothing as if your the only one who can be right...
I havent got aclue what you're talking about.. Simply because, I am not going to research this entire thead to respond to you... You've gone off the deep end and trying to make this about something it's not.. I dont give a rat's hiney what you feel about my post, just as I don't care anything about your posts.. You attacked me because I gave my opinion, which I am entitled.. And I not going to feel bad about it.. Now go chill, and put this behind you..
Life's too short girl, to get all worked up over this stuff.. The lovely thing about forums is that it opens up discussions that we all can join in on, not just you and not only your opinion counts.. So chill...
Just remember, all of us, can jump on whatever band wagon we want, as well as tell anyone considering a Divorce over seemingly minor issues, that it's rediculous, and many of us will be judgemental if it's warranted.. I dont understand the comment you stated about the immigrant band wagon.. You're darn right that I am going to make my comments about someone if I feel they are being wronged.. Not sure why you would feel otherwise.. And just to be clear, there were NOOOO ASSUMPTIONS.. The OP clearly stated the reasons he was considering divorce and went as far as to say it wasnt cheating or money related.. Soo, what assumptions are you refering too.. Never mind, don't answer that.. You'll likely make up another reason to continue this argument...
Regardless of what you feel.. This is what forums are all about.. If this forum was for you only, then I would not be allowed to posts, but it's not your forum,.. I beleive my ideas, maybe a bit old fasioned for some, but there are still people out here that feel living up to responsibilties and commitments are important..And my posts may help to offer some things for others to consider, regardless of how they sound to you...
You're really getting upset over some rediculous reasons and that again; it is your choice.. I cant make your choices or anyone elses, but thankfully, I can give my opinion... It maybe it maight help..
Now please.. For me this discussion is over, go find someone else to argue with.. It's not entertaining to argue with someone who makes up reasons to argue..
The OP changed his mind, I am not taking credit for that, it may have been he simply came to his senses.. Whatever the case is, I am happy he is going to let his relationship and his wife adjust without shipping er back to possibly nothing...
I still love you and hope you learn to relax a little...
Just remember, you can read into whatever you want and make up all kinds of reasons why you were quoted, but it simply is a matter of clinking the "reply" button and can often mean nothing, or mean something.. But you're very good at making up a fight out of nothing.. RELAX....Have a drink with your husband and be thankful things are going soo well for you...
Your friend
Kenny

Anyone who uproots someone and makes a commitment like wedding vows, then wants to call it quits over a small cultural diference after two
weeks even after all the sacrifices made by the foriegn spouse... well schmuck wouldn't be the way I would describe that person, it would be much harsher...
But, I am willing to concede to the fact that everyone makes mistakes, but a comitment is a comitment.. There are justified reasons for breaking that commitment, but small cultural diference is not one of them.. Those kinds of issues requires work which is a requirement for any relationship whether it's matrimony or any other type relationship...
I respect your right to comment... This is a item I feel strongly about, and therefore, I will also take advantage of the right to comment.. And not agreeing with me is your right.. But never the less, I hope somebody reading this in the future, and considering a petition for someone, would realize that, first there is the commitment, second there are cultural diferences to consider, third, there is someone making a huge sacrifice to leave their entire life behind with the hope of being with someone they love and trust, and wouldnt think they would be kicked to the curb over a small cultural diference and be expected to return to a life that no longer waits for them back home..
But thankfully, the OP and his wife seemingly will make an attempt to work through this, and I hope others who haven't considered these items, will read this and give this serious thought if they haven't already...

OMG!!! YESS!!!
It's called marriage, which comes with a commitment and resposibity..
There was no Assumption.. the OP Clearly stated "small cultural diference",,,
Those are concepts many immature people dont get but never the less part of the marriage vows..

we shouldnt want to send the message that you can seek love abroad, and if the challenges of marrying someone from a diferent place, culture and lifestyle makes you unconfortable, then consider that before you petition, move them here and uproot them from their lfe, and marry, commiting them and them commiting to you.. Dont selfishly do something that you havent considered all the factors, because there is more concequences than how to file for divorce.. the benificiary must somehow accept the fact they've lost all thier hopes of the love and relationship and return to a life they left behind and somehow restore things to normal...
and if they Petitioner had given a few moments of thought to the challenges, he couldve saved some serious heartache for the beneficiary, but because he was thinking of only his hap[iness, then the concequences that the beneficiary must face on thier own to restore thier lives, is not something the petitioner needs to worry about..
That is simply insane..
It would be diferent if it was something resulting from lies, deciept or dishonest, but this was a "small cultural difference"...

Vanessa&Tony
Not sure if your qualified to tell anyone "they should be ashamed of themself"..
Secondly, we are in our own way, trying to make a point of how critical it is to consider these things prior to making commitments and up-rooting people from thier lives..
The issue is if whether or not the OP is considering anyone's feelings except his own.. and to point out to anyone else, who hasnt thought out these factors in thier descision..
It's true that the OP maybe having a dificult time with this, but I am more concerned about the wife who gave up everything to be here with this guy.. Your comment clearly is only considering the OP's side and not the other person side which is often the mistake made in many relationships with a selfish partner..
To me, it's not the petitioner making the largest sacrifice in this process, often its the foriegn fiancee or spouse... Thats the point..
And as he charcaterized this many times, it is a "small cultural difference".. It wasnt cheating, it wasn't money, it was a "small cultural difference".. Absoulutely insane to consider anything characterized as a "small cultural difference" as a reason to divorce..

The CCA won't help her. Even if her mother became a US citizen before she was 18, she must have been admitted for immigrant status before she was 18 in order to automatically acquire citizenship. She hasn't been admitted for immigrant status yet - neither an immigrant visa nor adjustment of status - so there's no way for her to acquire citizenship through her mother.
She can't adjust status through her mother, even if her mother had filed a petition years ago and her priority date was current. She's out of status and she no longer qualifies under any immediate relative category. Adjusting status under a family preference category requires that she have current legal status in the US.
Either the lawyer knows something the OP doesn't know or hasn't shared, or the lawyer is trying to milk her mother for some money, knowing that anything he does at this point will fail.